Daughter 24 wants to come home

[AinJD]

DD loves London but is working from her little room in a shared house currently as office is closed - life so different from normal and says she just wants to come home (to North Yorkshire) where she can have more space and will feel somehow safer with family. DH reluctantly (is it essential?) said he’ll fetch her tomorrow if she’s sure she wants to be here till the end of the lockdown. He will go there and back, no interactions with anyone but her. We all feel guilty already at going against the spirit of the guidance, but she’s taken care to walk everywhere for the past two weeks, is not ill and will self-isolate in her room here for seven days on arrival. It is probably not essential but feels natural for her to want to be here with us and of course we don’t really in our hearts want to say no. We almost wish there was a form to fill in for this mission!

I've just heard about someone who has died. The family are devastated. I can't believe people are being so irresponsible. This virus kills people.

Please explain to me how exactly the public are being put at risk? If the DD wanted to travel home via public transport then that’s totally different, but it’s her fathers car!

Two of my former colleagues have lost friends and family members this week. It's real and I cannot believe the ignorance and irresponsibility I'm reading.

Am I confused or did op say that her husband has heart problems?

Bloody hell imagine the survival guilt if the daughter has it, gives it to her dad and he dies? Knowing that could have been prevented!

I am already fearful that my sister or my husband might catch it when they go out to do my shopping. What of they get ill and die because they were protecting me but I'm not going out of my way to do it. I'm not doing something that is entirely preventable.

Please explain to me how exactly the public are being put at risk?

I’ve already explained, check previous page.

@Inappropriatefemale it's been explained to you already.

@Inappropriatefemale

screw what others say ?? So you're including the World Health Organisation and Chris Whitty, who is the Chief Medical Officer (CMO) for England, the UK government's Chief Medical Adviser and head of the public health profession in your 'others', are you?

Please explain to me how exactly the public are being put at risk? If the DD wanted to travel home via public transport then that’s totally different, but it’s her fathers car!

Did has it but doesn't know. Infects her dad on journey home. Dad goes shopping next week and infects shop assistant. Shop assistant infects several customers.

Dad gets seriously ill. Goes into hospital and infects several staff.

See how it puts the public at risk?

here's a copy of what I've already said:

Because it's quite possible that she does have it but is asymptomatic and could:
Infect her father
Leave the car contaminated
Infect someone if she needs a loo break on the journey home
Infect family members en route to her isolation room
Infect family members even though she's in isolation (someone will be collecting her dishes etc)

I understand how you feel OP but your daughter is fine where she is. Many of the cases in rural Italy and Spain were caused when the young city dwellers from the big cities came home to see their families. I think she has left it too late and should now stay put.

@Olawisk

@Highonpotandused .. and?

And what? Wtf are you on about?

My DCs are all keyworkers. They all have to go out to work every day. Lucky you Roussette that yours can 'stick to the rules' and stay in.

Or daughter or father use service station toilets and petrol station on way home with risk of cross infection. Viruses travel and this is not an essential journey.

My DCs are all keyworkers. They all have to go out to work every day. Lucky you Roussette that yours can 'stick to the rules' and stay in

Your kids are sticking to the rules if they’re keyworkers. Roussette’s children are doing far more to keep your children safe than the OP and other selfish idiots who think they’re above the rules.

Yes definitely!

Key workers are having to travel and work outside the home. It doesn't mean that non essential journeys have to be made.

I would go.

We're facing having my bil stay in a week or 2. He works offshore and went out before this all started so completely isolated from it but he lives in Thailand and they've closed borders to non nationals so he has nowhere to go. If he can get a flight in to uk he's coming here! We'll all isolate for 14 days together when he arrives.

Sometimes you have to do what you need for family!

Well done to your DCs Frankie and I actually mean that.

I won't apologise for my DCs following the guidelines though. They both work from home, one is an essential service but it can be done from home.

Sometimes you have to do what you need for family!

I expect that’s what a lot of Italians thought.

I wonder what they think now, 10,000 deaths later.

What's the point of posting on Mumsnet?

You know the rules - the Police are enforcing them with fines and possibly further measures.

Pathetic.

Yes. Italy and Spain now a total of 17,500 deaths. Staggering, frightening, awful, heartbreaking
We all have to look at what they might've done wrong and do different. And if that means some family being isolated from each other, that is the price we have to pay.

Until people are fined as well as named in public I don't think they'll listen.

Sometimes you have to do what you need for family!

Your bil has nowhere to go and must go somewhere.

The op's dd is in a flat share - her own home - with others. But she'd like to go to her family home where there's more space and she thinks she'd feel safer. It's over 200 miles away and she'd be travelling from an area of high infection to one of low infection.

Your comment about doing what you need to do for family implies that you feel in some way better than those of us who aren't flouting government guidelines to get our adult children home.

What's the point of posting on Mumsnet?

She wanted to be told that it was fine and somehow the rules don’t apply to them and they’re still good people.

When that wasn’t forthcoming, it became clear that she was going to do it anyway, but spin it as somehow the meanies on mumsnet’s fault.

Either way, she was going to secure ‘justification’.

Going by the OP I think the daughter was being picked up this morning so is now in Yorkshire.