General support thread - come on in

[Kielyflower]

I couldn’t see a recent one of these so thought I’d start one.

I just feel I need to do something positive so will hopefully share some more thoughts later that I hope will help - others as well as myself.

In the meantime, feel free to check in as, if nothing else, it helps to feel less alone.

@JamSandle how are you?

At this point I would pay someone to cheerlead me! I don't want a therapist but that would help.

I have tidied the flat. Don't feel any different.

Every day seems a struggle. I don't know if it will lift or if I have to deal with dreaded docs and ADs again. Lack of sun for such a long time hasn't helped of course.

I don't know if others find this - but while there are some good books/resources on Youtube, they often focus on negative experiences, or they tell you to enlist support from friends and family, which is not an option for me.

maybe I should write a daily cheerleading book? What would people like in it? No "you got this" - I do hate that phrase.

I barely slept last night so hopefully will tonight....weather allegedly better tomorrow too.

@Whycantgiraffesdance I didn't sleep well so I'm tired. Stupid thoughts. How are you?

@JamSandle hey how are you?

@EmmaEmerald I'm really sad reading your posts about being lonely. You're not alone and maybe others at the class are doing it for the same reason? Have you considered getting a dog? I Met loads of new people in my new area through walking my ddog rest his sole x

I’m not too bad thanks @Jk24 feel like I can finally see some light at the end of the tunnel…still getting the horrible morning anxiety but coping better with everything in general. Really grateful for everyone’s support on here, I don’t know many irl that suffer with poor mental health so it’s nice to get some solidarity online! How are u apart from the lack of sleep?

do you have a partner/children @EmmaEmerald? apologies if you’ve already said! xx

@Whycantgiraffesdance glad you're doing a bit better. One day at a time. I'm just exhausted, anxious, hate myself and currently fearing the future after something a family member said today got me really thinking x

Oh @Jk24 🥺 I’m about if u wanted to chat x

Thanks sweet. I'll reach out tomorrow going to try and get some sleep. Here for you too x

Hope you have a restful night @Jk24 x

@Jk24 Yes it's possible others are doing it for the same reason.

But I've had a lot of experience of doing things to meet people and it just makes me more depressed.

@Whycantgiraffesdance I don't have partner or children no. I didn't particularly want either.

I used to have like a family of really good friends and they disappeared in lockdown - so I've been making massive efforts to meet people and it's been horrendous.

There are many threads on this subject so at least I know I'm not the only person in that situation.

I really appreciate the help that I get on mumsnet. 😍

It's quite scary not to have any real life help though.

So really I have to make peace with being on my own. And I think it's important to do that. It's easier said than done though.

A dog would not be a good idea. I live in a tiny tiny flat. I have other health issues, I don't drive and I simply wouldn't be able to cope with a dog. I don't actually want a pet either. Expensive too.

Anyway, I was optimistically, hoping to feel better tomorrow, but now my elderly mother has alerted me that she's not feeling well. This usually leads to another fall or hospital incident so I'm going to take a pill and go to bed early - as I would not be at all surprised to be woken up in the middle of the night with some kind of emergency. Pills don't always work though, but I will give something a try.

I'm going to watch a bit of Downton to cheer up before bed.

Hope everyone gets a good nights sleep.

It is really hard not to fixate on things especially if someone sets off a worry.

I'm trying not to think too much about the future.

if you want to talk about it tomorrow I will be around to listen.

Some people really like to doom-monger though, best to ignore if you can.

Sorry, I will just went a little, I hope that's okay.

My family member is really presumptuous. It's just wearing me out so much. I was just having an okay day and then they texted me and it instantly ruined the moment. I can't believe the most harrowing person in my life has access to me by mobile too. Now I have to change it. We agreed on no contact by mobile but hey ho here we go again.

I finally heard back from a Private Therapist, and it's 70 £ per 50 minutes. She sounded nice initially but the whole thing just rubbed me the wrong way? Like very transactional and taking advantage of people for MH issues.

I feel so tired constantly putting up walls that someone who ruined so much of my life keeps pushing down. It's so frustrating knowing exactly what the problem is but being too tired to tackle it.

Hi all

Ds was up from 1am until gone 5am. I'm exhausted and drained!

@Whycantgiraffesdance will pm you later if that's ok?

@EmmaEmerald thank you. I'm just so drained now I just worry about the future.

@snowfoxglove feel free to pm if you want a chat. Also go for nhs therapy x

Hey all, feeling very down and sad today. 3rd session of ect done yesterday. I hope you all have an okay day today and find some little glimmers of hope 💚

Hi all,

Sorted. Changed my mobile. Made huge huge progress IRL with something I was dreading for ages. Spoke to my GP just now. She was judgemental and rude about my MH (no big loss, I didn't expect much anyway). So that boost of anger earlier helped me take care of some things.

@EmmaEmerald Don't feel bad for trying a class. You're trying and that's what matters.

@Jk24 You must be so exhausted lovely. We care for you and we understand. We won't judge because we know what's it like to struggle. Still out and about but thank you for being here xx

@hk1993x You did well love. There are definitely glimmers of hope. Take rest if you can. I hope ECT yields some results 💛

@hk1993x sending huge hugs 🫂 hang in there! Make sure you're taking care of yourself.

@snowfoxglove well done you!!! Sorry your gp was shit! Are they referring you? X

Hi all,

ditto @snowfoxglove its so hard when you don’t have an understanding gp, now I’m under peri natal they are so much more sympathetic it’s just a shame you to reach crisis point to get to the right people!

of course @Jk24 will be around tonite so feel free to pm me lovely.

sending hugs @hk1993x did they give any indication when u might notice any benefits? Well done for perservering, you are so much stronger than u give yourself credit for! 🥺

Thanks everyone, they said I should see some benefit by the 6th session so I'm keeping all my fingers crossed, I just want to be well 🥹🥹

Today is a much better day. I figured if I'm anxious and suffering, I might as well be anxious and suffering while working on my problems IRL. Thank you all for being here @Jk24 @Whycantgiraffesdance @hk1993x

How is everyone else? Feel free to just post if you like and when you can. We are all in this together 💛

@Jk24 Yeah she referred me. She was just patronising about my MH. Rude. How are you doing lovely? Did you get some rest? I hope DS managed to give his lovely mum a break xx

@Whycantgiraffesdance Thank you for being understanding. I'm glad you have a sympathetic GP now. How have you been doing? Thank you for being here xx

@hk1993x I know being in a hospital can be scary but hopefully something good will come out of it. We are here for you. Sending you Unmumsnetty hugs 💛

Many thanks @Kielyflower for this thread. Can we get a new one, too, when this one reaches 1000 replies? It helped me so much talking to you all.

@snowfoxglove he went to sleep late but slept thankfully. I don't understand GPS like this, I would ask for someone with more empathy! Thanks for your support too!

Hope everyone has a good day. I'm quite busy work wise today but will check in later. Will definitely do another thread. I do have another on the MH board called 'anyone else sad and need a hand hold' x

@Jk24 That's nice of you. I've just been wondering about --- what do you think about therapy? Private? I'm just musing, and, I don't know if it sits well with me. It's so much money to (basically) pay for someone's friendship.

I made an appointment (sort of) on Monday but I just don't know if I want to do it. Today has been a quiet day, as yesterday I did a lot.

Excellent thought process @snowsnowfoxglove. Might as well feel bad while working on things.

I'm quite sad today. Not long back from holiday and missing my ex. Just feel a bit lost and sad. I like the advice you gave though. I'll try to follow it. Its nice to have a place where it feels safe to admin our struggles.

@snowfoxglove I enjoy therapy but not sure I would pay private.... how long for your nhs referral? X

@JamSandle it's a grieving process sweet, you'll get there. Where did you go on holiday? X

How is everyone?

I had a lovely day out with a friend yesterday - practically my only friend now, though I tend to think of her as my bestie.

It was a bit marred at the start because I struggle to get mum's health issues off my mind. I must learn to compartmentalise.

Be lucky if I have any 'friend" company for another ...two or three months now, which is probably the next time she'll be able to see me, if I'm lucky.

I feel shattered today. It's sad that a day out leaves me exhausted but it's more mental. I don't usually get the stimulus of fun chat for hours, so it's done me good, I slept well last night, but I am mentally tired now. We also did a gym class at her gym.

I've been for a walk.

I've been pondering how to get my life on some sort of track but perhaps today isn't the day for big questions.

i knew today would be odd, looking at an empty social diary. But I looked forward to yesterday for ages and it was lovely.

Peru, which was amazing. Being back home feeling quite lonely though as of course my problems are still here. It was a fantastic time though. How are you today?

I think it’s natural to have a bit of a slump after a good day which you’d obviously been looking forward to @EmmaEmerald is your friend local to you? Could you get another date in the diary so you at least have something to look forward to?

I’ve had an ok week this week, feeling a little flat today but I have to keep reminding myself even people with good mental health have down days so I’ll try not to let it turn into negative thoughts and the inevitable downward spiral that would bring!

how is everyone else? x

Still here, i wrote a post about cocodomol making me feel happy on here and got called a drug addict 😔

I phoned mental health team and let them know that I dunno what I am feeling, I feel lost.

I don't abuse the cocodomol, they just act like a crutch where I get a glimmer of happiness when I have taken them. I know it's not the answer but I'm going to change it.

Just trying to hang on in there. Back on Tues for the 5th ect session 😔