-*- AUGUST 2010 -*- scans, kicks and other 2nd trimester bits.

[CherryPie3]

Part 4

Thinking of you today Bigmuther.

Sorry to hear about your fall Rubena - I'm a bit wobbly myself at the mo, especially if I get up after sitting/lying down for ages. Hmm - maybe that means I need to be less lazy.

First MW appointment today - hoping she'll try and use the doppler to find a heartbeat. The appointment means I get to work from home today, which has been lovely. No calls, a couple of emails, complete bliss! I slept so horribly last night, possibly due to the grim, torrential rain in S London, so it is a real godsend not to have to go in today.

So did anyone experience lots of period-type pains around week 13/14? I had them all day yesterday. I'm trying not to be paranoid and am assuming that this is where my stomach muscles etc start to get destroyed by an expanding uterus...

nat - is this your first dc? The pains are more usually if its your first as it's your uterous stretching etc and softening and all that. Totally normal

sorry about my terrible spelling and good luck at the appt!

oh bigmuther awful news. You poor thing. Hope they treat you well at hospital.

Love to you too liaghen ducky like them both but prefer Theo.

Can't remember who said about Hannah but that's the name my nephew suggested.

I'm so sorry Bigmuther . I really hope they go through everything properly with you at the hospital; sounds like a really good idea to take your friend. Look after yourself xxx

Good luck at the appointment today Nat I've been getting a couple of cramps but not sure what they're about and can't remember if I got them last time? They seem to be worse when my sciatica is particularly bad - maybe they're connected?

Sorry to hear about your fall Rubena Hope you're alright xx

Lia!! Lovely to hear from you - so nice of you to pop on when you heard about BigMuther. Very sweet

WRT Names - my dear sweet son told me that when(!) the baby BOY is born it must be called Woody or Buzz Lightyear - no prizes for guessing what his fave film is at the moment.

DD on the other hand suggested Katy, Jenna or Isabelle - think they must be the names of her friends at school

Bless them!

Well cherrypie the dds were stroking my tummy and I asked dd2 17m 'What's in mummy's tummy?' she replied 'baby'

then asked dd1 2.5 'Is it a baby brother or sister?' 'Baby sister' replied dd1.

So I asked dd2 the same question her answer was...........................

'A gruffalo'

Girls Heh - a Gruffalo! Good answer!

Rubena - yup, first DC, so I am assuming it's everything stretching and what not.

Just got back from the MW appointment - all pretty non-eventful, in a nice way, and reassuring again to hear the baby's heartbeat with a doppler. She found it right away!

Oh well, 2.30 now...back to "work"...

soontobefatnat good stuff with your appointment, glad you got to hear the hb I've got my first appointment tomorrow morning (at last!) Can't wait. Then my scan hopefully this week

gruffalo, I like it!!

a gruffalo just imagine. with the poisonous wart and purple spikes

good news with your appointment Nat MrsZaC Your appointment has certainly been a long time coming hasn't it!!!

Ooh yeah those purple spikes could hurt a bit on the way out

I've just had the most ginormous panic attack - I don't actually know how to look after a baby! I've never held a newborn, never changed a nappy, don't know how much they eat or sleep, how will I know if it's hot or cool enough when sleeping?? Are there books to read? Neither my partner nor I have any family living near by so it really will be just us coping......

Don't worry, LCR, you'll be absolutely fine. Everyone will tell you that it all comes naturally, but personally I found that a load of rubbish - it didn't really come naturally at all, and the fact that everyone said it would made me think I must be a terrible mum. But you do learn it all really quickly. My advice would be to make as many new baby friends as you can, as early as you can (maybe NCT classes, and definitely baby and toddler groups), listen to your MW/HV and read anything you can get your hands on. (I find the 'What to expect' books very good, but everyone likes/hates different books.) BUT (and it's a big but) just jettison anything that doesn't sound sensible or doesn't work for you. I'm not pretending it's easy - the first three months were really, really hard for me - but you will get there. I think my biggest piece of advice would be not to set your standards too high - I had this vision of me and my baby wrapped in a golden haze of mutual adoration, but instead I got a spawn of the devil who screamed every second of the day, plus I had a total nightmare with breastfeeding. But my point is, it only takes a couple of months before everything settles down, and if you can keep that in sight, then you will get through the early days, and by 2 or 3 months in you'll be far more confident and you won't recognise the 'you' from the first couple of weeks. Sorry, I hope that doesn't sound negative, it was meant to be positive (but honest!). Hope it helps .

I was the same when i had dd although i had held a new born and had nannied for 8 years by the time i had her. That didnt change the fact i panicked. You just learn to read your baby. Im having major panics at how im gonna manage to cope with 2.

LCRLCR don't worry! You could read all the books from now until you give birth, but the trouble is, babies don't read these books so they rarely behave how the books tell you they will.

Our first night home from hospital we completely forgot to change ds's nappy - newborn poo is very sticky, so by the time we remembered, we had to practically scrub the poo off his poor delicate bottom [shame]

The best thing you can do is read some of the "what I wish I'd known before I had my first child.." threads. There was a really nice one over the weekend, I'll see if I can find it.

But imho, the only things you need to remember are:

• sleep when baby sleeps
• cuddle on demand
• feed on demand
• buy a sling
• trust your instinct
• ask for help from wherever you can get it

Think that about covers it, oh, and remember to change nappies when required!

LCR Breathe. This is normal. I am still getting these thoughts and I have 2 kids already!! You wouldn't believe how much comes natural to you when you have your baby. With dd, I had this fear of the unknown and my biggest fear? not labour or birth itself - changing nappies!!!
And I have to admit, had a giggle when dh's attempt at nappy changing fell of . then a few months later, the in-laws were babysitting and had to change dd's nappy and my fil put it on backwards
DON'T WORRY

owh what a shame LCRLCR don't worry I don't have a scooby doo either, but I'm sure I'll be fine, and you too!

cherry yes it is a LONG time coming but I'm finally there - phew! just hope it's the good news that I feel it will be, and that they don't keep me waiting too long till my first official scan.

Hello Girlies....Yummy Mummies!!
I have just posted new thread but saw that august already exists!

I am a mummy to be with my first baby...on the way and due on the 6 of August.....I am nearly 17 weeks by end of this week, feeling so excited...but so worried too...had a similar panic attack like LCRLCR yesterday evening....plus I might sound not normal but I am really worried about my weight...and gaining a lot on and never be able to loose it...also most of my friends are career women and not ready for babies, don't talk about them and don't plan to have them....I feel scared that after having a baby I will loose contact with them...

I am hoping to meet some nice, genuine girls who understand me...more than my current friends..

xx

Hi Ladies

almost 16 weeks now and I am much more worried about things going wrong than I was first time round with DD, getting lots of pulling and cramping that I am sure I got much later with DD and no amount of mint aero will make me worry less, seeing MW on wednesday so will get to hear the heartbeat and that will help me relax (hopefully)

YummymummykJulie - I know exactly what you mean, I'm due the day after you and this is my first baby too.

I am the first to have a baby out of my group of friends and already I feel completely out of touch with them. I'm getting complete attitude from my uni group of friends who are giving me the impression its a complete inconveniance to the way we do things and getting together etc.

Things like, "oh you'll have to leave the baby at your mums when you come down here for the weekend otherwise we won't be able to really let our hair down", and now I've called off my annual birthday weekend with the gang (I'm just not feeling up to a houseful), I've got the whole "see things are changing already, its never going to be the same again." etc etc.

And yes I know its not going to be the same, but me and DH planned this baby (got married in August 2009 and decided we wanted to start trying straight away and we were lucky enough to concieve in 2 months!) and it is really wanted and loved already, I'm ready my lifestyle to change because I want a family and I want my friends to accept that we now come as a family. I may choose to leave baby at mums very occasionally but I won't be doing that every time we go somewhere.... I'm sick of the attitude, so I already feel like we're drifting apart. I'm sure it'll be a totally different story and they'll expect me to be lovely when they all start having families.

And then my school group of friends, who never really grew up and still have the party student drunk Friday to Sunday lifestyle just don't get it at all. We have been drifting apart for years because I went to uni, got a job, bought a house, got married, settled down and really didnt want to go out clubbing getting smashed every weekend after I finished uni! So they totally don't get it now and are having a moan that I won't come out at all anymore - but I really don't feel comfortable with being out with a group of really drunk people and I don't feel comfortable being in a club. My baby is too important to be put in vunerable positions...

So there we are, I would love to meet some Mummy friends too who get me!!!

Hi all!

Sorry to hear the sad news on here

I finally had my 12 week scan (at 13+4) and all is well, although did have a bit of tragi-comic time with my blood tests. Took two midwives and a trip to another department five attempts to draw any. I REALLY dislike blood tests anyway, so was a bit of a nervous wreck by the end. Oh well, all in a good cause!

Also had a lovely weekend in manchester visiting my family, and our hotel upgraded us to a Suite for our second night (worth £250, our room was booked on a deal so we only paid £69!). Lovely big bath, mmm.

Hope you're all doing well!

Ooh and would someone mind updating the list accordingly? I'm 25 and in Herts and nucleal fine.
Thanks xxx

Hey Pamplem0usse updated you, couldn't remember if this was your first or not so hope I got it right.

Welcome yummymummy hope you feel right at home

20 July - Aussie #1, Nottingham, 35 12 weeks scan/nuchal all good
22 July - 4 Aug) Chulita #2: Dorset, 27
26 July - Rubetube #?
29 July - Bouncing Blueberries #2 South London, 33 13 week scan all good
29 July - CherryPie3, #3, West Yorkshire, Age 25, 12wk scan/nuchal fine.
31 July - Missus84, #1, Bristol. Age 26 - 12 week scan fine
1 Aug - Nikalah, #1, Dorset. Age 35
2 Aug - Dibbydab, #1, Devon. Age 34 - 12 wk scan/nuchal fine.
4 Aug- girlyearapart #3 kingston Hospital Age 30 - 12 wk scan fine.
4 Aug - kcoffin #3
4 Aug- CarterM #1, Solihull, 36
4 Aug- FireOpal #1
5 Aug - Kanella, 1, Plymouth. Age 37
6 Aug - YummymummyKJulie, #1
7 Aug - NichyNoo, #1. Brussels. Age 29 - 12 wk scan fine
7 Aug - CazEM #1 Newport. Age 24 - 12 week scan fine
8 Aug - ElusiveMoose #2 Kent 33
8 Aug - dried apricots #2 surrey. aged 34 - 12 week scan fine
9 Aug - Alice #2 Suffolk age 25
9 Aug - possiblenewmum #1, Guildford, age 31 - 12wk scan fine
10 Aug - SayAnything #1, Brussels, age 33 - 12 wk scan fine
13 Aug - Neenz #3 Liverpool (32) - 12wk scan fine
13 Aug - augustsun, #2, South London, 34
13 Aug - babyisaac, #2, North Yorkshire 35
14 Aug - LCRLCR #1, Brighton, 34
14 Aug- babyducky #2, Brighton, age 23, 12wk scan fine.
15 Aug - Plant #2 Kent
15 Aug - LizzieA #1 Wirral, 33, scan ok
16 Aug - Tah2 #3, SWales
16 Aug - cakeywakey, #2, age 32, scan and nuchal fine
16 Aug - Vix206 #1, Leicester, 31, scan fine
17 Aug - Lovesaruby #3 Essex, age 32
17 Aug - Doodleydoo #2 Kent still just 34...
19 Aug - marzipananimal #1, York, 23
23 Aug - Isheisnthe #3 Camberley, FPH, Age 33
23 Aug - Sparkle #1, age 31 12 week scan fine
23 Aug - loobyt #2, age 34, Devon
24 Aug - growningbump2, #2, age 25, Dunfermline
24 Aug - jennycomelately #6 age 39
24 Aug - LeeKerry #3 Edinburgh Age 31
25 Aug - Sam86 #2 Liverpool
25 Aug - aendr #2, Huntingdonshire, 33
25 Aug - Soontobefatnat #1 SE London Age 30 12 week scan fine
26 Aug - pamplem0usse, age 25, #1, Herts 12 week scan/nuchal fine
26 Aug - drcaroline, age 33, #2, Hove, 12 week scan/nuchal fine
27 Aug - ronx (was dollishillbilly), #2, NW London, 37
29 Aug - starshaker #2 & 3 Ayrshire Age 29 12 week scan fine
29 Aug - Hildainstant #1, Sunderland
31 Aug - vitapulchra, #4, Guernsey, 32, 12-wk scan fine
1 Sept - mrsZaC, #1, Glasgow, 26

coffeelady sorry to hear your worried, I hope all goes well with the midwife on wednesday, i'm sure your LO is fine and dandy, maybe just getting comfortable

yummymummy sounds like familiar issues, think you'll fit in here just fine, I've been very worried about my weight but I'm trying to put that to the side because it's more important to me to be happy and make a happy little baby (wish I would listen to that though)

cazEM such a shame your friends are taking that attitude, I'm lucky in that most of my friends are either wanting to start a family or have done, so I have lots of support. You shouldn't feel bad that you want different things, if they are not mature enough to accept you for who you want to be then are they really worth the effort? it's really awful of them to create the impression that the baby will be an innconvenience. I'm sure you'll meet lots of like-minded people along your pregnancy & new mum journey, and if your friends get left behind then thats their loss.... but I know it's sometimes hard to see it that way.

xxx

Hello and happy evening to you all.

Welcome coffeelady and yummymummy

CazEm Your friends clearly don't understand how special it is to be pregnant and grow a much wanted and loved baby!!! You've always got us - I think it would be a good idea to arrange a meet-up actually. Either while we're pg or maybe post-natally?

What do people think?

Just had steak chips and peas for tea and while it isn't something I would normally eat, it was delish!!

Hope everyones well and I hope everything has gone smoothly with BigMuther today. Poor love.
xxxxx