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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

286 replies

Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

OP posts:
Abraxan · 25/07/2021 10:04

@thenewduchessofhastings

Myself&DH are both double jabbed yet both still got covid recently.

Being vaccinated doesn't prevent you catching it.Also the delta variant is highly transmissible.

Whilst some people do still catch covid the chances of catching it ARE reduced and, if you catch it, the likelihood of you transmitting it to others ARE reduced (but about 50%)

You are also far likely to be much less ill with it if you are unlucky enough to catch it.

Fwiw when I caught covid neither dh nor Dd caught it from me. We didn't isolate from one another in the house. Dh slept in the same bed as me throughout.

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mightbealittlebitmad · 25/07/2021 10:06

He hasn't done anything wrong, I don't blame him one bit for letting his hair down. I'm planning on a proper night out in a city somewhere in the next coming months and if things are the same as now I won't be wearing a mask or staying away from my friend. We want to live and enjoy ourselves and if it's allowed we are damn well getting glammed up and going to sample all the cocktail bars we can find.

catfunk · 25/07/2021 10:08

Jeez talk about thinking the worst....

So you're both double jabbed, what are you going to do, keep him locked up forever ? What was the point in getting the vaccine if he's not allowed out?

I agree it's a lot to get used to again but honestly op that's why we've all had vaccines so we can do these things again without risk of hospitalisation.

Abraxan · 25/07/2021 10:09

@ssd

Dh got covid from his one night out last year. We haven't been to a pub since.
I got covid from being in a classroom full of children. I went to school again as soon as I was well enough - 7 weeks later in my case (I'm CV, immune-compromised and had a complication with covid)

If he'd caught it in a supermarket, would you stop going to them?
If he'd caught it in an office, would you stop going to the office?
If he'd caught it in a bus, would you stop using the bus?

Your dh caught covid. It's just one of those things in a pandemic. There is a transmissible virus going around and chances are a few of us will catch it. We can't just lock down forever and avoid everywhere where covid might be.

Imagine if everyone did that. All those employers and e,players working in these venues will be out of a jib, businesses will go bankrupt, the economy will fail. We can't avoid like forever and covid is not going to be eradicated ever.

catfunk · 25/07/2021 10:10

@thenewduchessofhastings

Myself&DH are both double jabbed yet both still got covid recently.

Being vaccinated doesn't prevent you catching it.Also the delta variant is highly transmissible.

It doesn't completely stop transmission but it drastically reduces serious illness as a result.
By your logic we should still be in lockdown forever then?

dreamadream3 · 25/07/2021 10:14

"I'm obese (BMI 36)"

That's exactly what you said OP, I think YABU. You mentioned your weight then call everyone the fat police when they mention it.

My DH went to a beer festival last night and I was happy for him, we are both fully vaccinated and I'm glad life is going back to some kind of "normal".

BeeDavis · 25/07/2021 10:15

I think you’re being pathetic.

Dreamstate · 25/07/2021 10:16

Seriously its been 18 months since the pandemic started whats the excuse? If your that worried about getting xovid and you say its cos your more vulnerable due to your weight it would be the massive kick up the arse to lose weight right...cos your that concerned about getting it.

Clearly not then!

fluffi · 25/07/2021 10:33

YANBU @Dandy008

People seem to be forgetting that going to work, school/nursery and supermarkets are mostly essential activities that it’s worth taking risk. Going into crowded venues that don’t have SD anymore is an additional risk especially as infection rates are high at the moment.

OPs weight is also irrelevant, regardless of health covid can be unpleasant and worse than a bad cold/flu. I’m surprised at so many nasty comments around this. The jabs aren’t a guarantee they won’t catch covid. Healthy double jabbed

HalzTangz · 25/07/2021 10:34

You do know this virus is here for life?
People can't not socialise forever and a day.

Your are both vaccinated.

If you think you are venerable because of your BMI, then improve that.

HalzTangz · 25/07/2021 10:38

Unrealistic expectations tbf.

How do you propose he stays 2m away from strangers in busy bars.

Why would you wear. Mask when your trying to drink, even pubs during restrictions you didn't have to sit and wear a mask for the night

rantymcrantface66 · 25/07/2021 10:39

Tbf @fluffi it was OP that brought up her weight as an added risk.

H probably intended to be careful as you say but once there realised it was impossible/futile to do so while still joining in with the evening, which is what most posters are trying to explain.

The risk is all around so it's pointless just monotony yourself to essentials like shopping and going to work, how long can a nation keep that up?

Personally I'd probably not go as I don't want to risk my precious summer holidays being spent in isolation but you can only control your own actions not anyone else's.

HalzTangz · 25/07/2021 10:43

But he hasn't behaved like a twat though. He's gone out which he's perfectly entitled to do. The government have dropped all restriction so the husband isn't breaking rules, he's just getting on with life, which frankly his wife needs to also do.
People need to stop living in fear

BoomChicka · 25/07/2021 10:45

I don't think expecting someone to wear a mask in a club full of people without masks was ever realistic. Did you really expect him to stand there taking the mask on and off between sips of his drink Confused

HalzTangz · 25/07/2021 10:47

[quote Dandy008]@RoseRedRoseBlue

Oh FFS! Get a hold of yourself.

MN if full of increasingly careless people tonight.
People who need to have a reality check and understand that we’re still very much in a pandemic and not everyone is ready / comfortable to forget that.[/quote]
I have a question for you OP, how do you cope in a supermarket when doing your shopping. There's always people in stores with no masks, even more that don't sanitize on entry, all picking up and putting down goods, most don't social distance (really not that much different to a pub setting).
Did you worry about bringing covid home then? Was your husband angry and writing posts online for that risk that you took (and it is a risk, studies showed that retail workers were the ones in the highest risk of catching covid)

Remmy123 · 25/07/2021 10:48

You couid build a bunker and stay in there for 10 days OP? Let your husband get on with his life.

HalzTangz · 25/07/2021 10:50

But those 8 children have siblings, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles etc that they come in to contact with, off which not all will be following any of the restrictions. Then the staff, who have partners, kids and family too.
By the time you add up how many people 1 person can come into contact, and then look at the behaviour all those people practise.

Then yes, the risk of covid is just as real as being in a pub

Nicknacky · 25/07/2021 10:55

@NannyAndJohn You suggest isolation and LFT any time people post about a family member going out.

Hand on heart, do you honestly think that is a way to live? I would never see my kids if we lived like you expect people to, and my husband would be the same.

TheUnlucky1 · 25/07/2021 11:21

There may or may not be more risk from nursery. I’m not sure toddlers pass it on all that much. I don’t know. Every variant is different. Getting Covid from delivered shopping just isn’t going to happen.
The point is the OP isn’t living in fear. She goes to work and doesn’t worry. She just wants her husband to behave responsibly and keep his word. Going to a packed bar in Newcastle, which has very high rates of Covid, is a risk in addition to other daily activities so people who question her risk analysis are being a bit obtuse. It isn’t either or, and it’s high-risk behaviour.
YANBU OP and some of the get out there and party contingent sound like narrow-minded control freaks. You only want some control over your living space, they seem to want to control complete strangers’ behaviour and weight.
YANBU

NotMyCat · 25/07/2021 11:25

@HalzTangz not the OP but I'm CEV. If I go to a supermarket I wear FFP2/3 mask to protect myself, sanitise my hands and make sure to distance from people and go at quiet times. I also have a badge asking people to distance

Imnothereforthedrama · 25/07/2021 11:25

The op is unreasonable because she expects others not to go out because she has fear . She doesn’t have to go out if she doesn’t want to go but tell others not to and dress it up as risky and that’s she’s vulnerable just because she’s overweight it’s unreasonable and quite frankly controlling in my opinion.

rantymcrantface66 · 25/07/2021 11:28

[quote NotMyCat]@HalzTangz not the OP but I'm CEV. If I go to a supermarket I wear FFP2/3 mask to protect myself, sanitise my hands and make sure to distance from people and go at quiet times. I also have a badge asking people to distance [/quote]
That's fine for you to do that but you can only control what you do too. The OP is not CEV.

TheUnlucky1 · 25/07/2021 11:29

OP has made it clear she’s not vulnerable. She’s not dressing it up as risky. It is risky @Imnothereforthedrama

WouldBeGood · 25/07/2021 11:31

Also, we are continually told that wearing a mask doesn’t protect the wearer, so pretty pointless in that situation. As well as wholly unrealistic.

@Dandy008 I can see you’re worried, it’s horrible to feel like that.