Very nervous to TTC after a miscarriage but am going for it

[Bella23]

For those who want to look to the future and TTC again I would really like some support, advice etc.
I thought we needed a new thread with positive energy (yes have turned into chanting hippy) so that we feel we are moving forward rather than dwelling on what has already passed.
The only thing I can concentrate on at the moment is that next Wed is the day that me and DH can start trying again (this will be 2 weeks after ERPC).
Anyone else ready to try again?

Hope all had a better Frid eve than me - it was a bit wierd - partaking of my usual frid night wine, enjoying ds1's birthday despite friends of his sleeping over when suddenly remembered that in July Id told him he wouldnt be able to have a party as i was haviing a baby then - missed mc no 1 in Aug.
God how my mood crashed - I was inconsolable - and pissed which didnt help
be warned guys - be aware of those anniversary dates - it took me badly by surprise
feeling more cheerful today, party now over and have sent dh for bridget jones dvd as cheering up treat for me

hereshoping - poor you. totally understandable though. sounds a bit like how i've been feeling all week to be honest! and if its any consolation my friday night was the icing on the cake (of a god awful week) too. we went out to meet some friends and lo and behold - another sodding announcement, yup she was pg. that is TWICE in about a month since my mc that has happened to me now.

dvd (and more wine) sounds a good idea!

Rom & Hereshoping - so sorry you had crappy nights last night. Hope tonight is better for you both. Sounds like its Bridget Jones needed all round at the moment (although I have no chance with DP and 2 lads in the house!!)

Bella, thanks for the OPKs, I'll cat you over my address. Might give my body a hint that it needs to ov occasionally!! Had a look at the calendar DQ, gives me a best guess of 12th March so the countdown begins tick tock, tick tock....

More Flapjack today - help, I can't stop making it now!! Got a friend over tonight so hoping everyone will help me to eat it.

Happy baking, painting and drinking everyone.

heres i hope u are ok hun i know the annis r a nightmare as i have had 2 before but this one seems worse am trying to book a hol or something for around end of june cos thats when i would have had pip...
rom..bless ya its horirble isnt it
I have been told by 4 people in the past 10 days that they are pg...
george hope ur body hears ya about oving
No DQ today?

well ive been getting horrible cramps today like af but she isnt due for at least another week..am flititng between sheer excitment and depression..lol Keep thinking it oculd be implanting or something then in next thought im worrying something is wrong or that af is going to show up early...arghhhhhhh just want next week here so can test although between fertility friend and conception stor ei am confused as one is telling me im ov now and one is saying last week...why are things never simple..lol

hope u all have a good day

Hershopping - bless girl its so hard isn't it! Hope you manage to make the dvd.
I think we can all relate to the "eveyone around us seems to be announcing they are pregnant" syndrome - FFS - even Jordan is bloody pregnant and plastered all over the newspapers!!!
Well more painting from me today. DQ - colour scheme is natural calaco (rich cream) on 3 walls with soft stone on one where the fire place is, its an accent colour don't you know!!! Hark at me, you can tell i have been watching those make-over shows can't you!
George jealous of flapjack.
We are out tonight to dinner at friends and I have just spent the last hour getting ready, i think when you feel a little down it is time to slap on the war paint!!
OOH a bit of excitement as got Persona delivered this morning, very exciting - absolutely love gadgets!!
Hope you all have a good night xx

bella hope u have a fab night seems like a lifetiem since we have been out for dinner minus a wriggling tot...arghh really must re enter the workd of adults soon..until the next one comes that is..lol

missed you ladies so much today. my dad down here today and doing some diy for me so couldnt really say 'lovely to see you but i'm just going to chat ot my onine friends now...........' so had to wait til he'd gone and the bathtime routine was over too. so here i am!!!!
baked maple and pecan cupcakes today..keep up with the flapjacks george! funny as af goes and 'the' bd-ing week approaches i feel NERVOUS! ffs! i hope i can relax and concentrate on ..er the bding...and not the results! dh hates it when i'm not paying attention!!! LOL
bella, have fab evening, desperately jealous here. your new paint sounds lovely, i have apaint called 'baking day' on my sitting room walls !!!apt for me huh?!!
heres- sorry about the anniversary, arent they always remembered at the last bloody minute. hope youre okay.
mishi hope YOURE okay too, sounds painful. i got horrendous cramps early this month, bloody bloody ERPC. I really REALLY hope yours is implanting...
romilly, another announcment? sheesh, does seem as if everyone but us is pg huh? our turn next, you hang in there girlie.
((hugs)) to everyone.

evening all, yummy maple and pecan cupcakes, sounds divine!

mishi - understand the cramps, have been having them myself, hope it means something good but also am expecting to see af soon.

today has been one of those days, was suppose to go to my bro's b-day tonight but have stinking cold and cough so am indoors instead and then, water started leaking from our living room ceiling, a pipe seems to be leaking!!!!!! And british gas who we are covered by can only come tomorrow between 8 and 6pm which is a serious bummer as am suppose to be at my mum's celebrating dds actual birthday with family - ho hum such is life. I am hoping this run of bad luck can only mean a run of good luck is round the corner!

Morning all.
Well have a bit of a hangover, really bad seeing as right time for ov so feel a bit disapoointed in myself, but hey ho, done now!
Yingers, sorry about leak, bummer!
Have decided that its time to do something nice today so am going to bake some little cakes and take them round to our elderly neighbours who we've never met. My granny died last year at the grand age of 95 and remained in her own home due to the fact her neighbours were so nice and regularly checked on her etc so have decided that it is scandelous that we've never seen our elderly neighbours. Fingers crossed that they are a nice old couple and not from a scary horror film!!!
DQ - paint called baking day, how apt! mmmm...how can a day be a colour? Interesting, what colour is it?

hope everyone is having a chilled sunday

bella glad u got your persona - u will love it. lucky neighbours getting cakes from you. i used to have a dear old biddy living next door who made cakes for my d/h and whispered to him "rom doesnt bake does she??" she'd got me sussed! sadly she moved - sadly for dh!
yingers - hope you got your leak fixed, total bummer. hate those kind of hassles.
dqueen - ooooh, bding week for you - know what you mean about getting nervous, ridiculous but i know i'm going to be in a few weeks seeing as i managed to make such a cock up of it last time (no pun intended !)
mishi - i feel for you, you are coming up to testing time soon. fingers crossed for you and babydust by the barrel load.
hereshoping - hope the wine and dvd cheered you up hun.
george - still baking huh?

as for me, CD3 and horrible AF - is it just me or does anyone else seem to have much heavier AF now?

hi all
not on long as i have just cleaned all carpets so need to jump in shower..dh is currently fitting new kitchens cupboards and doors...yayyy..i hate our old kitchen it was here when we moved in so now its all lovely and ivory..well about half of it is..lol

Pains have gone today so am wondeing if it was ov cos looking on conception store if my body decides on a 35 day cycle rather than 28 it would be this week...typically not bd past 2 days cos of the pains...arghh im rubbish at this whole ttc lark...am i next one due to test? i think it will be 5th for af but if its 35 day then obviously will be week later..argghhh
hope u are all good and am waiting my packages of freshly backed goodies

take care and baby dust

Hello ladies, leak fixed by two british gas engineers, and dds celebrations went well, she was chuffed with all her presents!

Like the sound of your new kitchen mishi.

my cramps gone too but still no sign of flippin AF and opks def said I was not oving! DH thinks I should test later this week just in case, not sure I should as am trying to not be so trigger happy with tests until I have some sure signs. ALso part of me is terrified of being pregnant even though I so desperately want to be! Do u know what I mean? ok will stop ranting now.

yingers completely understand
think thats the worst i soo wanna be pg but am petrified of yet another mc..arghh why is nothing ever easy..lol

Morning ladies
Yingers completely understand how you are feeling, I think everyone on this thread feels the same. I think you should perhaps test at the end of the week, its best to know either way.
Well not much else to report really, on CD15 so have been getting in lots of bding over the weekend. My cycle pre op was 28 days but first AF was 32 days so not really sure when to expect AF. I think i may work on the principle of 32 days and only test after that (you can remind me of that when i am trigger happy on the 28th day and want to test!)
Anyway hope everyone is well xx

yeah, can relate to the panic-y feeling about another bad scan and m/c. I find myself working out inmy head the time scalee for another missed m/c and when i could get pg after that....i feel i dont want to be back at the start of my ttc reace again........if you see what i mean. as nervous as i am to get pg, i'm fairly confident that part will happen. what freaks me out -if i let myself think about it- is the BEING pg , right at the start, when you cant do anything to help it stick, or be successful.IYKWIM. its def going to be bittersweeet the day we get our bfp. fabulous but scary. my knees go all funny thinking about it...
mishi, hows the kitchen? sounds good.
baking day paint is a cookie dough kinda colour its lovely. hows the walls coming along bella?
yingers try not to stress. if nothings here by the end of the week, one test will not hurt, nor make you gung ho with the tests! and we did get a bargain off ebay right??
hope everyones well...

omg, more spelling mistakes than ever.ah well, its monday, sorry

morning all
thanks for good wishes
feeling more cheerful now though now got cold and ds2 home from school with same and looks dreadful
dh is pulling out all stops to be nice to me though which helps
had a disaster with baking bday cake - dog ate first attempt - bloody thing jumped up and ate half when iced and decorated
then dh made shit one that I had to throw away
then I made not so nice one that had to do
dq - your skills are required in our house!
af gone so when feel better its march and Im gonna go for it!

hi all. i dont know where people get time to bake. this thread is starting to make me feel deeply inadequate - but LOL hereshoping at your dog!!

i know that dqueen, heres and yingers are SAHM's right? i think mishi is too? so who else works full-time...bella?? i think you do. george, i dont know about, and girlfromip ?? does anyone else wonder where wendy went? hope she's okay, havent heard from her for a while.

yingers - you said it for us all, terrifying - the whole thing! thats why i think its great that we have our own special ttc thread because everyone here feels the same mix of hope and fear.
we can all help each other thru it, right girls

Rom - I work full time - only manage the odd bit of baking, these days it is more to keep my mind occupied than anything else!
Ladies, need a few words of comfort, anybody got any statistics up their sleeve to make me feel better? My mind is playing awful tricks on me lately and I keep having mini panicks that I am never going to have children. I've been pregnant once so my chances of getting pregnant a second time are good aren't they?? I know I am being irrational but you know what its like when you keep haivng such negative thoughts!
Sorry to sound on a downer - think i just need someone to tell me something positive so that can stick in my mind instead of all this negativity.

Hi all,
Hereshoping, dog eating birthday cake really made me laugh (bet you weren't laughing though!!). I've got this cold now too, been snuffling & sneezing all wk'end.
Rom, I work full time so no more baking for me for a while. Don't do anything domestic in the week - no baking / cleaning / ironing / cooking / washing, too knackered !!! Gets to Friday & the house looks like a bomb has hit it!!! Really must follow DQs example & get a cleaner in at some point.

Oh Bella, sorry your feeling a bit rocky today. Of course you will have children. I'll have to look up some stats for you but in the meantime remember, even though it has been a shocking experience, it is really common & something most women experience at least once in their lives. Don't fret - we will get through it and then probably be moaning about how knackered we are with kids and wondering why we had them!

Hello Folks,
Sorry I have been missing for a while. We have been having some work done in the house and my computer has been packed away for a few weeks. Aslo our son would have been due this month so feeling really rocky at the moment.
I have total sympathy with you Bella at the moment. I am also having awful feelings about whether we will or won't have any more children. They do say that all good things come to those who wait, but I am getting tired waiting.
Romilly I work full time as well. I suppose as I don't have any family I don't really have an excuse not to.
It is going to take me ages to catch up on all that has been happening on this thread, just in case I don't have time could someone please let me know if there is anything important I have missed.
We have our first meeting with the IVF nurse on the 9th March. Feeling a bit aprehensive about this as IVF really is the last resort to achieving a pregnany and while I conceived naturally the last time the DR hasn't really given us alot of hope of achieveing another pregnany naturally.
Lets hope March brings better luck for all of us. Who knows we might even get out of making Christmas dinner if we time it right!

Thanks for positive words, just think I need to hear it sometimes as DH won't let me talk about the "what if" scenario.
Wendy, good to hear from you. Its sounds like a hard time at the moment with this month being the due time of your son. I'm not very good at saying the right thing over this kind of thing so will just say that i will be thinking of you and hope that helps. IVF appointment on the 9th March, fingers crossed.
George sorry to hear you are full of cold, there is so much going round at the moment!
Someone on here has to get a BFP really soon. I hope you are all having very loud chats with your ovaries as i think some of them aren't listening at the moment!

Hi Wendy, you've missed out on a whole lot of baking, painting and exercise DVDs!!

Bella, forgot to mention, tried to cat you but you don't accept them!! Can you cat me & I'll send you my address across?
Have been searching for positive stats but I think you'll find that they are here on this thread all the time. I'm sure there are 2 people currently on this thread who can re-inforce positive vibes on having babies after m/c (DQ / Mishi can you help here??)
xxx

ladies, hello!
yes wendy, the baking you missed is very important! its my fave hobby right now -when i'm upbeat i bake alot, then when i'm down i eat it all! fabulous!! I hope the appointment goes well. thinking of you.
bella, yes scroll waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay down,(its a long thread huh?!) i found some stats for us ages ago.......something like..........there is only a 5% chance of getting pg the first cycle after a m/c. (ie; before that first af) but then our chances go right back up to 20%. and 20% chance of pg every month is EVERYONES chance. (new at ttc, never had a baby, never had a m/c, had a baby, had two babies... etc etc -they are all 20% a month chance of getting pg every month they try) so hang in there. youre going to be fine, and have a house full of children before you know it. you have a reg cycle, no 'cause' suspected behind your m/c, and are healthy ......so nothing standing in your way, i promise. (((hugs))) just alittle time and patience.
waiting -ha! i'm no one to talk, i'm so restless for the O ing, the bding, the testing...sigh, wishing my life away again!

hi all
not having good day today so sorry no personals...dont know y but i tested tonight even though am not due af till at least sunday...sigh...having crap time with some stuff
although my kitchen is finished
take care