July 2010: Still getting bigger, gone are the days when we had a figure

[stac14]

July is getting closer and we're all still gabbing. Feel free to join in

desperate Don't worry about getting your feelings out. I had a miscarriage last year and had a really hard time with this pregnancy until 20 weeks and I felt a massive relief when I had the anomaly scan. before then I often felt I was going a bit crazy.
It's totally natural to worry but really at this stage the chances of something happening are miniscule. So it is better to go to the drs and try and get some help and do nice things like listening to pregnancy relaxation as it is a shame to not be enjoying your pregnancy now. But remember hormones also play a part so we have up days and down days.
I was ecstatic a couple of days ago when my nappies arrived from asda then the next day I was really tearful and didn't know why.

You can also get the cds here
www.natalhypnotherapy.co.uk/8.html

But you don't need to get the whole set - you can just get the pregnancy one on its own. I got mine off ebay - i got the whole set but found somewhere that sold them slightly cheaper.
I tend to fall asleep during mine but apparently that is a good thing!
You can do it every day when you wake up in the morning and it sets you up for the day.

kapars Im sorry about your miscarriage last year that must have been awful for you.
Thanks for your help you've been really kind, I swear being on here keeps me sane sometimes!

Thanks for the link am def going to give the cd a go, I like things like that. Would love to go to those hypnobirthing classes too but cant afford them! I know someone who is around 37 weeks and shes been going and she says they are really good. Will keep you posted re docs and the cd

Hi ladies

viksam when you see my bump pic you will understand why i have had to buy quite a few maternity clothes. I've bought most of the from the sales. H&M have a great sale at the mo, got a lovely cardi, dress for a party i'm going to and linen trousers for £10 each which is good as i need loose clothing after cesarean. Anything else like leggings, vest tops etc i have bought from peacocks in larger sizes. One of my best bargains was mat jeans from new look for £5. Just thought if i put the stuff on ebay someone else would get wear from them.

Poor you dh i hate trapped wind also under rib pain. Hope its eased. Try not to worry bout these things they are very rare cases. Have you still been panicky? Did you get gp app?

I'm with you all on the fanjo pain, any kind of movement starts it shooting right up there. Its like the pain you get when you've banged it or something bloody awful

kapars feel totally exhausted, grumpy and sore. I am certain i am measuring above centile. I totally hate housework now lol

Well i plan on having a early night tonight, step son is over. Ds wants to spend bday money so more bloody shopping. Then his friend is staying over tomorrow night, so room and stuff to do. No rest for the wicked x

Hey,
Just about to leave for Brum but wanted to say before I go DH I really do know where ur coming from. Its really hard work keeping my mind in check and not getting over anxious. I signed up for a relaxation class today, through the physio dep at the hospital so its free. Im really too late and should have done it already so will be in the class with ladies due beginning of august but i dont care i just think it will help. Might be worth seeing if ur hospital have anything like that on offer. I just wanted you to know that I think we all have horrible thoughts and ur not on ur own xx

stac yeah it has eased off now, hes shifted his weight and now seems to be lying on my bladder so still in discomfort.
I havent been to see the gp yet, will have to wait til Tues now, will give them a ring first thing and try and get an app for that day.
Im really trying not to get panicky, still finding it tough though and the most annoying thing about it is I really thought I would enjoy pregnancy yet I just seem to spend the whole time worrying.

vik thanks for your support, glad to know Im not alone in feeling anxious. I think it just helps to have a support network which is why all my worries are poured out here!

dh we are always here for you, defo may be worthwhile getting a relaxation cd, your gp can give them to you. A good one is called time to unwind which i was given for general anxiety. It is hard to keep anxiety at bay. I got v anxious at start of the pregnancy so much so that i am on a low dose anti depressant (didnt want to say before felt as if it shouldnt be happening) for me i knew the only thing that would calm my anxieties was meds. I'm not saying its right for everyone, just what was best for me. Hope you all understand x

dh I need to send you a very un-MN hug. Please have a chat with your mw or gp, whoever is more approachable, and let them know you're feeling this way. I had PND with my dd and the worst thing I did was bottle it up and not tell anyone who really could have helped me.

The relaxation CD's sound wonderful too. I find just lying flat out with my hands on my bump visualising the baby and breathing slowly and deeply really helps. Plus being on my back always makes beanie boot me really hard!

stac and another un-MN hug for you too! You wally, we're all different and happy mummy = happy baby so you've done the right thing for you

aw dh i really feel for you. worries like this tto this degree aren't something to be just shoved aside you need to deal with your fears and anxiety head on whatever way that may be. its finding a way thats best for you.the suggestions of the relaxation cd's are great.definately talk to your doctor though hun.we'r all here to listen to any doubts or worries you have so don't ever feel like your going on too much cos at least your talking about it and not keeping it in.have you spoken to your dp about what your feeling? please definately go to the doctor though and i'm thinking of you xxx
stac hope you're ok now too and good for you that you made the decision that the meds were best for you and they're working for you xx
a real big radio presenter died here today and its like the whole of ireland is in mourning for him. its so so sad and unbelievable.
got swelled legs and feet for the first time today! disgusted cos im standing all the time for my work so i just have a feeling its only the start of it for the next 2 months

thanks wwsw and kk i was really only saying about what has went on as i know how dh is feeling and that its nothing to be ashamed of. Also the one person who can help is your gp

Aw kk isnt it strange how the death of a national treasure affects a huge amount of people. I have done a fair amount of shopping and my ankles are well swollen. Just need to mind and rest them, try putting your feet higher than your body. X

mlic thanks for sharing, its amazing the amount of pressure society places on us to be so organised and happy think that adds to depression. Hope you get nice weather its better for the host if the party is outside far less mess of the house x

We are taking ds shopping with his birthday money so no doubt we'll be out for hours lmao x Whats everyone else up to? X

Hee, yep... I made the cakes in the photo, kk. They were for my friend's birthday. I'm really looking forwards to being able to make cakes for my LO's birthdays! The shirt I was wearing in the pic I got from Debenhams back at the beginning of the year, I think. I'm happy that the loose checked shirts like that are in fashion at the moment, I find them nice and comfy!

I had no idea that depression was as common as it sounds. My sympathies to those of you who are affected by it. I guess I've been pretty lucky that I've never really had a problem with depression myself, though I've seen it affecting friends. I'd love to make a helpful contribution, but I'm really out of my depth... So I'll just say that I hope things all resolve in a good way.

About to go and investigate some lunch here, but just to quickly mention that I've posted up some pictures in my profile of the freshly decorated nursery, now that it's mostly finished, in case anyone is curious!

stac, kk, wwsw, mlic thanks for understanding and it really looks like we all get these worries and anxieties. I will def have a chat with my gp and get a relaxation cd too. It feels like a vicious circle because being so anxious all the time makes me depressed then when Im depressed I worry that something is wrong.

I do sometimes talk to DP about it but I dont think he really "gets" it, and it doesnt make me feel any better cos he doesnt know what to say to help me so even though I could get it off my chest I dont want to burden him with it all either. I think it would be best talking to my gp about it tbh.

Anyway dont want to moan about it anymore, just trying to focus on being HAPPY!
The weather is a bit on and off today so dont know whether to go into town with DP, they've got a classic car show on there today as its bank hol weekend.
What is everyone else upto?

We went for a walk in the forest today simply because DD had 6 hours sleep last night in 3 chunks. DH and I are shredded and it's very hard not to snap at DD or each other and we wanted some fresh air. Whingeing isn't so bad when you're outside, the wind sort of drowned DD out. Now she's refused to nap so I'm wishing mum or mil didn't live so far away so we could drop DD off and just get some head space. DH is on duty tonight so I'm going to have to face the music alone and if DD doesn't sleep I might have to take drastic measures...like erm...any suggestions?

dh just to agree that you shouldn't worry about venting on this thread, it's a support thread. We're all here to help each other through this pregnancy so vent away. Goodness knows I bore you all enough with DD's lack of sleeping

lol chulita you dont bore us! Thanks though

DP and I have just been out round town to look at the classic car show, then LO decided to shift onto my bladder rendering me almost unable to walk and there are NO public toilets in this poxy town so had to quickly go to morrisons to get the newspapers then come home. Just aswell really though as its started to rain but if it hadnt I would have liked to have stayed out a bit longer.

We're going to see Iron Man 2 at the cinema tonight which will be nice, the first one was surprisingly good I thought, and having Burger King for dinner (well I deserve a treat!).

hey ladies, how are you? I have been out all day with ds buying stuff so pretty good day. What have you all been up to? Haven't read through yet but will catch up soon x

spireal you definately have a talent! you wouldn't want to eat the cakes cos so much effort has gone into making them look nice!
dh glad you feel like your able to talk on here anyway.
had a bad day myself today.been crying most of the day over the radio presenter who died! hormones! and then crying cos i feel like a big balloon! im so swollen its unreal my fingers,arms,face legs and ankles! just all of a sudden since yesterday. and then got the most painful leg cramp as soon as i woke up this morning.AND im bunged up with a real bad cold and chesty.feeling so sorry for myself!

aw kk you poor luv, sick of hormones. Hope your ok, swelling could be fluid retention but keep an eye on it hun.

Dp is drinking with my sister again, fed up with them already. Have came to bed to watch east is east. Ds and dss have a friend staying so ps3 will be on fire lmao. Quite hormonal tonight too, more because dp and i keep fighting. Kind of feels we are at it all the time. Feck it! Hope everyones having a better night than me lol x

aw stac thats not nice! would love to be near you and pop over for the chat! cant be nice lying there by yourself and being upset. i think every couple goes through phases where they fight constantly. quite normal with hormones though! my brother thinks i've actually lost it a bit with all the crying today! im hoping its just fluid retention but just a bit worrying cos it didnt go down overnight. made the silly mistake of googling it and maybe over reading things and now im worrying about pre eclamsia!

kk think google can help but can frighten you too. Keep an eye on the swelling hun, my ankles are swollen too. I'm ok, he's been in to say sorry but will make him sweat. The hormones are crap arent they? Pity you dont live closer we could have cried together, cant wait to level out the emotions lol x

Morning everyone,

kk that does sound like quite an ordeal, I suggest putting your feet up and having a nice rest today

stac I know that feeling, sometimes I feel DP and I cant agree on anything and I get upset and he gets angry and then we dont speak to each other all day. I really hope when the baby comes it makes things better and not worse.

We're staying in today, all day! Its raining really hard here so not alot else we can do. Hope everyone else has nice plans.

Aww, but eating the cakes is half the fun, kk! I enjoy creating them and if someone eats them all up... Well then I'll just have to bake and decorate some more!

I might end up being a very strange parent, as I'm likely to regularly encourage my LO to play with their food in such a way. Food should be fun!

i agree spireal! dh i would love nothing more than to put my feet up for the day but have a few heads to do today! no rest for the wicked!had to take a few today as i've been real busy all week so couldnt fit them in.you enjoy ur day indoors and be thinking of poor me working!
stac i had a dream about you last night! i was going into asda for the baby event and pulled up in the car park and you pulled up ahead of me and posted a massage on this to say you were pulling up in the car park so thats how i knew it was you and we just went and bought loads of stuff and then you came round to mine for coffee.and that was it! im an oddball at times!.on the hormones thing they're only really getting to me since 2 weeks ago and they hadn't bothered me before that. real crap though especially when im not well anyway!
hope everyone has a lovely sunday!xx

Morning everyone. How are you all feeing today?
kk it sounds like it is probably fluid retention. I think they recommend you to mention it to midwife though just in case of pre-eclampsia. It might be an idea to give her a call and she can imediately put your mind at rest instead of worrying about it? Googling can drive you a bit mad!
dh are you feeling a bit better today?
Thanks everyone else for sharing about depression. Of course, we don't think anything stac. everyone has to do what's right for them.

I woke up yesterday in agony with pgp/sds symptoms again. I went to yoga which made it worse! Today I can't walk. I have been totally pain free for over a month after seeing the chiropractor but he said it might come back as pregnancy progressed. I'm seeing him at 1.30 so I'm hoping he can fix me again like last time.
so I'm holed up in bed with my dh away! My friend is coming around later though to look after me.

kk aww I will think of you slaving away while Im munching on popcorn watching Avatar! Hope you get to have a rest soon though