Dear Dr , I am one of your patients
I am concerned about my mum who is under Dr . I had a telephone appointment with him earlier concerning her.
I have a schizophrenic brother and am aware that until someone is at risk to themselves or others then there is not really much anyone can do. But I would like my concerns noted, so that if something does happen then it is on file.
My mum lives on a ground floor flat and the neighbour upstairs was initially keeping anti social hours, being really noisy at night, appearing to drop things on the floor for maximum effect in the middle of the night, keeping my mum awake and really making her life a misery. Whether he realised the effect he was having on her is unknown, he improved a little once the housing association had been involved.
However, my mum is completely obsessed by him, to the point where she has asked me to look him up on the internet to see where he lived before, and today she wanted me to look in his bins, she said, to see if he is doing any schizophrenic writings. However, her best friend has told me that the REAL reason is because my mum thinks he is pooing in carrier bags as he doesnt flush the loo anymore.
I feel rather ridiculus writing this down:-(
Her whole life is him, instead of saying Oh im going to the co op to get milk, she is thinking and saying Oh im going to the co op to get away from him for a bit.
She thinks he is following her round her flat, I have pushed and pushed her to explain to me HOW he knows where abouts she is in the flat(bearing in mind he cant see her, or hear her foot prints, no glass ceiling) and she just gets INCREDIBLY annoyed with me and says HE JUST DOES.
She has even gone up the stairs and tried to kick his door in, and the police were involved, I have no idea what the outcome was.
There was an incident one day where she was in her garden and he shut his window in his front room and left his flat and she got in the car and followed him with intention of running him over. I kept saying to her today, what did he DO that made you think it was ok to go and try and run him over? All he did was shut his window? What else DID HE DO? And she doesnt answer, but in her head, she is justified in that, and the last thing she said to me today was I will run him over if I get the chance.
This clearly is not normal behaviour. Well not for her anyway. She can build a whole 2 hour scenario over one noise from upstairs...I turned the page of the newspaper, he heard me(really?) so he put his telly on because he knew i was trying to read the paper....bla bla
She wont talk on the phone, because he is listening, this is why I got concerned today, instead of ringing me she came to my house, so he couldn't hear, to plot me raking in his bin.
She said she wanted to kill herself the last time we argued about this because it was clear I didnt believe her. She has had a hard life and i have never heard her say she was suicidal about anything before. Her sister, and her best friend are incredibly concerned too.
She thinks he poisoned her cat. And when he cat had a stroke that was his fault too. Her car has been damaged, obviously him too.
If he keeps her awake she has a mental log of that, but even when hes quiet she will say He sat in silence for 3 hours last night...Er maybe he was sleeping? And how do you know he was sitting? I JUST DO!
This is a minute version of the past 8 months, I also must add that she has never drunk alcohol, ever, and has started drinking in the past few months.
I would like this noted on her file, I would also like any advice you you give me and just a little reply so I know this email has got to you.
Thank you.