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July 2010: Still getting bigger, gone are the days when we had a figure

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stac14 · 25/04/2010 15:43

July is getting closer and we're all still gabbing. Feel free to join in

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DesperateHousewife21 · 02/05/2010 11:18

kapars morning! Actually I do feel a bit better today, thanks for asking
DP and I went to the cinema last night to see Iron Man 2 and it was SO LOUD and LO was wriggling all the way through it! Hes also been very active this morning, the more movement I feel throughout the day the better I feel!

Did have a little low moment yesterday though when I was getting impatient with DP cos I wanted to go out and he was watching a video on youtube and he could see I just wanted to go so he got up in a huff and just stormed out, so I stayed in for a few mins to calm down and have a little cry.
Still, apart from that it was fine!

WickedWitchSouthWest · 02/05/2010 11:47

Morning everyone

You'd be amazed at how common depression is. I had untreated PND with my dd and at my booking in I took a deep breath and told the mw everything and we both ended up crying! Anyway, the upshot is that my notes now show that I had PND and the professionalswill be keeping an eye on me! My 2 very good mummy friends are also gonna keep watch coz I am not going through that again. Don't every be ashamed or frightened like I was - regretting your PFB's newborn months is just bloody awful.

Anyway! Had a lovely meal out last night with the faaaaamily, going to mum & dads foor a roast later and they are having dd all afternoon so we can load up the car for the surprise holiday tomorrow!

dh bloody hormones! everything is making cry at the mo. All entirely normal It's the falling over and banging into things constantly that's driving me crackers!

kapars ouch! Hope the chiro can sort you out.

Um, this is tmi but I think I've found a varicose vein..it's er right at the top of my leg but not actually on my fanjo. I'm NOT impressed. I don't think I had this with dd but then I did have a bit of a 70's bush going on so never really paid that much attention! Anyway, it's a bit uncomfortable, do they go away again after pg? Have I made it worse by going to the gym?

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stac14 · 02/05/2010 16:19

lol kk, its a pity we're all so far apart would be lovely to meet in person. Dreams are mad, the other night i was chasing dp as he was having an affair. I got to a house and was ringing the doorbell when i realised i couldnt hear it so kept pressing it. I woke up with me pressing dps arm haha. Hope you get to relax later.

dh it tends to get a bit more tense in the last bit of pregnancy and of course when lo is born as we will be hormonal and tired. Men don't seem to get it. I'm sure like dp and i you's have good days and bad days. It will get sorted, best we can do is to talk to them and explain how we're feeling and why.

kapars i know you don't judge, i had to think about how the anxiety attacks were affecting the baby and what i read wasnt great, such as pre term, low birth rate and stressed to name a few. The anti-d's are one of the safest ones i could take so i had to go for it. Its different for everyone. Hope the chiropracter sorts you out hun

Mmm spireal the baking looks fab, wish we could get them through email lol x

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stac14 · 02/05/2010 18:30

wwsw that must have been awful, your so right dont suffer in silence, its good to have people around that can help you. I dont know bout the varicose vein havent had one either

mlic i dont have a clue what i have gained, haven't weighed myself at all. Sorry to be nosey but why do you need your bp weekly?

Hows everyone else? I feel asleep for a while but the kids came in and woke me up x

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DesperateHousewife21 · 02/05/2010 19:43

Evening all,

With regards to weight gain Ive put on 2 stone since the start! Not hugely impressed with that, especially as everyone keeps saying I dont look like Ive put on weight anywhere except my bump so god knows where its all going!

Havent really done much today, we watched avatar this afternoon which basically took us from lunch til dinner and just had a nice bath so all clean and sparkly waiting for corrie to start

Chulita · 02/05/2010 20:06

Hello everyone!
If anyone's watching a skirt ending on ebay in the next 20 mins, hands off - it's mine
MLIC I've had a couple of those moments recently, especially with DD being up all night, a bit 'when will I ever sleep with 2 little ones' mini panic...but I'll manage, same as you and it'll make us stronger people because of it
I'm not weighing myself, I refuse to. I had a voracious appetite up until about 3 weeks ago so I know I put a lot more on than last time. Since then though I've found food isn't as tasty as it used to be so I'm not eating as much (although DH is a very bad influence!)
I don't know if I had undiagnosed PND with DD but all I know is once DH left for Afghanistan there were times I just wanted to die I was so tired and overwhelmed. It's left me with a real sense of dread for this newborn stage, not helped by my mum saying how much she loves newborns and I keep saying, well great, but I really really don't! If I could pop this one out as a 7 month old and skip the first bit it'd be lovely!
Bank Holiday Monday tomorrow! Hopefully I'll get a lie-in if I can turf DH out of bed first

stac14 · 02/05/2010 20:06

its far better they are monitoring you mlic and you can cope with the two kids, your already a great mam. I take my hat off to you all who are dealing with younger kids whilst pregnant. You will all be great with two kids

dh sounds like a lovely lazy afternoon. I went to the booty this morning, it was crap! When i got home i was totally shattered so i'm in bed lol

Maybe we should adopt mlics pma for the 3rd tri, we were all very positive through the 2nd tri. Maybe if we do we can get through this stage as quickly as the last. What do you think?

Also does anyone want to start the hospital bag list? Adding or removing till we have a good list? X

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WickedWitchSouthWest · 02/05/2010 22:01

PMA, I'm with you ladies

mlic re the weight gain, hmm...I lost a stone in the first 14 weeks. I've put that back on plus another 8lbs. All boobs and bump on me

As for the hospital list, I have my bag in bits in the cot at the mo! I'm reusing my list from having dd, just had to adapt it slightly. Once again, it looks like I'm going for the week. I'm v happy to share but be warned it is MASSIVE and probably a bit specific to me and how my mind works, i.e I haven't put ipod on it, but I know I'll take that with me whereas I've had to specifically list shampoo etc

Jojobil · 03/05/2010 07:52

Hello Girls

I have my friend visiting from Canada for a week. She is with her little 4 months old boy and he is so cute!!! Can't wait for my little one. I hope [fingers crossed emoticon] that he is as chilled out and easy!

I try to be as positive as possible, but have to admit that I do tend to get down too. We are so emotional and have a mixture of hormones! And I am sooo fat! I am like me plus another 3rd of me so can sympathise with most ;)

I hope the sunshine comes back!! Of to the V&A for the quilt exhibition as my friend wants to see it and DH will take DD to the Science museum next door.

Have a good day. xxx

P.S. Spoke to the midwife about the elective stac and it is a case of "convincing" the Head Consultant. The midwife is behind me, I am also seeing GP tomorrow and see what she says.

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stac14 · 03/05/2010 09:41

Morning all, how are you?

Not long woke up Does anyone have days you could sleep the clock round? Its such a gorgeous day so i'm goin to get washing and things done. The kids are going out to play. My sister has been here all weekend and has thankfully just went home lol. We have a 10yr age gap and didnt really live with each other as i stayed with my gran so we're not like proper sisters more like aunt and niece. (wow i am wittering on)

jojo you should be able to convince head cons if you have mw and gp backing. My gp got my notes that was sent from the hospital to them at the time so it may be worth asking him to write a letter stating how bad it was for you. My notes stated i had a tear in my sphincter and a rip at my rectum so think thats defo 4th degree.

I was wondering what happens if you go early? Are you still sectioned?

mlic you are organised, i have no clue what to write lol. I know i want home quick due to ds anddp with me at all times, dont know how feasible it all is with a section. Just washing for me then going for dinner later with friends

wwsw yours sounds like a good list to add or remove items to make it generic to all, if you dont mind posting that would be great.

Does anyone feel as if thier tummy muscles have been doing sit ups? Also when lo kicks bottom of tum you get a sharp pain? I know these arent part of spd as thats my fanjo

Hows everyone else today? X

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DesperateHousewife21 · 03/05/2010 13:15

Hey everyone,

Im in really bad pain at the mo, seems to happen after I eat, even a small amount, its like my stomach is being pushed up against my lungs and is really painful to breathe in.

Im going to call the docs tomorrow and try and get an app for the same day if not Ill get one for Wed. I dont really know what they can do about it but I just want to rule out anything serious.

Its become very sunny here now after starting off with rain, we are going over to my mums later for dinner which will be nice as I wont have to cook

viksam · 03/05/2010 15:49

Hi Ladies,
mylife you are organized arnt u i might have a stab at writing my birth plan after reading what you had included.
stac I have had a few pains quite low, no idea what they are but the worst thing for me is still the under boob horriblness.
Went to brum at the weekend, cought up with family and friends, it was nice, went to Ikea, suprisingly i only spent £38, got a unit that fits deep plastic draws, thought it would be usefull for nappies and such like.
DH hope u get ur appointement, i suppose everything is cramped up inside, i think thats what my under boob thing is about but i will mention it again to the midwife.
Hope everyone else is ok xxx

beckyg123 · 03/05/2010 18:25

Hey girls,
Been a busy weekend for me and i've really enjoyed it! My sleep seems to be improving- yes stac feel like i could sleep forever just now!
Spent the day at mugdock country park with SIL and her 2 kids. Was such a nice day and her DS seems to be growing in confidence just now- its lovely to watch. He is almost 3 and has been so shy until now!

Been reading with interest about depression and anxiety- its something i don't think we talk about enough in RL- i certainly tell people i'm fine when i'm not! don't want to seem like i'm not doing well-its so silly but I keep on doing it! Luckily i have my mum, DH and a few friends who can see right through the act! And can come on here and be totally honest which is great
DH make sure you get a chance to talk about both issues, mood and physical stuff! Last time i was at GP i felt so rushed i forgot/didn't feel i could talk about everything i wanted too so left with a few unresolved concerns!

viksam that sounds like a good unit! we have one of the pax wardrobes with deep plastic drawers- I think they will be really useful for baby stuff!

stac my tummy muscles feel like they have given up completely! think its gonna be a hard slog to get them back once LO is born!

Looking forward to joining in the bag list! Thanks MLIC for birth plan ideas
Think I'm going to wait til i'm on mat leave to organise bags and bithing plan- finishing 4 weeks before EDD- do you think this is too late?

DesperateHousewife21 · 03/05/2010 19:22

Evening everyone,

Thanks vik and becky I hope I get an app tomorrow too! Ive had this pain in my lungs all day, it prob is as you said vik about everything being cramped inside, it might be the way the baby is lying or something.

Will let you know how I get on tomorrow re appointments etc.

Hope everyone has a good evening

viksam · 03/05/2010 20:29

Evening,
My friend asked what she could get for the baby and really the only area thats not covered is washing/bathing. Whats everyone else doing are u getting baby baths, we have very limited space so im really consious about stuff hanging around. Whats worked best for all you well versed momas? Also, do people use dummies?? Should I get some just in case or wait and see about that sort of thing? Oooh im actually starting to think about life with baby and what we will need, its probably about time.
We went to look at a bongo van today, not entirley sure what to think, its a great very versatile vehicle, seats fold down into a bed/table and the roof pops up for extra sleeping area/storage so can be used as a camper(we do like to pop off for the odd weekend here and there), the thing is it would have to be my daily drive and its quite big and automatic. I drove it today and it was weird but fine, just a bit worried about manovering such a big vehicle.I really dont know what to think, i shall miss my little car but its a three door so not really very convenient. I mimiced putting car seat in and its so high there would be no bending at all, hmmmmmmmm im really torn.
Work tomorrow i could happily quit now, im sooooo disinterested. I also feel that everyone is lined up to shift positions and they just want to get on with it,work has always been so important to me i never thought id feel like this, just goes to show how much things change.
Decorator is coming tomorrow, hope he can give us a date for painting the babys room so i can book the carpet in, cant stand all this waiting around!!
Hope everyone is enjoying the last few hours of bank holiday, we should have one at least once a month i think!!

memphis83 · 03/05/2010 20:50

evening everyone, not had chance to catch up on the thread, last tuesday i went to bingo and won the £200 jackpot, but within an hour of getting home i was on my way to hospital with severe stomach pains, seems the pain i had queried about low down was to get worse! i ended up in having scans and they said it was my appendix, so i had to have surgery when they got in there it was actually a swollen fallopian tube in front of appendix, had to discuss options of taking baby out as a general is way too risky, they decided against it and i had some contractions and had to have drip and meds to stop labour! finally home, after catching 2 infections, was on baby ward with all the lovely newborns but in a room with women who were in starts of prem labour, very scary! so im now home and on strict bed rest until baby arrives! escaped stretchmarks so far to now have 3 cuts on stomach and lots of bruising!my dh and mum have been amazing so glad to be back i cried for ages!
hope all is well with everyone sorry for long post, ive been holed up in their with only mum and dh(oh and a very dishy doctor)for company!

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DesperateHousewife21 · 03/05/2010 21:32

Goodness memphis what a drama! So glad you and baby are doing ok though
Def get lots of rest and your DH also needs to wait on you hand and foot

Wonderstuff · 03/05/2010 21:36

Hi all, just catching up after weekend in NYC - was fantastic, but boy am I tired now. My feet swelled up to balloons on the flight - never had swelling like it before, looked like elephant man or something. On the way over we had to turn back just after we got to the Atlantic because they couldn't sort out the cabin temperature, then circle over London for over an hour to dump fuel so we could land - thankfully got on another flight, but were 6 hours delayed getting there, we were only over for 2 nights as it was. Still was great to spend some adult time together, reconnect before the chaos of having this one starts, decided if we can we need a child free weekend once a year - more likely to be camping in the New Forest next time though!

viksam we had a baby bath last time, and decided that a plastic sink bowl is easier, so going to get a new one of those instead.

Was interesting everyone talking of depression - I definitly have a dark cloud decesend on me when I'm preggers - seems to be not quite as bad now as it was, but I'm really much more negative and definitly feel I smile less atm. I considered termination in the early days with this pregnancy, I felt so awful, just utterly miserable, thankfully I am feeling a lot better, but I don't ever want to go through pregnancy again. Concieving dd took 3 years, I was desperate for a baby, but for the first trimester of my pregnancy with her I just wanted it to be all over, I couldn't remember why I wanted to be pregnant. I have had depression when I was on the pill before, and I think I am just someone who can't deal with extra hormones very well. Thankfully the clouds lifted as soon as dd was born - the sense of relief was amazing, so all is crossed that I will feel better once I have given birth. PND must be just the pits. Depression is so awful because although you are poorly, you feel so guilty and blame yourself - when you get other things, like high blood pressure or sickness, you don't feel to blame do you? I get so cross that I'm not able to cope when other people seem to sail through the experience. Anyway hope everyone who is feeling low gets though it and starts to feel better - it is hormonal, its mental what your body puts you though in pregnancy, it isn't your fault, it will pass and you will be able to cope, hope everyone gets the help and support they need to get though it. I'm very lucky with dh, he sees the tears coming and just takes over, he isn't perfect but he does try really hard to look after me.

Anyone else feel like their baby is trying to escape - mine is kicking so hard I swear he is trying to make a bid for freedom - starting to feel hard bits pressing against my tummy, not sure what body parts I'm feeling, I think a bottom. He's kicking really hard against my back this evening, one thrash to the spine really hurt earlier.

Someone said about leg cramps - I have been woken with awful cramp - eating a banana before bed, having a warm bath and stretching out my legs with some ankle rotations seems to help.

Anyway I should get to bed - thankfully it's a training day tomorrow.

beckyg123 · 03/05/2010 21:36

WOW Memphis can't believe you have been through all of that! seriously glad you and baby are ok- must have been a really scary time for you and your family. You make sure you take care of yourself and let DH and your mum look after you (((hug)))

Wonderstuff · 03/05/2010 21:43

Gosh Memphis - what a nightmare - glad you are both OK. Sounds like you were well looked after ( @ dishy doctor, always makes a hospital visit more tolerable)
Take it easy.

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