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To anyone struggling right now...

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Notgettingbetter · 21/12/2021 18:02

... I'm sending you a hug (or some other equivalent if a hug is not wanted). You can get through this ❤️

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Fizzbo · 22/12/2021 12:01

💐💐💐💐💐

ohsheglows · 22/12/2021 12:03

Thank you so much. Battling infertility and having pregnancy announcements left right and centre has nearly tipped me over the edge.

GregTheEgg · 22/12/2021 15:23

Oh @Notgettingbetter how awful. I'm so sorry. Flowers I don't know how you even begin to deal with something so tragic.

That must be so hard for you @ohsheglows - make sure you take some time out from all the family gatherings etc to look after yourself.

MissNothing1991 · 22/12/2021 15:28

Thank you, I really needed to read this today. Sending love in return

Stormbraver99 · 22/12/2021 19:01

I'm finding it really tough at the moment. My eldest son (22) is ill and having ongoing tests.
He has a severe learning disability and has the mind of a baby. He's never spoken a word in his life.
He lives in adult supported living and has one-to-one support.
The Home have put COVID restrictions on visitors again, so we can't see him over Christmas.
I'm a single parent and have 3 younger children. My youngest has a different disability.
I go through phases of tearfulness and then panic attacks.

LadyLazarus40 · 22/12/2021 19:06

Thank you x

I want to read everyone’s posts properly and reply but I’m finding it too hard at the moment. I know every day is just putting one foot in front of the other but it’s so hard at the moment so very hard - I feel all joy and hope is gone and I keep building everything up to get knocked down. The last two years have taken all the fun and Hope out of my life and I’m so depressed by the future my children have in front of them. I just want things to be better - I need hope x

OhLookMoreShit · 22/12/2021 19:10

Have been struggling enormously for almost 2 years but even more so in the last few months and it's now affecting my physical health. I really, really want to improve in 2022. I really want to be okay again x

thesootherfairy · 22/12/2021 20:02

@Notgettingbetter
Thank you so much. I can't tell you how much I needed that. ❤️

Newdreams · 22/12/2021 20:15

Thank you really needed this today been such a dreadful past 7 days with complications in my pregnancy. Anxiety has hit new levels atm so thank you for starting this thread. Hugs to all those that need them too.

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Notgettingbetter · 22/12/2021 20:18

@GregTheEgg thank you. It's a very strange and difficult kind of grief. Lonely too because I only know one other person who knew her.

@Stormbraver99 that sounds incredibly tough. I'm so sorry.

I really hope next year is much better for everyone! ❤️

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Fetchthevet · 22/12/2021 21:46

Sending love to everyone on this thread x

ninnynonny · 22/12/2021 22:06

Currently going through some really painful therapy about my mother and my childhood. She did some terrible things that I hadn't realised were terrible until she died a couple of years back and talking them through is really painful. I know I have to in order to heal but this week has been really tricky.
Thanks for all the thoughts and back to everyone who needs them too.

MissNothing1991 · 23/12/2021 07:57

@Stormbraver99

I'm finding it really tough at the moment. My eldest son (22) is ill and having ongoing tests. He has a severe learning disability and has the mind of a baby. He's never spoken a word in his life. He lives in adult supported living and has one-to-one support. The Home have put COVID restrictions on visitors again, so we can't see him over Christmas. I'm a single parent and have 3 younger children. My youngest has a different disability. I go through phases of tearfulness and then panic attacks.
Very sorry to read this. Wishing your son the best and hope you and your family can still have an enjoyable Christmas x
seventyminutes · 23/12/2021 11:27

Im struggling too. Sending positive and calm every out to everyone here Biscuit

catscatscurrantscurrants · 23/12/2021 15:21

Thank you for starting this thread. I'll be alone for a second Christmas. Agoraphobia, depression and anxiety. My family have lost patience with it and don't understand, they think I am just being awkward. Feeling very sad today. Flowers and Cake for us all.

GregTheEgg · 23/12/2021 17:41

Oh bless you cats. I’ll have my DCs with me so not alone, but just split with my DP of 9 years so currently heartbroken and knee deep in work to finish tomorrow (which has thankfully given me something to focus on). I just bought a Xmas meal for 2 from Morrisons as my kids don’t like roasts, so I’ll have that for a couple of days running. Was initially a bit sad in the supermarket walking round with my little hand basket but then I actually felt a bit relieved that I didn’t have to worry about anyone else, just me and my DCs.

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Notgettingbetter · 23/12/2021 18:25

More hugs all round ❤️

Just thinking about the fact that my DD doesn't go back to school until the 6th... Or will the schools not even reopen? I don't think I will cope.

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catscatscurrantscurrants · 23/12/2021 20:11

Thank you Greg. I hope you and your DC have a lovely Christmas, happiness will come round again and your broken heart will mend.

madmomma · 23/12/2021 20:17

Big, warm hugs for all broken worn down tired out hearts on this thread tonight. Tough, tough times but there is always hope. The world turns on a sixpence, and better days are ahead💕

StationaryMagpie · 23/12/2021 20:52

i'm really struggling with my anxiety last few days.

i don't remember feeling like this since i had PND.. i mean, i know i have briefly, but its been 3 or 4 days, and i can't make it stop.

i'm waiting for intensive CBT as i've been having issues for month, but had a covid scare last couple of weeks, and despite a negative pcr, 8 negative lft, i keep having some severe anxiety about me having it... i've got a cold, so every sniff, momentary sore throat, asthma flare, my brain is screaming at me that i'm going to get sick, get everyone else sick, and i want to just hide myself away from everyone for a month to make 100% sure i'm not sick with it.

I've NEVER had to deal with being anxious about health like this, i don't know how to handle it, i'm doing everything my previous CBT has taught me, but the feeling of gnawing dread won't go.

goldenochre · 23/12/2021 20:54

Hugs to all of you struggling xxx you are all loved

I have been struggling for about a month now. I just wish I could turn back time but I feel so helpless and broken. I am blessed to have my little family with me although I feel alone. I try to hide what I feel because I feel people might get impatient or cross so here I am.

Bu2014 · 23/12/2021 20:56

Thank you so much. Struggling so much and noone to talk to.

Bu2014 · 23/12/2021 20:58

Oh my, I am so sorry X

ladyvimes · 23/12/2021 21:00

Thank you for starting this thread. I’ve found today really difficult - not felt like this on a very long time. It made me remember what a difficult time of year this can be for many. Much love to everyone finding things overwhelming. It will get better again.

Feelingoood · 24/12/2021 09:36

Ditto, thank you! Sorry to hear so many people having a crap time. I came on here because of all the threads where people are ice skating, going away, having fun. It’s just us 4, the house is freezing, Dp depressed, kids bored, I’m so worried about money. House a tip because I’m just overwhelmed and anxious. I’ve made crap choices none of which were immediately crap but seem to have added up till im here. I SHOULD be happy, I’m healthy after a serious illness, but just don’t seem to be able to get it together to be fun and arrange stuff for everyone. I find it exhausting.
Sympathies to all, hugs to the other poster who finds it all overwhelming.x