-*- AUGUST 2010 -*- scans, kicks and other 2nd trimester bits.

[CherryPie3]

Part 4

hi all

welcome to new people

love the jeans mrszac, i need to start buying a few bits, have got loads from last time but I want new stuff

mmmmm nachos, I made fahitas(sp?) last night, with loads of chillis & sour cream & salsa, was lovely!

I would love a waterbirth aswell but think I'm too much of a wimp, had an epidural last time but really want to try & do it without this time.

That video is lovely

Cazzybabs, I'm trying this. I bought CD off Ebay for cheap but several friends recommended it so I thought I'd give it a go. Might be worth it to try and chill out?
Babyducky, I lurve fajitas...any spare for me?

Nichy When I was born I was 6lbs 14oz, I had dd 5 weeks early and she was 7lbs 3oz, ds was born at 39+6 and he was 8lbs 6oz.

I was hoping for a small baby but I seem to grow big ones

I've come on here to have a bit of a grumble today.....sorry in advance .

I've been really poorly this week and am on day 3 of a 5 day course of antibiotics for a chest and ear infection and feel generally crap. Had a really funny turn yesterday where I got all weak and wobbly while lying down and when I got up to shout my MIL for help (bless them, they're sprucing the house up for sale while I'm lying on the sofa!) and I couldn't walk very far without needing to sit down. Anyhoo, NHS direct and my Dr (after phoning) didn't seem too concerned etc, which is probably a really good sign, but I'm starting to get really paranoid now.

I've felt poorly for about 2 weeks now, and look dreadful, and as I had an 8 week scan (discharge and cramp) I won't get a scan until 20 weeks now so no way of checking if bump is ok. This is my first, so I don't know what's normal or not.....

I'm due back at work on Monday so hopefully I'll be feeling well enough to go, but I feel completely useless and can't help fearing the worst. I can't wait for the 2nd trimester 'glow' and feel positively jealous with those of you who are feeling great

Anyway, rant over, just wanted to get it off my chest.....I promise I'll be happy and positive from now on

Hilda I'm sorry you're feeling so ill at the moment. Have you spoken to your mw? Maybe she would be more reassuring for you, maybe at least listen to your baby?

Oh and as for that 2nd tri glow.....I'm 17+1 and still waiting for it. Hoping it doesnt forget me! Don't want to look rough for the next 23 weeks!

Sending you heaps of get well dust honey xxxx

Hilda - what nonsense. You should come on here and tell us exactly how you are feeling and rant when you need to.

It's apalling that you don't get another scan - surely the whole point of the dating scan is that babies tend to be at the same stage of development during this period (ie 11 - 14 weeks) so they can date you and assess all is well? Do you have any private scan options.

How far along are you? I'm still not exactly bursting with glow or energy but was at my worst from 10 - 14 weeks - slow uphill since then. Ear infections can do funny things like affect your balance etc can't they - hopefully when that is cleared up you will be better.

Afternoon girls, hello newbies . Great to hear the scans/check ups are all going well, we did have some really horrible times on the first couple of threads, hope this one has turned a corner for us.

I've succumbed (sp?) and bought some maternity stuff (I'm 16 + 5 now) - just cheapy stuff from Peacocks at this stage (pair of jeans & 2 tops), and some work trousers from Next. The elastic band holding my non-preg trousers together went ping so I decided action was needed.

Definitely felt some flutterings today and I've got the hang of the doppler - baby always seems to be quite low though (possibly trying to escape me annoying it with doppler..)

Have made decision to remove belly button bar this weekend, permanently. Not going to get an extender, I'm 34 for crying out loud, time to say goodbye to my youth, my belly is never going to be flat again.

Someone pass me some Jamaica cake with homemade custard please, if I'm going to get podgy, I'm going to have fun doing it!

Thanks CherryPie and Aussie, don't feel as guilty for having my grumble now....I could cry some days and it's really not like me, I'm such a positive person usually

They used my early scan as the dating scan. If I was under 8 weeks (which I thought I was at that point) I would have had a 12 week scan but as I found that day I was 8 wks 2 days I was just over so was really disappointed. I'm now 12wks 5 days so feels like an age to wait for my 20 wk scan. I don't think we get nuchal scans here in Sunderland.

To be fair, my midwife is really lovely and does what she can but I think her hands get tied by the trust. I keep having a little tussle in my mind - one moment I'm worrying about the baby then the next I tell myself not to be so silly and that the professionals don't seem to be worried so why should I

Dibby I don't have jamaica cake but I have chocolate fudge brownies - baked this morning?

Can I tempt you.....

Hilda You do sound really down at the moment, I hope you feel better soon and that the weeks fly by to 20wks for you

Ahhh Sunderland [nods sympathetically being a Geordie lass by birth]

Crying - I cried at the Krypton Factor on Tuesday - the poor little guy lagging behind on the assault course & WTH?

hilda I'm sorry your feeling so down.. Maybe you should try and sort an appointment to see your midwife to reassure you? Why don't you treat yourself to something to cheer you up here's a hug anyway
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decided to give in on the bra front and went in to see the lovely boudiche ladies. After trying on a multitude of bras I came away with this one in a 34F just couldn't leave the shop without it it's soooooo comfortable, and not too pricey @ £28 (by DD+ bra standards). They also told me that apart from usually going up a cupsize your ribcage expands which usually takes you up around 2 backsizes! cripes!!

Anyone up to anything exciting over the weekend? I think I'm going to spend the weekend with my parents to chill out, and sleeeeep & maybe make some cake with mum's kitchen aid... oooh how I'd love one of those!

x

I can always be tempted CherryPie

Hilda I remember feeling absolutely awful at about 11 weeks sat on the sofa one Sunday night after another hideous day of "morning" sickness, looking like a bag lady and sobbing (and snotting) all over DH "I feel like f**g s*t, I can't go on like this", it did go on for a few more weeks, but touch wood (knocks head), I've not had morning sickness for about a week now. But thinking back it wasn't just the sickness, it was the stress of waiting for the 12 week scan to know I hadn't had a MMC. I think I would have gone nuts if I had to go from 8 weeks to 20 weeks without a scan.

If I was you I'd make an appointment with the midwife and ask to hear the heartbeat, it really will put your mind at rest.

I don't think people realise how physically and mentally draining the first few months are, it certainly was a shock to me.

Here, have some chocolate brownie and moan away, that's what we're here for

hilda sorry you're feeling so bad. As much as I brag about the NHS to people in Belgium (they can't believe that it is all free) it is soooo frustrating that they 'ration' scans like that. Do you have an EPU/private scan option in your area? If so I think it would be worth spending the money to get a private scan in order to put your mind at rest.

I have had pretty much no symptoms or illness up to now (15+6) but felt ill with worry in the run up to my 12 weeks scan so I can understand that you're feeling worried, and scared.

Thank you so much for the hugs, kind wishes and chocolate brownie...you have made me smile!

On the plus side I'm waiting for a delivery from TopShop so hopefully it'll arrive today and make me feel better I'm down to 3 tops and leggings at the moment and I'm used to quite a full wardrobe to chose from!!

And MrsZaC, I'm looking forward to a girlie night in at my friend's new house tonight....nothing like the girlies to cheer you up. I suppose I can bribe them with their drunkenness while I sit there with my OJ! I probably shouldn't go having been off work poorly for 2 weeks but I need different faces to look at other than the Loose Women and Jezza Kyle.....I've not seen it for years and OMG do they get some eejits on here. Makes me wonder what we're bringing in to the world

Missus, headaches could be a sign of high blood pressure, so if you think that's likely you should contact your MW/gynae.

I also have headaches, more or less constantly, but my gynae said that as long as my BP is fine she's not worried. And to take paracetamol, though not more than 1g a day.

And to whoever mentioned crying: I bawled while watching Bride Wars on TV last night. I mean seriously bawled, with sobs and everything .

atta girl hilda new clothes and girly night will deffo make you feel better enjoy!

echo the girls with getting a private scan (if you can), I had one @9 wks as my NHS one isn't till next week (13wks+)and DH won't be here for it, it was such a relief and worth every penny (£100).

Hilda I feel really bad for you..... maybe worth speaking to the midwife again and saying you're feeling down about things and worried about the LO.
I had a scan at 6 weeks (bleeding) with an automatic follow up at 8ish (useful as I'd had more bleeding)..... more bleeding meant I had another one at 10+4. Whilst I did have to push for a 12 weeker (and actually I'll be 13+4 by the time it comes) they let me have one. I was told they wouldn't dream of using the 8 weeker as a dating scan....
I think sometimes it's worth doing some feet-stamping!
Hope you have a nice evening with your girlies!

crying I'm crying at adverts!!! Pampers ones especially!! And the ones for Johnsons products!!

I am getting headaches too - but only at work and then I feel sick too.. I think it is from staring at a computer screen . That's only two days a week tho so not so bad.

Hilda, that is so rubbish about the scan! But feeling like you do it sounds like you are very much pregnant! So try not to worry, eaier said than done I know. I think a doppler would be a better investment than a private scan, cos every few days I feel worried that I don't seem pg anymore so I get the doppler out at feel reassured as soon as I hear the hb. You can get them for about £30 too so cheaper than a scan . I feel like it is helping me bond with the baby too - almost like having a conversation with it .

Nichy, they say it is easier to push out big babies cos they don't slide back during the pushing stage iyswim! I think they do say there is a link between your birthweight and your baby's - ask your MW. It may be that your mum had gestational diabetes, that causes big babies so might not affect you at all.

Hi neenz - just rang my mum and she didn't have gestational diabetes....I was justa whopper! She also told me the full horrors of my birth (MIL regaled us with the horrors of DH's birth at xmas) so am now just gonna cross my legs at 9 months and not let it out [burys head in sand]

hey ladies
lots of posts today! work is very hectic right now so i've not had a chance to post as much as i'd like recently...lovely to hear everyone's really getting into the 2nd trimester now though. re headaches, i suffered terribly with my first pregnancy and had a couple with this one - i take paracetomol - there's no evidence it does baby any harm..obviously don't go mad on it, but a couple here and there really help;
i'm a bit annoyed with work as i have purposely arranged my 16 week check 2 weeks later as work commitments meant it would be tricky, and now they have asked me to postphone it if i can - which means i'll be 19 weeks when i go for my 16 week apt..that's if i can rearranage it which is proving impossible as kingston midwives dont seem to ever answer the phone!! am so over work now, and wish could go on maternity leave now

ladies..are any of you dealing with any other s* right now? I have a very serious and upsetting matter tearing through my family at the mo plus separately my DH seems to be having some kind of early mid life crisis plus I have my own enormous work stress and a tempetuous 2 year old to deal with. I'm finding life incredibly hard right now..the thing is with so much going on i dont really think about this baby..i know that sounds awful but i have not had any of those nice mushy thoughts i had with my first, dreaming about how she'd look/be etc...my head's too full of other stuff and i feel so guilty about that. sorry to get a bit heavy but i wondered if anyone else was in a similar boat?

Nichy The mw's should be able to monitor the size of baby for you at yourante-natal checks, you could also ask the sonographer at your 20wk scan whether baby seems big or not although tbh baby does most of the growing in 3rd tri don't they?

Apricots you have my sympathies, you really do. I have no similar circumstances to offer but I would resist work pushing you back on the MW appointment. They are going to have to learn to cope without you after all so coping with a 2 hour absence will be good for them!

Do you have a doppler? I was worried that i was not feeling very emotionally attached to the baby due to the impact of the morning sickness. I found that the 12 week scan helped enormously - it just seemed more like a baby then rather then swirls of horrible hormones and consequently I bought a doppler (just an Angel Sounds one so only £25 incl postage) and just taking a little bit of time out to listen to the HB every so often also helps now - like Neenz says, it is like having a little conversation with it.

Any possibility of you taking a day out - maybe going to a spa or something (I know there are times when I would choke with laughter at someone suggesting that to me when things are manic at work) but that might give you some relaxed me time to like back stroking your bump.

Sorry about your DH - terrible timing - is that just a coincidence or is he worried about the baby?

grrr - "like back = lie back" and ooo-er at "stroking your bump" T'was meant in a very innocent way!