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RESPONSE Trial for Recurrent Miscarriage - Thread 4

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 00:24

Thread for all ladies on the RESPONSE trial - all stages welcome, for a bit of well needed silliness and good old fashioned all round advice and support!

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clairemorgan81 · 05/08/2015 06:34

thanks for new thread vicki hope it brings you luck x

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 06:47

I'm wishing for luck for both of us Claire! Smile

How you holding up my lovely? Xx

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clairemorgan81 · 05/08/2015 06:50

I'm okay although know I'm out this month. Will you begin testing next week? x

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 06:59

You still getting the bleeding? It's awful when your body just won't play ball isn't it?

Yeah, I should start testing on Monday but am dreading it really... Seems kind of pointless to me to be honest!! X

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philippa88 · 05/08/2015 07:34

Haha loving all the coloring books! I tell you what it takes a lot longer than you think to do a full page! I was on for about 2 hours last night and am only a quarter way through!
Random question.. But if you oh goes out on the drink during the day for a stag do, then comes in later on pissed - how do you cope with it lol? I hate being around drunk people and I'm dreading Saturday night for that reason! Men! X

philippa88 · 05/08/2015 07:38

Oh and another thing - I was stupid enough to buy 'my baby's beat' Doppler app yday.. Ok so what are you thoughts? Gimmick? Waste of time? I can find my own heartbeat then what I think is baby's, but it also does a fast baby sounding heartbeat on random parts of my body. Guessing it's a total con.... X

clairemorgan81 · 05/08/2015 07:57

Yes still having browny discharge Vicki Sad

philippa my dh went on stag do all day last Sat but I was luckily in bed when he came home and he went in spare room as ds sleeps in with us. I hate hate hate drunk people especially dh. it's an awful dread isn't it x

Choccywoccydodah · 05/08/2015 08:23

Thanks for the new thread Vicki!!

Philippa I have no clue how that app works, I have an angel sounds one :)

Loving the colouring ladies!

Claire are you still spotting?

Off to Hunstanton, Norfolk in the caravan for a week on Saturday, so excited!! Dh has just booked it. Wouldn't work last night for some reason. It's ds' 4th birthday next Thursday so great timing :) Will be busy when we get back as I always make his birthday cakes, and his party is the Sunday! He'll have to have a shop bought one for the actual day though Blush

Choccywoccydodah · 05/08/2015 08:24

Re drunk peeps, I've never really been one to drink, so I'm used to being around the drunk lol!

clairemorgan81 · 05/08/2015 08:35

choccy sounds lovely I bet you can't wait. I bet ds loves it especially with his birthday too Smile.

little bit brown when I wipe but that's how it starts every month. x

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 08:38

Aw! Hunstanton is lovely Choccy - we go there quite often as OH parents have a caravan in Heacham (the next little village along)...

We are going on the weekend of the 15th to meet them down there (they go every week during caravan season!)

Oh dear Claire... sending lots of hugs. I really do feel for you.

Philippa - my OH plays rugby so i am well used the the drunken thing, though he is taking the ttc really seriously and has stopped drinking full stop at the moment. Usually i am the one to pick him (and several of the other lads usually) up from the club completely wasted... i just tend to humour them a little until it gets too much then make my excuses...

x

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Kazz2112 · 05/08/2015 08:47

My DH snores like a train when he's drunk which atm really pisses me off. But I'm not against a violent elbowing in the ribs and a form foot kicking him put of bed and into the spare room!

philippa88 · 05/08/2015 10:55

Haha love all the drunk coping mechanisms! My oh has been really good so far and hasn't drank much at all, in my opinion it's quite selfish to drink when I'm sober/not allowed! It's not that he's awful drunk, it's that he tries to act sober which annoys me more! Plus with it being a daytime thing, he should be home for like 7, but it's not like we can go out and do anything cos he'll be hammered!
We've got our gender scan on the Saturday morning so that will be good, just a shame we won't do anything to celebrate as he's going out! I guess it's once in a blue moon, just crappy timing!
Claire - I really hope things settle for you xx

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 11:12

Kazz - i quite often leave OH downstairs, his drunken habit is to fall asleep in random places!

I once caught him asleep, standing up having a wee and rocking - it went everywhere!!!! Needless to say, i wasn't clearing that bathroom up!!!!!

x

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Kazz2112 · 05/08/2015 12:16

lol. my OH has a habit of drunkenly standing up in the middle if the night and staggering about on the spot at the side of the bed. when I ask what he's doing he's like 'I need a wee. I'm. going for a wee'. He the proceeds to stand there rocking until I turn the light on and he ends up sprinting to the loo! Lol! Men really are a nightmare!

littleb84 · 05/08/2015 13:16

hi everyone....i have randomly found these threads this morning and have been reading as much as I can from them! I have been in the trial (but still TTC) since May. I wish I had found you all sooner!!

Background on me - 3xMC, one naturally at 6 weeks, other 2 found at 11 weeks but growth had stopped around 8 weeks (D&C for both). last MC December last year.

I've previously caught 1st month on all 3, but this time around i'm now on month 4 with nothing to show for it. Had my 3 month appointment a few weeks ago and i've been told i have until beginning Oct to catch as they are stopping as of then. Talk about pressure!! I feel really crap about it. Out of the 4 months I've had 1 positive ovulation test, but AF as regular as clockwork. Doc has offered to do blood test on Friday to see if I have ovulated and if not they will take it from there and it may be that I'm better off out of the trial and in fertility centre. Since my 1st MC i have also had very light & short AF and so he now also wants to scan me next month to check the thickness of the lining of my uterus as this could be an issue.

I am now counting down the days until I can start preg tests (even though no positive ovulation yet i've been told to test from 7 days before AF). All this testing is not helping my anxiety levels!!

Anyway...lovely to meet you all, and congratulations to everyone who has had success so far. You really fill me with hope and positivity that one day all this will really have been worth it.

clairemorgan81 · 05/08/2015 14:21

hello and welcome little. sorry you find yourself here and sorry for your losses.

hope you find lots of support here Smile xx

Kazz2112 · 05/08/2015 14:48

Hi littleb and welcome to the thread. It sounds like you are getting some good support and your doctors are really looking into things for you which is good.

I just got my bfp last Friday..should've had 3 month appointment today. Now feeling absolutely terrified and wishing the days away!

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 15:09

Hi Little - sorry for your losses... I have been on the trial since the beginning of June and have been TTC since our last mc in March.

The ladies here are amazing! Great for advice, general convo and silliness!

Smile

x

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 15:18

PS. That October deadline is a bitch isn't it??? Claire and I are up against that too - so we can xall be hopeful together Smile...

Sounds like your doc is good.

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Choccywoccydodah · 05/08/2015 15:39

Welcome Little. So sorry about your losses :( And yes the deadline is not helping things at all!!
Quite a few have been successful on the trial so we are currently hoping and praying the August and September give us some fantastic news and all of us are preggo by then!!

Vicki, that wee story made me laugh!

I have my own wee story from this morning but it's really a bit tmi Grin

Choccywoccydodah · 05/08/2015 15:42

Choccywoccydodah 8 m/c pregnant due 24th Oct 2015
Sizethree 3 m/c pregnant due 5th Nov 2015
Indiedog 4 m/c pregnant due 2nd Dec 2015
MAS7 pregnant due 10th Dec 2015
LouiseM1987 3 m/c pregnant due 4th Jan 2016
Philippa88 4 m/c pregnant due Jan 2016
Joy2713 6 m/c pregnant with twins due Jan 2016
Marchgirl 5 m/c pregnant due 22nd March 2016
Brummiemum87 4 m/c pregnant
Genwah85 pregnant
Kazz2112 3 m/c pregnant
Clairemorgan81 3 m/c
Vicki272 3 m/c
Littleb84 3 m/c

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Vicki272 · 05/08/2015 15:58

Go on with the wee story Choccy!! i think we are all waaaaaaaay past TMI lol!! Smile x

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clairemorgan81 · 05/08/2015 16:02

advice please ladies.....what would you do? quick recap I've had all nhs testing following my 3 mcs. have now been referred to gynae for brown spotting prior to af and to look at why I'm not conceiving. would you go to Coventry for unk tests before gynae app? I ance spoken to Coventry and based on timing I would be able to go early Sept my gynae app is 8 Sept. my worry is if gynae then arrange any tests which I can't ttc before having I will be wasting the 3 months which are meant to be optimum following the uterine scrape? does that make sense?
if I dont go sept and wait it will be nov as we go away at right time for Coventry in oct. just dont know whats best?x

Marchgirl · 05/08/2015 16:11

Sorry I've been awol all. My sis and family are here so been galloping round doing the museum and some street shows on the royal mile today. Thanks for the new thread and welcome little.

claire, i would agree that your spotting would not be considered the end of your LP, it would be at full flow af, but it's definitely a worry just not knowing why it's happening. Big hug x