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DH is going to give us Covid!!!

286 replies

Dandy008 · 24/07/2021 22:31

DH has gone out for a friends birthday tonight.
He’s gone to Newcastle. It’s the first night out he’s had since our son was born 18 months ago.

I haven’t gone as I’m not ready to leave our son over night.

I have so far seen several snap chat updates from friends. They are in packed bars, dancing, hugging, singing.

Im so disappointed in him. I’ve tried to hard to avoid catching Covid and I really feel now like
DH is going to bring it home to me and our son!!

OP posts:
NotMyCat · 25/07/2021 11:35

@rantymcrantface66 I know - I was just explaining how the OP might choose to protect herself in supermarkets so to me yes, it is different from a pub or club

Ifitquacks · 25/07/2021 11:51

The fact is, that when the OP’s DH said he was going for a weekend drinking in Newcastle, the OP should really have known that he would be close to strangers and would be unlikely to be wearing masks in a bar. That was never going to happen. So the only other option was to not go.
Bars are rammed. Table service no longer happening in most city centre bars. Social distancing and mask wearing was an unreasonable expectation.

Imnothereforthedrama · 25/07/2021 12:32

@TheUnlucky1

OP has made it clear she’s not vulnerable. She’s not dressing it up as risky. It is risky *@Imnothereforthedrama*
What’s risky and to who ? Honestly he may catch Covid he may pass it on he may not and what will happen ? Instead of listening to the media maybe do some research op of who is being admitted to hospital and who is dying maybe that will reduce your fear.
TheUnlucky1 · 25/07/2021 12:43

Well there’s the risk of long Covid, the risk of being ill whilst caring for a toddler, the risk of passing on Covid to someone else, the risk of causing others to self-isolate, apart from an admittedly very low risk of serious disease.

Imnothereforthedrama · 25/07/2021 13:10

@TheUnlucky1

Well there’s the risk of long Covid, the risk of being ill whilst caring for a toddler, the risk of passing on Covid to someone else, the risk of causing others to self-isolate, apart from an admittedly very low risk of serious disease.
If you want to live your life living in fear crack on but you don’t tell others to live like that . Go and do some research.
TheUnlucky1 · 25/07/2021 14:02

I’m certainly not living in fear. I’ve had Covid and two doses of vaccine. I’m simply supporting the OP who is not being irrational and is understandably disappointed in her husband. I’m not the one telling others how to live. Now I’m just off to a party.

Imnothereforthedrama · 25/07/2021 14:48

@TheUnlucky1

I’m certainly not living in fear. I’ve had Covid and two doses of vaccine. I’m simply supporting the OP who is not being irrational and is understandably disappointed in her husband. I’m not the one telling others how to live. Now I’m just off to a party.
Good for you , so you don’t live in fear but you feel it’s ok for others to do so and tell others to live like that? how baffling .
HungryHippo11 · 25/07/2021 18:34

Even if he comes home and develops covid, which is unlikely given that he has been double jabbed, there is no guarantee he will give it to you, especially as you're double jabbed too.
My daughters have both had covid in the past few weeks. I've been sneezed on, coughed on, licked, shared a spoon with a child who tested positive the next day. Still didn't catch it, and I've only had one jab.

whynotwhatknot · 25/07/2021 19:44

Is he back op

PurpleOkapi · 25/07/2021 20:11

Imagine the following post:

"My husband doesn't want me go out with my friends because he's worried about me catching covid and infecting him. We're both vaccinated, but he's high-risk because he smokes. I've begged him to quit smoking because I'm concerned for his health, not only because of covid, but he refuses. AIBU to resume a more normal life whether he likes it or not?"

Most of the people going on about "fat-shaming" would be telling that woman to leave her husband because he's controlling, and they'd be right. The issues are the same here. OP is concerned because she's high-risk. She's high-risk because she's obese. Instead of taking reasonable measures to reduce her own risk and improve her overall health, she's chosen to use that risk to justify dictating the social activities of her partner. I understand that giving orders to one's partner is easier than either losing weight or smoking, but this is ridiculous. Do what's reasonably in your power to protect your own health, and once you've reached the limits of that, then you can think about ordering other people to make sacrifices for your perceived safety. Not before.

lifehappened · 25/07/2021 20:14

It makes me so sad that people are this afraid to enjoy life any more.

Elys3 · 25/07/2021 20:42

You are so sad about strangers on the internet, really?

lifehappened · 25/07/2021 20:42

Apart from one dick head

Miseryl · 25/07/2021 21:43

If you're that concerned about your BMI increasing your vulnerability, that is within your control. Addressing that would be the first place to start.

AppleJane · 26/07/2021 07:27

Jesus, look at yourselves. The OP hasn't been on this thread for 24 hours and you're all continuing to put the boot in. And you're all missing the point. Her DH should not have made a promise he couldn't keep. They should have discussed it properly.

Elys3 · 26/07/2021 07:31

Agreed, that’s the immediate problem. I expect the OP has hidden the thread due to the nastiness of other posters and I wouldn’t blame her.

rantymcrantface66 · 26/07/2021 07:44

Not sticking any boot in but let's face it, it wasn't really a realistic promise under the circumstances but probably hadn't been thought through by either party. On reflection though it's probably worth accepting it would have been impossible

Summersdreaming · 30/07/2021 12:08

Did he give you all covid OP?

Original poster
Dandy008 · 30/07/2021 19:45

@Summersdreaming

Did he give you all covid OP?
@Summersdreaming

Only been 6 days!

OP posts:
Aposterhasnoname · 30/07/2021 20:59

Only been 6 days!

So that’s a no then.

userxx · 30/07/2021 21:10

@Aposterhasnoname

Only been 6 days!

So that’s a no then.

🤣. I'm thinking not.

Original poster
Dandy008 · 30/07/2021 21:35

It’s a no! It’s only been 6 days though, doesn’t mean he hasn’t got it!

OP posts:
userxx · 30/07/2021 21:37

@Dandy008

It’s a no! It’s only been 6 days though, doesn’t mean he hasn’t got it!

Pretty sure he would know by day 6. Bet he's planning his next night out already!

Neverrains · 30/07/2021 21:38

Incubation time is around 4-5 days so hopefully you’re in the clear Smile

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 30/07/2021 22:27

Incubation period is 2-14 days. 5.5 days is the average. 97.5% will show symptoms after 11.5 days after exposure. So, no, 6 days is not enough to say for sure.