Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 11)

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A safe place for everyone on the TTC after MC rollercoaster. Welcome and come in - virtual wine and chocolate for all, and lots of support and hand-holding until you get your BFP!

The thread moves fast but don't let that put you off - feel free to come along and stay to chat; or dip in and out with any questions.

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WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread!

YRMOTB sorry about the bfn but it's not over yet, especially if temps are still up and no af!! Try again tomorrow with fmu, and if you get up in the night to pee after about 4am just poas then??

Mp I'll hold you hand too, might not feel much this early as carpol tunnel has started very early. Plus after what mw said I might get a digi one.

YRM still looking promising as no af and elevated temps, FX it was just because not fmu!

my temps dropped this morning still well over coverline but a definate drop I now feel like I have PMT but not sure if its like someone said about mood being correlated with waking temp? Hope so! 9DPO here

Is this how you link??

morning ladies.

yrmotb sorry about the bfn. like izzy said maybe try again tomorrow or tues with fmu is still no af.

loola sorry about temp. i don't know anything realy about how the temping works, i know it goes up at ov but that's about it.

aandr glad oz is going well.

hope you're all ok. have a fab sunday everyone.

yrmotb but it ain't over until the 'ole red witch arrives, and the temps sound good. I refuse to give up hope for you yet. What kind of test did you use? - it might just not have been quite sensitive enough. Test again in a couple of days... I still have everything crossed for you (although I'll probably have to uncross some of it briefly tomorrow if the embies go back in!)

yrmothb sorry babe. it's def not over though I was certain on fri night but bloody test said negative yesterday so went and got the expensive one! If you really think you could be I would say splash a tenner on the digital one and re-test... my instincts were proved right! fx crossed toots... Also on a purely selfish front I bloomin well want you here with me!

Thanks wiggle jiggle cep Lady HK and AR
Im already mentalling, I swear all my symptoms have vanished! Ugggggh this is gonna be a long journey to the 12 week mark

morning izzy cep loola and anyone else around this morning

Well done mamap what a week eh?? I bet you're definitely not sleeping with all the excitement now!

YRMOTB sorry about BFN here's hoping for it just being too soon

Don't expect any POAS action before the end of the week from me, I am a bit scarred from last month and dont need the stress of a BFN or worse a BFP one day followed by a BFN the next, although I waited until I was 18dpo last month so not sure how long I'll wait this time.... I dreamed about holding my babies last night, really hope this is a good sign that I will be preg soon rather than my body's latest torture mechanism.... Fingers crossed my twinnie mamap and I will stay on the same life track!!

Hope you're all having nice Sundays! Xxxx

hi all,

i'm currently having a (m)mc, but want to start ttc again as soon as possible...i've convinced myself i'll be ok with it, but probably won't...!

good luck everyone - it's so nice to know you're in the same boat as so many other people

positive thoughts xxx

YRMOTB argh, that's a right headf*%k isn't it. Definitely hoping it's just slightly too soon to test.

Welcome Natalie & so sorry you've had to join us - this lot are very supportive and utterly lovely, just dip in and out as you need to.

Dachs fingers crossed for tomorrow!

Hi Natalie sorry you are here and for your loss, I hope your stay will be short

yrmotb how annoying - I reckon it's just too early! I also have diaorrhea and vomiting so I hope it's a symptom.

mamap did you find a house? You must be bursting with excitement after your week!

I dreamed about dachs embies last night! They all grew into healthy babies in the lab!

Have a good Sunday everyone

Morning

Some very promising looking temps and charts from yrmotb and velvet this morning! Fingers crossed, ladies. If it's any help, last time I was pg, I didn't test positive until 6 days after AF was due.

Loola - sorry about the temp drop, I guess it depends if you temped early or late this morning, as it has it recorded as an open circle. If an early low temp, I would ignore it, and yes, there's a still a possibility that your chart could be triphasic... but you will receive hearty

I've always (which is only twice) got a BFP on the day AF should have come but that might be due to first response. DH has now gone off and we're all alone let the party begin

Yrm. Stay with it, Tis not over yet! Xx
Velvet did your Af not arrive then lovely, must have missed that!

Mama the mentalling is hideous, take each day at a time and keep checking your Knicks! I still go out with an always ultra in the bag just in case! Figure if I stop it will tempt fate! You've only got another 7 weeks and 6 days to get there... Be there a bit sooner also as you have a slightly shorter cycle if that makes sense! Stay focused and positive Altho it's decking impossible!!

I have been really teary all week have no clue why, overtired I expect!

Waves to all xx

Fecking not decking

Morning lovelies,

As predicted, the old witch arrived this morning so I'm out again this month After an emotional week I'm feeling surprisingly ok about it though and have that strange sense of optimism that a new cycle brings.

I think part of the positivity may be because I've decided to take things into my own hands a little and am going to try and see my GP tom to run some tests (things have been different this last couple of months -cramping and spotting all way through lp for one, limited cm etc) I'm also registering with a fertility clinic as there is a 4-6 week waiting list just for a consultation. I never dreamed it would come to this and I thought that, given I fell pg easily twice before that it would happen again but, as I mentioned earlier, I turn 38 next month (same day as dd turns 2, we share a birthday!) so I feel like I need to know if everything is working ok, how my eggs are looking etc and if there is anything I am deficient in/ can be doing to improve my chances etc.

My fingers are still crossed for all of you close to poas this week and I'm still doing a merry jig for Mama after yesterday's news!!

Good look tomorrow, Dachs ,sends burrowing vibes, pineapple juice and brazil nuts>

Welcome Natalie I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you have someone to look after you over the next few weeks and that your stay on here is short but sweet x

I'll try and do list later, but if anyone manages it beforehand pls can you put me on CD1.

Apologies for random commas all over shop in prev post! Can't even blame iPhone today!

Sorry, being rude, welcome Natalie. Sorry you are going through an mmc, I had one in May so I know how you feel.

nix I had a bright red bleed whilst dtd the other day so assumed it was AF but have had nothing since!

Sorry you are out wiggle but glad you have a plan of positive action.

Emoo I'm trying not to keep checking my chart coz it really is lovely isn't it? Don't want to get myself excited tho. FF says AF is due tomorrow so we'll see what happens this week.

I'm soooo hungry but still feel really sick :(

Pink do you think you will test next weekend? I'm gonna try and hold out til then too who am i kidding ?

Does anyone mind if I have a rant this morning? I am feeling a bit low. Spent the day with my Dad yesterday which was lovely but it made me realise that I just can't talk about my SIL being pg at all (I was due around the same time as her - July). My Dad studiously avoided the topic but then mentioned something about her maternity leave and I literally couldn't speak for a minute then had to change the subject. Then I went out with some old friends last night and one of them ordered a coke when she arrived and I thought if she tells me she's pg I'm just going to fall apart (she's not).

I feel like my whole life is up in the air again and I can't seem to find the right balance between being optimistic about trying again, realistic that it might not happen at least for a while and terrified of going through all this sadness again.

My Mum died in October and I was already so full of grief I feel as though all this on top might be too much for me to bear. I don't know whether this is just a bad day or whether I've just been coping on the surface for the last couple of weeks.

Sorry for the miserable post. Like others have said I feel as though I'm expected to get back to normal and I can't seem to tell anyone except you guys that I don't know how.

(((( hadrian ))))) sorry you're having a hard time, and I'm so so sorry you lost your mum All of that combined with the mmc must be so tough. No wonder you're finding things hard. Feel free to rant on here as much as you want here - do you have anyone to talk to about it all in RL? Hope you're ok x

velvet and YRMOTB - can you post links to your charts so I can join in the stalking?

wiggle sorry you are out I'm glad you seem ok about it, I think it helps to have a plan; makes you feel like you're doing something positive to help x

Just for you Izz
my chart

hadrian sorry you are feeling so low. Losing mum and bean must be really tough. As Izz says, rant away on here. I had a bit of a meltdown nov/dec time too so it really does come in waves. You will get through this but as you say, I don't know how either! Just take one day at a time.

Hadrian rant away, my dear - Izzy is quite right! This is exactly the right place for it. My SIL is about 6 months prg right now and when I first found out I cried for hours and refused to discuss it with my (very over-excited) parents for months because I knew it would make me cry again. It's so hard to deal with that alone, and you've obviously got enough grief on your plate already with losing your Mum so recently. You'd have to be superhuman not to feel wobbly about all of this. It WILL get better, but it seems from most of the people in here it can be a long road & there are a lot of ups and downs along the way.

Have you talked to your GP about counselling? Sometimes that can really help as it gives you a RL person to talk to who isn't too close to the situation. Massive hugs coming in your direction

velvet hungry but sicky? Now you're taunting us . Chart looks exciting!

Nicks and MamaP yeah, I'm also still checking knickers/travelling with the always ultra in the bag. Have gone from sicky to ravenous in the last few days; either it's all gone tits up or according to plan, who knows? Am trying to be positive. Gah.

Oooh velvet that looks really promising!!! >

Thank you for the squishes, that feels better already!

owl I'm so relieved to hear you felt the same about your SIL - I really don't want to see her at the moment and it makes me feel like such a horrible person but I don't think I can bear it. How do you feel about it now? Does it get easier?

izzy I have my DH and best friend to talk to and also my Aunt who has had two MCs. So I'm not alone but it's such a personal grief that I still feel lonely at times especially with Mum gone. Maybe counselling would be good.

velvet I don't understand the way of the chart but have had a look anyway. Is that lovely upward slope a good sign?

Thanks for the support, it really helps x