Birdbox

[Mynameisntmaud]

When I first saw/ heard of this film I thought no way, mum and kids not my thing, worst fear having/ Not being able to protect my children so watching it would be horrendous. But lots of people saying it's really good.

Have you seen it?
Is it good?
Is it scary?

I watched it with DDs aged 11&13 and they loved it. None of us found it scary at all. I guess because there wasn't much chance of it happening in real life as opposed to a murder/ horror film

I didn’t say that anyone said it’s a children’s film. I’m just offering a general caution to parents. I am not linking the movie to suicide rates in general. I am saying that for young children - not adults - it is one of the reasons why I think they should not watch it. I don’t know what country you are in, but in the states, we are grappling with copy cat and “inspiration suicide” increases in the young, mostly as a result of bullying, and social media, but my point still is at least remotely relevant and certainly not meant to be offensive. If you’re related to the filmmaker, I take it back? 😄

After all, isn’t this MUMSNET??? Isn’t that the whole point of this place? Family & children’s matters. For just chit chatting abt films, irrespective of children’s best interests, or being a parent, there would seem to be other more suitable places. Guess I misunderstood this site.

Rae calm down

Oh dear oh dear. You know. panicky pearl-clutching and an obsessive need to censor doesn't actually do DC any good - they grow up into either bullying, self-righteous puritans themselves, or hopeless wimps.

Rae We talk about everything and anything here, including chit chatting about films!

Why do i continue being the target? I’m calm. I was asked why I wrote what I did. I explained. Now I feel like I’m on Instagram. This is silly. Just not a good fit, for me, I guess. Good day to all.

And that’s just untrue. All responsible parents censor to SOME degree. I have a now married child who is neither of the extremes you describe, and has her own firm opinions, often differing from my own. I adhered to movie ratings while raising her, and used censoring in an age appropriate way. I was only trying to say to parents that the age rating is fair and to be aware. I’m done with this. If what I said offended parents on this site designed for parents, where “anything and everything” is discussed, then it’s designed for a different sort of person than me.

Rae there are loads of bits on MN where people talk about things not related to parenting - films, books, pets, fashion, money, health, politics, for example. Not everyone here is actually a parent (which is maybe a wee bit confusing because of the site name!) so there are lots of boards where the chat doesn’t necessarily link to parenting.

People are generally a friendly bunch, and you will definitely find things you want to chat about, so please don’t feel you’re not a good fit!

Thank you very much for your kind remark. I felt half tearful and confused and was just abt to delete my profile. Sometimes this online world can become rather stressful. I see that I did misunderstand Mumsnet. I really thought that every topic was supposed to relate back to parenting & kids. It was my very first time here. So I see now my mistake and why people became irritated at my caution abt the movie for youngsters. It would be great if everyone were as kind as you and didn’t react with aggression. It’s pretty hurtful and unwelcoming. Then I was mad at myself for becoming defensive at the rudeness, and wanted to delete every thing I ever said, but there is no deletion for comments here, that I could find! Which is a shame. Because I cannot now retroactively censor myself, lol.

Why do i continue being the target? I’m calm.

After all, isn’t this MUMSNET??? Isn’t that the whole point of this place? Family & children’s matters. For just chit chatting abt films, irrespective of children’s best interests, or being a parent, there would seem to be other more suitable places. Guess I misunderstood this site.

This doesn't seem very calm

Rae nobody is targeting you. The conversation on this last page is incredibly typical of a normal online discussion. If you are planning on using forums I would advise that you grow a much thicker skin.

As you are no doubt aware, a stranger directing an adult to “calm down” has the opposite effect. What I meant is that I was calm before your imperious injunction. Again, directing me to “grow a thicker skin” does nothing to tame the conversation. It is implying that I’m overly sensitive. Regardless of any subjective truth to that statement (no doubt plenty), simple insight and kindness would be far more effective - that is, if your actual goal were to calm me, rather than shame me. Whether one is parenting or adulting, kind insight and thoughtful words are more effective and appealing than pithy sarcasm or blunt commands.
Because this is a site for mothers seeking discourse with other mothers, I somehow imagined tongues would be less sharp and kindness more prevalent than on the general world wide net. Again, I misunderstood the place. In this respect you are probably correct; your public implication that I don’t belong in online forums is again unkind, but I think true.

Blimey, do you talk like that in real life?

Did you come here to plug your lame “filtering” service no UK adults would have the slightest interest in; or are you actually this wet?

Yes.

No to the filtering service.
Yes to the wet. :)

God you do go on Rae.

Can we get back to the topic please.

well that took a turn

It's tense but pretty predictable, and there are LOTS of plot holes. Not gory.

it was pretty dire imo

and really not that tense....pretty formulaic and enough plotholes to vex me

I was Birdboxing at the checkout as the sun was shining right in my eyes...I held my scarf up said "Birdbox" to dh, checkout assistant heard me and we all fell about laughing. :o

And MORE unsolicited rudeness. I do hope your children aren’t following your examples at school.

For the record —
To any parents on this forum who may tempted to be rude:
Yes, every single time you refer me, I WILL respond. I do not sit still for bullying. No matter how “typical” it is. Especially since i know you are all adults and not teenage punks. So, if you want to “get back on topic”, stop targeting and tagging me. If you want this to be my last post, that is entirely up to you.

I don’t want it to be your last post. It’s so funny and weird.

Out of interest why is this the only thing you’re posting on Raeraemcrae? There must be other stuff talked about on MN that you’d like to censor?

Jeez stop picking on her! She assumed we were talking about the film in relation to young children somehow, she now knows otherwise.

Lol. Actually, I was starting to realize people must marginally like me or at least talking with me, or they wouldn’t continue to reach out to me. It’s such a reliable thing that I respond. Like an 800 number for the lonely.
I’m only on this post because it was my FIRST post participation after finding Mumsnet. I’m still trying to address everyone’s problems, criticisms and complaints, so I haven’t made it elsewhere to discover the rest of the lovely world of Mumsnet, and the sage advice other sundry mothers may herein proffer.
I do not advocate censoring for adults. I understand people have a knee jerk terror of anyone using the word “filter” these days. Rest assured, as I have already stated, I was concerned about the effect on small children that I know. Not adults. It’s a fun movie. I enjoyed it. I have not recommended YOU filter it for adult consumption, have I? I was disturbed by the scissors scene. I do not think you are a bad person if you were not. I do not think any adult should decide for any other adult what or how they should watch films. I would never even recommend such. I thought this was a forum about moms discussing child rearing and such. I’d never been here before. How I wish I still hadn’t. Please just stop talking to and about me so that we can all move on. I’m innocent, truly. I know it’s hard to believe, but in person I’m very likable and rather popular. I’m just stubborn about online bullying. I care about goodness among people. I’d love to be the type of person who could just blow this off and move on. It would be very mature. I’m not there yet. I also want people to understand that I’m not letters on a keyboard. I’m a person, with feelings. I hope you care, just a little.
I WANT a place called MUMSNET to care.
I’m trying to see if the world will allow a kind person to have the last mild word, or if there will always appear a flip, sarcastic person who must exploit the moment for a chuckle or a head shake, or to burn me a bit.
It doesn’t fit with my worldview to give up. I’m trying to go away not-sad.
And I too am curious how long it will last. I wonder what the moderators will think. I wonder about all the dozens of people reading this. I think abt how I don’t honk at people who make a mistake in traffic, because I assume it was a MISTAKE.
Can I be forgiven for misunderstanding the initial post and this site? As I’ve mentioned, I wanted to delete my original post but was unable to do so.
MUST I be an insane ridiculous laughing stock, worthy of target practice, for YOUR worldview to allow you to leave me in peace?