General support thread 3

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome x

My boys were diagnosed years and years before me
I didn't have the head space or physical time to spare to look in to why I was struggling
It was only as the DC got older and I had more time for myself I was able to spend time thinking what I needed .
As mums we put ourselves last ..can't imagine a man doing that with the family .

I don't think I'd of done anything different if I'd found out 10 or 15 years ago ..
But if I'd known from my teenage years ,I'd of done things very much differently .
But 10 years ago I was married and had the DC .
So @2in2022twoyearson you have all the time in the world to discover about yourself x

I'm struggling to at the moment
The dogs are winding me up ..I guess because I'm at home a lot ,due to my situation,and they are so needy
I love them
I just wish they were someone else's responsibility

Sorry youre struggling. Is it that the dogs are winding you up or its there's something bigger and that's making the dogs feel 10 times worse? X

No it is the dogs ..I love them ,and they are well looked after ..I just wish they lived somewhere else .
It's the neediness of them ..one of them makes this awful noise at the bottom of the stairs from 6.30 in a morning, literally forcing me to get up to make her stop ,as she wants food .
If it rains they wee and poo all over the conservatory
They bark constantly at the slightest noise ,mainly in the garden when any of the neighbours use their garden,I've got to go and bring them in .
Ive just had enough of the pair of them ..they drain me

That sounds rough!

Can you leave some kibble down the night before and would this help? Re the barking i presume they're small dogs? Seems to be a trait im not sure what you can do on that one.

Re the toileting is that during the night or the day too?

There's no easy answers
I can't leave food down no , because one of them has megaspohagus and needs a bailey chair to be able to eat.
They are both small dogs ..my previous dogs were much bigger and much more chilled .these guys are very intense
Previous dogs never toileted in the house
I think you have to be a certain kind of owner for small dogs ,you certainly need a lot of patience,that I don't remember needing with my previous dogs .
It's safe to say these guys have put me off ever having a dog again.
Before I got these two I would of said I was a good dog owner ..I knew what I was doing,and was a confident owner .
But not any more ...it's like they are on red alert to bark at every single noise

Re toileting
They have a pet flap ,and 24 hour access to a nice garden.
But if it's rains or it's cold or windy ,they toilet inside..it's so upsetting

@Bulldogsummer I remember a colleague of mine talking about her little Chinese crested dogs who toilted in the house. Not fun. We have a big dog, and his food and medicine is expensive, but even with diarrhoea recently he's got out in the garden.

I have insomnia again. Since Wednesday 5 hours every night and I normally get at least 8. Struggling to fall asleep and waking up at 4. I wasn't going to but I caved and picked up my phone, after doing some laundry, tidying, snacking and reading for half an hour (after lying in bed awake for about an hour).

I may have said DD fractured her wrist on Wednesday. Yesterday I did call up to get counciling, they said they'd call back on a withheld number but I had a nap and missed it.

Today, I thought going to work would help, tire me out for bedtime and have some space from my family, esspecaly DH who I feel anxious around. But I didn't feel I did a good job at work, but I did my best, I couldn't retain any information, including an enjeneers verbal report (he'll email one to a senior colleague). What upset me after I should have been asleep was student put in a complaint. I don't know the details, but I was coordinating and if told her in the morning she could come to me any questions, I'm now a student ambassador. She left without saying, I had something for her to do, I tried to find her and couldn't, then later in the afternoon, I found out from the student lead that she'd left and messaged a complaint. It's bad on her part, to not speak to one of us.

It wouldn't normally bother me, but with insomnia....

I'm next due into work on Tuesday. Will have to work on my sleep. I used the 10 3-2-1 rule before with some success.
But yeah, I'll put my phone away now.

I struggle to sleep to
I was awake quite a bit last night as well
What did the student complain about
Might of been more helpful to of just come and talked too you

Exactly, or she could have talked to my colleague she sent the message to after she'd gone. What makes it worse is she's a mature student and older than me so she should know better. I don't actually know the content exactly. But, it's a hospital I work in btw, we were very busy and short staffed yesterday, so I think something about being ignored.

Lack of sleep s the worst because it makes everything harder to deal with.

DD has a vomiting bug, DS has threadworms. The stress had motivated me today but I'm ready to nap now.

That sounds hard.they always catch things in winter ,colder weather,mine certainly did

Did you say you are in one Tuesday to sort it out ..can you have a word with her ,so she doesn't do it again

I don't see the student call her X often and she'll be rotas in a different area, but I'll speak to my senior colleague, call her M, who is lovely and approachable and caring, which is why I guess X let her know. M had gone before I found out about the compliment from someone else. I think M will help clear things up.

Ds isn't sleeping 😥hes still awake now. He's 5 and we've got to be up at 7 for school and its gonna be a massive struggle! Dh is complaining ds is always in our bed (he gets in ds bed) but what other way is there when he doesn't sleep? Im exhausted and failing at my marriage because its some how all on me... sorry to vent im just fed up and don't know what to do

Sympathies being also exhausted with motherhood. Hope he got some sleep in the end. Year one is a tough year I found, esspecaly on some of the boys.

I got my dh to take over at 3.30am I don't know how im gonna get him up for school now. He went to sleep around 4!

I have no answers. I'd probably want to keep him off school, call myself in sick from work if I'd not had enough sleep to function.. but you've got the think about the knock on effect for the rest of the week at school. Either way, you got this.

Thank you. He's in school and im in work. I've just had a big promotion so bad time to call in sick. Im wondered if I should have taken the promotion with everything else going on but I figured a deserve it so will make it work

Congratulations on your promotion. I may have an opportunity coming up. I'm not sure I need the extra stress. But, I've recently completed a pgcert that lines me up for it and I don't want the stress and effort for that be unrewarded. I may not get it. Just do what you can to get through today and hopefully your son will be so exhausted he'll sleep better.

@Bulldogsummer how is your sleep? I have been sleeping through the past 2 nights so feeling much calmer. Before I discovered DS threadworms I felt itchy down below at 4am one morning, when I couldn't go back to sleep. So, insomnia could have partly caused by worms as I haven't had it since taking the tablet.

DD has had a plaster change. DS has wound me up this morning, just before his nap, so I wasn't letting that go and walked the buggy until he slept, took longer than it used to. I don't think we have many naps left. Maybe the clocks changing will mark an end to that as we'll want him to go to bed earlier. It's hard to know because naps can make night time sleep better.

Thank you and good luck to you too! How old is ds?

DS is nearly 3 years old.

Hi I've been on the thread before but changed user names.

I'm struggling at the moment. I put on a brave face and get on with the things I have to, but just don't want to get out of bed. I have to because the cats need feeding but if it wasn't for my partner or mother wanting to do things I'd go back to bed.

My antidepressants dose probably needs upping, but I can't handle the side effects so keep putting it off.

I go to sleep thinking I don't want to wake up but then feel bad because there's no one to look after my cats when I'm gone. I can't talk to anyone, everyone has their own problems to deal with.

I'm the same .I spend all day trying to get back in to bed
I thought it was my weight making me miserable,so I lost 8 stone ,but I still feel the same.im not on any antidepressants because I can't tolerate the side effects .when your like this long term ,you do just shut up and stop talking about it , because you worry your boring people and they are getting fed up with you being miserable.its not a nice way to live