I've name changed for this but wanted to add my experience if it helps. I was also in the same situation as you ladies and terminated 2 weeks ago. I am 40 years old and have two year old twins conceived through IVF. Having spent years trying to conceive in my thirties, I really didn't think I was fertile. I had one off 'sod it' unprotected sex with my partner and found myself pregnant. I was absolutely devastated and surprised at how strongly I felt about not wanting to be pregnant after all those years of praying for a BFP.
My twins are two and they were a struggle to conceive, I was on crutches with SPD throughout the pregnancy as well as suffering hideous morning sickness. I found it tough being a mother of twin babies but the fact I really really wanted them got me through. I felt that I was beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel and was getting my life back again, getting on better with my partner again, getting fit and just feeling like myself. Then this happened.
My initial reaction was just gutted and then torn for about 2 days about what to do. The best I could feel about having another baby was resigned. When I saw myself with another baby I pictured myself as an empty, tired, old husk of a woman and a shit diluted mother. I also feel very strongly due to my past that babies should be wanted. They shouldn't be something you produce unwillingly out of obligation to society/guilt. That's not fair on anyone.
So I decided to terminate and felt sure of my decision throughout the two week wait for the op. The two weeks I had to wait were hideous. Really really dark. I think I was actually depressed. Not about having to lose a potential child but about being in that situation and being pregnant when I really didn't want to be. I knew that terminating wouldn't be a walk in the park but I had two difficult choices and I decided that I would rather feel sad about a termination than feel depressed about continuing the pregnancy.
The surgery was very straightforward and my initial feeling was relief. Then up and down. The hormones made me very weepy and I am still feeling pretty weepy at times but I think that's just part of the process and I'm just going with it and trying to ride the wave. I feel a lot better emotionally than I did when I was pregnant.
I haven't regretted it though. I would say however that you need to be pretty sure of how you will respond. I knew in my gut that I would feel like this about it. Sad but not regretful. I didn't have any doubts before that it was the right thing to do and i don't now. I can imagine that if I had, then I'd be feeling differently. Lots of luck to you all on here. It's really hard but trust what your gut tells you and be kind to yourselves. You will all be ok whatever you decide. Feel free to PM me if you want to know anything.