TTC after a MC (I'm really rubbish at thread titles sorry)

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

I hope its ok to post here, I have been trying to conceive for around 2yrs, I have endo which makes it harder. May 6th I had surgery due to an ectopic pregnancy then exactly 3 months later 6th aug I had a chemical mc. I am now after normally knowing a bit confused at my opk as I am not sure where I have ovulated

Oh Dulcet waiting is just horrendous. Sending you many hugs

Welcome to the group Emms nobody wants to be here but these ladies are lifesavers

If I post a pic of my opk's can someone see if they can tell me when it looks like I have ov'd as it looks confusing this month

Thank you, its strange as I normally always ov between cd13 and cd15 so of I did ov on the cd22 that is very late for me which means my normal 28/29 day cycle is going to be about a 35 day cycle :(

Me and oh have dtd all days except 5 since Af finished on the 10th aug

Hi all.
Just checking in and will read back in a bit :)

Hi treacle :).

I don't think I've ever had pmt symptoms as bad as this before, I'm awful. Everything hurts, my boobs are massive and I'm absolutely shattered. Definitely not pregnancy symptoms, bfn today on FR so about as accurate as I can get. Urgh.

Welcome 0798emms, sounds like you are covered for most days! Good luck :).

Right going to get properly dressed today - proper clothes and make up (woo hoo get me) and enjoy dinner with DP and another couple. Going to drink Prosecco and nice red wine and try and forget about the heartbreak for a few hours.

I've even painted my nails - is amazing what can you do when not at work. That said I'd rather be at work and still pregnant but there you go.

Hey ladies, I've been awol for a few weeks as was on holiday in an internet black hole. Just catching up.

I am so, so sorry to those of you who are MCing again, or in limbo with threatened MC. It is utterly shit and unfair and devastating. I really hope the support here helps even if it feels like the rest of the world has no idea what this is like xx

And hugs for those with bfns. It sucks and sometimes the disappointment is overwhelming.

I might be about to add to the bad news myself. I got a bfp while I was away and am now 6+3. This was my fifth cycle post-mmc and I was very surprised as had given up hope of it happening anytime soon. It was my third cycle of doing smep, temping and opks and I was bloody knackered! But the last few days I've had some pink spotting - more like pink tinged CM. I've had some cramps too. I'm now in the EPU waiting room... This is basically what happened in my last pregnancy: this type of spotting at around this time; had a scan, saw the HB; positive follow up scan two weeks later with strong HB; then couple of weeks after that more bleeding and a scan where the HB had gone. So even if it's not over yet, this just feels like déjà vu and a horrible sense of inevitability, even if this scan is ok. I am extremely grateful to be pg again, but I just can't believe it's going to end well.

Anyway, big hugs to you all and let's hope for some posifrickintivity for us all

Jetpackplease, 33, TTC #1since Dec '13, MMC at 13 weeks Mar '14.

I have nothing to actually say but I can't cry right now in RL so I just came to post here because I didn't really know what else to do.
I think DH is fed up with me moaning too.

jetpack hang in there!
Crossing everything for you.
EPU is a funny old place, hope, fear and the inevitable hospital smell

Oh jet, how horrible. I hope you are wrong and it's is not the beginning of the end. You must be terrified.

marmalade - you ok love? You can cry in here.

Hi jet I can only imagine how you ease feeling at the moment, keeping everything crossed for you.

I have a question...I had my erpc on the 19th august and on the 26th I was still testing positive however today my pregnancy test showed negative. I also just tested if I was ovulating and I got a smiley face. Is this a true result or is it just because my hormones are over the place after the mc?

Thanks so much, ladies. Good news for now, in that bean was in the right place and I saw the HB. The doctor kept saying congratulations but I just kept thinking how far there is to go before I'll really feel as though I can believe in this pregnancy. But, I am hugely thankful for the chance to try again, and so it's just one day at a time.

Marmalade you can let it all out on here, we know how shitty and lonely these feelings are.

Fergie it's hard to tell about ov during the wtf cycle. I didn't use opks during that month as any residual HCG can distort the results. I guess it could be genuine, so DTD if you feel up to it? I know lots of ladies on here have said that they had positive opks multiple times during the wtf cycle but it can just be your body gearing up for ov but not actually doing it. Don't put too much pressure on yourself but maybe DTD regularly until AF/BFP or until you get fed up of it! I find temping is the only way to be sure that I have ov'd.

We're moving house tomorrow so lots of packing still to be done, so better crack on.

Hi girls, I was on this thread, well on then off then on then off etc, for nearly a year.

So sorry it's been a tough time for people here. MC is lonely and shit.

Just for a spot of good news, I am now 13+3 and everything is going really well (can't quite believe it, keep expecting everything to go wrong!). After 5 MCs and at the age of 42, it is proper amazing.

I hope I can inspire some hopefulness here, but I hope you don't have to experience 5 MCs before getting a sticky!

Am crossing fingers x

Amazing news Tanny - massive congratulations! I was wondering how you are getting on. Hope the rest of the pg is uneventful and that having your baby in your arms makes all the horrible times fade away. X

Jetpack - hang in the love. I'm keeping everything crossed you have a little fighter in there.
Tanny - I'm SO happy for you, I know you've been through so much to get for this point. Your news has really made me feel more hopeful. Wishing you all the luck in the world for a happy, healthy and straight forward few months ahead
Big hugs to everyone else who is having a wobble or feeling teary. I promise you all it does get a teeny bit easier every day that passes.

Congrats Tanny - lovely to hear good news and that it can happen.

To make my week even more worse, whilst waiting for the hospital car park this afternoon, to visit the GAU for blood test which will confirm my miscarriage, some idiot decided to drive into the back of my car. My beautiful mini that I've had just 2 months. He said sorry, he was distracted and had other things in his mind, his MIL had just died. Still upset by my own circumstance I just yelled at him, I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm here because I've lost my baby. It's not an excuse to drive like an idiot. Emotions are still very high.
Anyway, EPU will hopefully call tomorrow to give me the result which should confirm a drop in HCG levels. The bleeding has slowed down today, lost some pretty impressive clots and the pain this time compared to my MMC was far more even though it's earlier.

Trying to distract myself, I've carried on working throughout this week despite the pain and bleeding, how I've coped I don't know. Although I was up at 4am sobbing and unable to sleep. :0( DH and I went for dinner last night at the place we got married, somewhere with lots of happy memories. This MC would have been due on our first wedding anniversary - that will be tough next year.

Hope those in the same position as myself are OK, and big hugs to all.

Oh Allthefours, I'm so sorry, everything happens at once doesn't it. The worst I had was at school when they presented (with no warning despite people knowing) a paternity leave present to some one. What made it worse is I know that he cheats on his partner and does drugs and she smokes - which made it feel so unfair. I may have mumbled an excuse and left quickly and raged in the ladies loo. Fortunately, our cover supervisor knows so was quickly there for a hug.
Lovely to see some good news on here - let's hope we all get good news of some kind on this version of the thread.

Thanks jet I'm not going to stress about what my body is doing as I know it doesn't help. Just going to have fun dtd.

Tanny you give us all hope!!

AllThefours my heart goes out to you for the hell your going through but you sound like an amazingly strong woman. Take care x

tanny, I'm sooooo happy for you sweet. You went through such an horrific time and now you are on your way to being a mummy!! So thrilled for you. Please pop by to say hi again, it'd be lovely to hear of your bean flourishing and then popping out in a wonderfully quick and easy birth. Much love and many hugs xxx

Good news for you too jet Congrats!! Good luck with the house move and please be careful with the lifting - I'm obvs not pg but well overdid the pushing, pulling, puffing, panting thing when we moved two weeks ago! How exciting that you'll be welcoming your new baby into your new house xx