Due April 2005, part deux

[DelGirl]

Xoz and I thought it was time to start a new thread so here it is. Will copy the list over from the old one:

Mose Girl - 27 March
Mother Peculiar - 1 April
Seabird - 8 April
bronniemuldoon - 10ish April
MunchK2n - 11 April
NellyK - 11 April
Strawberry - 11 April
006 - 15 April
tallbird - 25 april
Xoz - 16 April
Rydercup - 16 April
Mitzi - 18 April
jumpin - 20 april
DelGirl - 22 April
Azure - 23 April
fisil - end April-ish
miranda2 - 28 April

apologies fora any mistakes

Oh Tallbird what absolutely devastating news. I'm so so so sorry, I can't imagine what you must be going through, sweetheart. I've been wondering how things went in the last few days, knowing you were getting the results this week. I really hope everyone you come into contact with throughout this is sensitive and kind. I know you know you will get through this eventually but at the moment that must seem a very long way off. I hope you have lots of support around you and remember mumsnet is always here. xxx

Tallbird, I just can't imagine what news like that would do to you. I'll be thinking of you and hope that you have all the support you need.

Oh Tallbird. I don't know what to say. I am so sorry for your news. I have been thinking about you and hoping for the best since you had the tests. You poor poor thing.

I hope you manage to get through your ordeal tomorrow and completely echo Seabirds wish that everyone you come into contact with is sensitive and kind. My heart goes out to you.

I'm so sorry.
XXX

Tallbird, just spotted this very sad news. There is lots of support on the Miscarriage/Bereavement from people who miscarried, had a stillbirth or had to terminate due to a devastating diagnosis like yours. Post there if you think it will help. I found it a lifeline after my stillbirth in 2002.
My thoughts will be with you tomorrow, I do hope they are ultra-kind and sensitive to you from now on.

so sorry to hear your news tallbird.

so very sorry to hear your news tallbird and hope that everything goes as smoothly as it can do... my thoughts will be with you today.

Forgot to say hi & welcome to Orangina & csa - good to have you along.

Orangina - sorry to hear about your referral experience. In answer to your question about being calm or stroppy, while I know the "sensible" advice is to try to be calm, practically everybody I know who's been there before resolves to be much more assertive next time round, from booking-in to the birth itself. My last pregnancy was such an administrative nightmare you'd think I'd have been warned by the time I was in labour, but there I was telling dh not to offend the hospital staff just in case it affected our care. All I can say is it was more by luck than judgment that dd was born healthy. (And we're going private this time.) Sorry to rant, it just makes me so cross that poor care seems to be the norm rather than the exception. So IMHO, Orangina, while you don't want to push your blood pressure through the ceiling, be as stroppy as you have to be to make sure you're looked after properly.

Orangina, I agree with what Seabird said..... although if you're like me you'll just accept things as they are (ie s*e NHS) and quietly seethe away to yourself. As this is your first pregnancy I think you are entitled to be a bit anxious and crave some antenatal support from the outset. So when is your mw eventually coming? If you can't hurry things along why not go to your GP for at least a blood pressure check and a bit of a chat to put your mind at rest. The odds are massively in favour of you having no problems at all (and at least you've seen you baby on the nuchal scan) and any antenatal tests you have being merely routine but that is not the point though. When you're midwife eventually comes I woud definitely ask loads of questions and be particularly firm with her so there is no ambiguity over what care you can expect from then on.

Oh so sorry to read your news today Tallbird. What a terrible thing to have to go through . Thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs. Take care of yourself, hope you're getting lots of support in RL x

hello everyone - i'm another that would like to join the thread - felt apprehensive before as i wanted to have my scan to see if i really was pregnant or just retaining my bump from ds2 (16 months ago

hi and welcome to the April thread Shrub. When's your baby due?

thanks delgirl, april 28th - having already had 2 thought i would be out of the tiredness thing by now, but no - i am sooo grumpy. have handed the children over to dh today, was suppose to go on a visit to a farm with them as promised weeks ago, he has taken them but feel so very guilty i'm not doing the family thing. how about everyone else - is this your first?

don't feel guilty Shrub. Pamper yourself instead . This is my my 1st one, yes.

Welcome shrub . I agree with DelGirl - relax and enjoy your few hours' peace!

Hi everyone. I would also like to join the April thread. My baby is due on the 21st April, although I am a bit confused about the whole dates thing. Is the date they give you at the 12 weeks scan the actual conception date or just the LMP date? Anyway, nice to find all you ladies at the same stage as me .i.e. waiting to glow, waiting to look pregnant rather than just fat and not fitting mat clothes whilst bursting out of normal clothes!

Hi Emmalina. You're due the day before me . Gosh, we are getting busy.

WOW what a lot to catch up on in the last few days!!!

so sorry to hear your news tallbird.... i hope you're doing okay with it all. for you.

Welcome to all the newcomers! Orangina, csa, shrub and emmalina. Hope you all have good pregnancies.

Shrub I can really empathise with you. I'm on #3 too and I feel so tired all the time. How old are your other 2? Mine are 3.9 and 2.1. It's hard work. All of you in your first pregnancy.... enjoy this one. If you have any more you won't get to pamper yourself (ie. go to bed when you like, watch crap TV and lie on the couch all afternoon, etc) so do it now!!!!!!! The only thing I can do now to indulge myself is eat lots of bad foods, so it's no wonder I have nothing to wear that fits me!!!!!

welcome Shrub and Emmalina, nice to have you on board.

I'm getting spottier

wearing mat clothes today and looking much more pg than I remember looking last time round at this stage. Nice high bump though, very sweet.

Hope you're all feeling ok.

welcome, orangina, csa, shrib and emmalina!
Bump seems to be growing at alarming rate at the mo - almost as big as enormous backside! Alongside looking very chunky I am still suffering bad heartburn everyday, occassional bouts of nausea, constipation and shooting pains in groin and boobs! Sex drive totally vanished (will it ever return - v worrying indeed!!) and have to admit that although I am really looking forward to being a mum I am not enjoying being pregnant at all! Said this to a friend the other day and she looked at me like i had 2 heads. Sure much heralded 'glow' will kick in soon but until then...
Hope the rest of you are feeling great xx

thanks for all your lovely welcomes - xoz, my ds1 is 4.9 and my ds2 is 17 months, yes i'm feeling rather s'teamrollered' and wistful about crap tv too - i only let them watch wholesome or educational tv and if there is something interesting on its usually past my bedtime, infact the trick or treaters kept getting me out of bed last night (cue lots of swearing and more grumpiness) when my dh told me it was only 8pm

Welcome Emmalina & Shrub - good to have to you on board.

Tallbird, I don't know if you're still reading this thread or not but I wanted to say how really sorry I was to read your post. I wondered how you'd got on and just feel so awful for you. Big hugs and take care of yourself, and remember we're all here for you on Mumsnet.

I've just spent the most fab child free weekend with my sister in London. She got a freebie at the swanky 5 star hotel she works at and we got to have dinner and stay the night for free. Oh my God! How the other half live... I immersed myself in the chocolate leather and cream interiors and pretended my life didn't revolve around a grotty food-stained sofa and loud (but lovely!) DS. Feeling great although a bit knackered as I forced myself to stay up and watch the X factor on ITV2 last night as missed it on Saturday - hope I'm not the only one addicted to trash TV!

PS I agree with Seabird, Orangina, I would kick up a right stink if I hadn't been seen by now. I wasn't very assertive last time round (particularly at the birth) and boy, I'd do it differently this time. You don't have to be agressive or rude just firm about what you need.

Just a quick message to thank you all for your support and kind words - it has really meant a lot to me.
Hope you are all doing well.

Good to hear from you Tallbird - hope you are doing ok.

thinking of you and sending lots of hugs your direction
MP

thinking of you tailbird.

Bronnie your weekend sounds fab - am v envious! My life is seriously lacking in fun at the moment. I got really down yesterday at feeling so shit all the time (and dd is ill and was seriously whiney and clingy which took me even nearer to the end of my tether). It's a vicious circle - I feel so crap and tired I can't do anything, in particular see friends, and I end up getting more down and feeling even worse. And I'm hungry all the time because whenever I eat anything it gives me a tummyache and wipes my energy out (think I must have some sort of pregnancy food intolerances?). (Sorry to whinge.) Still, maybe I won't put on as much weight as last time!

However last night I managed to meet up with a couple of girlfriends, stayed out far too late (got home at 10.30!!) and had a really jolly time - consequently feeling much better today. Hope it lasts! (At least until I eat anything.)