Anyone due August 2020 pt II

[Jojo19834]

Hi all

Just thought I would get this set up so that we had somewhere to go at the end. Will link to it in the old thread. Can’t believe we reached the limit so soon!!!

[Fifi1982]

Hello. I wondered if it would be okay to join? I am 9+3 today and due on the 4 August. We have been TTC for 14 months so we are over the moon. Feeling a little isolated at the moment as I’ve moved away from my home town and my mum lives abroad. I stumbled upon mumsnet and this thread when looking up something else. It’s my first baby and I will be 38 this month, whilst I’m so excited I’m also nervous, terrified and I think with Christmas etc. it is just setting in what lies ahead. I feel a bit silly saying it out loud and wondered if anyone else experienced this sudden panic or am I just being over sensitive? It was interesting to read that people’s symptoms sometimes subside when they’re poorly too as I was convinced mine had gone and trying to avoid google. Feeing better now and sickness is back. We have an early scan booked for this Sunday but any advice would be gratefully received.x

[Nellie3]

@Sjacey thanks so much for that advice, I will definitely go to Holland and Barrat today. Anything is worth a try! Completely understand about not being able to clean your house properly, even small tasks like having a shower seem so hard when you feel like this. Glad you're feeling a bit more like yourself now though and hopefully the sickness won't last too much longer.

@jeels I really relate to your post, I had a MMC last year and being pregnant again is just so scary. It's especially hard for the woman because you can't get away from it, your body knows your pregnant all the time so there's no escape from it. I'm feeling mixed emotions which I'm sure you are too. I tell myself not to get ahead of myself but then start imagining the future, you just can't help it! Well done for getting your booking appt sorted, hopefully you'll have a lovely midwife who can reassure you too.

Has anyone else got any tips for the work place/working a long day? So worried about next week! I'm making sure I have snacks available all the time and will eat them when I can but I'm even worried about getting out the house on time, takes so long to get up and ready when you're feeling rough.

[Girlinglasses]

@Fifi1982 welcome! And congrats! I haven't really had that panic yet, I think because I haven't really allowed myself to think about having an actual baby just yet, my mind hasn't gone beyond my 12 week scan, but I have no doubt panic will set in at some point- it's such a huge thing, how could it not!

I also would welcome any tips on getting through the working day- I really don't know how I'll cope with getting up at 6am not to mind being on my feet all day and dealing with rowdy teenagers!!

I booked a cleaner for today and I am going to go out and have coffee while she's here- seems like such an unnecessary expense but, whilst OH has been amazing and done basically everything without complaint, I really feel like the place needs a good scour and I just can't bring myself to do it!

[Fifi1982]

@Girlinglasses thank you! And congrats too! We have a cleaner and I honestly couldn’t cope without her. OH is not great with the domestic side of things!

Probably already mentioned but maybe lots of snacks? I’ve found TicTics have been my saviour too. I travel a lot for work and thing planning is the only way I will cope when I’m back next week. I think little and often is the way forward. The teenagers I have no experience of (yet)! Good luck next week!

I think my panic stems from knowing how much I have to do and not having any friends or family close by. My OH has no family here either. So feeling a bit lost. We also have no room and OH wants to do an extension and I want to move! So there is frustration on my side as well!!!!

Has anyone had issues with their hips (random I know) especially at nighttime? I have a sort of prickly burning sensation in both sides when I go to bed. Maternity pillow on today’s amazon but any tips?

[Frazzlerock]

I'm with you on the cleaning. Whilst I don't have sickness, I am exhausted. DP has been doing it, and he is very thorough, but it needs doing more often really and he is already doing so much, he barely sits down!
I think a cleaner is the way to do it @Girlinglasses. DP mentioned getting a cleaner before we got pregnant anyway, but I always said it was a waste of money but now would be a good time to get one! We had one before but I felt like I could do it and save the cash so we said goodbye to her. I want her back!

Re work, I literally have no idea. Alarm goes off at 5:15am as I have a commute into London, then home at 6pm then the DS's have football or cubs or something going on, plus having to cook dinner. I feel a bit overwhelmed by it after having 2 weeks off work and preg symptoms ramping up... My Line Manager is brilliant though and knows I am pregnant and has been there through the struggles we've been through the past 4 years (he has also lost a baby himself), so he said I can WFH whenever I want. I just don't want to take the piss, you know?

It's times like this I wish I was a SAHP! Not that its easy, but at least you can stay at home if you want to.

[Frazzlerock]

PS anyone having craving yet?

I've done a full jar of pickled onions in 24 hours and have been desperate for a scotch egg since last night.My mouth is watering at the thought of eating one! Gonna have to go to Sainbos en route home from the scan...

[PandaPink]

@jeels I totally get what you mean about burying your head in the sand. I've quite happily not had an early scan through fear. I am going for one at 9+6 next Thursday though and the EPU said that they were really sorry they couldn't fit me in earlier and I was like oh it's absolutely fine not wanting to go any earlier. Is that bad!?

With regards to work ladies Im q nurse and have had a few days off here n there. I am actually better at work. My mind is occupied I just have to get on with it. I spewed this morning before leaving after brushing my teeth and have had cereal and hard boiled sweets to sook on since. My only issue is keeping multivits down. I bough the pregnacare liquid which was fine but I have started to go off it now. I can still manage my 5mg of folic acid though which is better than nothing I suppose. X

[Poppyseed2020]

Hi there, hope you're all well. Just wondering if I can join the group? Everyone seems a bit further along than me. I've been reading messages for a couple of days and feel a bit overwhelmed! Thought I should just get on with it and start talking to people as feel a bit alone (none of my close friends have babies). NHS calculator says I'm 5 weeks and due on the 31st of August. First baby and been trying for over a year so very happy but also very nervous. Need to talk about the worries but also scared to as it all doesn't seem real!

[jennielm]

@Frazzlerock thinking of you, hope all is going well!!

I’ve had an emotional few days and not out of the woods yet, although no real reason. Doctor supported taking bloods to measure HCG levels on Tuesday and yesterday after gestational sac at private scan on Monday showed yolk sac but only measured 6 weeks. I’m struggling to do anything because all I want to do is curl up and hide.

Anyway, level was 16025 and then 24688 and from what I have read, doubling every 4 days is within normal parameters when HCG levels are above 6000. Just got to try and relax now

[Fifi1982]

@Poppyseed2020 hello! I feel exactly the same way - we can be newbies together. I think overwhelmed and anxious is normal at this stage! Congrats on your BFP xx

[Frazzlerock]

After an amazing scan last week with perfect measurements and a perfect heartbeat, we've just been told our sweet little baby's heart stopped beating probably only yesterday going by the size.

I just can't believe this is happening again. I had no reason to believe things were wrong this time. I've had cravings, sore boobs, nausea. No bleeding since two weeks before our last scan.

How stupid of me to think we'd be 4th time lucky. I was really positive this time, like a fool.

I guess that'll teach me to be happy.

Fuck this shit

[f00k]

I'm so, so sorry @Frazzlerock. My heart absolutely breaks for you.

[Dollywilde]

@frazzlerock there are no words. I'm so, so sorry.

[Girlinglasses]

@Frazzlerock I am so so sorry, I know there is nothing we can say to lessen what you are feeling right now 💔

[Fifi1982]

@Frazzlerock I’m so so sorry xx

[Poppyseed2020]

@Frazzlerock so so sorry for you. Just so shitty x

[Poppyseed2020]

Thanks for the reply @Fifi1982 good to know there’s another newbie! X

[Seasidegirl11]

@Frazzlerock I’m so very sorry to hear this xxxxx

[MaisieMolly]

@Frazzlerock I’m so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your family

[jennielm]

@Frazzlerock I have no words except I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you and I wish it was different.

[sezzywoowoo21]

@Frazzlerock my heart is breaking for you I’m so so sorry for your loss I just can’t imagine what u must be going through right now sending you hugs xx

[Babykent2019]

@Frazzlerock I'm so sorry to hear this 😢

[Frazzlerock]

Thank you.
I just wasn't expecting it at all after such a good scan last week. It makes no sense. I only went today as 9 weeks has been our shit week twice before, so just needed a bit of reassurance.
Now I've got to make the shit decision wether to have surgery for the third time or let things happen naturally.
I can't stop crying and my head hurts so bad.
I'm fucking exhausted from 4 years of utter shite.

I'm going to go now as I'll just bring you all down with me.

I think I've learnt not to join antenatal groups again. It just brings too much hope.

Thanks for the chats and I hope to god no one has to experience what we have so many times. Xx

[Jojo19834]

@Frazzlerock was just checking in to see your news and I am shocked and so sad for you. Despite your troubles and reservations you seemed so upbeat and I really thought it was your turn. I’m so so so sorry this has happened again to you xxx

[Sjacey]

@Frazzlerock so sorry for your loss ❤️