#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 7

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2863056--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-Thread-6

Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

@caution my clinic told me to measure my second pee of the day which should be between 10-11am on OPKs. Apparently LH is synthesised in the morning.
I don't actually know any of this. Just what my clinic advises.

So excited for u karen so many exciting (scary/nervous) steps coming up. Just keeping everything crossed for u x

Pez - I'm holding my urine for at least 4hrs and not going overboard with fluids, so I'm pretty sure it's concentrated! It's good to know that the OPK's don't work for some women - hopefully it's that, and not actually the fact I'm not surging ...

Pickle - I start on CD10; I get virtually no lines until CD13 (so could probably start a bit later anyways but like to be covered) and that's when my period app tells me my fertile days begin 😂 Good point about the bloodwork... I've got to go to the Drs for a medication review at some point this month so I'll ask him whilst I'm there. What day is it best to get it done on? I'm sure he'll tell me all this anyway!

Karen - I'm going to start temping on my next cycle. I bought the thermometer but it didn't come until a few days ago, it came well over the expected delivery time so I couldn't start! Waiting for the surge is beginning to stress me out too. I know a surge doesn't necessarily mean you're ovulating but it means you're more likely to be than if you're not getting a surge at all!! So frustrating

Munro - I did one around 11am this morning (which was my second pee) and got virtually nothing. I'm getting more this evening... It's all so confusing, trying to second guess what's going on inside our bodies!!

Karen, good luck for Tuesday!! You'll be fine how many weeks are you now??

Caution, the blood test checks for the surge in oestrogen prior to ovulation so they would do it once you get some darker lines. They can tell if you're surging based on your levels and also follicle size. Will you get several scan leading up to IUI?

If you wanted some peace of mind hat you have ovulated, the only way to check is to have a vaginal scan so they can see the corpus luteum.

Hi caution. I'm 10weeks 3 days. Ish. Have my nt scan booked now too. So a scan next Tuesday and then one the Tuesday after that. This is the first week i haven't had a scan. I'm tempted to use our machine at the clinic but I don't think the probe is good enough and don't want to freak myself out. Lol.

This is good you get so many scans karen. Here on the good old NHS we only get the nuchal and then an anomaly scan.
By the way I have to applaud you for working as a vet during early pregnancy. I am office based and found today so hard...

Yeh worth discussing with ur fc so they can do more investigation before any treatment if ur worried. I used to get my surge anywhere from 11-2 and upto about 8pm but never ever before 11 and only 11 if a work day and I'd not peed since I left for work at 7 ish. After lunch pee was usually the most reliable
I used to love testing for LH surge until it messed me around on the last cycle, to begin with I missed not checked, these last 27days have been rather lovely actually not worrying about whether my body is working right or dates gonna mess up. Only had to hope no breakthrough bleeding when merged packs but 6days in and keeping fingers crossed. Then I'm handing my body over to science. It's weird to think that in 7weeks and 1 day I'll know if I got a bfn or bfp after all this time of planning

I would start temping tomorrow morning caution it doesn't matter if u have or haven't ovulated you will still see a pattern emerge.

Can't wait for tomorrow when money comes out for meds cos that means hopefully next week I'll get the call from hospital @home meds or who ever they are called to sort out delivery date. So excited 😊 (not so much on the actual parting with the money part)

Karen I am equally very tempted about getting some adapter for our dopplers so I could listen (I may google how much the different probe would be)
10weeks 2 days eeek- 1/4 of way there 😊

smiling at the idea of you scanning yourselves in secret in between patients!

The Doppler I use wouldn't detect the baby doh! But seems u can buy foetal dopplers for about £35 -I'll think about that when it's relevant

Pez I'm assuming I will - I haven't had any kind of initial consult yet - I'm hopefully having that this month or next... When I rang the clinic to see what their waiting times are, they said a couple of weeks, so I'm aiming to have my consult etc in May time.
See, I would get a scan but my clinic is 2.5/3 hours away - not as easy to access 😩 I don't make it easy for myself 😂

Pickle, thanks lovely! Last month I got my darkest line (not a positive but closest I'd got) on CD17 and then barely a line for two days afterwards, so I knew it wasn't coming back... It meant my luteal phase was only 9 days, and I've heard that having a short luteal phase can be deterimental!
Okay I'll start temping tomorrow. I didn't think there'd be any point so didn't bother
Ooh 7 weeks 1 day isn't long at all!! How exciting it'll fly by! And exciting about your med money coming out too! When do you have to start taking your meds?

Karen good luck for both scans lovely, you'll be fine!! 10 weeks 3 days already? That's gone so quick... I'd be tempted too, especially as they're at your disposal!!

Psst. Foetal dopplers - pick up a 2nd hand one for a fiver like I did x

Ooh taydex will def look for 2nd hand one whoop thanks

Caution start taking meds evening of 2nd may so about 19days and so many hours

caution if you have a short luteal phase then you can go on progesterone. That will manage that issue. Nothing to worry about but definitly something to recognize and be proactive about.

You are such lovely, lovely people. I was feeling really low when I wrote that and it all spilled out a bit - that was actually the tamed down version. It makes such a difference having a place to vent and people who understand.

The 10th of May was the first appointment my dr had available! I think I am ok waiting and will use the time to put things out of my mind. My mum arrived yesterday and she is helping me to clear my head. I'm going to put all the test strips and paperwork in the fertility drawer and concentrate on pulling myself together so I am strong for the next go.

Well AF arrived today. Bang on schedule. So I guess I don't need to test this month after all.
I'm surprisingly okay. I had been feeling this wasn't our cycle for about a week so I think I've just come to terms with it a bit. I'm kinda number about it right now.
Might change tomorrow.

Sorry to hear that munro, this whole thing is a tough process

Sorry to hear that Munro, hope you're doing OK x

Re LH testing, I'm majorly annoyed at myself cus I forked out last month for a box of the expensive smiley face digital ones, used ONE TEST only and then couldn't find the bloody reader thing anywhere. I think I threw it away by accident! So now I've got almost a full box of tests I can't use anymore without paying loads more ££. Long shot but don't suppose anyone has a spare clear blue reader they don't use?! If not will try eBay!

Munro, I'm sorry it didn't work this time. Are you trying again this month? Lots of hugs to you.

Snork, I still have one pink and one purple digital reader and a few spare tests. Which one do you need? I can bring them on the 23rd or meet you somewhere before that if you want? I'm in south London

@pez yes we will try again this month. Unless ovulation falls on a Sunday ( as the clinic is closed then) and we have to wait till next month.
I still don't really know how I feel. I'm busy being back at work so not really processed it yet.
@late hope you're feeling a bit brighter today

Late - I'm a bit late responding to your post, but I have to say that until I started down this path I had never experienced any really feelings of loneliness; I've always quite enjoyed my own company and have always been independent and very content getting on with life on my own. I didn't find the IUI process too lonely, in fact I generally felt very positive about this big thing I was doing on my own, but pregnancy has been very lonely on occasion. I think we all have our wobbles at different moments, but we all are fairly strong individuals and that's why we've got to the point of doing this at all. Being strong doesn't mean that we're immune to moments of doubt, negativity, feeling like it's all too much etc. If we were immune to it, we wouldn't be human!

Munro - sorry that this cycle didn't work for you. Fingers crossed the timing works out for your next attempt.

Karen - 10 weeks already! (Though I'm sure it feels to you as though time is going slowly). I always find the days leading up to a scan a bit wearing, but I hope you've got a nice weekend lined up to distract you.

I hope I haven't missed any news on the thread. I'm a bit behind!

I saw my consultant this morning. Baby is still breech (I didn't need a scan to tell me that; it's blooming obvious!) and despite me having decided that I didn't want an ECV (manually encouraging the baby to turn by pushing on your tummy) the consultant persuaded me that it's safe so I'm booked in for that on the 25th. I'm willing baby to turn of its own accord in the meantime!

😡the money for the meds doesn't seem to have been withdrawn. Usually my account shows almost immediately that money has come out and although the balance doesn't update it'll say available Amount & that'll show that the money's gone out and it's not showing anything. I will properly flip my lid of they fcuk up when my meds are delivered-sometimes 4 days weekends aren't a good thing-altho I think they are open for a few hours so I may try then

Sorry to hear that Munro 😔

Snork I have a clearblue reader, can bring to meet up or post.... if it's the pink one

Ooh just read next post that pez also offered, just trying to work through everything I've missed.

My sister had the ECV (not that it worked) but they keep a monitor on the whole time so can hear if it's distressing littleshoes

Man I'm sooooo pleased it's the weekend, I've got a couple of things to do but other than that I think I may stay in my pjs and hibernate

Kwick have a fab break away

@Snorkmaiden85 I have a purple handled one - do you want me to pop it in the post? I can't remember where you are but I'm West London...

Pickle I am so with you on the hibernation thing... I may already be in front of the tv with prosecco... I was feeling sad I have no one around this weekend but maybe its a good thing!