EMMSY'S BFP GIRLS, This a-way.....................

[FruitynNutty]

Here we go, our own thread in honour of the best TTC thread in the whole world

C'mon Emmsy Cricri Mibbes Mollie and our newest member Yarnie (come on, don't be scared )

Yarnie Sorry to hear about DF being likely to lose his job Hopefully he'll manage to find another one quickly. My BIL works in the City so know what it's like at the moment. DH does too but in IT so hopefully not as affected by the current climate [fingers crossed emoticon]
I'm sure you and Sparkly are just lucky and have had no symptoms. Can understand the anxiety about the scan though.
Well the NCT class was really good - the other couples seem like really nice people and having the whole day together meant that we were really able to start to get to know one another properly rather than having 2hrs here and 2hrs there. There are 3 of us due within a day of each other and everybody is due within a month of each other so that's nice We've got the BF session on Wednesday evening followed by the last part of the course all day next Sunday so it's very intensive. Our teacher also wants to organise a "bra and beer" evening later this month when the ladies will be fitted for nursing bras and the chaps go down to the pub. I've heard she has a rather unconventional way of fitting ladies for bras - no tape measure, she just asks you to whip your boobs out, jiggle them a bit and she sizes you like that Very accurate though apparently!
Hope everybody else is OK

Yarnie Sorry to hear about DF and his job. I really hope things work out very quickly so you don't have to worry about it. Lots of luck for your scan. Bet you can't wait.
Cricri Glad things went well at NCT.

Yarnie Sorry to hear about the job, what rubbish timing.

Sparkly and Yarnie Don't worry about the lack of symptoms. My pg friend told me something today that her midwife said which I thought would be good for us all to bear in mind. "Assume all is well and healthy, until you know otherwise, not the other way around" Please test drive for me as I am same as Yarnie and not going there yet. Although DP told me off the other day for sneakily discussing names.

Cricri Sounds like your class is quite fun. Are you sure the blokes will be persuaded to go to the pub rather than stay for the bra thing!

TeeHee You're right. I really should assume everything is fine. DF keeps telling me the same! I'm feeling better about it today. I seem to have these moments of "argh"!

DF has lined up a couple of interviews and he was told that no redundancies will be made until Jan 09, so we have a bit of time to find something else. Hopefully, I can squeeze in an interior design job or two before my EDD to help boost our finances.

How's everyone else today.

Fruity When is your 12 week scan, or did I miss it?

I had a symptonless PG in first trimester and all is well - just be glad ! Having said that I obviously worried myself sick before then scan and cried tears of relief when there was a baby on the screen ! I think worry is part and parcel of the PG rollercoaster, whether you feel sick or not.

Thanks for that, Mibbes! Just what I needed to hear.

What happened at your scan Fruity I'm sure you said it was today or did I just make that up.

Yarnie Glad that things are feeling a bit more positive on all fronts today. I think worry goes with the territory and now we are becoming parents will continue at some level FOREVER!

Mmmm on that cheery thought I will leave you all to curse me for destroying your positive moods (oops, sorry

Still symptomless here but am reassured for the moment. Am so tempted to pay for a private scan but DP doesn't see the point - we should be having a scan with the NHS in 3 weeks.

Yarnie Glad things are looking up for you.

Fruity Is your scan tomorrow?

I just had my scan date..26th September at 9am so it's just over 3 weeks away.

I hope your girls don't mind, but this thread is still on my watch list so I've come over to tell Yarnie off!!
We've all been asking about you on our main thread but you have only posted on here! Not happy with that missus, I shall have to come and slap the back of your legs until they are red and tingly!!!
Really sorry to hear about your DH's job, hopefully he can find something else which will be a lot better for him and very soon. When is your next scan?
Sparkly Oh my I bet you feel that your scan is ages away but at least you've got a date to countdown too now
Mollie goes back to where she belongs now

ello girls

My scan is tomorrow at 3pm. sparkly great news about your scan. Those 3 weeks will fly by
teehee yes worry does come with the territory of being a parent but you can't let it get to you. I never really worry about DS I just worry what other people think of him I also worry about others around him as he's quite boisterous.
I'm more worried about the new one, I never had worrying feelings with DS. But I was younger and not as clued up about possible problems which could occur.

Oh god Sparkly 26th Sept seems ages but 3 weeks sounds better. At least you can start ticking off the dates now.

I think you're dead right Fruity the older you get the more people you meet who have problems or dissapointments. I sometimes feel my losses have affected the experiences of my friends. My BF is way more nervous with this one than she was with her last too. I guess there is something to be said for ignorance is bliss. Also read posts last night and yes you clearly said Thursday not Tuesday (must learn to read!)

Had my first midwife appointment today and she put my date at 15th April which fits with what doctor said at scan. So I am sticking with the 15th - for now anyway.

I'm so bloody excited I can hardly contain myself and to top it off I have NO MINDEES tomorrow either - Much as I love them all

I don't think I'll be able to sleep tonight!

My notes say I don't need a full bladder but surely it will help? no? I don't think I did with DS. I can't remember now maybe I did Maybe I'll make sure I have a semi-full bladder.

Hope all goes well tomorrow Fruity Make sure you get a picture and put it on your profile.
Some of the newer scanning equipment doesn't require a full bladder (our PCT one did, but when I went to the Fetal Medicine Centre in London they didn't for example).
Hope everybody else is OK
Off to NCT breastfeeding session tonight - catch up with you all tomorrow!

Picture? I'm coming back armed with a DVD!!!

Just been to see the consultant.
He put in big letters "Homebirth discussed. Advised: NOT SAFE, Advised VBAC in hospital"

I'm so embarrassed cos I burst into tears in his office He said if I have a VBAC in hospital this time then a homebirth might be an option next time round. He said it doesn't matter how close to the hospital I live, it wouldn't be enough time if there was an emergency. It sounds stupid but I almost feel robbed I know it's not safe and I don't want to risk my baby's life but it just would have been nice.
Also I mentioned my concerns with being able to supply enough milk this time round. I said I've read poor milk supply is linked to PCOS. He said it's a myth He said there are all sorts of reasons for poor milk supply. He said PCOS has been kind to me as I'm on my 2nd pregnancy, 11 months isn't long at all TTC (even when all my RL friends fall preg within 4 weeks or even worse, after missing one pill/one night stands ). He called me skinny (well he did have dodgy glasses on) and I could be obese and really hairy. I tell you, that man should've gone to Specsavers cos I'm like a sodding gorilla if I don't constantly shave, pluck and wax. How would he know if PCOS has been kind to me?
Good news is, my thyroid function is fine so I can stick with my dosage. He took my bloods for thyroid antibodies as he said if I have this then it could transfer into the baby (not sure what that means). I've got to see him again in 4 weeks (oh joy).

When I got home I told DP all about it. Surprise surprise, I got no support what-so-ever He said he's relieved I'm having a hospital birth as he didn't want me to have a HB anyway. He reckons he went through so much when I was having DS. I told him to try going through 18 hours of labour then having major abdominal surgery He says it wasn't just me in there, he should have a say too
Then I tell him about the discussion about breast feeding. He laid into me saying why do I drive myself mad? If I can't do it why beat myself up about it?
"ALL I WANT IS FUCKING SUPPORT FROM YOU, YOU STUPID MORON"

I've had it today My scan had better bring me good news or I think I might go and drink myself into an oblivion.

Apart from all that, I have a trace of protein in my wee but it's fine.

I suppose all I have to do now is just do what everyone says (inc DP) for an easy life.

I suppose I should count my lucky stars that I managed to get pregnant! Done my job until I give birth.

Thanks for the rant guys!

Oh Fruity! Just crashed over here to read your rant ! Please ignore my question to you on the other thread, very badly timed methinks.
Why is it that so many hcp's are such sodding ignorant tossers hard-hearted individuals? Would a tiny bit of empathy be too much to expect? Evidently it would . I cannot think of any situation where someone saying "cheer up, it could be worse" has made me feel any better. Maybe you should get a voodoo doll to turn him into an obese gorilla and see how he likes it! (Not that you are, but I hope you know what I mean )
And as for your DP . Why are they so crap? MY DH confided recently that he had to try really hard not to laugh when I was having contractions cos I was pulling such funny faces ! I think it was a stress reaction on his part, but had he laughed it might very well have been the last thing he ever did

Really hope your scan this afternoon makes you feel better. And there's still plenty of time for them to change their minds on the hb front. Keeping everything crossed for you

Thanks Kate Yes a voodoo doll would be lovely He was quite gorilla like already though I'd quite like to stick some pins in a DP voodoo doll too

Fruity Sorry to hear about the unsympathetic consultant I'm sorry, I don't know your circumstances, but what is his reasoning? Perhaps you could chat to a mw and see if they are more open to the idea, although I'm aware of your problems with the mw team you've been allocated. Have you posted on the hb thread we're on? Hopefully somebody there will have some suggestions for you. also at the fact that he was so dismissive at PCOS.
Also very at your DP. I'm sure childbirth is difficult for men too (we were told this at the NCT class) but this wasn't really the best time to bring it up. Hopefully he'll realise how much he upset you once he's had time to mull over things.
You also mentioned your underactive thyroid - I'd forgotten you had that too. Just a warning, make sure you keep a close eye on your blood test results. A couple of weeks ago I was told my TSH and T4 levels were fine by the GP's secretary and no action needed to be taken. I always ask for the figures and when she gave them to me I said that the TSH level was higher than that recommended by the consultant I was referred to. She said the GP had said it was fine I wasn't happy with that so I rang the consultant and he said it was not fine, asked me to up the dose of thyroxine and have a repeat blood test in 5 weeks' time. He also wrote to the GP. So you have to be really on the ball!
Anyway, you must be having your scan as I write so I hope all went well and look forward to hearing all about it

Fruity Men are just arseholes sometimes aren't they. Sorry I should have something far more positve and eloquent to say but that just sums up how I felt when reading you post. (and I am in a bad mood as well) Hcp's can be so dismissive and it's their job, they do get bloody paid for it. And as for DH/DP's - I don't think I'd better start as you may have had your baby by the time I've finished!
Cricri is right you have to be so on the ball but you shouldn't have to be.

Hope your scan cheers you up and seeing your little one waving at you will make you feel like your not in this on your own!

Think I'm the one who should be changing her name to Narkylaydee!

Oh, Fruity. I'm sorry your consultant is being so rubbish. I think doctors forget they are dealing with individuals sometimes. My step father is an orthopaedic consultant and my mum (a surgical nurse) tells him off occasionally for his cool demeanour. It sounds like you need to have a word with your DP as well. Let him know that what you really need is his support, not his judgment at this time.

I hope the scan cheered you up .

The scan went amazingly well! I've put a picture on my profile

Chance of Downs was 1:13624

Pretty good eh!

She/he was sooooo cute, I think it had hiccups cos it kept leaping up then landing back down again. We saw it's little arms and legs (2 of each) and it's brain (2 hemispheres thank god! )

I'm going to watch my DVD now

This certainly makes up for my shitty morning!

Cricri my thyroid was only checked once when having DS
My results this time were:
T4: 21.0
T3: 5.4
TSH:

Brilliant news, Fruity! Makes me feel more optimistic about my scan on Tues . Love the pic too!

Brilliant - such a clear picture too - very cute

I love looking at scan pictures. There is something so addictive about them!

Teehee We're allowed to be narky . You ok?
Fruity So pleased that the news this afternoon made up for the bad experience of this morning. I'm so sorry to hear that both the consultant and your DP annoyed you. I'm really not suprised that you got upset...I think anyone wanting a home birth as much as you did would have. Sending you lots of love and support. If you need a chat you know where I am.
Emmsy Where are you hiding? You've been very quiet.
Yarnie Not long until your scan now. Are you on the count down?
Cricri How did the breastfeeding workshop go? Did you find it useful? The one I attended was really helpful. Did you express hand cream from a fake boob? [random question]