Am I going to die :(

[Iwannabelikeyouohh]

My husband has just had a positive LFT.

I’m absolutely petrified. I’m extremely obese with a BMI of 40.

I am fully vaccinated but I have had two different vaccines. 1 AZ and 1 Pfizer.

I feel physically sick with worry. 😓

[quote Iwannabelikeyouohh]@makelovenotpetrol

I’m not trying to argue with anyone.
PP said I had spent two weeks with DH and DS and not caught Covid so that should reassure me..?!

Why should that reassure me about being in a busy restaurant or bar?

Just because I didn’t catch from my family, doesn’t mean I’m not going to catch it elsewhere!

That’s nothing to do with anxiety, that’s just a matter of fact.

I know people who haven’t caught via household transmission but have them gone on to catch elsewhere.

It would be naive of me to think that since I escaped it this one time, I will escape it every time!![/quote]
"I'm not trying to argue with anyone"

Continues to argue with everything I said.

Step away from MN. It is NOT helping you.

@makelovenotpetrol

If I can’t reply to posts without being accused of being argumentative, then what’s the point of the forum? Do I just agree with everything? Is that how it works?

Sorry, that’s it for me. I told you the truth. I had it at the VERY beginning of March 2020 and I was already isolating for something else, only went to my doctor. Yet I got it. Why would you refuse to believe you’ve had it? Your DH went to an office full of colleagues every day. Hell, you might have gotten it from some incredibly small incidental contact you don’t even remember.

I just… why is this impossible to believe? You just spent two weeks in a house with people with an extremely contagious illness and didn’t get sick so:

• you’ve had it, or
• your vaccine works, or
• both

Yet you’re not reassured at all. None of these threads are going to convince you that your anxiety over COVID isn’t normal if you think it is. And honestly, just get a serology test. Honestly, what do you have to lose? What reason could you POSSIBLY have for not wanting to know?

[quote Iwannabelikeyouohh]@makelovenotpetrol

If I can’t reply to posts without being accused of being argumentative, then what’s the point of the forum? Do I just agree with everything? Is that how it works?[/quote]
You reply refuting EVERYTHING
And at this point as I think you can see people are more and more getting frustrated with you.

OP I have anxiety but I also have self awareness - you're completely lacking that.

If you care about your child sort this out.

*I’m not trying to argue with anyone.
PP said I had spent two weeks with DH and DS and not caught Covid so that should reassure me..?!

Why should that reassure me about being in a busy restaurant or bar?*

Because despite being in very close contact in the house you are ok. So chances of getting a bar or restaurant where you're much more spaced out are less likely.

@hopeishere

*I’m not trying to argue with anyone. PP said I had spent two weeks with DH and DS and not caught Covid so that should reassure me..?!

Why should that reassure me about being in a busy restaurant or bar?*

Because despite being in very close contact in the house you are ok. So chances of getting a bar or restaurant where you're much more spaced out are less likely.

100 people could come and say the same thing as this and OP would simply not believe them, and counter that they absolutely can and will still get it, and because they have a BMI that means they definitely will die, despite the stats actually saying otherwise.

There is no point trying to give any real factual evidence to OP.

I really cannot believe that anybody as anxious as this would have gone into a busy bar and restaurant.

I know I wouldn't.

@CarlaH

I really cannot believe that anybody as anxious as this would have gone into a busy bar and restaurant.

I know I wouldn't.

My reaction was similar but good on op for testing her boundaries. Maybe go at a quieter time or just one place at a time.

600+ posts in. At this point it's just feeding the obsession I think.

@CarlaH

I really cannot believe that anybody as anxious as this would have gone into a busy bar and restaurant.

I know I wouldn't.

Quite.

I certainly won't be doing anything like that for quite some time.

She is seriously mentally unwell. She needs real life help that we cannot give. So let's stop replying and just let this and all her threads bloody die.

Yes I'm aware of my irony in writing this one.

I really cannot believe that anybody as anxious as this would have gone into a busy bar and restaurant.

My therapist each week sets me challenges.
I started small months ago with my previous therapist.
Going to a local park, going to a play ground, going to my parents house, going to a local
shop, going to the supermarket, going to work etc.

If I don’t try these things then how will I ever get past the fear.

Everyone saying they wouldn’t do it, do you also accept that you have anxiety issues too then?!

She is seriously mentally unwell

Are you a Dr? A therapist? Psychologist / Psychiatrist…?!

I’ve seen all of the above. Not one of them has diagnosed me as being “seriously mentally unwell”..

My diagnosis is.

Post Natal Depression
OCD & Anxiety Disorder

You must be some super Dr if you can diagnose me over mumsnet without having actually met me in person.

No, I have a husband in his 40s with bad asthma, my own health condition and am not far from having a baby. My actions are completely rational and recommended at this point in time.

@Iwannabelikeyouohh op ignore the super duper mentally strong posters who

Are diagnosing you over an internet chat board
Are telling you that you are silly etc

I suffer from Covid anxiety..in fact I have a thread right now on this as I’ve got myself all panicked…but this is not about my post

We are adults so are expected to take everything life throws at you..at the same time we are humans so we have our challenges.

What you are going through is normal for some of us after 18 months of carefully planned psychological great mongering…just as it was perfectly normal for some to ignore all rules in the past 18 months…

Don’t give any importance to posters who want to you to act in a way they prescribe…

Do what is right for you and your mental health…

I gather you are sorting help from qualified professionals- which is great

Unfortunately about the fear re: catching Covid it’s taking each day and hoping you don’t test positive…it’s torturous but there is very little we can do…

Take care

@JesusIsAnyNameFree

Ah okay. So my actions for going to the restaurant and bar…. Are they rational? Or is it my anxiety for worrying about being there that’s irrational…?

Which is it.

Try to talk to a real life person…this will help instead of a thread in social media…

[quote Iwannabelikeyouohh]@JesusIsAnyNameFree

Ah okay. So my actions for going to the restaurant and bar…. Are they rational? Or is it my anxiety for worrying about being there that’s irrational…?

Which is it.[/quote]
It was rational to go there, in your position, seeing as your risk is currently very, very low.

However, your mental health is obviously not in a good enough place right now for you to be doing it and you need to tell your therapist that. This hasn't helped you, seeing as you're now really worried. You need to do smaller things. Maybe a 10 minute sit down in Costa, instead of a couple of hours in a restaurant/bar.

If I was you Op then no I wouldn’t have gone to a busy bar - a less busy bar might have been good though. I think you need to get off this board and back into real life. None of this is helping you. I can be anxious and this is not good for you. Over and out.

@JesusIsAnyNameFree

It was rational to go there, in your position, seeing as your risk is currently very, very low.

This is the part that I cannot get on board with.

I may not be the highest risk category.
But to say I’m very very low risk is just a lie and quite honestly it’s patronising.

@CiderWithLizzie

If I was you Op then no I wouldn’t have gone to a busy bar

Why? Out of interest? Because you’re telling me to get off this board and into the real life, but is a bar / restaurant not real life?

OP what do you think your chance of dying from covid is if you catch it? Genuinely, what do you think it is?

everything in life carries a risk

It's not patronising to point out facts - relative risk is very low. It just is.

Do you want your child to grow up and suffer anxiety like you do? stop and think about how horrendous it makes you feel - is that what you want for your child?

[quote Iwannabelikeyouohh]@JesusIsAnyNameFree

It was rational to go there, in your position, seeing as your risk is currently very, very low.

This is the part that I cannot get on board with.

I may not be the highest risk category.
But to say I’m very very low risk is just a lie and quite honestly it’s patronising.[/quote]
I showed you your maximum risk a week or so ago. It is indeed very, very low.

[quote Iwannabelikeyouohh]@JesusIsAnyNameFree

It was rational to go there, in your position, seeing as your risk is currently very, very low.

This is the part that I cannot get on board with.

I may not be the highest risk category.
But to say I’m very very low risk is just a lie and quite honestly it’s patronising.[/quote]
It's not patronizing
It's the actual, factual, real life truth.

And in refuting that you're just further proving mine and others points.

Good luck OP because this really isn't helping you.

So, as I said...

...people trying to reassure the OP are not actually helping the OP as it is just feeding the anxiety and making it worse!