TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Congratulations Mrs! I understand exactly how you feel. Am trying not to imagine a baby at all at this stage to manage my expectations but it is so hard. My eyes keep being drawn to the baby names threads and I have already worked out when I would be due and having the summer off with dd. This is after three mcs. Why do we do this to ourselves eh? But the alternative seems to be to imagine doom around every corner which isn't much fun either.

Hugs Dulcet. Don't be hars on yourself. Biscuits are doctor's orders after what you have been through.

Congratulations MrsBee that is fantastic news. Of course it is scary but there is no reason why this one shouldn't work out. Fingers crossed for a sticky one.

Sorry you are feeling low Dulcet it is tough when you feel like you are in limbo but hopefully we will all have positive news soon.

Congrats mrsbee. That line is quite possibly the scariest line in the world! Fingers crossed for an uneventful pregnancy. So pleased for you.

Thank you all for your kind words about my friend. It will be a tough time for her DD's but she will be remembered for all the good she did and the positivity she had. She did the race for life this year and her team of runners raised £12,000. Quite an achievement. She was determined to be here for next years race but sadly wasn't to be. Since she was diagnosed she raise over £20k for cancer research.

Big hugs Dulcet totally understand how your feeling.

allthefours your sad news really puts my worries into perspective, thinking of her family x

Congratulations mrsbee fx for a sticky bean.

Hope everyone else is doing ok xx

English welcome back :), hope all is well with you. That's great news about the isoflavones :).

metalhead have my fingers crossed for some Sod's law for you!

Congratulations mrsbee, great news! Fx for a sticky one!

Congrats mrs that's brilliant news. You are pregnant - dont feel bad for being excited!

Welcome back english good news about ov - come on swimmers!

allthefours I'm so sorry about your friend. Her poor family. It really does put it all in perspective. Cancer is a hateful disease.

I came across this article yesterday. It basically says the idea women are more fertile after miscarriage is a myth based on no scientific fact. Which is helpful as I think we fee under enormous pressure to mSke the most of thus supposed window. But I particularly liked this fact: a study of a LARGE sample of healthy women found that 95% will go on to have a succesful pregnancy within two years of a miscarriage.

I don't like the thought of two years much but I found it comforting. If not when ladies. X

www.nytimes.com/2008/10/14/health/14real.html?_r=0

Sorry - when not if!!!! Must stop multitasking.

Congratulations MrsBee! Wishing you the most boring, straight forward pregnancy ever!
Metal and Dulcet - I took the Soy days 2-6. Started on 120mg cd2 &3, 160mg cd4&5 and 200mg cd6. After a huge temp spike yesterday, it bloody dropped again this morning so now not sure if I did actually ov despite the positive OPK. We'll see.
Going to contact an acupuncturist the Greysar recommended and see how that helps too.

I've also gained weight since the last mc - back on the fitness plan as of today. I've downloaded a Bikini Body Training Guide from an Instagram sensation called Kayla Itsines. Bloody hard but hopefully it'll do the trick!

That's a useful article Monten, I think there is so much pressure immediately after a mc because of the common belief that fertility is higher. My own dr said to me that it was true! So in the wtf cycle there is this pressure to conceive again, I felt like a bit of a failure when it didn't happen straight after and that there must be an issue. I'm onto my second cycle now and I'm trying to put it to the back of my mind for now. It's good to know that there is no scientific reason that fertility should be higher and that taking a few cycles might actually be normal after all.

Two years seems ages, but at least it's a timeframe! I like that :).

Welcome back English, keep us posted on differences on the Soy cycle? Really intrigued! And ooh, if you tell acupuncture lady that I sent you her way, I think I might get a half price session...

Monten, thanks for that article- helps me feel like less of a failure that, 8 months after mc, I'm STILL not bloody pregnant!

Welcome to newbies- sorry you're here, hope you can find some support with us.

Congrats MrsBee!

Congrats MrsBee! :)

I'm so unsure if ive ovulated. FF says so but my temps are crazy.

Whoop whoop MrsBee that's awesome, awesome news! Enjoy today, that's all you can do!
Mine looked a bit like that in my last cycle before I got pg with the most recent one Treacle and I had ov'd. It was blooming confusing though! Between us I reckon we could set up an advisory service and make a fortune!
I'm not trying to do anything with this WTF cycle - haven't even been tempted, it'd be grand when it's over though!

That's interesting boozle, it's just crazy! Definitely need to set up an advisory service haha.
I really hope this is our month. We're both struggling now.

Hi all. Not checked in for a bit so need to check up on the previous posts since I was last here. Hope everyone is ok and feeling as well as you can be. Hugs to those who need them, high fives to those who've had good news - bfps or pos opks.

I'm on cd 5. Feeling positive about this month. We are going to get very much into the ttc frame of mind and dtd as much as poss this cycle. I'd love to get upduffed any time of course but if it's this cycle, I worked out my 12 week scan that I'd be dreading from the second that second line appears would be the week before/10days before Christmas. My mind is already whirring over leaving pics of my womb on the place settings on the Christmas Day lunch table as an additional little gift to my folks, sister and grandad, all of whom were so devastated about our mc earlier this year. Ah wouldn't it be ace, girls?!?!

Oh broody, i know what you mean. My 12 week scan this month would be around my mom's bday. I'd love to be able to give her some good news.

Hi Ladies,

Wiggly I'm so sorry to hear that you have had another loss. I remember you from the April AN bus - especially as your name made me smile! I'm also having accupuncture from someone who specialises in fertility - she can't percribe herbs but I could see someone who does later on as they won't prescribe herbs till 3cycles after a MC. I've had two sessions so far and am finding it interesting - even if it just makes me feel relaxed and that I'm doing something to help but body get over the MC and be ready to conceive. My Mum works in a gynae clinc and spoke to a consultant who specialises in fertility for the NHS and a private hospital. He said that he reccomendeds accupuncture as it works well for some people. I also figure I will have a clear enough outcome (for me more regular cycles) that would suggest it could be helping me.

Sorry you're also here Clara and Magrat. It's so tough but this thread is a lifeline and people here are so lovely.

Mrs seeing your lovely strong BFP really made me smile . Lovely news - many congrats and .

All the fours so very sorry for the loss of your friend. There is an amazing charity called winstons wish that works with bereaved children and young people. They also have advice for friends and family who want to help but are just not sure how to or who worry about what to say. I'm not saying you're in that group, but just in case you found them useful their website is worth a look.

Love and chocolate truffles to all. It would have been 12 weeks on Tues for me... and will now instead be CD28 in the wtf cycle. Crazily I almost want AF to appear (I don't think we DTD enough this month to conceive) so that at least my body getting back to normal feels like a positive outcome for a crappy day.

That could be it sunbathing, got my fingers crossed anyway :)

broody I am so with you! I'm on cd9 and about to commence the dtd and would really love a bfp so could share the news at Christmas (providing I get that far this time). DH and I have not really been able to time things since mc, so waiting until around cd11/12 to start dtd eod. Fingers crossed this is our month xx

Congrats MrsBeeBeeBee glad that a couple of us have good news now and fingers massively crossed for a sticky bean!

Tori - sorry to hear about your cold. Paracetamol is OK to take in pregnancy so get some down you rather than suffering

I have period type pains today and It's not ovulation because I got a positive OPK on Wednesday (and I've never had ovulation pains before anyway) and it's way too early for AF. What the hell is it!? Could it be something digestive do you think? I suppose digestive issues are around the same area. Strange!