TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Tori, it's CD1 here too... solidarity!

Hi all, thanks ToriB34 and thesmallbear for directing me over here. So sorry for everyone's losses, awful that there are so many of us here, but glad to have the support.

Has been exactly one week since my ERPC, just waiting to get a BFN so we can start TTC... By the way - assume there's no way my body will fire up and ovulate before then?

Considering listing POAS as a special interest on my CV at this point. ??

Trying to stay positive but having a sad day today. Hard to explain to people. Going back to work on Mon after 10 days off, since the 12 week scan where we found out. Dreading it...

Welcome to all the newbies, sorry you're here too. It's a lovely support though :).

Having a wobble. Been off facebook for about a month now, just logged back in as I've felt fine lately - not one but two birth announcements and a 12 week scan pic. Urgh. I was doing well, but I can feel myself slipping back again.

I'm cd 16 and we've DTD every other day since cd 11. I just feel so powerless, even if I do manage a BFP this month it's no guarantee that it'll lead to a baby. I just hate this, I think I'm getting ill hence the self indulgent pity party :- /. Hopefully I'll snap out of it soon.

Still resisting the OPKs, if I start to get ov. symptoms next week then I may give in, otherwise I'm assuming I've got it right. I can't turn back into the poas crazy lady like last month!

Sorry to everyone whose AF came :(

Keep going to everyone around cd16! We can do this..

Definitely have a glass of wine or two treacle, it won't do any harm at this point and sometimes relaxing and living life as normal is the best thing to do.

clara so sorry for your loss and that you're having a sad day! that's the healthiest way to deal with things though so just indulge yourself. I hope work isn't as bad as you're thinking. I know some 'normality' has helped me even though I thought it wouldn't. Sending hugs.

I know exactly what you mean Treacle I'm only two dpo but still feeling a little guilty about this glass of cider. Logic tells me it's not an issue though.

I'm sure my other half has AF - he turns into a nightmare! Nothing is right! In other news has anyone found their weight in the WTF cycle is all over the place?! Mine has fluctuated by as much as a stone in the last week - bizarre!

Welcome to the new members. So sorry that you are here but like others have said it's an incredibly supportive place with people who understand what you're going through.

Not Much going on for me, on CD25 of my 2nd WTF cycle. I ovulated on day 28 last time so hoping for similar and lots of DTD over the next few days.

I bumped into an old work colleague today, in catching up I mentioned getting married and new job. She said what a great year I'm having, I didn't feel I could say that actually no it wasn't and that I've had 2 miscarriages. Why is it such a taboo?

I also had really sad news today. A friend passed away after a 2 year battle with cancer. She leaves behind her 2 DD's (aged 17 and 4). She was only 39. A real fighter and an amazing person. Give your loved ones a hug tonight, life is so precious and we never know how short life can be.

Allthefours I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend, how terribly sad. Life is so very precious, I think I'm guilty if wallowing a bit too much and not appreciating everything I have. I'll say a prayer for her and her family, those poor children. A real tragedy, it's certainly put my niggles into perspective.

Thinking of you too.

Allthefours I'm so sorry to hear about your friend - cancer is a horrible, horrible thing. You're right - lived ones do need an extra cuddle this evening. Puts lots of things into perspective.

Loved ones! Stupid auto correct!

Allthefours sorry for the loss of your friend. Boozle I agree about the perspective.

I've been having a bit of a battle with myself today. DH and DS are away at DH's mum's this weekend and I was imagining the "aren't we due another grandchild" kind of comments she'll be making to him. He's incredibly good at handling that kind of thing but I really feel pressure from her. But then again I feel a lot of pressure from myself. I really feel like I should be pregnant now. Which is stupid. And now that I've had two mcs I feel like I'm at the entrance to a scary unknown cave of fertility problems. Even worse I know that none of these thoughts are helpful and that they're detrimental. Argh!

Hopefully tomorrow I'll wake up and be back to my "it's just very bad luck that I've had two mc and all will be well so long as we just keep shagging" self.

Clara so sorry for your loss. Hugs for when your return to work.

Hello my lovely ladies,
Been away on holiday so thought i'd take a break from mn too. Think I ovulated yesterday so back in the dreaded tww. Any BFP's?!
Will read back properly now, but just want to say I'm sorry Allthefours for the loss of your friend, how terribly sad.

Sorry there seem to be so many new faces here. I've found so much support here. You ladies really are an inspiration. MC is utterly shite, yet we battle on through, with the goal in mind.

By the way, the soy isoflavones appear to have brought my ov forward by a week - CD 16 as opposed to CD23!! Hooray! FF should hopefully confirm this with temps on monday morning.

English I was wondering where you'd been! Good to see you back (iykwim..)
I have taken isoflavones this month too. I'm still curious to see what the effect might be. Promised my acupuncturist not to do opks etc, so 'just' temping. This has to be a good month for a few of us: I swear half my friends are June babies, so September is clearly the time to get upduffed.
allthefours how terrible about your friend. I will get out of bed right after posting this and give my little one a big, loving cuddle. You're so right, we really don't know what life has in store. I hope you're ok. We are here. I'm sending you a lot of warmth and love x

Welcome maGrat and Clara sorry for your loss. maGrat I remember seeing you on the may an thread, I was also there until my mc a week ago. I can't bring myself to wait so we have decided to dtd eod even though the chances this month are slim as I have no idea what is going on with my cycle.

allthefours I am so sorry for your loss, that poor family, it really does put it all in perspective doesn't it. I can't imagine how you are feeling right now but we are all here to listen.

So sorry about your friend allthefours, how terrible.

english what days did you take the soy and at what dose? I think I might try it next month as I've only just got a +opk again at CD20 this cycle, fed up with the long wait! Fx it works it's magic for you. I'm hoping for a bit of Sod's law, if I got upduffed this month I'd be due pretty much on DD's birthday!

So sorry about your friend allthefours and her poor, poor children. Hugs to you too.

I am willing myself to feel sick this time as I didn't really in my pregnancies that didn't work out. Nor with dd much but I felt nauseous. Can't remember when that started though. So far my only symptoms are vivid dreams and a ratty temper. Poor dd. She isn't very obedient at all. This has never really bothered me before. I just thought it was typical three year old behaviour but since nursery keep mentioning it in a critical way I have found myself getting really angry with her.

Lurker hope you feel those symptoms soon. My niece is 3 and is most definitely not obedient but still lovely. I think they can be quite difficult at 3, especially if they sense something is up. Not sure why your nursery would be critical, that seems pretty unproductive.

Sorry there are new faces here, but welcome. I hope your stay isn't long xx

I broke my rule of not testing early and tested this morning at 12dpo, AF due tomorrow....I'm pregnant.

More excited than I thought I'd be, but still scared. I had miscarriage at 8+5 at the start of July so these next few weeks are going to go really really slowly.

Morning all, just checking in. I have been reading on and off but just not had much positive in the way to contribute. Head a bit blank if I'm honest, just trying to get through days at work and focus on that.

Such sad news about your friend fours, hope her family are good support for each other.

If be interested to her about soy too english. Hope you had a good hol!!

wiggly - hopefully it won't come to having to go to a fertility clinic but, if it does, at least there you get some answers. The time it takes is annoying but you get a reason this has happened to you and hopefully a solution!

Got on the scales yesterday after avoiding for two weeks - turns out I have been treating myself a little too well so now I'm even more depressed! Must not comfort self with biscuits!

Cross posted mrs, congratulations! Obviously you will be terrified but keep positive - you are pregnant! Will you get to docs soon to get any additional support they can offer? Fingers crossed for a perfect pregnancy this time!