TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

One good thing about mc is that my house has never been so clean! I've done an all nighter polishing in general avoidance of what the hell's going on. How's everyone doing?

I was the same Boozle, it made me feel lots better at the time - something to focus on!

Urgh just peed on an HTP - BFN. It doesn't matter how prepared I am for seeing that it's harder every time . It might be early but I'd say Tuesday is the very latest and it's FR so very sensitive, probably unlikely to change.

Come on AF, show up so I can move on from this WTF .

Boozle my house is the same! I only work two days but took them off this week (mc on sunday) and kids were at nursery. I went on a cleaning rampage.

My DH is an an obgyn doc at our hospital, so it's a bit strange for both of us. He has a big exam Tues so is very supportive but very focused on that.

Please add me, age 37, TTC#2 19 months, 2 mc @ 8 weeks

Currently waiting for first AF after ERPC at end of June. Feeling very low.

Oh my god ladies, I've only just had chance to catch up and find the new thread. Fuck. I'm so so sorry dulcet allthefours boozle. What an absolute crappy run of bad news. Sorry if I've missed anyone else who's had such awful news too this week. I really don't know what to say ladies. One MC is heartbreaking but to go in to have another is just utterly shit. I really am thinking of each and every one of you xxx

I'm still lurking here if that's okay as I'm convinced I'll be back in the club due to my distinct lack of symptoms and extreme paranoia.

OneDay, 27, TTC #1, MMC 10 weeks June 2014, BFP August 2014 awaiting 8 wk reassurance scan 14th Sept

As expected, BFN for me today. So that's it, I won't even be pregnant on my previous due date. This ttc malarkey can just fuck the fuck off.

Metalhead same here with the BFN. It's utterly shit isn't it, I think I feel worse now than I thought I would. I feel like crap (symptoms wise too) and knowing there is no actual reasons for that means it's all in my head, which is shit too.

Welcome Saltyseabird, sorry to have you here but nice to meet you :).

So, I just realised if things had panned out I wouldn't have been going back to school next week. Maybe that's why I've been throwing myself into everything work related to avoid the fact that if I hadn't MC'd I would have been looking after a baby instead. So, I'm not going in today. I'm going to tidy the house instead and then go out with my mum.

It really sucks Blink. At least if you tested early and have symptoms there might still be a glimmer of hope for you? I already knew the result really as my boobs are completely deflated and not the least bit sore (I often have sore boobs even when not pregnant, but I've never been pregnant and not had any soreness).

Off for a run now to get rid of some of the frustration and then to the shops to buy wine for tonight!

I thought I might join

Stats : 41, ttcing no 2 for 3 1/2 years, 4 miscarriages, Oct 2012 at8 weeks, may 2013 at 6 weeks, iui followed by miscarriage at 12 weeks sept 2013, ivf followed by miscarriage at 7 weeks may 2014.

I've given up hope.

Same here, I've taken up ironing...everything I wash.
I'm in such a weird limbo. Nothing changes just odd bleeding when I go to the loo.
And strong positive tests...oh to go back to the days when I thought a strong test meant everything was alright!

I think I was just hoping rather than basing it on anything concrete Metalhead. I've had none of the usual pregnancy symptoms apart from constant cramping but that hasn't gone away since my mc last month. No, I know I'm out I just need to get my head round it. Urgh. We just need AF now so we can move the hell on out of this fucking cycle! Good luck to both of us. I like the wine idea but not the running :).

Marmalade I hope you're ok. I know what you mean about the positive test, I can't believe how much things have changed. I miss the days of being naive and nonchalant about conceiving, it was so easy with my DS and now it's like this impossible achievement.

If any of you productive ladies want another house to concentrate on please let me know, I have a shit tip you can crack on with!

Called my clinic yesterday to say that I was fairly certain I was MCing following pregnancy on clomid. They said to take a test this morning and if it's still positive I might need blood test just to make sure levels are going down. And it's positive. FFS. Just dragging everything out. I could tell DH was trying to be hopeful because it was positive but I just can't see it being good news with the amount of bleeding. That's hard for him to understand though.

Oh Dulcet , my heart goes out to you. Our men are sweet (mostly!) but they really don't get it, do they? Wishing you good luck today with the bloods and keeping you in my thoughts xx

I'm back to work on Monday too. Exactly 2 weeks after my ERPC. I know I'm well enough, despite being very very tired still but I'm still worried about getting upset.

I'm also being naughty and started trying again before AF comes not because we are trying for a baby but more for the comfort of being together.

We've got 2 holidays coming up plus a house move so we are going to not worry about opk's for the moment and just enjoy each other. Then if nothing happens we 'll go back to using opk's. They are great and they work but I found they put DP under dreadful pressure to perform and he struggled with it. Can't put him through that at the moment

Sorry you're still in limbo dulcet and marmalade. I hope you get some answers one way or another soon.

I've booked myself a private ultrasound in three weeks time to hopefully find out if the erpc has left me with any scarring and if this is why I've not conceived yet, as I suspect. I'll also try and get the ball rolling for initial blood test with my GP next week. Onwards and upwards!

Ditching the opks sounds like a good plan Brummie. If you're anything like me you'll probably know by now when your fertile window is anyway...

Welcome tassel, I'm sorry for your losses. Maybe some of the stories on here will give you new hope!

I totally get that dulcet

Thanks metalhead

Sounds good to have a plan metal, hope your GP listens.

It's a heart breaker isn't it marmalade? My positive today was stronger than in Monday but I know that doesn't mean much.

Turns out I won't have blood test. They said test again next Friday and then we will see...

So much sad news! Big hugs all round x
I had a very wobbly day yesterday, mixture of being back in work and being around pregnant bellies. I think. It just seems so unfair.
Feeling a little more positive today, keeping everything crossed that there's better times ahead!

Oh Dulcet, that's terrible but that happened to me the first time. If it wasn't for the very nice nurse who had just come back from maternity leave doing a blood test anyway out of sympathy I would of had test again in two weeks.
I think sometimes it's such an everyday occurrence for the gp/EPU that they become blasé about it and forget it's happening to someone with feelings and an emotional attachment to a potential person. Plus it doesn't really help that there is nothing they can do so early but there is certainly a distinct lack of help and advice in those first few weeks mw doesn't want to know you and no one seems to care.

It frustrates me how much epu experience varies - mine were brilliant I have to say - much better than GP.
I've been inspired by all this talk of cleaning and I'm on the case. Our house has pretty much been a tip since the MMC - a variety of reasons. But I'm taking control. Just been to Argos and bought lots of storage stuff. And just had a delivery of OPK and IC from Amazon. I can be a grown up too.

My DH was working nights on my due date - so I went round my mum's and we had curry. Look after yourself.