General support thread 3

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome x

Dogs mean so much to us ,they are our family .so I do understand
Currently my DH has developed an allergy to dog fur ..he's been ill for months and we have racked our brains trying to figure it out ..so yeah he can't be near them without his throat feeling tight and coughing and bringing up flem .
Our daughter went the same way about a year ago ..but she doesn't live at home so it's not such a problem

Hi ladies. Was on this thread a lot towards the end of last year. Just wanted to say 'Hi" 👋. X

Hello @Ilovedogs1 ,how are you

@Bulldogsummer not to bad thanks.
Still on medication and still having counselling monthly but much better than a couple of years ago. X

Hello @Ilovedogs1 nice to hear from you.

I mentioned a job opportunity a while back. It's not been advertised yet and I now feel ready to apply for it, after giving it some time and thought. I have been looking into the job spec, and slowly putting together some evidence so it won't be overwhelming when it is advertised.

Rant warning...you can stop reading here....

Work is a little frustrating when it comes to communication. Eg I passed on a message on Sunday, about incorrect building work and the builders were in on Sunday but have found out it didn't make it to the most senior on site that day. She is the college who I respect but is very direct and indemindating at times, or she's lovely when taking about her kids. Either way she talks too fast for me. She is complaining she didn't know about it so couldn't sort it on Sunday....I nearly told her directly, but she was busy when I looked in so i trusted my colleague to tell her, but I think he was too scared/ didn't want to get involved in a problem. He was working with her the whole day. I was in a different department.

Light hearted reply - I would choose the dog over OH :)
Seriously though, hopefully long term anti histamiens or keeping the dog away from him / the house as ventilated as possible may help !
One of the first questions I asked my ex husband was 'Are you allergic to dogs?'

Well ..we had a day away from the dogs on Sunday..an entire whole day ..in a completely different environment..
His cough was horrendous,really really bad , bringing up flem as he drove ( ugh 😩)
So it can't be the dogs causing it .
I've lost count of the times I have suggested he gets a doctor appointment

Great if isn’t the dog
Yes , a GP a ointment is a must if it’s been ongoing (could just be an infection but may need a chest X-ray )

I've told him till I'm blue in the face .
He was quite content to just blame the dogs ,which I assumed it was ,and take antihistamines that don't work ,.but it's clearly not the dogs ...it's clearly something else .
It's very frustrating being married,.

I'm feeling anxious today. I think it's because I sent my DD off on a school trip and she's not very well... but I'm doubting myself and checking things a lot today at work.

@Ilovedogs1 hey! You were a huge help to me last year. How are you?

@Bulldogsummer I wonder if dh is sharing your current frustrations with the dogs so thought it would be a good excuse to rehome them?

@2in2022twoyearson how was the trip? I would be anxious at that but ds is non verbal which is probably why.

I thought i was doing better but im slipping again. Trying my best to stay off meds but will see

@Helplessandheartbroke she loved it and is telling us all about making spears and fire. Normally I wouldn't be stressed but she was all puffy eyed this morning, told me she'd been awake since 10 to 5 has had a cough and runny nose for a few days and as I was tieng her hair up I thought she felt hot. But she said she was fine and didn't want me to check her temperature. So I gave her Calpol and dropped her at breakfast club. A crime in the world of Mumsnet, but in IRL quite normal.

She's quite mature for 7 and looked after her cast well on a wet day. I was concerned her jumper was wet, but she told me she'd wrapped her coat first, then her jumper round her arm to keep it dry when it rained.

Hopefully it's not a slippery slope but a blip for you @Helplessandheartbroke

@2in2022twoyearson 7 is young so youre going to worry but glad she enjoyed herself :) she does sound sensible bless her. Virus season now isn't it!

Breakfast club is very normal. My SM owns one!

I dwell on past mistakes and I really dont know why as there's nothing I can do about it

No ..we d never do that ,be like getting rid of one of the kids ,,you dream about it ,but wouldn't actually do it .
They are family ,they know this is their home and we are their people.
A break from them would be nice as they are very full on dogs ..we are on holiday next week for half term and as usual they come with us ..
We did do a trial run in some kennels,but they said after they didn't feel they could manage their issues..so we didn't try anywhere else

If there's one thing I've learnt in life so far
,you have to live with the consequences of your actions
So whatever you do ,you have to own it and live with it .
And live with any guilt...so no rehoming for us ..
But I would never get another dog again

Hi, just been catching up with posts, it is while since I posted hope you don't mind me joining.

I have PTSD and an anxiety disorder, previously diagnosed with psychotic depression but not sure they think it is that anymore. Lived with depression most of my life.

I wanted to ask, do any of you find others and their comments make them worse? I am starting to think I need to avoid certain people and not share things with them.

For example I told MIL about a certain issue to do with our home and she made some unwarranted negative comments which just made things worse.

Unfortunately my mother struggles with psychosis and I can't really share things with her either. It just makes her delusions worse and she comes out with some odd things.

In my forties I am starting to realise no-one else is there to mother me but myself.

Anyway not sure if this might resonate with anyone else. I just cancelled meeting MIL today and she is ignoring me, typical passive aggressive behaviour.

Letting it go.

@Bulldogsummer youre good people putting them before yourselves. Ill never have another dog just living with the guilt i feel. Did I pay him enough attention, was he walked enough, did my mistake result in his condition worsening etc. Its tears me apart.

@orangesandlemons77 welcome back! Sorry youre having a rough time. Luckily my family (mostly) support me at my worst so im sorry you dont have the same support. What's your dh like?

** hey! You were a huge help to me last year. How are you?

Hi @Helplessandheartbroke . I'm doing OK.
Noticed a few little anxiety dips over the last couple of weeks but trying not to make to much of it.

Thankyou
I have to live with any decisions I make ,and it's not something I could do .
But I don't want another one .
It's such a huge responsibility..I can't remember if I said ,but the rescue got attacked a couple of months ago ,and blood all down the hallway ,he ran home from the park ..but all the what if's ,really upset me ...like what if it happened on holiday,he would of run of and we may never of found him .. dreadful just dreadful.

Hi all. I've just had a chat with chatgbt and it's been really useful. Mostly rephraseing what I've been saying as a positive sounding chamber, but also, it's helped me put together a plan on what to say to the GP,band given some insights into my possible neurodiversity. Obviously it can get things very wrong, but it's helped me process some thoughts and emotions.

Morning all. After a good while feeling really well, the last week or so been feeling a little anxious and overwhelmed.
Obviously ups and downs are to be expected but it always makes me worry about being really ill again.
Quite tired most of the time aswell. I could sleep and sleep.
How's everyone else doing?

Hello. I don't normally post here but I'm having an awful relapse of anxiety. I'm sure it's stress-related and temporary but I haven't felt this bad in years as I normally manage my anxiety pretty well. I'm already tired of the endless thought loops and the palpitations and trying to keep a handle on reality. It's exhausting. I just wish I could vomit it all out the way you do when you're drunk and then feel better.

i am feeling paranoid - trying to use CBT techniques to think more rationally but it is not helping.
I WFH 3 days a week (as do 2 other colleagues) - we have to start logging what we have achieved each day. Mine is less than the others. I am worried this new reporting is to highlght this . The other days in the offce I am less efficient (shared open plan and noise etc ) so dont think they would pull me back for more days in.
I dont work through my lunch hour like they do and I do have to have breaks regularly to stay focussed.