TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Oh laure, don't put yourself through it. The strength of the line isn't always an indicator or anything (I say as if I'm not doing the exact same thing! Every morning - all in a line on my window sill trying to see if the line is getting lighter!) what's the next step for you - another blood test or wait for scan?

blink, do you every get the Internet cheapies? The money the real tests cost is annoyingly high but at least with the cheapies you can know you are peeing on pennies rather than pounds and only invest in the proper ones when you suspect it might be worth it.

More blood tomorrow is the next step. As long as it's still going up ill get to see the mw.

Back to school tomorrow I can't be bothered. Edd was oct, so crap! not looking forward to this year.

Oh hope ...there are so many of us here on the same boat. It sucks! I want to scream at the unfairness of it.
Hang in there. I'm sure we will eventually all make it to the other side.

I DIDN'T pee on a single stick or into a single pot today. Definitely getting more ics though...

Still cramping... No blood though I'm hoping it's because I'm a bit constipated.

Hi all, well the miscarriage is definitely happening. Kind of ok I'm not sure yet.
The doctor at the hospital suggested a recurrent miscarriage clinic appointment so that's the next step for me.
Going to call GP tomorrow for a referral.
I'm buying clothes and make up and my house looks a tip.
School tomorrow-shit!

Marmalade so sorry this is happening. Take care of yourself

Good luck to all the teachers going back tomorrow.

I'm so sorry to hear that Marmalade.

AF finally arrived, and so I had to spend 2 hours in pain at a kids' party finding out about two other mums from DD's nursery being pregnant. Just great.

Oh marmalade I'm so sorry. Hugs xx

Oh marmalade :( I'm so sorry. Do you have to go to work tomorrow?
Don't if you don't feel up to it.

Sorry af arrived metalhead :(

Sorry marmalade, sucks big time. Again, hope you get some answers from clinic and pleased they have sent you that way to get checked out.

Boo to AF for you metal too. And on a day at a kids party too - she really is a witch.

We've not had a great week, have we? And it's Monday tomorrow...

Oh dear oh dear oh dear... Marmalade I am SO sorry, what a bloody nightmare. I am sending hugs as well as and copious amounts of . I am so sorry you are going through this. As Treacle says: do you have to go into work tomorrow? I know different people work in different ways and I was personally very grateful (at the time) for the distraction provided by work between the first lot of bad news at the 12 week scan and the actual TFMR, so I get that you might want to go in. Bloody hell - life is such a bitch. I used to believe in karma and everything being balanced and well in life and my lucky star. Now I am just not sure. Just know that we are thinking of you.

Metal I am sorry that you had to listen to two women announcing their pregnancies just as you were suffering with AF - again, life is such a bitch!

As for me...well, I think it's fair to say I have had a pretty awful weekend. Just sad, not done anything positive or constructive and mostly been not very nice to dh until today when I kicked myself in the butt, looked at myself in the mirror and told myself that there were still so many things in my life I should be grateful for. And there are - my gorgeous dd and dh. But then I suddenly think: gosh, even if we managed to conceive before Christmas, there would almost be a FOUR year gap between her and her siblings! I wish I could just go back in time and give my career-obsessed self a good slap this time last year. But I can't. Life is the way it is and hopefully some good will come out of it.

Thinking of all of you having a hard time and sending warm hugs and jugs of wine all round x

Sorry Marmalade, so sad :(
I agree you shouldn't go into work tomorrow, just be honest, they'll understand. Get some rest xx

Hope all of you going back to work tomorrow don't find it too tough. I don't go back until Friday, the perks of being my own boss x

Good luck to all the teachers back at work today.
We can do it!!! X

So sorry Marmalade - it's totally shit and crappy. Look after you though, work will still be there when you get back.

I went back to school last week (I'm the office manager of a special school) and worked through the miscarriage because I felt guilty. I had the last week of term off for the last one and felt so guilty that I couldn't bring myself to take time off. My own stupidity though, I'm sure they are all a bit suspect of what's been going on judging by the amount of times I had to go to the loo. But it's the whole taboo of miscarriage, it's like a deep secret never to be shared for fear of lack of understanding and insensitivity because no one knows what to say.

DH and I have agreed to try one last time, time is not on our side, I'm 40, have PCOS and having really long cycles. I guess my miscarriages are due to my age and if things don't pan out a third time (lucky), I don't think I can cope. So, whilst my head says wait for my first AF my heart says don't wait. I conceived during the WTF cycle following my first MC but was that the wrong thing to do? Did that contribute to my second MC?

So would you wait for AF or think sod it, let's go for it? It may all be academic and not happen straight away either!

Have a good Monday everyone. Hope we all have a much better week.

Morning ladies,

Sorry for all the sadness . Marmalade - take some time off work if you need it, so sorry you're going through all this again. It really is shit.

I think AF is very imminent, bit crampy and lower back ache. 12 dpo so I think she'll definitely arrive tomorrow. Sorry she got you too Metal

Alltehfours - Plenty of women go on to have babies at 40 and beyond, I know it must feel a huge struggle and a scary thought when we all know that mc can strike more than once. But I really hope you get your longed for baby, it'll all be worth it in the end. It won't take away from the pain of previous mc's but imagine how loved that little one will be. Go for it.. and fx this one last shot really is third time lucky for you.

Hope those of you who are going back to school today manage to get through it without too many problems. Will be thinking of you. May this week be full of positivity

How is everyone getting on today. Was my first day back at work after my. 2 weeks sick leave. Was in floods of tears by 8.30am when I had to hand over my sick form saying miscarriage. But work have been great. Took a deep breath and have just thrown myself into speaking to my clients who are totally oblivious.
Feel so sad though

Well done on getting through today Brummie, and glad your work have been understanding.

I've just come back from my GP and he's agreed to run some initial blood tests as we've been ttc for six months now since my mmc. Even though I'm pretty sure the tests will all be fine and show that I'm ovulating, I'm feeling quite relieved that I got the ball rolling with the investigations. (And it means we won't have to fork out nearly £700 for a private fertility assessment!)

Afternoon ladies.

I've been lurking on this board for a few days, and finally bucked up the courage to write a message. Feel a bit like I'm standing up at an AA meeting (not that I'm in AA or need to be IRL) to say...

"Hi, I'm phryn, I'm 32 and I've just had a miscarriage". Then I just want to cry and possibly throw stuff.

I miscarried last week on Wed/Thurs. I was somewhere between 6 and 8 weeks pregnant (I have long cycles so it's hard to tell dates). It happened naturally (although that's another word that makes me want to throw stuff right now) and the EPU confirmed that my body had passed everything. I've nearly stopped bleeding. About to enter the WTF cycle - the name of which I think is brilliant.

DH is being great, family and the friends who know are being lovely. Aiming to go back to work this week, and have a hen do this weekend that might be tough (especially as some pregnant friends are likely to be there).

This situation sucks so very very much though. My heart just hurts you know. I'd like to wake up one morning and for it to not be the first thought on my mind. I know it's such early days and I should treat myself gently, but it's very tough. Seeing my DH in such pain is hard too. I know it's not my fault, it's not anyone's fault - but I wish I could make it all go away or wake up and discover this has been a bad dream.

Sorry to read about other's having a tough time too. Thinking of you and wishing better for us all in the future.

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Phryn, 32, TTC#1 since March '14. Miscarried Aug'14 at 6-8 weeks.