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Who regrets becoming a mum?

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vizbizz · 26/06/2008 03:01

Ok, so we are in the terrible 2's and I know this makes it hard for most mums to cope with but with all the pain, health dramas, depression etc I have had since arrival of DS I find that all too often I really regret having become a mum. I love the little man, but if I had known what I was in for I cant help thinking I would never have gone ahead and become a mum. The guilt I feel for feeling like this is awful. Does anyone else feel like this? There is so much pain (physical and emotional) as a result of DS's arrival, so much frustration and so very very little joy. He's a beautiful, and thankfully healthy little man, but I find it so hard to be happy about what I have.

And no, I am not suffering from depression anymore, just this overwhelming sense of grief when I stop to think about it all. I keep trying to convince myself that it will get better, but it's already been 2 years and I just don't see any progress in this despite counselling and the other progress I have made there. I still keep wishing I had never made the decision to be a mum.

I guess I just want to know I am not the only one that feels like this.

OP posts:
jabberwocky · 27/07/2008 03:37

Yes, the perfectionist thing is a killer. I constantly find myself lacking in doing things the way I would like it to be done.

Tiredness can be a sign of depression or low thyroid. or...just being a mom

Twizzler · 09/08/2008 19:45

Is anyone still around?

Am finding it all a bit hard going at the moment.

I just feel so tired all the time-could be due to PMT-what a curse this is for women-or just life!

Am finding DS moaning just too much to handle. He has this kind of tarzanish groan that he does a lot. I'm sure he knows it annoys us and does it on purpose. He is being extra challenging and DH and I both have different views on how to handle it. Sometimes though, we are just both clueless.

Everything that I have said before on this thread still stands but I think that what I am feeling know is something different. Should (and probably will) post on a different topic.

I just feel really worn down by it all and just want to run away. Yesterday I was just crying all day and wanted to just close my eyes and not wake up. DS was at nursery thank goodness.

I am sure this IS PMT but when you have it, it's hard to recognise it IYSWIM.
It makes me want to scream at DS a lot and I have visions in my head of smacking him really hard but then I think I would lose control and just keep hitting. OMG, that sounds terrible.

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