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Very nervous to TTC after a miscarriage but am going for it

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Bella23 · 20/01/2005 09:19

For those who want to look to the future and TTC again I would really like some support, advice etc.
I thought we needed a new thread with positive energy (yes have turned into chanting hippy) so that we feel we are moving forward rather than dwelling on what has already passed.
The only thing I can concentrate on at the moment is that next Wed is the day that me and DH can start trying again (this will be 2 weeks after ERPC).
Anyone else ready to try again?

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Wifeof · 20/01/2005 12:46

Bella,

Bumping this for you as it's very quiet today; hope you get some positive responses soon.

Love Wifeof xx

MINNIE1 · 20/01/2005 13:55

Bella23,
Good on you How have you been??

So you big day is getting near.. really hope you won't be hear long that you move to anti ASAP.. Are you using any help? OPKs,persona etc... I will be starting the persona soon as AF is on her way.. Can feel her coming!!!! CD30

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Bella23 · 20/01/2005 19:23

Thanks Minnie am feeling ok. Time seems to be dragging and next week seems very far off at the moment but just trying to keep busy. Funny how on the one hand i am desperate agian to try but on the other I am loath to get back on the "hamster wheel" of TTC - oh well got to be done so not point whinging!!

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hewlettsdaughter · 20/01/2005 19:38

Hi Bella, I don't know your history (beyond what you have said in your message) but I just wanted to say good luck! I miscarried twice last year - very early on - but now have a 9 month dd. Hope all goes well for you.

romilly · 20/01/2005 19:43

me too Bella - as in v. nervous (m/c'd at 9 weeks, first pregnancy) but like you, ready to try again. haven't had first AF since ERPC yet but started taking temps and got the persona. didnt use anything first time around but feel it took so bloody long that havent got time to be chilled about it anymore. (i'm 38 - yiiiiikes). one of the duffer brigade. do you have children already?

lashings of babydust to you and minnie too (and a big lorryload to myself while i'm at it!)

pooka · 20/01/2005 20:48

Babydust to you all. I was really sorry to hear your news, Bella. Hope that you graduate again soon and have a trouble-free pregnancy. Positive vibes coming your way

bunny2 · 20/01/2005 20:50

I had a terrible time ttc after 2 micarriages but I finally got lucky and now have beautiul 7 wk old daughter.

good luck to you

BTW have you read the "ttc after mc" threads?

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Bella23 · 20/01/2005 20:56

Romiily - you sounds very smiliar to me. I had missed m/c at 10 weeks and had ERPC last week.
I have bought a load of OV tests and am ready to rock and roll!
Wishing you lots of positive vibes!
Thanks everyone else for your thoughts.

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Bella23 · 20/01/2005 20:57

Just to add Romilly - have no kids as yet, this was my first attempt. I'm 32 so no spring chicken myself. Feeling more my age this week, over the last couple of weeks i felt nearer 62!

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romilly · 21/01/2005 11:13

32 - sounds good to me

btw, bella was one of my girl baby-names (but needless to say had been vetoed)
romilly (my nom de plume)was another one - (also vetoed!)

friday babydust sprinkles and lots of positive vibes for all the hippy chicks on this thread.

Marina · 21/01/2005 11:16

My second baby was stillborn at 21 weeks and within three months I was pregnant with dd, now 18 months. Lots of positive babydust to you all, there are so many Mumsnetters on here who have been through TTC after a loss, we will all be willing you on.

dramaqueen72 · 21/01/2005 11:22

hey bella, well i'm so very 'just' post-op, but i will be expecting my first period end of feb-ish, and then will hopefully be trying again. think i will invest in some opk so can be sure of 'hot spots' to ttc in. will indeed be very weird to try again but hey, think christmas babies everyone right?
so i'm not quite ready myself but willing to chant along with you, you ol' hippy you.

dramaqueen72 · 21/01/2005 11:23

..er bella, I'm 32, stop with the 'no spring chicken' comments! we are very spring like !!

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Bella23 · 21/01/2005 11:26

Marina, thats exactly what we need to hear!
Quite right Dramaqueen am spring like!

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berolina · 21/01/2005 12:33

Bella, dramaqueen, Romilly and everyone in the same boat... sorry to hear of your losses, good luck for TTC and very very best wishes.

I conceived again 3 cycles after an early m/c this summer and am now 21 weeks. TTC after m/c is a real rollercoaster - as I found even after this very short time - but there are lots of mumsnetters here to support you.

Lots of positive energy coming your way!

wendy11 · 21/01/2005 18:15

Hi everyone
After five years of trying and four failed IUI attemps we finally conceived naturally only for our little boy to be stillborn at 23 weeks on the 24th September 2004, the day before my 34th birthday. It is only now that I feel ready to start to try again and after our difficulties conceiving first time round I am even more worried that it might not happen again, but atleast we have been referred for IVF, so hopefully something will work and the futrue will look brighter again.

mishi1977 · 21/01/2005 18:37

hi bella..i 'think' i am ready to try again..i have had 2mcs naturally prior to DS now 15mths then one missed mc at 9 weeks over xmas..thought i was 15weeks so had surgical option on 30th of dec...still no af but i do want another little one asap...just worried about heartache

dramaqueen72 · 21/01/2005 19:23

welll i got successfully pg with dd after my first missed m/c, and the heartache is one hell of a rollerocaster. it was so stressful,getting past the stage i never got past before. it hurt so much to have this second missed m/c but i know i have to go on and have a successful pg, for many many reasons. we can do it, we will need each other tho very much.

romilly · 21/01/2005 19:47

welcome wendy and mishi

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Bella23 · 22/01/2005 10:06

There are so many heartbreaking stories that it seems so unfair! Lets just stick together and face what comes. We will do it - its just going to be a harder path than others but we will get there!
2005 is going to be our year

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mishi1977 · 22/01/2005 10:14

romilly thanks for the welcome

bella i agree...i do think it is harder to get be pg after a mc as you are so tense...with Ds i bled from 7wks till11 wks..i didnt actusally know i was pg but went t gp cos i thought was having extremely long af...lol....but of course once i knew i was extremely tense due to the prior mcs..obviously last time i thought everything was great and i should have been 15 wks but pip had died about 4/5 wks earlier....so next time i will prob be stressed either way...funnily enough it doesnt put me off as from having ds i have realised what i would miss out on...hope that makes sense
take care

dramaqueen72 · 22/01/2005 23:47

mishi, i hear you.....you worry if you do bleed, you worry if you dont.......you get past that stage and then you worry if they do move alot and worry if they dont....it never stops and experiences like ours just add to the sense of it all. but we can all get there. with dd i found a dopler helped, getting extra midwife appointments, extra early scans....all those things to 'reassure' you just little more.
bella, your 2 weeks are so nearly up. i hope its a good month for you.

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Bella23 · 23/01/2005 10:04

Yes the new world of being a worrier is very scary for me as usually my philosphy has always been worry about something when it happens and not before - all has changed now sinc m/c!!
Yes 2 weeks are nearly up - ye ha! I am trying not to get my hopes up but who am I kidding - am going to gutted if AF arrives. Oh well will just have to deal with that when it happens.
Hope everyone else is having a good weekend

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mishi1977 · 23/01/2005 10:13

aww bella loads of baby dust for you hun..hope it is your month...god knows where i am up to im still waiting for af after my mc....soo will be glad when it arrives cos then i will know where im up to...lol

littleweed · 23/01/2005 12:44

have just had 'words' with my Dh about my mc a few months back. apparently becasue it was a blighted ovum 'I wasn't really preganat anyway......'
men.