Fab Feb 2009: holy shit, this is it

[chilledmama]

Cause Swampster has a dirty mouth
Wouldn't hear me speaking that way...much
How do we delete threads????

Because we seem to have a major problem with coming through at night, we try not to give him his juice after dinner at 5, but we do offer milk at bedtime at about 7:30 but he rarely drinks it.......
I've gone up to size 5 nappies from 4+ but dp got ds ready for bed last night and used a 4+ so will see what happens over the next week or so...

Does it really piss anyone else off that we haveto have ante-natal care split between a team of midwives and not an idividual but also have ante-natal checks with whichever gp is free at the time when you are told you need to be seen by a doctor and not a midwife. This really fucking annoys me. (apologies if language offends anyone). Especially as most of the mws on the team are miserable old battle-axes that are not in the slightest reassuring or understanding.
I just called the mw clinic I've been going to (I complained about the cmw so have to go to hospital now) to make 36 wks appointment and the receptionist told me 36 weeks was a gp week so I sai ok, I'll call the surgery and she asked why I seemed to think 36 weeks was with the mw so told her that when I git by cramping, aching body down to clinic for 34 wk check there was noone there she said she'd make an appointment for me for next week and when I asked which mw that would be with, she asked why I wanted to know so I told her I didn't have the time to sit infront of some jumped-up old cow bag and that I was angered by the fact that there was no consistancy in the crap care that I recieve anyway and that I'd just go to the fucking doctor and I'll see a bloody mw when I turn up at hospital in labour.
I wonder where all that came from? I was in a fine mood 10 minutes ago......

Blimey LBB....your ante-natal care just amazes me . It seems a very strange system to me. You need to be seen regularly at this stage cos of blood pressure etc...and not have some poxy recpetionist give you 20 questions. The recpetionist at maternity day care at our local hospital is a patronising cow and my CMW shouted at her down the phone the other day when trying to get me in for BP monitoring "Now, just be quiet and listen to me and wait until I've finished". It was quite funny listening to her, as that is the sort of thing I would say.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable to want to see a midwife......
Managed to make an appointment with gp for tomorrow morning, amazingly it is with one that is really nice, so all calm now.

I haven't been seen by a midwife for 6 weeks - they just don't seem that bothered or interested here . Maybe it's because this is number 3 I don't know. Also midwife comes to your house - great! But she doesn't make an appointment just tells you a day and then says text her if you want to go out - crap system imo!

That is crap McDreamy

sorry LBB BUT YOU ARE WRONG! how can you possibly think food groups should be separate?
what about a bar of Cadburys fruit and nut? Are you seriously wanting me to believe that it is NOT a balanced meal? It has several important food groups in it, ie calcium, fruit and protein (mmmm, is this why my BMI is so high?)

Good idea about sitting down to prepare the veg LMN which I've just done, thanks for that suggestion. (in dumb blonde mode at the moment it didn't even cross my mind!)

Just nearly went into early labour out of shock. We are going to centreparcs in France next July and thought we'd do a few nights at one of the Disneyland Paris hotels on the way down as DD would LOVE that. Anyway, online quote, 2 adults, 2 kids and 2 infants (apparently under 7's free anyway) for 3 nights, all in 1 room with breakfast (no park tickets etc) They want £2,900! Do you think they thought I wanted to buy it? That is bloody stupid. Idiots! It would be cheaper to fly to my house in Orlando and see the sodding mouse there! Sorry, rant over.
Just taking DD for a nap and hopefully a wee snooze myself.
Very jealous of you guys meeting up, and still gutted I missed the November one.

MoS it's just wrong, fruit and nut in chocolate? NO NO NO Got to be one or the other for me, either a huge chocolate bar or a little pack of raisans.

Wow, that's alot of money!

needless to say, we won't be going there LBB!
given the choice, it would have to be the chocolate for me.

Me too!

Morning all... Really sorry I am going to have a big moan now. I have had a crap weekend, I never thought I would ever say this but I just want this pregnancy to be over... The thought of another 6 weeks of this is filling me with dread and I just dont know how I am going to get through it, let alone if I go over...

DD is finding a naughty side to her. Although I know she is ill so I think that this has a lot to do with it. But instead of being a good parent because of the pg I am not handling it very well and she is really getting the raw end of it all. It is not fare on her at all.

I am never going to go through this again, two children is my limit. I am so fed up I just want to cry and I feel that no one including dp is taking in how bad I really am feeling right now, they are putting it all down to hormoans but I am boardering on resentment to my unborn child (I am a bloody freak)..

I would never put the baby at risk dont get me wrong but I am going to do all I can (without having sex because at the moment I cant bare dp even hugging me let alone anything else) to get this little monkey out.....

I sound awful dont i, I am starting to think I am not cut out to be a mum...

Good morning! feeling a bit about not being able to scoff choccy and pancakes - but hey, only another 3 weeks 4 days ( i swear im having a toblerone in recovery! ) and doc says i can come off injecting and just do blood monitoring till 6 week post natal GTT yay!

LLB poor you, sounds like you are having a bit of a crappy time with 'the system' We are all late in our pregnacys now and i thought the focus was supposed to be on seeing more of the medical profession Glad you got your appt with the midwife though

McDreamy cant believe you havent been seen for that long either! Third or not every pregnancy is different and im just surprised that they are relying on you to monitor your own health in between the times that they see you.

Im going to try and make the meet in London next Monday, twill do me good to get out and about and i miss being able to hop in and out to London the way i could when i was in Surrey so had a quick look at the trains from here and including tube its not too bad at all, one hour thirty eight mins from sunny Wiltshire!

Awww Lardy.....a lot of us feel the same. Doing this pg lark is so much more difficult with a naughty toddler around. I also feel so guilty because I'm just too knackered to go out and do anything with DD and she spends a lot of time playing with her toys and watching cBeebies.

I also feel guilty cos I haven't enjoyed my pregnancy and want it over. I feel horrible because last time I was so excited and was full of awe about what was happening to my body. Everyone else was excited for me. When I went on mat leave, I saw all my friends for lunch and was very busy....this time, I've hardly been out of the house, everyone around me is busy, busy, busy and 2nd babies just aren't interesting enough

Take it easy.....don't worry about the mess....just enjoy some time with your naughty DD and pick your battles with her....my DD is getting away with all sorts atm.

{{hugs}} for you.....we are on the home stretch now

btw, you are not a freak or a bad mum.....a normal mum.

(but having said that, I'm not doing this again either!!)

Lardybump - really sorry to hear you're feeling this way but if it helps I am too! I just feel really miserable and it's the children that suffer from my bad moods

We're all nearly there, not long now. Just keep going and remember to accept as much help that is offered. Oh and keep coming on here to off load - that's what this thread is all about

Oh lardy - just seen your message Poor you hun, dont feel bad about wanting your pregnancy to be over, im sure alot of us on this thread feel the same way - i know i do, i hate hate hate being pregnant and am the least earth mothery type you could meet - i feel bad too saying i hate being pregnant especially when people struggle to get that way but its this end bit its so bloody uncomfortable so dont think that you are not cut out to be a mum just because you are fed up with being pregnant im sure alot of us feel like that and whilst i hate being pregnant and all the trouble it brings i love the end result.

If youve got six weeks to go still then you dont want to have your lo just yet , give it another three weeks and then get sipping that raspberry leaf tea and scoffing pinapples! My DC's have said i am a hormonal grumpy mess so although its easy for me to say dont worry about being a bit on the crotchety side with your DD i do mean it when i say that she wont remember the odd outburst because you feel like you cant cope at the moment. Is there anyone to help you out a bit more or give you a bit of a break? I am so sorry that you are feeling so low atm, do you think you are having a bit of low patch in which case you might want to have a word with your doctor or something? Please dont beat yourself up about being short with DD or indeed wanting only two babies atm - i think given your state of mind and that you are having such a tough time this is entirely understandable but if you have been feeling like this for a while then maybe you should talk to your doctor about it because you arent a bad parent hun you are just finding it a bit tough atm (i hate it when everyone blames hormones too, especially when you are feeling so shite about everything) Feel free to come on here and moan and you mustnt apologise for it, its what its for and for support which it sounds very much like you could do with at the moment.

Thanks for your kind words, I am going to cuddle up to dd for a while and watch cbeebies and eat chocolate cake......

lardy You sound absolutely normal. I'm sure most of us feel the same and it is def not easy with a very small child to look after. We have same probs here, dp thinks it's hormones but he doesn't see what a little shit-bag ds can be when he is not here.
You don't sound awful at all, I've also been tempted by the castor oil, it's completely normal.
Is there anyone that can have ytour dd for even just an hour? Amazing the difference such a short space of time on your own can do.
I also find a walk helpful. I put ds in pushchair, and put hood over so I can't see him and just pace around the block. I hope you feel better soon. X

Lardybump, that was just what I was going to prescribe for you. Don't give yourself too high expectations about what you can get sone at this point in your pregnancy either. It is bloody hard work. When I am feeling shit and my DS2 and DS3 are creating merry havoc and DS1 wants me to watch something he has put on youtube, I just remove myself and go and sit somewhere with some music on and have a cup of team and remind myself they don't understand that they can't have everything straight away or what it feels like being an incontinent ox . Then when I feel better I go back and deal with it (sometimes through gritted teeth and sometimes I just send DH !!)Big hug to you.

LBB Also shocked at your crap care. I have seen the same midwife since the start of this pregnancy ...it's pot luck depending on where you live I think.

Any more babies coming this week ?

Laidback I like your approach, removal from the situation for a few minutes. I might try that, you're right they just don't understand how we are feeling and why you can't sort out their problems straight away!

Anyone going to use real nappies? I am thinking of using Motherease wraps this time. Any advice?

I mean the whole Motherease system not just the wraps, have heard they are quite slimline.

Sounds like there's quite a few of us who are getting to the 'I've had enough' stage. I'm so tired and grumpy all the time and poor DH is bearing the brunt of it. I can see him looking at me in the morning or when he comes home to try and work out whether I'm going to be civil or if I'll be biting his head off today.

I ache like I've never ached before, and to top it off, carpal tunnel whatsit has started in the past few days, my hands are so sore. Grrrrr!

I don't know how you ladies who already have 1, 2 or 3 kiddies are doing it - I take my hat off to you. At 37 weeks I think I'm allowed to moan about being uncomfortable but you ladies should be given a medal!

I intend to try and cure the problem with chocolate, and biscuits, and ice cream, and cake, and carrot and swede crush from M&S (yep, a weird craving).

oh lardy, so sorry you are feeling this crap but I guess a lot of us are starting to feel this way. In NO WAY does this make you an awful mum. You are just tired and probably achy and probably pissed off with being poked and proded by everyone.
Not long now, hang in there

Hello all. I have flu - raging temperature, achy body, killer headache (was hoping was just a 48 hour thing but sadly not ) so have called in sick today to try to sleep it off (know baby is fine as Squiglet is moving around plenty - and am mainlining fluids like no ones business) only for bloody Thames Water to dig up the road right in front of my house with no prior notice at all (apparently its for new drains but normally they put parking suspension signs up etc), so this headache is NOT going to go away. Fortunately the workmen seem to stop for regular 40 minute long coffee breaks so am trying to power nap at those times. Have decided am going to drag my sad achy sick old self into work tomorrow for a rest..

MoS - sorry to hear about your back giving you gyp. Please do speak to the physio and also try to take it easy (not easy with a toddler around I know). Am appalled at the Eurodisney price (do you think its because of the strength of the Euro)? I'd leave it till alot nearer the time you want to go and see if you can get a cheap deal then - doubt many people will want to be holidaying in the Eurozone this year so they will need to become more competitive/realistic with their prices to get people through the doors...

Lardy - you're absolutely normal to feel the way you do. Toddlers can sense there is a change coming and they act up accordingly when a new baby is about to come on the scene (and you're in alot of pain with your SPD - hope midwife has sorted out your physio for you now, which hardly makes dealing with an acting up toddler easier) - it will get easier when no 2 is here as your daughter will adapt and your SPD will hopefully diminish and go. Just hang on in there and enjoy that CBeebies and chocolate.

LBB - I have to see my GP at 36 weeks and have seen a different midwife (mostly student ones) every time I have seen a midwife this time round - last time round I had the same lovely community midwife virtually throughout but no such luck with new hospital/area. It is annoying - and I bet its even more annoying with the amount of messing around you've had a result from your hospital. I would seriously consider, when no 2 is out, sending a letter to PALS to complain about your experiences in your antenatal care as no one should have to go what you've had to go through.

McDreamy - hmm, having to wait in all day for a midwife does not sound like fun...

laidback I hope my baby comes this week! I might actually start fisty-cuffs if I have to carry on like this much longer! Bring on those fresh pineapples. 7 in 1 day isn't it?

QK That is a wierd craving. I'm just digging in to a plate of hot dogs, I don't like hotdogs, they are disgusting but I had to have them!
Sometimes I think it's a bit easier being this pregnant and also having a 17 month old as I'm often too busy to concentrate on how shit I feel. That's only sometimes!

36 weeks tomorrow.