Feisty Fabulous Forty somethings - part 3

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As you were ladies

Hi all....Quick post....will catch up later.
Diege scan at 08.45 Thurs am then work,sorry, you ve got all day to wait....
Hi TTT br....wish it was sunny here in "wintery" West Yorks.As i say scan this Thurs i ll be 12+6 weeks Fingers crossed.

Hi everyone lots of love XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Hi my turn for a helicopter seat this time will squeeze in next to TTT... Have been known to be just a bit air sick in the past .... In good company though we can take a big jug of gravy with us and pass it around as we bounce through the turbulence ... Should distract us all nicely . Seriously though have fingers crossed for you both.

I'm going away tomorrow (our Thursday) for a few days, so won't get to see scan results til I get back - so I hope it all goes well for you both.

I don't know if I will be ttc this cycle. DH and I haven't discussed it again and I kind of feel it is up to him to bring it up if he has a change of heart, mainly because he knows exactly what I want and unless he changes his mind I don't think anything I say will make a difference. I'm really torn - I could probably use my imagination and manage to get a few stray spermies in the right place at the right time, but I'm not sure if I can do it. More than anything I want him to be on the same page, or at least close to it.But then again, he did say November, so I suppose there is some room for negotiation.

We went to a friend's place last night for dinner. They have a 9 week old baby boy.He is gorgeous - very relaxed and chubby. When we got there he started crying and my DH picked him up and cuddled him for ages. It was so bittersweet. SO lovely to see him like that, but I felt so cheated that I'm not 27 weeks pregnant and looking forward to our baby in 3 months time. I still hope I'll be pregnant when my due date comes around.I think it might help me get through it.

I've got a million things to do before we go away, so must dash. Can't wait to hear the good news from your scans.

Diege all the best for the scn.

lou hope it all goes well. I will be in the copter!

Gum sorry you are feeling down, hope the trip is fun and you can get your zest and zing back.

Yes, Diege I do feel rejuvinated! God can do that! I also feel very happy that my dear grumpy old DH is not totally off the idea of adopting. I am actually amazed that he is still considering it. When we were looking into it before I was quite negative as I was not ready. Now I look at two year olds and think 'that could be me' - I mean with the child!

Did anyone buy (or attempt to buy) any tickets to the London Olympics?

Morning! Gum have a wonderful break; you truly deserve it. It can see how difficult it must be to muster up any enthusiasm for ttc-ing when you have a reluctant dh. Having said that, unless he's happy to avoid all 'action' as it were for the whole month, I'd be tempted to dtd when at least there's a chance of something happening. Has he mentioned ttc-ing at all? Maybe the cuddle with friend's baby might have triggered something?
Isaboo urghhh gravy....I have in my mind now a congealed, skin-covered gravy boat of it, churning around as the copter takes off.
Lou great to get the scan out of the way nice and early! 3.30 appt sucks - plus from what she said there are about 3 of us 'tripled up' for that slot due to all of the bank holidays...(since when did bhs affect hospitals? ). On paper I will be 12 + 2, but if I carry on dates-wise from 10 week scan I would also expect to be showing as 12 + 6. Not sure which I should expect? Is 12 weeks less accurate than 10 weeks in terms of days ?
Italian hopefully I may be able to help a bit if you do go down the adption route (questions-wise I mean! Ds is hard work but..). My sister has just completed a successful adoption and work-wise I work on and off with a team of assessors in the social work team, so know what they like to see. I'm sure you are far more clued up than most though, but just shout if there's anything you need to know x Oh and no tickets here - just too pricey for us inc. travel etc. I would have loved to have seen the gymnastics (I was in the Welsh National Squad reserves as a 16 yr old - one of life's 'also rans' )
TTT many thanks for your kind words about the scan. I am by life a worrier, though people are surprised when I admit this as I do put a good 'front' on. I don't for scans or anything health-related though and could hardly bring myself to get on the scanning table for the last one!
At home again today. Must get some well-overdue housework done, and try and throw those students who are e-mailing me with dissertation drafts off the scent as I am on annual leave!

Hi. I've just had a bfpppp!!! Well very faint but it is cd 33 and my boobs have been tingling. I can't believe it the one month when we hardly swi and I've even been drinking this Easter wknd thinking should I oh well and now how bad do I feel but great too!!
Can't share it with anyone yet as dh is i'n work. We haven't been getting on too great at the moment, hardly talking.

Anyway the kids are keeping me busy. Fingers crossed from now on.

shandy wow many congratulations!!!! I'm so pleased for you - how many months had you been trying?

morning ladies, haven't been on for a few days so just catching up with what's happening, welcome to coconut and congratulations to shandy!

hubby is now 'back in the saddle' as he's finished his course of tablets so doing some serious swi-ing this week lol

off to Turkey on friday for a last minute break - hubby has just found out today he's got his job and daughter has got her place at Uni - now i just need to get a BFP and all is well :-)

Shandy congratulations. super news. [cgrin]

Oh Tina fab, it is all working out. [cwink]

Diege is your DS adopted? Just curious. Yes, like to think I am clued up but guess I am possibly not!

Hippy where are you? [cgrin]

Sounds like things are looking up for you TIna, great stuff.
Italian, no ds not adopted, but my sister's ds is . I was making a feeble joke about ds (with his recent tantruming) being 'available' for adoption
Dh is in a foul mood - he always seems to be when we're off together... Anyway, have sent him off to Dominoes with an order for a large tuna and sweetcorn pizza for myself. Let's hope a/ he gets it right and b/I don't et to see it again later!

Thanks all. I need to be cautious due to early stage but thank you. My first Bfp since we've been trying, Feb 10. But I have to say since I had been noticing and charting according to Dr Toni and you Mumsnetters' info, I was head in the sand type before, this last month was the first time I've seen any ewbfm. I've not noticed or maybe not had enough before hence our problems maybe.

Congratulations shandy! Excellent news Tina about your Dh's job and dd uni, will keep fingers crossed aas well as everything else for a BFP for you. Lou and Diege please keep us posted re your scan's. It's great to hear good news. Gum (((((((()))))))) enjoy your break. Mmmmm thought hippy was back late Monday from IOW. Italian in spite of your issues (mean that in the nicest possible way) you always sound so positive, buoyant even. Please share as I could do with some of it rubbing off onto me...... Waves hello to everyone else.

Curley Thanks for saying I am positive, buoyant (I do float in water too!) and asking why. I am a Christian. Not a weird-do cult type thing or anything. I went to an Anglican (C of E) church for most of the past 28 years (became a Christian at 18). My faith and relationship with Jesus is very, very, important to me and helps me to see the good things in life. Even though I struggle so much with all the suffering in the world and it does not always seem easy to find an answer, I feel good most of the time.
Curley I would also like to say I am a generally cheerful and positive person but I am not sure my nearest and dearest in real life would agree with that! I tend to like to answer questions, try and solve others? problems and look on the bright side. Which probably makes me come across 'well' here and makes me 'hell' to live with in real life. Thanks for saying something so nice about me. Feel free to PM me or ask here if you wish to ask anything.... oh and I am also very blessed/lucky to have a lovely hubby, fantastic (if wilful) daughter, healthy (if fat) body and a home, friends and a part-time job (and hamster) which are all lovely.

All the best. [cgrin]

BB where are you?

Hello ladies - I think I have caught up with all the gossip (Hippy rubs head to relieve headache bought on by trying to speed read all your gossip).

Congrats to shandy - fab news. As you say early days so wont go on about it, just take it one day at a time lovie.

All the very best to lou and diege for those all important scans this week.

Had a fab break and we are ALL desperate to move now - even the grumpy pre-teen had a smile on his face. Loads of preggo women on the island - something in the water maybe (or just the one randy man going around impregnating every woman he sees [chmm])

Unfortuately my endo en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Endometriosis was really played me up on holiday. Every period I have it gets worse and I wonder what's going on inside me. I really need to get a coil back in me soon to stop the cycles.

Lots of big decisions are being made in my head right now. I almost managed to talk myself out of TTC and told DH last night that I thought I was ready to give up. He said he wants to give it just a bit longer [cshock]. Before I was always the driving force in this. I wont go into details about why I am thinking of giving up as I don't want to bring anyone else down or put the dampners on things for others. Anyway, I have a doctors appointment for next week to ask for clomide (thought I'd just give it one last push so I can know in my heart that I tried my best) but if she says no to clomide then i might stop soon.

Love to all. What is everyone doing for the wedding? Me - possibly watching from a pub garden with friends and their kids and drinking pimms (that's the mums not the kids!)

ps. tina really pleased to see that hubbies job and daughters uni worked out. As you say - just the one tiny last thing to go.....

Hello Hippy good to see you back Great too that you heart is super-set now on the IOW. FWIW I would definitiely try the clomid and take tings from there. You've come too far to give up now.
Feeling vaguely human now sickness-wise so just hope it's on the wane for real after last week's false stop!

Diege think i ve got your "sickness" now felt very nauseaus on and off all week....very nearly chucked on the shuttle bus this a.m urh.... Good luck X
Tina yeh great!!!!!!!!!! stuff is coming good for you.2 good things don t these things come in 3's???? Have a lovely holiday.
Gum have a lovely holiday chill out and enjoy XXX
Hippy glad you had a good time in IOW,apart from the endometrosis.Understand where you re coming from :with regards to having to make a decision re:ttc.Hope,hope,hope you get your Clomid.With regards to the royal wedding we re off to Stratford upon Avon for a weekend away so won t see much of it , not that i m bothered but would just like to see Kate's dress!!!!!

Hi Curly hope you re ok?
Hi Italian glad to hear you re feeling upbeat You re right sometimes we all need to take a look at everything we ve got and be grateful....Loosing Georgie taught me that.
Shandy congrats.
Isaboo there's a seat up here in the copter with me!!!!

Hi to all , I m fine , of course will be better when it's 09.30 tomorrow1!!! Work busy and interesting, lots going on.Will check in as soon as i can tomorrow but i m at work to 7 ish so may be late.
Love to all XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Lou if you want to see Kate's dress take a butchers at this lot. Yummy. It is fun.

[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/1193440-Kates-wedding-dress]

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/1193440-Kates-wedding-dress

Not sure if I mentioned before but DH and I had a counselling session at Spring Harvest and I feel so much lighter, I can let it all go. If I never have another baby so be it. I also know now that DH is on board about adoption if that will be the option. Did I mention that before?

Love this song - I may need to 'let it go'...

Hopefully only a few more weeks to go.

Just a quick one - will have to get everyone out of bed soon and get the last bits of packing to do. It's so easy to go away when there's just me, getting the family anywhere is a bit more involved...

Congratulations Shandy - so pleased for you.

Deige, I was hoping that the cuddle with the baby might have had an effect on DH, but when I asked him if he liked it, he said, yes, but it was nice to pass the baby on when it got unsettled. Feel like I'm banging my head on brick wall - making no fricking progress at all.It's frustrating. But I know I just have to let. it. go.[cangry]

And breathe...

I hope this little break away will be nice for all of us and maybe cheer me up a bit. I'm actually trying really hard to be cheerful and loving and grateful, but it seems to require a lot of energy!

Someone said to me that I ought to be grateful for the five kids I have rather than focusing on the one I didn't have - and I agree - but wanting one more doesn't mean I don't love and appreciate what I have. It's hard to let go of the ideal I have had in my head and heart for a long time.

Hippy, I'm sorry to hear your endo is playing up.That must be awful.I hope you get the clomid and your little baby soon. You have a great attitude towards this ttc thing, I hope I come to a place of peace like you have.

Italian - It's always so nice to have your positive way of looking at life on here.It really helps.I'm smiling as I type this.

As for the Royal Wedding - I really want to watch, but it's on a Friday night here, and DH wants to go out to dinner whilst we are in the city...I'm sure I'll sneak a peak at some point. It's all about the dress, bridesmaids, flowers etc for me. Such fun.[cwink]

I'll be back in a few days to catch up.

Love you girls![csmile]

Have a good trip Hopeful.

just lost a massive post so to cut through the waffle ...

Shandy well done but I know you must be anxious take care and take it one day at a time

Gum have a lovely break and your DH needs to understand giving up TTC has to be as much a joint decision as starting to TTC in the first place I think

Hippy you're back I can understand the need to hang up your vest but like you say it needs to be without regrets IOW sounds like it will happen and on the basis i am hanging all my hopes of getting upduffed this month on the magic of moving house ( DH currently in Boston USA and its CD12 so it will take magic I think ![chmm]) maybe that will be what does it ...along with the aura of the most fertile man in the world living on the IOW of course.

Lou and Deige will be with you tomorrow although i am not sure Deige should be going for it in the pizza department tonight ...should I sit next to Deige and her pizza or Lou who is now also sicky ? will just wear my waterproof sailing trousers and get on with it I suppose ....

Italian you sound great any news in the egg donor department ?

Morning! Good luck Lou (who will be having her scan any minute now if they are on time!). Hope your sickness was justb a one-off x
isaboo I think I'll be safe to sick next to, although I do feel a bit nauseaus. The pizza actually went down quite well yesterday, but have vowed to 'go healthy' from today, and have lots of healthy goodies arriving in the Ocado van later .
Gum I think you are doing the absolute max to convince dh, but don't forget he didn't say no carte blanche to ttc, and that must be soemthing to hold on to?
Italian I have to admit I am not a Royalist, and was tempted to buy one of The Guardian's 'anti-royal wedding' T-shirts. I liked the one which says 'Smash the Monarchy' on the front abd then, in smaller letters underneath, 'But let's have a look at that lovely dress first'. Sort of sums up my feelings - think they should go, but I'm looking forward to seeing the dress
Very bad night's sleep, so anxious about the scan. Had two dreams (one based at FMC, the other my NHS hosp, with scary results) and have been awake since 4.30. I am a nutter and must accept it, but I will be sooo glad when it's over. Trust me, you won't want to be anywhere near me when it's time for the 20 week one!
Hope everyone's ok - nice and sunny here!