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Just MC and ready to try again?  Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing!  All welcome! (Part 11)

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IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 15/01/2011 14:38

A safe place for everyone on the TTC after MC rollercoaster. Welcome and come in - virtual wine and chocolate for all, and lots of support and hand-holding until you get your BFP!

The thread moves fast but don't let that put you off - feel free to come along and stay to chat; or dip in and out with any questions.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread!

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Emoo · 26/01/2011 21:42

Sorry, was so fixated with catching up, I forgot to say how I was!! I think my chart says it all... waiting for AF to turn up, most likely tomorrow, although I have had the odd longer LP. Cannot make sense of today's temp, as Emoochick had a bad dream at about 5 am and I had to get up to settle her. I have little pangs of hope, alternating with little AF-like crampy pangs down below..

lily06 · 26/01/2011 21:51

Mouse that's ridiculous - there's no way you should be at work on Monday unless you want to go in. As others have already said, you should be able to get a note from the hospital or your GP - and perhaps send it in with a note of your own, surely they understand you're going through enough with out their pressure on top? (((hugs)))

Wombat good luck for tomorrow, fx.

MummyA thanks for the grapefruit juice tip, sounds more palatable than cough syrup too! Pleased to hear your news today too - sounds like your specialist is great.

mousebacon · 26/01/2011 22:00

Thank you for that mummya Smile

I am a teacher (primary) with a tlr and I think they're hinting I won't be able to keep my tlr if I don't come and get on with the jobs that need doing. It's been so stressful at work recently and that's not going to go away Sad

xx

mousebacon · 26/01/2011 22:01

Thanks lily xx

DachshundsWantPuppies · 26/01/2011 22:02

wombie Good luck tomorrow :)

mouse sorry to see you back sweetie Nothing I can say that the others haven't already said but we're all thinking of you. Tell boss to f off!

owlbooty · 26/01/2011 22:03

Mouse so very sorry to hear what's happened - massive hugs coming your way :( I would have thought at least a week off, maybe more if you need it. Only you know what you need and nobody should think they can tell you otherwise. Hope you're getting the support and care you deserve x

Wombat chin up my lovely - got everything crossed for a good result tomorrow. Random brown cm seems to be pretty much the norm around here; terrifying though it is. Hopefully the scan will give you some reassurance. x

MummyAbroad · 26/01/2011 22:10

Hi mouse please send them the leaflet then, its says quite clearly that penalising someone for a pregnancy related issue is sex descrimination and therefore illegal and it quotes the relevant laws in England and Wales.

"Time off for
pregnancy-related illness cannot be
included in claculations related to
disciplinary action or used as
grounds for dismissal."

that includes demoting you from your current position. If they do that, you can sue and would win.

MummyAbroad · 26/01/2011 22:13

WE NEED A NEW THREAD LADIES!!!1 Who wants to start it?

Emoo · 26/01/2011 22:16

Should be one of the people who feels they have been here too long? If anyone's about, that is?

Velvetcu · 26/01/2011 22:17

I'm not starting it - mine would be the unluckiest thread ever!

Mamapower · 26/01/2011 22:36

Velvet I think you should start it, new thread, new positivity go on... Grin

mouse honey, I am gutted for you, so very very sorry xxxx

lady I can't remember if I left a message for you Confused Anyway, great news on the scan, keep it up babybee Grin

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 26/01/2011 22:43

I was just about to say the same - velvet must be your turn, go and start us a new thread!!! Grin

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Ladybee · 26/01/2011 22:44

wombat I really hope that your scan goes well tomorrow. My symptoms still come and go a lot, yesterday had hardly anything, today woke up feeling completely normal but had a huge wave of nausea AFTER the scan.

Jaffa do go and have a nosey, the ladies on that thread are really up on the testing side of things, and there are some good success stories there, very supportive. There are, apparently, some things that only show up when tested using particular machines or techniques. Anyway, I hope this doesn't sound like I hope you have some mystery ailment, good luck in the meantime.

dachs completely understand why you don't want to count on this yet. There's a lot riding on it. I really hope these next few days just have a bit of cramping and brown spotting and nothing more scary than that.

eggy so sorry, that's so disappointing when you've been trying for a bit. The stress about age-gaps is difficult but I think one of the things I found after having 2 MCs last year was just eventually having to let go of my picture of an ideal family gap/plan. Got very annoyed one night at the whole concept of 'family planning', which makes it seem like we have control over when we have our children. We have some control over when we DON'T have children but the rest does seem to be pretty random.

YRMOTB huge squeeze for you lady. The early days are soooooo rubbish in the cycle, and definitely harder when trying to cope with difficult behaviour at home too. And this was one hell of a fall, horrible when there's every pointer that you should've had a BFP and it doesn't come.

Chloe perhaps you're channeling pink in your dream? She said the word 'Notepad' in her post. Strange how things get into the subconscious but not surprising given this is such an important topic for our brains to deal with.

Hi Terrys there's only so many threads I can spread my wibbling around - my cycles went back to normal after WTF, if anything maybe my ov moved 1 day back for the first couple and then came forward 1 day. I'm on medication to help regulate cycles though, not sure if that makes a difference.

cep back sounds horrible. Can you see anyone about it? Massage therapist or something? Don't feel horrible about your friend, I think everyone of us has experienced something similar with friends or SILs etc. It doesn't make you horrible, just is a difficult emotion, being glad for her but sad for you.

Wiggle that LH/FSH ratio looks like PCOS ratio. I don't think the numbers themselves are terrible but normally they'd be about the same as each other. But I think you're right to look at thyroid first - there's a thyroid conception thread - or was..hang on ...here. It's probably worth trying to sort out any thyroid issues if there are any, as that could have knock-on effects on other hormone systems. Maybe worth having a read?

Lastly, mousebacon so very sorry to hear your news. Definitely don't go back to work too early, take as much time as you need and go to GP for notes. You won't be doing yourself any favours rushing back. So, so sorry.

hadrian · 26/01/2011 22:50

mouse I am so, so sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. Hope you are doing OK - all you have to do is survive each day. You must put yourself first. My wonderful GP offered to sign me off for a month after my MC. She said that's it's a major physical and emotional trauma that takes time and proper rest and care to recover from. Look after yourself - you will get through this xxx

hadrian · 26/01/2011 22:58

Very quickly before the new thread starts...great news mummya...there's no stopping you now! Delighted to hear that all is well with baby bee...fear not wombat all will be well ...and yes terrys we are Christmas MC buddies! You, me and jiggle in fact. No sign of AF for me yet Sad

Velvetcu · 26/01/2011 23:05

Someone else can start one - maybe the oracle needs to continue starting them! I'm on my phone now so can't do it anyway. I'll do the next one if noone else wants to

KnitterNotTwitter · 26/01/2011 23:37

mouse I know exactly how you feel - I was you 10 months ago. I had an ectopic pregnancy in March, got pregnant again straight away but lost that one at 12 weeks - apparently it stopped growing at about 8/9 weeks. It's so shit.

FWIW I went back to work 1 week after my ERPC and now know that I should have taken longer. I'm currently having counselling and am off sick while I get myself together again - I had a total wibble about 3 weeks ago. I think that I should have had at least 2 weeks off. Just because you feel physically fine doesn't mean you are. You need to be as feisty as you can with your boss and say that time off now will mean that when you do return you are 100%, rather than returning too early and having to have time off to do the 'repair job' later. Also remind her that you've not only had surgery but you've lost a baby with all the ensuing hopes and dreams. Physically and Emotionally hideous.

All the best. Be kind to yourself and don't let anyone bully you. Ask all the questions and fight to get the best answer anyone can give you. Don't be afraid to cry and cry and cry. And remember that you have just been unlucky (((hugs)))

KnitterNotTwitter · 26/01/2011 23:38

Seeing as I'm up I'll do the new thread.... Then it'll be there all nice and shiny for people tomorrow morning :)

Link coming in a moment...

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 26/01/2011 23:43

((( knitter ))) sorry you're having a hard time. Maybe you'll get lucky on the new thread? X

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KnitterNotTwitter · 26/01/2011 23:44

Here is the link to the nice new thread:

here

See y'all there soon....

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 26/01/2011 23:46
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MummyAbroad · 26/01/2011 23:48

Yay! thought I was going to have to break tradition and do it twice then!

Night Night

Emoo · 26/01/2011 23:52

What unopened bottles of bubbly??! Hic!

KnitterNotTwitter · 26/01/2011 23:53

Thanks Izzy has been a rubbish few months actually - hence not posting here as much as I used to... I needed to take the magnifying glass off the ups and downs of TTC if that makes sense.

It all came to a head a couple of weeks ago when AF turned up, meaning I wouldn't be pregnant when my due date for the MMC came round.

I felt so adrift and shaky - I thought I was going to have a total break-down to be honest.

Work have been great (slightly surprisingly) and my counsellor has been working me hard so that I've been able to turn all the 'churn' and inner chatter from my head into proper words and sentences which we can then get a handle on and understand.

I have returned to work gradually and part time this week which is going ok so far :)

You may also be interested to know that one of the things the counsellor had me do was write a complaint to my hospital about the care I received when I had my ectopic pregnancy. I've recently received a full apology for each of the f*ck ups - a six page letter! For example they agreed that it was quite unacceptable that having arrived at A&E blue lights in an ambulance with a suspected ruptured ectopic I was triaged as 'yellow' which means I must be seen by a doctor within 1 hr.... it was almost 4 hours later that a doctor inspected me.... And it went on....

Sorry for the long post - I could fill threads and threads of my rambings at the moment - thought I'd offload a little bit as it's the end of the thread...

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 26/01/2011 23:59

((( knitter ))) let's hope the next thread brings you luck x

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