-*- AUGUST 2010 -*- scans, kicks and other 2nd trimester bits.

[CherryPie3]

Part 4

ha ha it cheered me up anyway!

the DH thing is bigger really, not about baby but i'm sure the added pressure of knowing we somehow need to move house without the financial means is not helping.

i would LOVE to go to a spa...no time or money right now though!! i am going to get a pedicure tomorrow so will make the most of that hour ;)

sorry... another rant on the way!

DH and I are trying to sell two flats at the moment, one we are living in and the other is currently let through an agency. To give the current tenants more time to find somewhere else I said they could stay on for a short while after the agency agreement ended at a reduced rent, so long as they kept the place looking nice for viewings. But my agency phoned today to say they didn't pay their rent this month, and saying they can't afford it and they need the deposit back ?!? And they tried to say that i said this was ok (which of course I didn't) and now I'm worried they won't pay their gas bills etc and leave me with a big bill It doesn't help that they are polish and don't fully understand english, using their 13 yr old daughter as an iterpreter! grrrrrr so now I've got to try to explain to them that the deal is off, I chickened out and sent a text and told them to deal with the agency... hopefully they will sort it honestly you try to be nice to people and what do you get!!!!!!

Sorry I do realise that there are other rants that I haven't yet responded to but I'm just so stressed about this at the moment I can't see straight!!

apricots, I'm not going through anything major at all but I really haven't thought much about Finlet. I thought about DD all the time but this one I'm kind of ignoring. Don't feel guilty, you'll love it to bits when you squeeze it out, I just think especially with other little ones you just get too busy to indulge in baby thoughts!
mrsZac, don't let them have the deposit back until the gas bills have all gone through (I know you know that ) It makes me so when you bend over backwards to be nice and then you just get pooed all over. I hope the agency sorts it out for you!

aprictos - just before I got pregnant dh had a seroius accident in America which left him in ITU for 2 weeks and with a brain injury. When he came back to the Uk he couldn't walk and he has only just gone back to work very part time - I was so glad to have him back that neither of us were thinking straight about contraception hence why I am here....

anyway I also stress about whether he is going to cope going back to work, whether he will continue to be good at his job and so get pay rises etc...wether he will cope with another child. He still gets so very very tired and grumpy (I don't know if it caused by the head injury or tirdness)..

so what I am trying to say - is yes I understand your stresses and you are not alone

cazzy yeah total wives tale about the heartbeat. Plus my midwife is so dizzy that if I asked her next time she'll prob say a girl..

Sounds very stressful about your dhs accident.

Going to attempt an aerobics class this morning.

hey ladies,

I slightly more calm me this morning - phew!

Sorted it out with the tenants, seems that texting is a far better form of communication than I gave it credit for! apparently a misunderstanding with them not being able to pay rent, so they have agreed to pay this months rent pronto, and the next and I'll give them a month from their original date. I think they were that paniced when I told them I wasn't having any of that this messing around and they would not be allowed to stay on any longer than they had to that they are now complying. Seems like they understood that the deposit would be their last months rent so they didn't think they needed to pay it?!? anyways all sorted - phew! don't think poor jelly bean enjoyed all that stress

Like you say Chulita, you try to be nice... can't help feeling like it doesn't get you anywhere these days...

cazzy that sounds horific what you've been through with your DH, so glad he sounds like he's on the mend Must be so worrying for you.

girls good luck with your aerobics class, sounds like a good idea, think i'll attempt a big walk today

enjoy your weekend girls, and thanks for letting me vent

Hi all,

Been meaning to come on and say hi for days, but seem to have been so busy. Had my 16 week check on Thursday and all was well - though I had a scary few moments because it took the MW AGES to find the heartbeat. Probably too much flab in the way . Bloods and BP were all good too, which is reassuring - going by last time as well, I actually seem to be quite good at this pregnancy lark, right up until the birth bit .

Sorry to hear that some people are having a rough time at the moment - it's not easy being pg and having loads of other stuff to worry about as well. Though, in response to what ?Apricots was saying about not having time to focus on the baby, FWIW I didn't really feel 'mushy' at all about DS all through my pregnancy, and I didn't even have that 'rush of love' birth moment - I guess I'm just not that sort of gal. It took a couple of months before I started feeling that total devotion to DS, but these days I'm entirely soppy about him, so I don't think it really matters whether you feel 'bonded' during your pregnancy or not - it will happen eventually .

Off to a toddler birthday party this afternoon - not the most relaxing way to spend the day. Still, at least there should be shedloads of cake .

cazzy thanks. sorry to hear about your DH. i'm sure little one will be just what he needs to continue to get better ;)
i too didn't really have that gush of love when DD1 was born so maybe i'm not that kinda girl either!
anyway, nice relaxing weekend so far...and feel much happier today. i blame the pregnancy hormones!

Hey girls, another one here suffering hormonal overload.

Got myself so worked up this morning that I ended up crying over lunch. It was so stupid really but it's been one of those days where everything has gone wrong.

Sort of started yesterday when we went to a friends house for a play-date - yet another friend with a lovely big house (4 bedrooms) and massive garden. We have a beautiful 2 bed flat and a compact garden. Don't get me wrong, I love our flat, it's in a great location and we've managed to replace the bathroom and do a bit of redecorating over the past 3 years. But it just got to me yesterday that all of the other families we know live in 4/5 bed houses, usually with a cleaner that comes in once a week and plenty of disposable cash to buy shiny new things.

I know I'm being a brat. dh and I earn good salaries and we're lucky to be able to afford a mortgage and have savings. But dh is super conservative with money and hates spending it (typical Scotsman ). So we wait til the very last minute before making large purchases and I can never quite justify the cost of a foreign holiday to him (or even Cetreparcs for that matter). Thank god we discovered camping last year, so at least we did manage some really special short breaks.

Och, just ignore me. I know I'm being a spoilt brat. I just feel like the poor relation compared to all the other families we know and it just pisses me off sometimes. It's wrong to compare I know, but I just can't help it at times.

Sorry girls. Self-indulgent, spoilt brat moan over.

As you were!

Hello girls, I had a serious craving for chocolate cake last night and so made a whopper of one today! Only a half-moon cake mind you, as there's only 2 of us we would struggle to eat a whole one before it goes off. It looks like a total mess but I'm sure it will taste yummy!!

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Hope everyone's having a nice weekend. I'm off to a trade show tomorrow so today's my only proper day off.

Vix Please can I have some of that cake??? It looks soooooooo delicious!!!

I'm sorry theres so many people having hard times at the moment - heres hoping it gets better soon!!!!

Anyone else getting crippling heartburn lately? It doesn't matter what I eat either - living on rennies. Wonder if I've got it til delivery now then?

How is everyones weekend going? All good I hope!!

xx

Hey Cherrypie chronic heart-burn the last 2-3 days, munching rennies like they're going out of fashion.

The acid comes up, makes me cough, which in turn makes me retch! Sick of having the mop bucket next to me! I thought I had put that in the cupboard for good!

Pregnancy is not a walk in the park! Thank goodness H is sympathetic.

Yep managed aerobics then Body balance straight after (though did have a little sofa nap afterwards..)

will keep going with the exercise for as long as I can manage it with one class a week as my minimum.

ideally would like to do 2 classes and one swim a week but not always possible.

Anyway friends over for roast dinner today yum..

anyone else already finding it uncomfortable to sleep? Not even 17 weeks yet and the bump is getting in my way!

Morning girls.

GYA Yep sleepless nights here too - bump kind of feels heavy. Does that make sense? Uncomfortable laying on my back and also on my left side cos of the sciatica.

Do you guys remember Liahgen She had to leave our thread cos she m/c......anyway she's just got a BFP!!!! So pleased for her. Have been noseying lurking on the TTC Boards!

Woke up this morning and it's completely white over with snow outside!!! I hate snow!!! Thank god I'm having a summer baby!!!!

Twas a false positive for her

Bugger!! Mother Nature is cruel isn't she?

Morning all.

Vix you inspired me to go to the cupboard last night and investigate our ingredients for chocolate cake since yours looked so scrummy. Alas no proper butter or margarine that you can bake with so I sat all night craving chocolate cake . Going to pop to our local garden centre today since they have a lovely cafe with really good home-made cakes [lazy]

Heart burn is very off and on with me although I am susceptible to it generally. I bought a large bottle of gaviscon weeks ago. I think that the habits I got in to to fight the morning sickness (eating little and often) are helping with the heart-burn too.

Sleeping - is a nightmare! I've had mild insomnia almost since the BFP and bump has felt quite heavy to turn for some time now. It's a huge faff, turning over - I have to turn me, bump and move the pillow that I use to prop the bump which up until yesterday has hardly seemed to be there when I am vertical. Last night - new joy, I woke up with hiccups

Finally got holiday booked - off on 12 March for one week of sunshine (I also am utterly fed up of the snow and seriously contemplating bringing our move to Aus forward a couple of years). I think most of all I'm just looking forward to going swiming every day and am hoping that it motivates me to joining an aqua class or something when I get back.

Great news about Liahgen - might have a nosy over at the TTC boards.

Have a lovely Sunday all - hope you have some nice plans.

Or maybe not

Hi girls, bit of a better mood here today but boy am I sleepy! Lots of insomnia and my bump also suddenly feels really heavy. I've ordered a pillow from Blooming Marvellous to help, so I hope it arrives soon.

Our heating broke yesterday, but it's ok, we're being quite philosophical about it so far. British Gas will fix it Tuesday when they finally get hold of the part they need.

In the meantime, we're all snuggling up on the sofa under blankets or baking cakes to keep the kitchen cosy

Also, my dh ran his first ever half marathon this morning. He's never ran a proper 'race' before but he's training for a marathon so thought he'd better get used to running with hoards of other people. The little star that he is finished in 1 hour 37 minutes! Woop woop!

Aussie I'm very jealous of your holiday. Where are you off to?

Blueberries, well done to your DH. And I completely know what you mean about the money thing. All my friends also seem to live in giant houses, even though none of them work themselves - they all have DHs working in the City. We're lucky in that we have a very nice house that I love, but money is always tight these days, and I would love to move to a slightly bigger house, but it's just not possible. And I can't really grumble because it was my choice - I was the high earner in the household, and I decided to give it up to be a SAHM. I've never once regretted my decision, though - and on the plus side, because DH is a teacher, it means he's home by 5pm and has lots of lovely long holidays , whereas a lot of my friends' DHs never see their DC in the week.

I know what everyone means by heavy bump! All of a sudden it seems turning over in bed is quite an effort! If its like this at 16 weeks I dread to think what it will be like further down the line!!!

Also I went swimming this morning (first time since BFP) and that was a lot more effort than it ever used to be, completely shattered myself out for the rest of the day it seems and I only did a few gentle lengths!!

And I think the start of heartburn has started - very mild yesterday and cope-able... lets hope it stays like that!

Hope everyone is enjoying Sunday...

Bad news today our baby has not made it stopped growing around 15+5 days have to go to the hospital tomorrow as could not absorb any information they were giving me terrified about what is going to happen in the next few days.

Ack! bigmuther, I'm so sorry Is there really no hope? I hope you get some lovely staff tomorrow to help you through whatever you need to do.

Oh no bigmuther that is awful Let us know how you get on xx

Bigmuther I'm so sorry Take good care of yourself and keep us updated!!

Have made gingerbread animals this evening and house smells divinely mouthwatering!!! DH enjoying them as we speak

Bigmuther So sorry. Lots of love.