Probability of fingering causing pregnancy

[MountainVA]

Please do not shame me, I’m feeling terrible and my mental health is in shambles. Here are the facts before I ask question…..

-40 YO
-2 kids conceived super easy (11 & 13)
-In between birth controls (iud next month)
day 15 of cycle (ovulating according to chart)
-partner and I opted NOT to have intercourse since we knew I am ovulating.

I’m pretty sure some semen was on his fingers when he touched me. we don’t know 100% he says not but I did see him “handle himself a few times” So yes I know yes it’s theoretically a possibility if sperm is near vagina BUT statistically how likely? I’m ready everything from “haha your an idiot it’s impossible” to “that’s how my cousin conceived”.
Im terribly concerned. Loosing sleep and can’t eat. I cannot be pregnant at this time due to mental health concerns and my marriage is failing heading to a divorce. My anxiety is sky high and I’m all over the map from convinced to knowing it’s improbable. Next two weeks will be hell waiting.
Facts that I have come across online.

At 39 my chance of becoming pregnant TRYING is only about 5-6%.
If we had gone as fas as withdrawal (did not just using this as a thought) It’s 4% chance of pregnancy. Adding those two things together gives me odds less than 0, correct?

Going nuts…..

Please help me.

If you're getting yourself really worked up like this then defo lay off the willy for a bit until you're sorted for contraception.

More than likely not preggo.

Just get the morning after pill

"lay off the willy" hahahahahaha am fuckin howling.

im taking handling himself a few times as he didn’t ejaculate at that point? If so I’d say it’s practically impossible to be pregnant as most precum doesn’t contain sperm anyway. So to then transfer that inside you sounds very unlikely

Can you take emergency contraception (morning after pill)?

Just don't go fingering yourself with a Birdseye fishfinger in the mean time they are also full of seamen I believe.

I’d say incredibly unlikely 💐 for you and your anxiety over this

Had he actually ejaculated onto his hands just before?

as if not, surely the the chance must be utterly minuscule?

It’s too late for morning after. When he first handled himself he had not ejaculated. He ejaculated on his stomach and probably held it just to aim correctly. It’s not like his fingers were covered. Then he finished by fingering me.

and my marriage is failing heading to a divorce.

Then wtf were you taking any kind of risk with the Willy?

😂😂😂

Def will be :(

Take the morning after pill, invest in condoms.

‘Lay off the willy’ absolute cracker!!! Dying!

Trying to salvage , reconcile first time in months :**( Not yet formally separated

Too late I’ve already ovulated

I just responded to this below. No direct ejaculation on hands but he did ejaculate onto his stomach then continue to finger me. Anything on his fingers would have been a minimal amount

Just all TMI.

I think it’s highly unlikely. Not completely impossible but very very unlikely.

Agreed get the morning after pill if it will make you feel better but very very unlikely to be pregnant

When did this happen? I can’t see why it’s too late for the morning after pill

Laying off the willy is excellent advice, but to reassure you I think it is almost impossible that you are pregnant from this interaction.

Has to be within 5 days and I already ovulated. Plan B stops ovulation. I track my ovulation so I know I ovulated which is why we didn’t have intercourse

There's no way you'll get pregnant from him fingering you after he touched his dick a couple of times.
Even if you were 17.
At 39, not a chance.
Relax.