General support thread 3

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome x

Have you tried Propranolol
It massively helps me calm down and cope

That sounds hard ..we all work at different speeds ,is it worth having a chat with your manager to put your mind at rest

I find I'm not good with the clocks change ,I tend to get increased anxiety with more dark evenings and mornings.
Com you think it could be effecting how you feel

I came on to say ,I have been using my sad light and it's helping a bit and I'm taking extra multivitamins and I was wondering if anyone else was feeling worse with the clocks changing..it always negatively effects me the lack of sunlight this time of year ..as soon as it starts to go dark ,my body thinks it's bedtime

So far I feel he other way round. I'm glad the evening is dark, when it's light I feel anxious to make the most of daylight. Now, I can do cosy activities (mostly TV, but sometimes arts crafts and bored games) and the kids go to sleep easier. Allthough DS is up very early. In on annual leave so I'll see how I feel when I'm back to work!

I may well do . Thanks

I bought a SAD light last year but haven't really used it. The only place I'm comfy due to chronic pain is on the sofa with my legs up but where do I put the light? I don't have a coffee table.

I'm struggling quite a bit at the moment. I've increased my medication though and hoping that will kick in soon. I've no motivation and in a lot of pain with my usual pain condition plus awful plantar fasciitis which is stopping me going out walking plus toothache. I've an appointment at the dentist next Thursday but they won't be able to sort it them, it will mean another appointment.

That PF condition in your feet ..they have some great insoles on Amazon ..ones with a high instep ,like bump under the foot to give it support, massively helped me ,at one point the pain was so bad in my heel I couldn't walk .
I read in women it's the menopause..the drop in hormones causes it

My sad light I keep next to my bed ,it's got its on stand to keep it upright ..I try for about 30 mins a day ..if you were reading in bed or on a laptop,you could have it near you

I thought I was doing ok, but had another fight with DH yesterday. He never apologises. That's really bothering me. Felt like it really wiped me out. I lost my temper then cried. I have lost my temper a few times since August but not recently. I wrote then deleted fight details but have decided it's definitely his problem.

Sounds difficult
Would you leave him ,if you could ,or is it not at that point yet

Can I join please. I’m 54, 12 months divorced after a 30 year marriage and have had to move house twice in the last year. My DM died 18 months ago and our family business went bust.
my relationship with teen DD is in tatters and I am feeling completely overwhelmed by the house I bought 3
months ago. Feel like I made a stupid mistake buying it as I keep uncovering more issues.
can almost hear Ex laughing at me.

i am on ADs, propranolol and have started therapy but nothing helps
and am plagued by nighttime panic attacks. I can’t stop crying, not sleeping or eating and feel a useless failure. I feel completely broken can’t cope any more.

the dark evening have always been been tricky for me and I am genuinely worried about how I will cope as we head into winter

No, I don't think I would. Unless he hit me. He's really worked on himself and is t-total they past 3 years. He's a bit obsessive about fitness now though, it's better than alcohol and he's a very present dad. His dad used to beat up his mum. When police came she would never do anything about it and they are still together. I found that out quite far into our relationship. I would not stay if he hit me, and will not be like his mum, I sometimes tell him. Eg I don't cook and clean to the same extent.

He wants another child and in wandering if I'm being wrong for not saying definitely not, because I'm not sure, but part of me thinks if he really wants more children, I don't, that should be the end of us. That's what I want councilling for, to decide on another child. I had an abortion 18 months ago from an unplanned pregnancy when DS was 18 months and it's kicked me out of postnatal depression, made me sure I didn't want another child. DH did not support it, but was not outwardly angry. I used chatgbt to help me with how he was and conversations. Before our fight yesterday, I was thinking we could TTC in January. Now, I'm thinking I need to get back onto booking myself in for a coil.

I don't agree with some of his parenting and tell him. Other times he's really good. Like talking to DS in a pub, keeping him calm.

I'm so sorry to hear this ..but look how far you have come in the last year ..your free after 30 years ,you have your own home and a daughter.
It must be hard without your mum
And that is a lot of changes for a year ,your nervous system must be shot to pieces with everything you have coped with ,
Divorce
Moving house
Death
The three biggest things in life to cause stress ,all in one year
No wonder you are finding things difficult xx

Lundy Bancroft has a book on Amazon I've just bought ..not the why does he do that one ..as that has a 6 months delivery period,but a daily thought book to help you work through how you feel..I've just bought it .
There's also one by Bancroft about staying or leaving,when it's a mediocre relationship..I might get that too

The only thing ,in my experience I would say
Is
Having another baby in a difficult relationship,makes it more difficult,not better .
It means you are tying yourself to a difficult man for longer than you need to .
I figured that out 4 DC later

Thank you for responding. I feel so very scared and alone. Plus such sadness.
this house was meant to be a fresh start but there seems more and more wrong with it and I don’t have the money to fix things.

yesterday I discovered a bamboo bush in the garden and have scared myself stupid with googling how it’s worse than knotweed! I feel like I have zero resilience left or ability to cope.
i honestly want to disappear.

Hi all just came to check in. Welcome to those who have just joined us. Sorry so many are struggling and I hope this thread can help some what.

Bulldog summer has given some sound advice above and I just wanted to reiterate we need to be kinder to ourselves.

Work, divorce, bereavement, housemoves, relationships, kids all valid and difficult situations sometimes.

I'm feeling extra dyslexic this week. First day back at work on Tuesday and my head was all over the place. I tried to write out some injection slips at the end of the day for the following day and have just been told I made mistakes and it could be very dangerous. Maybe I need to not be writing these, leave them to someone else. It's a new area at work that uses paper unlike the rest of the department. I have seriously regressed in my writing since school.

I read a journal I wrote for my mental health from 8 years ago and I had written my weaknesses is I don't have good attention to detail.

But I was hoping to go for a promotion in this area but feel like the lead is losing confidence in me. I'm at work now and feeling fragile. I also tried to read a number but it has too many 6's in a row.

I've been putting off going the the GP for my mental health, but please can you ask if I've been next week as should go on Monday. I got chatgbt to write me notes to take, I'd like to get assessed for neurodiversity, particularly ADHD. Allthough BBC says they are stopping, a Facebook group says it's scaremongering and there's a process.

@2in2022twoyearson
Bless you ,are you giving yourself self enough time to double check what you are doing with the prescription slips ...maybe always check 3 times and take longer ,don't be rushed .
Have you made an appointment for GP
Have you got a list of reasons you think you have ADHD ..
There's a form to fill in ,they can leave it at reception for you to collect.
You could even do an econsult and ask for the form to be left at reception for you .
Good luck

It wasn't prescription so not even that bad. So information we have on slips when we're not by a computer. It mostly was incomplete and I shouldn't have started it. It's more my head is not in the right place for work this week.

@Bulldogsummer thanks for replying. The lead has rewritten the injection slips, writing more on them so they are more clear and asked me what I think and if they would help. I said there was one heading that was helpful. I thought but if I'm not well rested (most of the time) I'll likely muddle no matter how clear it it. I'm dyslexic, I can't copy out information accurately...' allthough I'm sure it's blindingly obvious I am dyslexic to her. I could check over 3 or 4 times and it still be wrong. I am used to computers where I can copy and paste. I read on a Facebook group about other dyslexic adults feeling similar at work. I have a 143 IQ, I think finding that out made me feel worse about the simple mental tasks I find difficult....if that makes sense.

It made me feel emotional that she'd adjusted things to help me out, she is nice