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Bulldogsummer · 07/10/2025 06:25

2in2022twoyearson · 06/10/2025 13:52

Congratulations on your promotion. I may have an opportunity coming up. I'm not sure I need the extra stress. But, I've recently completed a pgcert that lines me up for it and I don't want the stress and effort for that be unrewarded. I may not get it. Just do what you can to get through today and hopefully your son will be so exhausted he'll sleep better.

@Bulldogsummer how is your sleep? I have been sleeping through the past 2 nights so feeling much calmer. Before I discovered DS threadworms I felt itchy down below at 4am one morning, when I couldn't go back to sleep. So, insomnia could have partly caused by worms as I haven't had it since taking the tablet.

DD has had a plaster change. DS has wound me up this morning, just before his nap, so I wasn't letting that go and walked the buggy until he slept, took longer than it used to. I don't think we have many naps left. Maybe the clocks changing will mark an end to that as we'll want him to go to bed earlier. It's hard to know because naps can make night time sleep better.

Up and down thanks for asking
How are you

2in2022twoyearson · 07/10/2025 08:31

@Bulldogsummer another good night sleep thanks. But had an uncomfortable conversation with DH. For some reason I brought up a colleague who is pregnant in conversation but did not want to talk about a 3rd baby, my DH is desperate for but has now learnt not to raise it.
That was before I had coffee. I do need to book councilling to discuss it as I'm not longer sure I don't want another.

Then we talked about me excesising and loosing weight and I didn't like his approach. It's what worked for him, considering alcohol and unhealthy foods poison and going all in on the fitness routine. I want a softer approach. I have set my target for TTC at 65kg which is well into the ideal weight category. and have gained 1-2 kg since setting that goal. Possibly it's another delay tactic on my side.

thetorturedpoetsdepartmentssecretary · 08/10/2025 00:57

I'm miserable about my weight, I need to lose two stone at least, but after dieting for about three weeks I feel ill and craved carbs. I've probably put on the 9 lbs I lost already. I hate the way I look. I'm neurodivergent in some way, awaiting an assessment, and hate the feeling of my hair in my neck or face or back, but can't stand the way I look with my hair up or cut short, so I'm custard tying it up when no one's around, letting it down when I'm with my partner or meet anyone or even go out. It's exhausting. I can't even think about labels in clothes, I just cut them out. Anything tight is unbearable. I have a chronic pain condition and am so fed up of the pain. The only thing that helps a bit is ibuprofen, but it upsets my stomach, even though I always take it with food.

It's all just too much and I just want to stay home alone and watch TV or sleep.

Bulldogsummer · 08/10/2025 10:29

thetorturedpoetsdepartmentssecretary · 08/10/2025 00:57

I'm miserable about my weight, I need to lose two stone at least, but after dieting for about three weeks I feel ill and craved carbs. I've probably put on the 9 lbs I lost already. I hate the way I look. I'm neurodivergent in some way, awaiting an assessment, and hate the feeling of my hair in my neck or face or back, but can't stand the way I look with my hair up or cut short, so I'm custard tying it up when no one's around, letting it down when I'm with my partner or meet anyone or even go out. It's exhausting. I can't even think about labels in clothes, I just cut them out. Anything tight is unbearable. I have a chronic pain condition and am so fed up of the pain. The only thing that helps a bit is ibuprofen, but it upsets my stomach, even though I always take it with food.

It's all just too much and I just want to stay home alone and watch TV or sleep.

I'm exactly the same with hair
It's only down when I leave the house and I can't stand it touching my face
I once had a fringe cut and it drove me mad

Bulldogsummer · 08/10/2025 10:31

2in2022twoyearson · 07/10/2025 08:31

@Bulldogsummer another good night sleep thanks. But had an uncomfortable conversation with DH. For some reason I brought up a colleague who is pregnant in conversation but did not want to talk about a 3rd baby, my DH is desperate for but has now learnt not to raise it.
That was before I had coffee. I do need to book councilling to discuss it as I'm not longer sure I don't want another.

Then we talked about me excesising and loosing weight and I didn't like his approach. It's what worked for him, considering alcohol and unhealthy foods poison and going all in on the fitness routine. I want a softer approach. I have set my target for TTC at 65kg which is well into the ideal weight category. and have gained 1-2 kg since setting that goal. Possibly it's another delay tactic on my side.

I've got 4 DC
But I've got to be honest,if I known I was autistic I wouldn't of had any .
Only because it was really hard work.but now I know it's the ones I got I'm glad I had them ,if that makes sense

Bulldogsummer · 08/10/2025 10:34

I had a chat with a different doctor today
I'm going to try escitalopan
Fingers crossed

2in2022twoyearson · 08/10/2025 21:04

Good luck with the medication change @Bulldogsummer. Overall today was a good day, as my ds was slightly better behaved. Worst part was when I first saw DH, I wanted to do leftovers and he called me selfish because he then has to make something tomorrow when I'm at work and when out for a run, which I think was selfish. But it's also important for parents to be selfish. Every Thursday he normally cooks a meal so I don't think today should be different. Just because I was 'at home' with ds. I did the dentist and both school runs and tried to clean more because of the worms.

Then when he left I saw he'd made a point of my mess in the hallway by moving it to the middle like a barricade, so petty! I nearly had a gin and tonic, but I knew it was the wrong time so just lied down feeling depressed for about half an hour, with kids TV on, ds jumped on me a bit. Didn't hear up dinner until he was back. He has a weird obsession about 5pm dinner. Now kids are in bed DH is asleep on the sofa so we can't talk about it.

I did have a feeling today again, that I had when ds was a baby of regretting having him, which I haven't felt for ages.

So, sorry, I started off with how good it was then described the negatives.positives, met a puppy, just tucked ds and DD calmly into bed with ds being unusually well behaved and DD laughing hysterically at poems. Made a delicious soup this morning.

thetorturedpoetsdepartmentssecretary · 09/10/2025 01:06

Bulldogsummer · 08/10/2025 10:29

I'm exactly the same with hair
It's only down when I leave the house and I can't stand it touching my face
I once had a fringe cut and it drove me mad

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I don't think I could cope with a fringe either. I hide behind my hair because it's the only thing I find attractive about myself.
I'm tired of coping with this constant pain.

Bulldogsummer · 09/10/2025 05:48

2in2022twoyearson · 08/10/2025 21:04

Good luck with the medication change @Bulldogsummer. Overall today was a good day, as my ds was slightly better behaved. Worst part was when I first saw DH, I wanted to do leftovers and he called me selfish because he then has to make something tomorrow when I'm at work and when out for a run, which I think was selfish. But it's also important for parents to be selfish. Every Thursday he normally cooks a meal so I don't think today should be different. Just because I was 'at home' with ds. I did the dentist and both school runs and tried to clean more because of the worms.

Then when he left I saw he'd made a point of my mess in the hallway by moving it to the middle like a barricade, so petty! I nearly had a gin and tonic, but I knew it was the wrong time so just lied down feeling depressed for about half an hour, with kids TV on, ds jumped on me a bit. Didn't hear up dinner until he was back. He has a weird obsession about 5pm dinner. Now kids are in bed DH is asleep on the sofa so we can't talk about it.

I did have a feeling today again, that I had when ds was a baby of regretting having him, which I haven't felt for ages.

So, sorry, I started off with how good it was then described the negatives.positives, met a puppy, just tucked ds and DD calmly into bed with ds being unusually well behaved and DD laughing hysterically at poems. Made a delicious soup this morning.

It sounds very difficult for you ..have you got the banna liquid ..
I went through a faze with my kids ,when worms were doing the rounds at school of dosing them up every now and again .. definitely when you think you've got rid of them dose the whole family again

Bulldogsummer · 09/10/2025 05:49

thetorturedpoetsdepartmentssecretary · 09/10/2025 01:06

I don't think I could cope with a fringe either. I hide behind my hair because it's the only thing I find attractive about myself.
I'm tired of coping with this constant pain.

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Yes I do the same with mine

2in2022twoyearson · 09/10/2025 06:52

Banana liquid was a option but I went for chewable orange tablets. Slightly more expensive but sounded more paletabe. I don't like banana flavour, and my son often spits out food and medicine. He did ok with the tablets when he had a drink. Let us know how you find the new medication.

2in2022twoyearson · 10/10/2025 12:58

I feel like case is closed on the student issue last week. Been debriefed I did nothing wrong but student did. Put simply. I've also been complemented as for my work with students. @Bulldogsummer how is your new meds and dogs going?

Bulldogsummer · 10/10/2025 15:33

I gave the meds to my husband,as I was thinking of taking the lot .
I have history with doing stupid stuff like that
Better safe than sorry

Bulldogsummer · 10/10/2025 15:35

I'm waiting to be assessed for ADHD and when I had my autism assessment they said I met the criteria for ADHD ,but I needed to be seen for diagnosis..so looking the meds up on line ,I shouldn't be taking them if I have ADHD .so they are In the bin for both reasons

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Helplessandheartbroke · 11/10/2025 10:49

Hey hope everyone's well?

My ocd has been bad again this week. Overthinking decisions I've made in the past and torturing myself. At the time they obviously seemed like ok decisions... dont know why I do it to myself its not like I can turn the clock back

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Bulldogsummer · 11/10/2025 10:51

I'm good thanks .
Just one of my blips .
How are you today @Helplessandheartbroke
I get the same ,it's like the brain has a mind of its own

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Helplessandheartbroke · 12/10/2025 08:27

Bulldogsummer · 11/10/2025 10:51

I'm good thanks .
Just one of my blips .
How are you today @Helplessandheartbroke
I get the same ,it's like the brain has a mind of its own

Hey sorry I had a crazy day yesterday but woke up this morning with the same thoughts. Its daft things like feeling guilty because ddog wasn't allowed upstairs when ds was born (he was 7 stone so couldn't have him jumping on bed with a baby) and other things just wishing id have done differently. I know we all make mistakes etc but I just tend to blame myself for everything.

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Bulldogsummer · 13/10/2025 02:02

Helplessandheartbroke · 12/10/2025 08:27

Hey sorry I had a crazy day yesterday but woke up this morning with the same thoughts. Its daft things like feeling guilty because ddog wasn't allowed upstairs when ds was born (he was 7 stone so couldn't have him jumping on bed with a baby) and other things just wishing id have done differently. I know we all make mistakes etc but I just tend to blame myself for everything.

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That's your brain going in to overdrive,..can you prepare a stock response to your thoughts
Such as
Ddog was was well loved and cared for and wanted for nothing
Then rinse and repeat when the negative thoughts come

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Helplessandheartbroke · 13/10/2025 18:52

@Bulldogsummer I certainly try. There's just so much I should have done better but those last couple of years were so hard I gave my all but my all today would be different.

How are your ddogs behaving now?

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2in2022twoyearson · 14/10/2025 08:27

I'm in an audhd adults group and in some ways it's making me think 'yes, that's me, I have both, I am different'. But I'm not sure that really fits my world view, because it's an us and them, and many in the group 'other' and criticise neuropypical people. And I'm not disabled and autism should be diagnosed if it's disabiling in my opinion as the traits on there own are human traits, exacerbated by the unnatural world we love in .And it was one comment stuck out. Someone was upset about bullying in the group and a resource was 'even amoung neurodiverse People there are bad eggs.' implying autistic people are normally better....
Maybe I need a social media break.

Things are not great with DH at the moment. I need to go to work now.

Bulldogsummer · 14/10/2025 10:44

2in2022twoyearson · 14/10/2025 08:27

I'm in an audhd adults group and in some ways it's making me think 'yes, that's me, I have both, I am different'. But I'm not sure that really fits my world view, because it's an us and them, and many in the group 'other' and criticise neuropypical people. And I'm not disabled and autism should be diagnosed if it's disabiling in my opinion as the traits on there own are human traits, exacerbated by the unnatural world we love in .And it was one comment stuck out. Someone was upset about bullying in the group and a resource was 'even amoung neurodiverse People there are bad eggs.' implying autistic people are normally better....
Maybe I need a social media break.

Things are not great with DH at the moment. I need to go to work now.

People only get a diagnosis of autism if it significantly impacts their life

Bulldogsummer · 14/10/2025 10:46

Helplessandheartbroke · 13/10/2025 18:52

@Bulldogsummer I certainly try. There's just so much I should have done better but those last couple of years were so hard I gave my all but my all today would be different.

How are your ddogs behaving now?

It's difficult,I do understand as I've lost two dogs myself
Mine are much the same really ..they live to bark at absolutely nothing

2in2022twoyearson · 14/10/2025 12:15

Yes, it's just a random rambling. I'm sorry if it came as across offensive. My poor mental health significantly impacts my life, whether the route cause is autism is the question. But also, I don't have a difficult life really.

Today I have a headache which is stopping me think clearly. I decided I need to loose weight, but I'm getting a Macdonald's too, because I want hot food. Other than the headache I'm well. How are you?

Bulldogsummer · 14/10/2025 15:56

2in2022twoyearson · 14/10/2025 12:15

Yes, it's just a random rambling. I'm sorry if it came as across offensive. My poor mental health significantly impacts my life, whether the route cause is autism is the question. But also, I don't have a difficult life really.

Today I have a headache which is stopping me think clearly. I decided I need to loose weight, but I'm getting a Macdonald's too, because I want hot food. Other than the headache I'm well. How are you?

Oh gosh ..no absolutely not offensive
I'm not well so was trying to answer without typing much xxxxx

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Helplessandheartbroke · 16/10/2025 20:14

How's everyone doing today? Thanks for understanding @Bulldogsummer people that know me and knew how much he meant to me dont understand and think im mad

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