Daughter 24 wants to come home

[AinJD]

DD loves London but is working from her little room in a shared house currently as office is closed - life so different from normal and says she just wants to come home (to North Yorkshire) where she can have more space and will feel somehow safer with family. DH reluctantly (is it essential?) said he’ll fetch her tomorrow if she’s sure she wants to be here till the end of the lockdown. He will go there and back, no interactions with anyone but her. We all feel guilty already at going against the spirit of the guidance, but she’s taken care to walk everywhere for the past two weeks, is not ill and will self-isolate in her room here for seven days on arrival. It is probably not essential but feels natural for her to want to be here with us and of course we don’t really in our hearts want to say no. We almost wish there was a form to fill in for this mission!

I’m quoting them

There may have been. I can't say. I didn't see them.

I saw lots of people telling the OP that yes, the rules applied to her.

Then the OP trying to argue that it was the 'meanies on mumsnet's fault that she was making the decision to go against guidelines.

The only reason they have the luxury to choose to not abide by the rules is because so many of us are.

EXACTLY this.

What makes people think their needs trump the needs of others and the community as a whole?

The OP was hounded off here

Well done

She wasn't hounded off. She flounced off because people weren't immediately patting her on the back and telling her what a totes amazing mother she was.

Judging by the deleted posts on this thread, I'd say MNHQ agreed that quite a few people were posting PA.

Make of that what you will.

Make of that what you will

There's nothing to make of it apart from usual eyerolling at MNHQ's over-zealous and inconsistent modding.

She flounced because she didn't get 100% validation for her view that the rules didn't apply to her family.

If it makes you feel better about someone leaving the site because of bullying behaviour,then you keep telling yourself that.

I have no problem with people explaining to the OP why it maybe wasn't the right thing to do, but the piling on and name calling was unpleasant and unnecessary.

If it makes you feel better about someone leaving the site because of bullying behaviour,then you keep telling yourself that

Why would anyone need to "make themselves feel better"

It is a transient forum; people join and leave daily. The latter mostly because they don't like what they've been told.

Telling someone who is behaving selfishly that they're being selfish isn't bullying.

And some of the more extreme posts have been deleted. She hasn't been hounded off. She made her own choice to deregister and not return to discuss a proposed course of action that is socially irresponsible.

Since the history of time, posters start threads expecting 100% validation for ridiculous actions.

They then only reply to those that agree with them. And ignore all the rest. Then they flounce because everyone isn't agreeing with them.

The worst I saw on this thread was 'you're fucking selfish'. Not posted by me, I hasten to add

Not sure what they expected given what we're all going through.

Abandoning the thread / leaving the forum happen all the time.

The only difference here is that the OP announced that she was leaving to the mods.

I met a friend today, with her daughter and grandchild - not by intention but by chance. We all did the 2m thing.

Daughter and gc have moved back in with parents, basically because she is a single mum and struggles.

Parents are not even 50 yet... I cannot envisage a situation in which they wouldnt have done this. In the same way that when my DD1, aged 23, flew back from France 13 days ago where she was working, of course she came home. Despite the fact that my DH is immunosuppressed following chemo... But we all appear to be fine, and I'm not sure really what anyone expects anyone to do, given the potential time we are looking ahead for.