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Fab Feb 2009: holy shit, this is it

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chilledmama · 10/01/2009 22:09

Cause Swampster has a dirty mouth
Wouldn't hear me speaking that way...much
How do we delete threads????

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PinkTulips · 12/01/2009 15:59

wonder how you keep getting lost though? it's not like you're at the end of the list

just sent idiot dp to the shop for apples.... told him if the granny smiths aren't nice and green don't get them get something else. he's come back with a bag of positively yellow apples that are wrinkled they're so old

fgs... it's apples, how can anyone be unable to buy apples??!!

herbgarden · 12/01/2009 16:03

You'd think they could follow a few simple instructions.....I just think they don't notice sometimes.
swampster - I'm a cs on 2nd Feb too - so that's three of us - presuamably you're morning too ??

MarkStretch · 12/01/2009 16:07

Message from MrsY

She is still without internet/laptop and going slowly mad.

She would like me to say Happy Birthday to O&U (and Happy Birthday from me too) and she knows the families of the two climbers who have died in France and would like us to remember them in our thoughts and prayers.

She is hoping to be back on line within the next two weeks!

I have just been for lunch with friend 1 (20 weeks pg and ds of 11 months), friend 2 (29 weeks pg) and friend 3 (37 weeks pg). Weird thinking there was 9 of us the room....

Have appointment with consultant at 9am tomorrow, am supposed to say VBAC or CS and I STILL haven't decided. Am going to write a list of pros and cons of both tonight and then see what they say tomorrow.

Neeerly3 · 12/01/2009 16:21

I'm gonna nick one of the boys pull ups tonite just so I don't have to get up to wee 3 or 4 times!

littleboyblue · 12/01/2009 16:22

Calico I feel the same, ds has spent soooo much time in front of the telly in the past couple of months, but I justify it by saying he needs to learn how to keep himself happy and that mummy can't be with him 24/7.....
O&U That's handy about your friend bringing all that stuff, lucky you!

lardy never heard of it, can't even read that word (but that might be because I'm a dumbo!). I'd stay away from most of these things tbh, that baby won't come til it's ready, by all means try the things that I will, walking up and down stairs and pineapple etc, things that'll only make you spend the day on the loo or make your legs ache! If you can't find any evidence of how it works or any side effects, it's not worth it. I know these last weeks are hard, I'm in the same place mentally as you are, but it'll get better. I hope.

Kazza So sorry about your cat.....how awful Hope you and your family are ok.

herb So jealous of you going to cinema, I keep meaning to get on-line and look for local cinemas that allow babies in at certain showings. Hope you get all your sorting out done.

PT That's what we're finding, although we try to restrict his drinking in the evening, doesn't seem to matter, he must save it up! My mum said he didn't come through on these bigger nappies so fingers crossed we might get a few dry weeks before have to go up gain
What's cumin tea? If it works will try it too, will also be 37wks next week.
I think the men do it on purpose so we won't ask them to do anything ever again.

littleboyblue · 12/01/2009 17:27

I just told dp about what happened this morning when making an appointment to see midwife (wonder if when I call labour ward they'll tell me to go to gp? ) And he thinks maybe I expect too much and that no matter what they do it wouldn't be good enough, like I'm a spoilt child with princess syndrome. Maybe he's right. I did put my original moan this morning on the main pregnancy board and someone replied telling me I may need to look at the common factor in all of this, which is me.........Maybe I'm holding resentment to the care team because of the rubbish time I had last time? Maybe they really are just crap, but it feels like no one cares, but of course they don't, it's a job isn't it?
Will someone just give me a slap so I can just get on. Maybe next monday someone can put a boot up my arse! I am really going to try to get there as going slowly insane at home and think it's getting too easy to not make the effort to get out iyswim.

littleboyblue · 12/01/2009 17:40

Right, for next monday, Royal Festival Hall Foyer Cafe. Where is that?

littleboyblue · 12/01/2009 18:04

Had a look on route finder and think I can get there on 1 train without having to use stairs if i go to London Waterloo and will print a map of how to get there from there

PinkTulips · 12/01/2009 18:24

lbb.... tbh, the situations you've described aren't you looking for a fight, yes you've reacted strongly once or twice but so would lots of women in your situation.

the fact that they don't seem at all interested in giving you the care you need at this stage of preg, especially when you've been suffering so horribly from UTIs is dispicable.

not taking enough blood to do test they knew they had to do, not writing important info on your notes, not giving you appointments when you should have had them are all serious issues... and none of those are in any way your fault or you 'expecting too much'

rosieposey · 12/01/2009 18:24

LLB im going to try and make it for the same reasons - i need to get out and im not making the effort to enough at the moment. I dont think that you are expecting too much - i think its not unreasonable to expect fairly consistent decent care throughout your pregnancy its just a shame that you arent getting it by the sounds of it.

OandU happy birthday to you!

PinkTulips · 12/01/2009 18:29

btw, cumin tea is just a spoonful of cumin seeds (or powder if you don't have seeds) in boiling water with some honey added to make it palatable. it sounds like it'll taste horrendous but it wasn't too bad... like dirty water more than anything and i'm convinced it worked!

(watch me spend 5 weeks drinking it 24/7 only to be induced this time )

littleboyblue · 12/01/2009 18:33

Thanx you two . I am at that point now where I think I am snapping for no good reason. Oh well, not long now, if there were any serious issues that they have failed to pick up on, I'm hoping they'd be fairly obvious.

rosie It's dawned on me that when people ask if I want to meet up or when I'll next be around I'm using being late pregnancy as an excuse to not do anything and if I can't do it now, def won't with 2 lo's..........

chilledmama · 12/01/2009 19:12

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Questionkid · 12/01/2009 20:00

I've got a question - when you come on here and say you're 'marking the thread for later', what do you mean? Is there a way of making it that you don't have to try and remember where you last left it (like I have to do) so you don't end up reading posts you've already read or miss out on people's news because you start reading later then you meant to?

swampster · 12/01/2009 20:17

Neeerly - are you suffering from a wee bit of paranoia today? YOU WERE ON THAT LIST!!!

dinkystinky · 12/01/2009 20:24

Is that your pelvic floor going Chilled?

Managed to get lots of sleep this afternoon and that combined with the paracetemol and fluids seems to be fighting off the flu, fingers crossed.

Kazza - yay re the bathroom, but so sorry about your cat I'd be exactly the same with a beloved pet - hope you manage to give your cat a decent farewell.

Rosie, LBB - Royal Festival Hall is an easy amble from London Waterloo so if that is where the train comes into will be really easy for you to get there. Will be lovely to see you in person tomorrow.

Lardy - maybe you could post your query on the childbirth or pregnancy thread as am sure I've heard of other women using homeopathic stuff re labour/contractions. To be honest, unless you're getting proper homeopathic remedy advice, I'd be slightly wary of anything like that (as you wont know correct dosages, contra-indications etc.). May be worth trying to get in touch with local homeopaths if you're looking into that route?

Herb - glad you had a good time at the cinema. You're right - if am not feeling up to the tube journey definitely wont go in tomorrow (that was the one thing that really convinced me to stay home today).

dinkystinky · 12/01/2009 20:28

Questionkid - yup, that's what the wee/markers do (you can then search for your last post and find it).

LBB - dont think you have been unreasonable given the awful experiences you had last time and the huge variance in care you've had this time. The sad fact is that lots of women have crap antenatal care (because of disinterested midwives, lots of stresses on the services meaning you dont see the same one each time) - if you do get to see the same community midwife each time, then as far as I can tell, you are very much in the minority. However, the NHS is supposed to be dedicated to making antenatal care better (not worse) and supposed to be working towards the one woman, one midwife ideal - so the only real way you can register how lost you feel in the system is to complain at the end of the process to PALS (as I think the inconsistency of midwives is definitely a contributing factor to not sorting out the UTI treatment).

Onward - am most of your extremely generous friend. Sounds like you're totally sorted!!

rosieposey · 12/01/2009 20:31

Dinky is it tomorrow? why oh why in my pregnancy fuddled brain did i think it was next Monday the 19th? I think i saw that on FB but the date must have changed (i obviously just need a new brain!) I cant come tomorrow because i have my last growth scan booked aw rubbish i really wanted to come!

lardybump · 12/01/2009 20:33

I think that I will just stick to the raspberry leaf tea and lots of walking at 37 weeks after all. I dont really want to take tablets homeopathic or not......

Took dd to docs and her chest is clear which is good but she has a thrush infected nappy rash on her bits bless her...... Dont know what has caused that as she has never had nappy rash before....

I have physio on Wednesday so am hoping that she will have magic hands and make me feel a bit better.... If she does I am hoping to make the meet up on Monday, if not then I might not make it as am not very mobile at the moment....

rosieposey · 12/01/2009 20:36

Is it Monday or tomrrow? now im really confuddled ...

swampster · 12/01/2009 20:37

Monday!

dinkystinky · 12/01/2009 20:41

Sorry Rosie - to meet you and LBB in person on MONDAY (was saying monday in my head but typed in tomorrow for some reason - think flu must be still with me! ) Meet up is definitely next Monday...

swampster · 12/01/2009 20:53
Grin
rosieposey · 12/01/2009 21:04

lol hooray i can come then!

littleboyblue · 12/01/2009 21:11

dinky You're right. I don't expect to see the same person every time, I understand the issues surrounding short staff etc. I was thinking earlier about maybe waiting a few months after this one was born to let hormones settle a bit and then looking at complaint process, just so that they are aware of how I've been feeling, if no one tells them, they won't ever know where things are slightly off, I don't intend to be rude or unreasonable, just to set out my thoughts and feelings in a manner that might be understood and taken on board iyswim. However, when I mentioned to my original cmw about the care when having ds, she sent me to see gp for PND and don't want that doubt put back on me, they had me thinking for a few weeks that maybe there was something wrong.

I thought it was monday too! I've really geared myself up for it now, can't do tomorrow though.......

lardy your poor dd, sounds very unpleasant for her (ad you).
Glad to hear you'll stick with the 'normal' stuff to get the ball rolling. Fancy joining me in the pineapple challenge? We can do next wednesday, both start at lets say 10am and see who can get through 7 first!

Phew, just got to bottom and glad to see it's monday! I'm looking forward to meeting everyone in person too. Will we be sitting around a table or in a comfy area chatting away and saying things like "oh yes dinky, that sounds lovely" and pass the sugar please lardy" We'll look mad using these nicknames and will our baby/pregnancy brains allow us to remember real names? I'm terrible at that without having the pregnancy mush in my head!