Well I’m coming from almost opposite pov-I really don’t care about Amber as such. What has been fascinating to me(let me throw on the Russell Brand and his woke beads for a second)is how people tend to react to this whole thing. As much as I have an inclination to aversion toward stereotypical blonde bs(probably like most women since it’s used as some sort of stick to beat us with and inflict jealosuy, feelings of inadequacy whatever), I still see the person beneath it, good and ugly. It’s called feeling for someone, empathy, not letting things like femininity prevent us for seeing the human beneath it-it is not projection and victimising women to do so. Our personal experiences were supposed to make it easier for us to see that we aren’t all so different after all when it comes to being abused by men, no matter how much stories seemingly differ. If some women fail to do so it’s because they probably haven’t been allowed to adress their trauma and what was done to them as it was or they still think it’s all about individuals and somehow their abuse story makes them unique-to the point they can discredit someone because hey, they got validated for certain behaviour and trauma therefore others who stray from those expectations are not the real thing. It’s so easy to do this and to fall in trap of ending up blaming women for what was done to them because the perpetrator is not available/won’t answer and won’t be held accountable. Then we get irritated and think oh if only she left and stopped this nonsense, if only she this if only she that. Of course that’s the most logical course of thinking when our whole lives we never get to question our fathers, brothers, partners and boy friends, they are simply out of equation when it comes to asking for receipt.
“To project”as some would say or simply to observe from experience: the more you justify yourself, the more people treat you as guilty regardless if you are guilty or not. Men know this and that’s why they’re mostly sneaking around and avoiding too many questions. Notice how Johnny never once felt to justify but instead gave excuses like for example when he slapped her because of tattoos-when asked about it he has not denied it or even tried to explain the event. He went to rant on about how his body or tattoos are his art bla bla bla how he takes it seriously. His whole attitude;”You’re damn right I slapped her, you don’t get to mock my shit”. There was no”I was out of myself/drugged/got it wrong”or whatever the typical justification would be when caught. Just a rant about importance of his tattoos.
Re her being a user: I love this shit being thrown at women as ultimate flaw. People are opportunistic by nature, which doesn’t necessarily mean it’s ultimately immoral or even bad intentioned, it’s just how relationships work. You give some you take some. Sure she got benefits of being with someone rich but also no matter the money I wouldn’t put up with a guy who vomits all over himself and empties his bowels while passed out. Wow what”an opportunity”. Ffs.
But if you must call her”horrible”for something then I would judge her to pay”a surrogate”to have a baby. That’s something I would personally hardly get over unless the person realised their mistake and is trying to correct it in whichever way possible since most likely they have the means to correct it if they had such money in the first place. Yet I can still see that even this”horrible”woman was the victim of abuse. Maybe I wouldn’t be her friend, maybe I’d even call her out on surrogacy issue but I wouldn’t deny her humanity and acknowledging wrong being done to her if it’s already obvious for crying out loud.
Maybe this all boils down to women having very low tolerance of each other. We find personal flaws enough to completely reject women and even punish them for it, while bonding over same femininity that we may reject other women for. It’s something I’m not good with myself so I rather isolate then try to be either on receiving or the other end of it. It’s depressingly a basis for women’s relationships so I can’t say I was entirely shocked with women reacting to AH the way we had. Celebrity world is usually magnified mundane average people’s lives, not at all shiny and mysterious. Johnny is nothing but a wife beater from the block. Both Johnnies r safe.