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Family planning

Abortion, im so scared

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wonderingwendy · 01/11/2013 18:04

I just found out last weekend that im pregnant and I can't/don't want this baby .I am 34 and have 3 kids already ages 15, 12&7.
im having such bad anxiety about what is to come.i have seen gp and got the ball rolling and have an appointment for a dating scan and chat with a doctor/counsellor? this Thursday , im so scared of the scan what if I see the baby and change my mind ? even though every fibre in my body doesn't want to keep it.
what procedures will they offer me ? I must be put to sleep I will have a panic attack otherwise.
I also want to be sterilised at the same time, will that be possible ?
if any of you have experienced abortion please could you advise me of what is to come.
I think im about 7 weeks

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Candlebee · 08/02/2021 19:16

Mine was a medical TOP, 6 weeks 6 days pregnant. Was a shock to find out I was nearly 7 weeks as I'd had my 'period' in between and took morning pill-Ella One- on time (BIG FAIL!!!! It was during ovulation, I've learnt my lesson and I'm so sorry embryo, my fault) .

I was so scared and as much as I tried not to read people's experiences online that's all I could do and think until D Day.
Called Bpas but I'd have to wait until 9 weeks for an ultrasound (I've got fibroids, bladder issues and abdominal pain usually so they couldn't just send pills over post). I could not wait until 9 weeks, no way. So, decided to go private in London, The Gynae Centre, same day appointment, ultrasound and the pills. Not cheap but I needed to do it ASAP otherwise I wouldn't cope mentally and physically with my bladder problems.

Had the consultation, not great, don't recommend as I learnt more from reading online than the info they gave me at the consultation. Very basic, not even asked me allergies etc anyways, just wanted the ultrasound and the pills (genuine) ...

To the procedure: had the 1st pill , felt a bit nauseous and started light bleeding a few hours later with mild abdominal cramps. Next morning my heart was racing and I called the clinic as well as 111. It was all nerves and they reassured me.
27 hrs later I inserted 4 x misoprostol and took 1x 500/30 cocodamol. 20 mins into it started feeling pulling and squeezing in my uterus but no pain. 3 1/2 hours had moderate abdominal cramps and moderate bleeding, just felt like the start of a crampy period when you feel the need to grab an ibuprofen but not too bad, could still joke a bit in between.
Took another 1x cocodamol and went to the loo to change my sanitary towel. As I sat down on the loo a shapeless small lime sized clot passed, not painful at all just a weird feeling of something coming down. Seconds later something else slipped down as well, a bean shaped thing, not painful at all. I knew then I'd passed as it just looks different than a clot and it's off whitefish and I was soooo pleased at how easy and manageable was in terms of pain. Every 2 hrs I went to the toilet to change my sanitary towel not because it was flooded but I wanted to keep an eye on bleeding and keep it as clean as possible. Moderate bleeding for 2 days, light bleeding for 1. 1 /2 week, and now 2 weeks ish later brown spotting. Had TV US today as follow up at the clinic, no pregnancy, all tissues gone, just a bit of fluid but that should subside over time. Pregnancy test negative.

I feel so blessed it was not bad at all!!! I had this image in my mind of lemon sized clots, excessive bleeding, excruciating pain and a visit to A&E. None of that, it was all straightforward, thank God.
My advice: take each minute as it comes, it might not be bad at all. Take your painkillers as instructed but eat properly that day just in case you won't manage to eat later. Keep well hydrated at all times, I drank plenty of coconut water. The more I bled the more I drank. Had iron supplements for the first 2 weeks.
Get night time sanitary towels, hot water bottle (I didn't need it much).
Bpas and Marie Stopes websites have A LOT of useful info such as when to worry, and even pics and videos of what level of bleeding in a sanitary towel should look like, great support through just reading it.
Have someone with you.
Lastly, don't feel alone. We, who have been through it, we know how you feel... and we are with you in soul ❤️ I can only thank to all the entries here who had great advice, and also prepared me for the worst should it happen. I felt prepared for battle! Ready to deal with whatever was to come. Be brave... And try your best not to put yourself through this again. I never say never BUT... Hey, never again. NOT WORTH IT!!!!!!!