July 2010: Our babes are due! Within the month, they'll all début.

[Chulita]

Thanks to spirael for the title, hopefully we'll all pop before this thread ends!

stac i like the last one too.

sorry just need a self indulgent rant, Lyndon is a fantastic baby and a lot easier than i ever expected but i just am feeling like i cant cope when im alone, im very teary and panic when its just me and him, at my wits end as not sure why i feel like this!! he wouldnt settle tonight and i was crying and crying dh has gone out with his relative before they fly back to oz and he promised he would only be an hour nearly 4 hours ago, baby has been asleep for about an hour but all ive done is cry, grrr not happy with myself for feeling like this hoping it will pass in next day or 2 sorry to go on on here, everytime i cry to peole im not coping they just say yes you are and carry on like i said nothing

memphis its not a self indulgent rant hun. You being anxious and upset is something you need to talk about as it gets it off your chest. The reason people say your coping is due to the fact your doing what needs to be done for lyndon. Hun it could be tiredness or anything, sit down with dh and explain how your feeling so he can help you. I know i've been more anxious since dp went back to work and it could be that x

stac thanks for advice tried talking to dh he doesnt understand really, he thinks it will all be solved if i have a night out, not something i want to do really (he took LO to visit his gran for and hour and i was clock watching til he was home!) i worry as all decisions fall on me now hes back at work.
tsc my pelvic floor was in tatters after i had LO all mw and hv apps i kept asking if it would improve and they said yes and it really has! dont think its 100% but i know i can hold it now if im not near a loo!

Haven't managed to catch up on all the posts (hospital wifi is sooooooo slow!) but just wanted to pop in and announce our good news!

Baby Elisha Beth Gracie was born on July 25th at 10.46am. She was 9lb 11oz and is very beautiful - photos to follow when I get home!

Unfortunately we are still in hospital :-( nights are wearing without DH to help out, but the staff have been brilliant and are really nice. It's been a completely different experience to DS birth and I can't believe I was so nervous about it now!

Will catch up properly soon.

Xxx

congrats gracie lovely name and healthy weight, same as rileigh lol. Hope your well. Cant wait to see pics

memphis have you thought about speaking to hv? Sometimes you just need to talk about yourself. Hope you feel better today

Crap night, rileighs been awake every 2 hours from 2am, she wouldnt take more than 2oz at a time shes been good so wondering whats going on x

Congrats gracie lovely name

memphis I know how you feel, with me though its during the night.
Dylan was awful last night, he had major wind which we finally managed to shift about 12:30 but he didnt sleep in his moses basket at all, I think he slept on me for an hour or so then woke up and was really screechy so I had to take him out the room and rock him and he finally started to feed and that sent him to sleep but I had fallen asleep on the sofa by this point.
I think it was around 5am by this point and I took him back into our room, put him in the moses basket and he immediately starts to cry so hoik him back out and latch him on, falls asleep so I sleep with him laying on my chest.

I feel so tired to the point I feel ill. He isnt feeding for very long at one time and he cant have slept much more than me during the night.
Im getting a bit desperate now, our thermometer says 24 degrees in our room but I still dont know if hes too hot or too cold. Hes just either crying or feeding and I feel I can never put him down as he moans.

congrats gracie hope you get home soon so dp can help at night, lovely name btw
stac only met health visitor once last week and she is coming again on friday then that will be all my visits done i will be signed off, will mention it though as i keep getting palpatations like i did after i gave birth, been thinking about it, ive always been so selfish had no one else to think about and now i have this little baby who needs me im struggling to deal with it i begged dh not to go work but obviously thats not an option.
dh do you think he would settle a bit more if you topped him up with a bottle?

memphis it sounds like i was with ds, its so overwhelming to be in charge of lo's life. Why is hv signing you off? Ours are with you till lo goes to school. Defo mention it to her, she will take you seriously.

dh you must be knackered, could you ignore the housework today and just sleep when dylans sleeping? Or maybe try infacol for his wind? X

Congrats Gracie I am so jealous of you right now!!! Still holding on.

I am getting a few contractions, but they aren't too painful, I can easily manage them and they are intermittent with no regular pattern so...just keep waiting.
I have a sweep next Tuesday and booked in for induction on the 8th of August - that's AGES away!!!!!

DH have you tried swaddling Dylan?? I did this with DD1 and it made the world of difference, she just needed to feel snug and it sounds like that if he cries when you put him down...maybe worth a try?? I did get like you with dd1 and also swapped to mixed feeding, so used to BF druing the day and then make the last night feed formula. She was fine swapping between teet and breast - might be another thing to think about if you still feel rough in a week or so??

memphis - do you have any family who could come round to your house for a couple of hours and just take over to give you a little break to have a long bath/sleep/read a book/paint your nails whatever without being away from lo??

Thanks again everyone for your suggestions, I feel like I only come on here to moan
nowadays! Its so nice to be able to talk to others about it though and get a pretty much immediate response

Wrt to swaddling, I have tried to do that (maybe doing it wrong?) seems to settle him for a while then he ends up kicking it all off and also as I said earlier our room is 24-25 degrees and worried he'll get too hot, Im using a cellular blanket for him.

mlic I think your right about using me for comfort rather than food as he sucks like mad til the letdown then he comes off as if he doesnt want the milk at all and I end up covered in milk! I have got some dummies for him, Im all for them if they work, have been reluctant so far cos as you say I was a bit worried about the dummy/nipple confusion and dont want him refusing to feed from me but yeah we have got breastfeeding well established now so might give them a go if he doesnt settle.

Also just to let you know, hes sleeping beautifully in his moses basket right now so I know he can! He fell asleep on my chest at about 10am, transferred him about half an hour ago so I could have a shower and hes been fine since, whereas at night he would wake within 5 mins.
Im seriously thinking hes got his day and night mixed up.

lol mlic x-posted there, hes asleep in his moses basket now trouble is he protests at night but at least I know he CAN sleep in there.

He more often than not falls asleep whilst feeding though and obv dont want to stop him feeding before hes finished.
God I cant wait til hes reached 6 weeks, this might all be just a little bit easier lol.

congrats gracie! my god she was big! cant wait to see pics x
dh i dont know how your managing on so little sleep hun. all the advise sounds very good though.
memphis def talk to the hv about how your feeling. very annoying though that you are willing to talk about it to people and they're not paying any attention. i feel the same sometimes. people see that your keeping on top of things so they think your managing fine but they done understand at what cost it comes. you need to get some time on your own.even to just have a nap.
i could do with listening to my own advise. im absolutely knackered. my head actually feels dizzy im so tired. i cant sleep with the noise of ellie sleeping and its like my mind just wont shut down cos i never get a minute to myself. had the health nurse this morn and she was concerned for me and said i need to get some help during the day so i get a rest.or to let people help with the housework. but i've kept on top of everything so far which i know im not going to win any medals for and i just feel like i cant let things build up around me and im the type of person who likes doing things myself.
ellie doing brilliant she's up to 10lb already! she said she's thriving. and she has thrush in her mouth so have to go to docs this evening. oh i just feel like i could drop with the tiredness

thanks everyone for the advice i will talk to midwife on friday, good to know im not going mad and nice to feel like some people listen, i sobbed all nightand baby slept so im very tired. SIL wants to pop over to say hello hoping dh will be back from work b4 she gets here Lyndon is sleeping well and i dont want her kids to wake him up and im not in a talkative mood.
Spoke to dh on phone earlier explained everything that he needs to take me seriously he says he now understands, thought that eventhough i was saying i was down as i was coping with lyndon and still look so happy around him he thought i was ok.
wow kk 10lb already!! you need to get some rest though but i know what you mean about not being able to shut down.
dh you could swaddle with a sheet and keep his arms free?
tsc dd2 eating playmobile toothpaste maybe she thought she was cleaning her teeth?

kk neither do I! I try to sleep during the day but its not really the same. I look like a zombie!

memphis yeah I might give that a try if its still really hot tonight. We have a ceiling fan but cant open the windows as we live on a busy junction and traffic is too loud.

Hi all - seems like shattered is the order of the day. Baby d woke every hour and a half last night - obviously because dh was going to work today [pulls hair out]
I should be trying to sleep but I have given up - he is finally sleeping soundly - has been dozing on and off all day but seems to think now is the time for a proper nap.

My bowels are really getting me down - I have worse piles than I left hospital with and haven't had a poo since Thursday night. Have lactolose - started taking that Mon evening. MW said do glycerol suppositories - have tried, but obviously didn't get the dam thing in enough and well just feel more sore for trying. Prunes for dinner I guess.

I feel very fragile - like pmt - its a bit lonely this motherhood lark isn't it. Feel I don't have the energy to face the world yet. I have good support - mum was round today - dd is at mil, mum is going to have dd for a few hours tomorrow, is all good I just don't feel very happy, all out of sorts.

Hey all,

The suggestion of swaddling in a sheet is great, and maybe just in a vest, but would really advise swaddling with arms in if you can, it's the flailing arms that tend to wake themselves!! Maybe try once during one of his day sleeps so that you can keep an eye on him until you are comfortable??

memphis get your SIL to watch Lyndon while you go and have a bath or lie down. I bet she won't mind - especially as she has her own kids, she will remember the feeling!!

KK are you BFing? careful the thrush doesn't transfer

I have had alovely day at the park with DD1, took the advise with a maternity pad, just in case waters broke, but no such luck
had a go on the minature railway though which you have to straddle - nothing like a bumpy ride to get bump no2 on its way!!

wonder sorry to hear your feeling down, looks like all our hormones are all over the place at the mo. Hope you feel better soon, the piles do sound very painful I know what you mean about the giving up with sleeping, sometimes I just feel so exhausted im too tired to sleep!

munchkinland sounds like you had a good day today! Hopefully your LO will make an appearance soon.

Dylan has been an angel all day, hasnt made a fuss at all, gone to sleep in his moses basket every time, currently in there now. I just know he wont keep this up into the night though. No matter what I do with him during the day he's always the same at night. I was going to go for a walk with him in the park earlier but I was too tired (even though I couldnt sleep, typical!)