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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

286 replies

Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

OP posts:
Halfwaytoholiday · 25/07/2021 08:46

What, having a great time? Confused

rainbowstardrops · 25/07/2021 08:55

It's irrelevant to people on here why the OP (and her husband previously) are anxious and cautious regarding Covid because everyone has different opinions. Obviously.

I think the issue here is that the DH agreed he'd be careful and suggested wearing a mask etc (probably not terribly practical but hey ho) but it's the photos that have followed of him in packed bars and not doing what he'd said he'd do that is upsetting the OP. I'd be pretty pissed off too I think.

morepizzapls · 25/07/2021 08:56

@Halfwaytoholiday

What, having a great time? Confused
yes, exactly that.

no, I was of course referring to the lack of contact hugging etc. and avoiding crowded places. not everyone wants to live like that forever. some dont mind, some positively love that way of living but its not for everyone and considering COVID is never going away I think it is unfair to make people like the OPs partner feel bad for daring to get on with life. most of us will have to at some point.

TillyTopper · 25/07/2021 08:57

YABU, you are both double jabbed. We're not living with CV19 excuses for ever.

Halfwaytoholiday · 25/07/2021 08:58

It's not what they'd discussed though. Some posters are saying "what did you expect, he's on a night out" and I'm merely pointing out that a good night out is possible to have without hugging!
Of course we can't live "like this" forever but this is the first weekend of the no-restrictions and it's not essential to make this weekend the one were caution is thrown to the wind.

Wellbythebloodyhell · 25/07/2021 08:59

I think you were naive to think that on the 1st weekend of restrictions lifted that it would be easy to social distance, and as for sitting in a bar with a mask on when no one else is is utterly pointless. Your assumptions were completely unrealistic I'm afraid. I hope your DH had a great night and not getting too much ear ache from you.
As a side note, do you think when he went out watching the football that he maintained distance from everyone else especially when they scored? Lots of hugging and singing and shouting going on where I was

MySecretHistory · 25/07/2021 09:02

I think there is 1 selfish person and it isnt him.

Elys3 · 25/07/2021 09:04

I understand. You feel let down. He could take LFTs when he comes back.

Neondisco · 25/07/2021 09:04

@Bryonyshcmyony

You are double jabbed you'll be fine. If you are obese you will be more at risk. Any reason you can't lose weight?
Why should she lose weight?what the fuck has it got to do with this post? Any fucking excuse to have a pop. So embarrassing for you.
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Ifitquacks · 25/07/2021 09:08

I wonder why so many people are unwilling to accept the very clear additional risk that being obese causes? It should be part of the sensible discussion on reducing risk (some studies suggest it’s actually the single factor that would make the most different to someone’s risk factor) but anyone who mentions it just gets told it’s none of their business. I know it’s a sensitive subject but until it’s discussed openly nothing will change.

WouldBeGood · 25/07/2021 09:08

YABU. He’s on a legal and normal night out. The risks are minuscule even in the unlikely event you get Covid.

Try to relax a bit and out things in perspective.

Noterook · 25/07/2021 09:09

@Ifitquacks

I wonder why so many people are unwilling to accept the very clear additional risk that being obese causes? It should be part of the sensible discussion on reducing risk (some studies suggest it’s actually the single factor that would make the most different to someone’s risk factor) but anyone who mentions it just gets told it’s none of their business. I know it’s a sensitive subject but until it’s discussed openly nothing will change.
I think anything to do with weight is the same, if someone mentions it then all sorts of accusations of being fat phobic or whatever.

However in this case, OP mentioned it put them at higher risk so not sure the need for people to keep going on about it.

Ifitquacks · 25/07/2021 09:09

Why is obesity a risk factor for severe covid-19? In July Public Health England estimated that having a BMI of 35 to 40 could increase a person's chances of dying from covid-19 by 40%, while a BMI greater than 40 could increase the risk by 90%

Neondisco · 25/07/2021 09:09

I'm from Newcastle and went for food last night with friends in town. We had a drink in an outside area so stayed away from others. But to be honest everywhere was very busy. People were very drunk and not distancing. Just really not safe when you consider the vaccine can fail and you can still get covid even if vaccinated.

I'd honestly been wondering who is getting covid. Then I went to town last night and realised!

Whammyyammy · 25/07/2021 09:11

I feel this is the new covid divide snapshot.
The one's that are out there's enjoying the selves and life.
And the one's that stay in locked away from life worrying.

I know while path I choose....

Neondisco · 25/07/2021 09:12

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Vallmo47 · 25/07/2021 09:12

OP, most people have been SO harsh on this thread, pretty confident they were the same ones who were extremely worried a year ago. But of course it was fine to suffer from health anxiety back then, NOW it’s completely unreasonable. 🤨
How DARE people start on your weight as well.

To answer your OP… I understand the concern because I truly think it’s a bad idea what people are choosing to do. There’s a huge difference between going to the shop for essential groceries and going out out and getting hammered. There’s no way anyone is socially distancing in there once the alcohol gets flowing.
But having said that - reverting to normal is always going to be difficult. I’d much rather take my chances now that the majority have been doubly jabbed and are less likely to spread the virus.

Flowers for you. Keep doing what you’re doing to protect yourself if it makes you feel better.

WouldBeGood · 25/07/2021 09:12

The chances are still very very small though @Ifitquacks.

Elys3 · 25/07/2021 09:14

@Bryonyshcmyony

Are you hard of reading?
What a stupid and unkind person you are. It’s not as though the OP can lose the weight overnight to reduce the risk of severe illness when her DP returns Hmm
Stuffin · 25/07/2021 09:15

[quote ItsAllBlahBlahBlah]@Stuffin congratulations. Everyone who doesn't do as your DH did is obviously inferior[/quote]
OP is anxious about getting covid.

She cannot stop her DH from socialising which is legal.

She can reduce her risk factors for covid because it isn't going anywhere and it is something she can change and would give her some control which I suspect OP has now realised she doesn't have over her DH when it comes to covid and risks.

Bryonyshcmyony · 25/07/2021 09:19

What a stupid and unkind person you are. It’s not as though the OP can lose the weight overnight to reduce the risk of severe illness when her DP returns hmm

It isn't stupid or unkind to suggest ways that someone can reduce their risk of severe Covid otherwise all the scientists who say we should would also be stupid and unkind

The OP can sit at home stressing over their dh trying to live a normal life, or she can take steps to improve her own health.

Amazing the lengths people will go to to be nasty when weight is mentioned!

rantymcrantface66 · 25/07/2021 09:19

I don't really see what else you expected him
To do. Doesn't really matter how he behaves once inside a packed city centre bar, where presumably you knew he was going be? Unless you expected him to stand outside on his own then the risks will be similar, hugs or not.

TheTallOakTrees · 25/07/2021 09:22

@pollylocketpickedapocket

Get a grip, you’re fully vaccinated.And concentrate on losing weight, you’re more at risk from high blood pressure and cholesterol than Covid.
This.

Wants husband to cover away from life with her but does little to help herself reduce her own risk from covid or from other things associated with obesity. Hmm

Yabu

TheTallOakTrees · 25/07/2021 09:24

She needs to take her own actions not rely only on husband to keep her safe. Anyway child could easily bring it home.