Due in June 2009 – let the eviction process begin!!

[lauraloo09]

I hope I've done this right - here is the new thread...and hopefully the last in ante-natal

OH, HOW CAN I FORGET!!!

Thanks to lovely and patient tee who has put up with me these days and has kept me up to date with everything!!!! You're a saint, woman!

xx

Naat- I think it's worked, think my waters have gone at least a little) have phoned the labour ward now just waiting for it to kick off proper have had a few cx's but no pattern as yet.

Mum on standby hope to god it's tonight!!!!

doris hope this is it for you best of luck and keep us posted

Well think mine is another false alarm pains have really died down now, but having some weird sensations in the 'ladygarden' area

Just marking the new thread...somehow I missed it!!

I'll catch up tomorrow, I'm off to bed now!

OOHHHHHHH Doris, hope tonight is the night for you!

Good luck Doris - Woo hoo! Another potential baby Juner!

No change here. Appt. is tomorrow at 3 so I'll let you all know whether I managed to bully the consultant into inducing me this week.... DH is under strict instructions to help by saying how much pain I'm in etc.....

I'll do a big catch up in the morning. Night all xx

Ooooh well done Doris hope all goes well

x

Happy birthing vibes to everyone else

Bit of insomnia, been up for a while now...

Hey Doris Fingers crossed this is it for you! (right on time?) Good luck with it all if anything happens today!
Ineed Good luck with your appt.
silk can you get another estimate on the car? The last time we had to spend that kind of money on mine included a lot of non-essential stuff that we did without. (and that was about how much the car was worth so we weren't in a rush!).
naat I need help putting socks and trainers on, dh is very obliging.
littlesarah re: evian bottles mmm, I don't know, I'll have to try I guess! (or I would if I hadn't forgotten to get the actual bottles from the supermarket today!)
laura I can feel pressure down there too, but we've done so much walking around today that I think that's why rather than anything else.

Two women from my NCT class have given birth now and I'm next on the list, still no real signs though!

Thank you all for your kind words and advice on how to manage ils. I am taking notes.

Thanks also for the explanations on BH, I know people have asked before and I might have even asked twice on the previous thread . It's funny how everytime I get some sort of labour symptom I forget everything I was told. (a bit like when I did the pregnancy test and there was unmistakably a BFP there and I couldn't tell 100& and had to do another three tests to "make sure".
Pregnancy does weird things to your brain!

Right maybe I'll try and go back to sleep now!

I thought I'd point out this funny thread of "silly things said in labour": link

Morning ladies!

No baby, no symptoms and no... sleep! SOmeone asked how I was going, and I was like "imagine a watermelon strapped to your stomach"... Going to try and rest up a lot today as so knackered.

Go Doris!!! Hope you had a productive night!!

morning just checking in. June and Bunny sorry about yr rubbish sleep - me too

Can remember who asked but I'm having a girl too - don't rely on me yet though as I'm a mid/late Juner.

Re the car - thankfully the garage reckon we can get it to scrape throught the mot for £100-£150 but there is a serious fault with it and it needs all the tyres replacing.

Dh and I do loads of mileage for workso can't afford to take risks with safety stuff. To be fair to lad at the garage he wasn't trying to get us to fork out a huge bill he was explaining that the car would cost at least £1000 to put right and even then who knew what else might go wrong?

Car hunting today methinks (on line of course as the actual car needs to be sorted and retested)

No symptoms of anything here

thanks for your suggestions for last minute packing - MrsMcJ - I went and got my eyelashes tinted the other day in case I forgot my mascara for my first photograph!

For anyone interested, the general themes seem to be:

take lots of food - I'm going to take some pasta and pesto in a tupperware box that can easily be cooked in a microwave. I've got so many flapjacks, i'll be looking forward to something savoury afterwards.

notepaper and pen - for writing instructions to/playing hangman with other half.

Large plastic pint glass - hospital cups are small

Bendy straws or water in a squirty water bottle for drinking from.

Clothes for yourself to come home in that will fit - ie stick with maternity!

spare clothes for partner

Vaseline for lips and plenty of hair bands/clips

Large towels (plenty) for waterbirth/shower afterwards

i'm sure you all know this already and are completely organised.

Sorry to hear about the crap sleep. I slept, but only in hour long bursts as SPD is raging.

Laura - Hope you feel a bit better today.

LittleSarah - hope you get your research finished. Good news about the paternity leave.

MrsMcJnr - Hope the monitoring goes okay. We're expecting another DS, so add another boy to the list. Sounds like your nesting instinct is kicking in!

blueberry - Good luck with the CS on Thursday. At least we know we'll definitely have another Juner baby on Thursday!

helpIvegottogivebirth - I bought Andrex moist toilet wipes and they were brilliant at cleaning up between showers as I was in hospital for a couple of days after the birth. It helped me feel a bit more civilised!

Naat - I hope the curry worked for you. I also hope that your MIL's visit goes as smoothly as possible.

June - I hope you managed to get some more sleep.

Silk - Hello there. Hope you start to feel some symptoms soon

Oh well. Off round a friend's this morning to let DS kick about in the paddling pool. Will be nice to sit and chat.

Love to all and COME ON BABIES! x

Physically so sick of being pregnant, it is just so blinking uncomfortable!

DORIS - Hope you are in labour! Or even better snuggling up to newborn! So exciting!

Naat - Research is nearly done, going to do a bit this morning and then should hopefully finish up tomorrow. I get you on the no internet nightmare, I am pathetic without it!

Made myself a wee list of things to do before baby, well it started off wee! Lol. Mainly cleaning if I can be arsed... at least I can tick off the bathroom.

Silk - Glad to hear you can get through your mot fairly cheaply, good luck car hunting.

June - Evian bottles could be fine, just not sure, and the weeing can be very burny so good to be sorted there! I know what you mean about confusing signs, I keep wondering if this twinge means something, or a funny feeling in my pelvis. Oddly I'm pretty sure the first time I didn't have prelabour symptoms at all just woke up one night and my waters had broken!

Blueberry - That is a shame your dh has to work so late before cs, no chance he can get away early? At least you'll both have your new baby soon.

MrsMcJnr - No idea what I am having but everyone seems to think it'll be a boy and certainly I have felt very different from last time round and also think it's probably a boy. Not at all sure though!

Right back to the work while dd watches a DVD... then more sunshine!

Congrats effie and big hugs to baby Rupert ? another name I love! Hope you get loads of cuddles very soon x

Thanks also for some of your thoughts on feeling so low at moment, I think you are right its last minute labour nerves but also actually how am I going to spread myself out between 3 lo?s and make sure they all have quality time with us, we all slept badly last night, dh is tired, baby had hiccups till midnight then ds1 woke at 1am saying he was scared so I lay on his floor and held his hand because dh said it was ?my turn? boys still in nursery this week so even though ds2 is snotty and I had to go to him a couple of times in night (was awake anyway and dh was huffing and puffing in a 'really pissed off tired' way) then dh gets up at 6.30am and wakes the boys up!! WTF!! We needed to do that when I was at work but not now, he doesn?t have to be in work till 9am and it?s 20mins away so he needed to leave here at 8am at the latest ? just feel like crying today, am already too hot plus saw lady I know from church yesterday and she laid it on thick about how being a SAHM was best thing for children when I?m actually dreading it a bit trying to decided how to manage work and school/childcare if/when I go back next year and felt very guilty that I was even considering it but I like my job, she said I had to remember I had to do what was best for the children and when I pointed out that if I wasn?t happy it wasn?t best for children she said yes but I decided to have them and therefore should always put them first, made me feel very selfish
mrsmcj you?re so right I do feel like life is on hold till baby arrives, like I should be doing loads as I won?t have time in a couple of months but actually all I want to do is have baby so I can be busy with that and not have this space to over think very little thing!

bunny tried to discuss cleaner with dh but he said I would be at home so would be fine he doesn?t want us to spend the money, I think I?m going to have to rely of good will of friends and family to make sure we don?t live in pig sty! will be rlying on them a lot and whilst people offer all the time to help I don't want to feel like I'm taking the piss if that makes sense...

june hope you manage to get fil to listen to you re coming to hosp ? if it helps my ils didn?t understand that my sil didn?t want anyone to visit and made her feel very bad about it before hand but once her dd was born they did respect the fact she wanted the space and waited to be invited, lets hope your il?s do the same!

bunny lovely names ? btw we changed ds2?s name when he was about a month old as its so hard to actually see their colouring to start with, ds1 has dark brown eyes so I was convinced ds2?s would change but they are the brightest blue, just like my dad?s

blueberry I remember not wanting to feed in front of people with ds1 to start with and feeling like I was ?banished? to bedroom and feeling bit miffed, must remember to get good mags in to read this time as now is perfect excuse to get away from visitors!

doris good luck, hope to hear baby news soon x

Hi to everyone else ? sorry I never seem to do as good posts as naat and mrsmcj and mention you all but still enjoy reading your news!

Good morning all.

Well, not too bad a night here at TeeLand. Didn't sleep for long stretches, but did sleep!

insy just ignore that cow of a woman at work. I am so sick of women picking on other women for their choices. If she brings it up again I would say 'thanks for your input, but I don't agree' and walk away. You need to do what feels right for you and your children, not what anyone else thinks.

doris hoping for baby news soon!

littles I am right there with you. This totally sucks. Baby, now, please!!

naat you are very welcome. Glad I could help!

Lots of good labour vibes to everyone else!

I have clinic at 3:15 today and should find out if they are going to do a CS in 10 days.

Just checking in. Far too many posts to catch up on....

Many congratulations to Effie Hope your lo gets better soon and that you are recovering well.

Kids are off school today so not getting much time to read properly.

Getting VERY fed up of having nothing to wear. My BF lent me lots of summer maternity clothes and they are all too small!!!

effie - congratulations, so pleased you made it to 1 June and hoping Rupert's breathing settles soon. It must be an emotional time for you. Thinking of you.

doris - how exciting - I hope it is all 'go' for you.

laura - my pains are so like yours. One last night was so painful - it was just as strong as any early labour contraction I had last time, the only problem is that there is no regularity or they just stop. I think we are just both having very strong pre labour contractions. Like your friends say, last time it was very obvious when I went into labour, they just started up, and kept going. This time, it has been three weeks of strong BH/cramps/premenstrual like pain etc and I am becoming a basket case. I can understand why it is putting you on the edge. Do feel free to go to the mw at any stage if it is hurting - they are there to allay our fears and comfort us in moments of need.

bunny - my beautiful grandmother was named Evelyn May and so I've always loved the name. It's a name that seems to be pretty for a child and elegant for a woman.

insy - I can understand you having a bit of a 'low'. It is quite daunting at times. I am concerned that I am feeling too optimistic at times. I am glad it is summer as we have doors from the kitchen/living area that lead out onto a deck and the garden, so I intend to spend the whole time living on the sofa just inside the door or on the deck, while dd plays - perhaps I am being a little over hopeful.

littlesarah - so glad you had a lovely time. Is the George one that looks over one of those squares? I think I know it and went to a Scottish dance there once!

june - it's not healthy to keep SIL informed of progress, as you have no idea of what might happen, how slow or fast it might be etc and she might misinterpret what information she is given and pass it on to her relatives incorrectly etc etc. It really is not a good idea for many reasons, quite aside from the fact that you don't particularly want it. Also, waiting outside the hospital could be a long wait (she wants to sit in a car for 24 hours with packed sandwiches and cartons of juice!!!) and is a mental idea, if she really means it. Get your dh to tell her she is distressing you and this is madness. You will announce the birth of the baby once it is born, like everyone else done. Sometimes I think TV is to blame - these visions of people hanging around hospital waiting rooms indefinitely.

Sorry about the poor sleep silk, Ineed etc.

Hello to everyone else naat, mrsmcj, tee, lynn, blueberry, help.

As mentioned to laura, I feel I'm becoming almost mentally unstable!!! Three weeks of stop/start, bad pains, strong one off contractions, quite aside from almost continuous silent BH some days. I might have to have a cry this morning just to release the pressure inside my head!!! It was so much simpler last time, two nights of contractions 30mins apart for 2 hours and then a week later I went into labour. This time, about every second day it feels like I'm on the brink of going into labour.

Anyway, got that off my chest. Have a nice day everyone - last day of sunshine for a few days apparently.

Morning Juners!

Insy I second what Tee says about the interfering woman. Just not worth getting into a conversation with people like that - I'd say something breezy like 'oh well, horses for courses' and wander off.

As a general rule, and aside from financial necessities which are often the major factor in this, I find that women who enjoy their jobs are far more likely to want to do it again after having children - which makes perfect sense. Most of the SAHMs I know have either never really had a career or hated their job - and many of the latter satisfy their need to keep busy by doing voluntary stuff in the community like running play schemes or being on PTA committees etc. I'd have been a foul mother if I hadn't always worked at least part-time; other women love doing it. We find our own way.

As for your DH and the cleaning - your job is looking after 3 children; he has his job and then between you there is a household to run. Men who 'rest' at the weekend while their women carry on with all the housework make me . Hope your DH doesn't expect v high standards - don't break your back being too houseproud, just do the bare minimum and enjoy the kids.

Oops, you can tell I'm a 38 week pregnant women who is getting very bad-tempered and grumpy . I will hang out some washing and try to have sunny thoughts.

Hope the appt goes well Tee

hi all just a quickie while dd is occupied!

my due date is TODAY and still no signs!! happy due date to Doris too, although it looks like your baby is coming today, all the very best of luck I'm very !!

Blueberry - i double checked with my mw yesterday and she said they will induce me, start with the pessaries, then try breaking waters then if needed will put me on oxytocin drip didnt think they would. she said it wouldnt be as strong/much as a 'normal' induction but they would try it!! Its so strange how these things differ in different parts of the same country! I am very worried about it though and dont know if i'd be brave enough to try the drip!!

sorry dd is tugging my leg, will be back later!!

Insy - What a cow! Why are some people so judgemental and intolerant? I'll be looking for a job early next year, sadly I can't avoid it but I also do want to finally kick off my career. And I also think my working will help us financially which will help the whole family, ideally I'd like to be at home for at least a year but it cannot be. You have your children for life, mornings, evenings, weekends, holidays and they are very adaptable and happy wee things too! Horrible people: Ignore! Ignore!

Oh and reading back I second ermin about the job and the cleaning. Three children is loads, especially so young, you need some help.

I read this bit of birth book last night; babyproofing your marriage type of thing. I mean we already have dd so are fairly prepared but she is older and goes to her dad's regularly so we get breaks which won't happen with this one! Anyway, it was quite interesting, got you both to write down five things you thought could strain your relationship post-baby and then share them and then think of various solutions. It was a bit depressing at first because obviously you want to think about how wonderful it will be when baby arrives and this is a bit of a reality check but I think it is good to consider the possible difficulties.

We came up with stuff like lack of sex, money issues, getting out and so on. One of ours was also housework issues, the book suggests lowering your standards at least for the first wee while - no surprise there. We can't afford a cleaner but we came up with ideas like having specific weekly jobs each (ie try to keep up with general cleaning, me mainly) like dh hoovering/dusting, me cleaning bathroom (weekend). Also, dh's little sister is only 13 and we think she'd probably come over to do some cleaning occasionally for £20 or something!

Anyway, I'm sure we'll adapt, we all will (!), but it is a bit of a rollercoaster at first.

There was a good quote in the book from a first time mum; "It's the difference between watching a tornado on TV and actually having one tear your roof off."

Well after that cheery thought...

insy - I didn't read your post properly. What a stupid thing for dh to do. You must be exhausted. Oh, and completely ignore that silly woman. It is such a mental battleground this 'work' vs 'sahm'. We woman don't need to fight each other over this, just do what feels right at the time, what works best for the family and for you. Why people feel they need to take the moral high ground one way or the other I have no idea. And as sarah points out, many people don't have much choice, so how nasty is church lady!!

erm - forgot to say 'hi'. To be honest, this sunny weather is giving me headaches - just too sunny for someone who is not sleeping well, feels awful and hot. The sun can come out after I've given birth!

hi lynn - due date today. Time to eat cake

quick message from Effie:

Re: Rupert

Hi hun.
Ruperts now ventilated and drugged on morphine. They are going to try ween him off later.
It was the best and worse day of my life. I saw him last night-but desparate to hold and feed himxx
I'll keep you all posted xxxx

Further to June's effie message, this is what she put in her FB status:

" Rupert Edward was born 1st June at 02.23. It was a mad rush and was a bit shocked! Unfortunately Rupert is in SCBU and being ventilated, as he was having breathing problems. They hope to start weaning him of morphine later- with view to take him of the vent. It was the best but worse day of my life and have cried non stop and been very worried. The midwives have all been fab and I've been well looked after xx"