Anyone due August 2020 pt II

[Jojo19834]

Hi all

Just thought I would get this set up so that we had somewhere to go at the end. Will link to it in the old thread. Can’t believe we reached the limit so soon!!!

@Frazzlerock @PandaPink I'm 9 weeks today!

I have my first midwife appointment this evening- could anyone tell me what it entails? Am I right in thinking it'll just be a lot of questions?

Ah the 9 weeks club

The booking in appointment is very very long and very very boring. Takes an hour (at least mine did last year when I was pregnant briefly, I can't remember them with the DS's as it was so long ago!). Basically an hour of questions about all aspects of your health and medical history. Make sure you know the basics of your DP's medical history if he's not going with you as they will ask. They will also weigh you and do your height, and probably arrange for bloods to be taken.

@girlinglasses I'm 9+3 today and had my booking in apt this morning. It took around 40 mins, and was basically just me answering a lot of questions about my medical history and mine and dps family history. I also had my BP taken, blood and urine tests, and a carbon monoxide test (which I've never had before in previous pregnancies, so must be a new thing).

My midwife showed me my schedule of appointments and told me that as I wouldn't have a 40 week appt (that's only for first time mums) that they would book my induction in at my 38 week appt. I was like um no, I don't want an induction actually and then she gave me the spiel about having to see a consultant blah blah but that ultimately it would be my choice. It put my back up a bit that they are already setting an expectation for an induction at my very first appointment. It's a very personal decision I think, but I declined booking in an induction with my second and went 9 days over and had a very straightforward pregnancy and birth so wouldn't have a induction unless evidence it was medically necessary.

They also asked me where I was planning to give birth and I said I wanted a home birth (had a home birth with my second and it was great) and midwife told me I'd be transferred to our home birth team so long as they thought it was appropriate, but that I'm low risk and already had one so likely they would transfer me.

I have to ring and book in for my first scan, it can be anywhere from 12-14 weeks and I'm hoping it'll be closer to 12 weeks so I can have my scan sooner rather than later! I do definitely feel pregnant now but until I see for myself that the baby is fine, I can't relax properly.

Hi ladies I need some advice please. We are booked to go to F1 Silverstone end of July. Since I’m due end of August it could mean I’ll have 2-4 weeks before baby Fuentes comes. Is it a good idea to go for a 3 day camping that late or might as well start seeking our tickets? 🥺

@NamiSwan @Frazzlerock thank you that's really useful, especially the bit about induction as I also don't think I want to be induced unless I go way over!

I have already got a letter with the date of my 12 weeks scan so they must do it slightly differently at my hospital @NamiSwan. I also have an appointment for blood tests about a week before my scan date so I wonder does that mean they won't do bloods today? And separately, I have to go back in two weeks for a different scan to see if it's actually twins or not 🙈 OH is coming with me so at least he'll be able to answer a lot of his own stuff! Work are going to love me for the next month 😬

Hi everyone glad to hear you're getting on ok.

Does anyone have any tips with how to deal with being sick? Up to now I've only felt nauseous but have been sick a few times today (week 9) and feeling sorry for myself 😔. I'm a teacher and worried about going back to work on Monday! Xx

@Nellie3 I am
Also a teacher due back on Monday so I feel your pain, I'm really worried about coping!

I have found that if I basically never let my stomach go empty it helps a bit. So I try to eat something small every thirty minutes; a mandarin, a ginger biscuit, a few peppermint sweets. Ginger tea helped me for a while as well but it turned against me in the last week or so and now makes me feel ill so see how you go! Also carbs are my friend at the moment 😬 that and trying not to move too quickly- best of luck and I hope you start to feel better soon xx
(Also, i has a day last week where I suddenly felt much sicker and threw up about 8 times but it turned out to be a bug, so maybe it's something like that?)

Afternoon everyone. Insomnia is hitting me hard lately. Then I'm absolutely shattered during the day. Got up at 7am this morning with DD and asked DP to watch her before he sets off to work while I went back to bed for half an hour. Woke up at 10am and he'd booked the day off bless him. So we're having a lazy day at home with the kids. I'm 6 weeks tomorrow and have absolutely no energy.

@f00k I'm the same. I woke at 4:30am today and couldn't get back to sleep and gave up by 6am. I've spent the day lying on the sofa as so exhausted. Thankfully am working from home today and tomorrow, but back to work properly from Tuesday next week where I'll have to be up at 5:15am and don't get home until 6pm,. How the hell am I going to manage that!? I'm dreading it
I've just had an hour's nap while the DS's are in their bedrooms. I can't nap in the office!

Sorry I can't help with being sick as I only have slight nausea which just goes if I eat a cracker or something. I think that is the general advice for sickness.

I've just had an email to say the earliest they can scan me now is next Tuesday at 2:40pm. I'm going to lose my shit by then. I'm 9 weeks tomorrow and that is when my babies die . I need to be scanned tomorrow. RMC said they would scan me whenever I'm worried so this isn't really in-keeping with that promise

Glad to hear everyone seems to be doing ok. I’ve not really had any insomnia or trouble sleeping (more the opposite TBH), but having really vivid dreams. I guess there’s a lot to think about at this time!

Still no real symptoms for me, just the tender boobs continuing. Some aching in my abdomen / pelvis area but nothing too bad so hopefully it’s just stretching pains. I’m almost 9 weeks now according to my private scan a few days ago. Back in the office today and it’s weird still not being able to tell anyone. It feels like I’ve known forever but it’s only been a month. Roll on the 12 week scan and hopefully good news.

Thinking of you @frazzlerock and sending you positive thoughts. Xx

Waves to Lola Frazzle and Jenni also, good to know some older mums.

To frazzle and all of those who have experienced miscarriages , I am so sorry to hear that. I hope that this is the time for you all. Fingers crossed

To the nauseous people. Water and crackers all the way. I'm ok this time but had it bad with my daughter.

I'm just shattered. I'm genuinely worried about managing work and kids next week. I'm wondering if I shouldn't give in with naps in case that's making me more tired?

At my in laws now and in bed as we speak!

@Frazzlerock where abouts are you based, is there anywhere with a walk in EPU near you? My hospital has a walk in self-referral EPU and one of the boxes you can tick as a reason for a scan is anxiety, and previous miscarriage. You might have to wait a few hours but they scan everyone who arrives before the given time (I think about 10:30) - might there be anything like that in your area?

Phew there has been a cancellation for tomorrow so am being scanned at 12:20 tomorrow. Means I have to put my booking in appointment back, but at least I get some peace of mind (hopefully).

Hi @Realladymarmalade! The tiredness is all consuming isn't it. I remember it well with my DS's. I agree, naps seem to make me more tired too!

Thanks @MaisieMolly I've also had very vivid dreams which are completely bonkers. Then wake up and can't get back to sleep.

@Girlinglasses Our nearest EPU is Tunbridge Wells but I've no idea if they offer that service. I will be there tomorrow so will find out. The RMC should really be scanning me when I need it as that is what they're there for, but I guess its hard with it still being holiday season.

@frazzlerock I’m so pleased for you getting in tomorrow, that wasn’t fair!!xx

@Frazzlerock glad you got your appointment for tomorrow!

@Realladymarmalade @Frazzlerock just woken from my daily nap, worked out they are about 2.5 hours. I will then go on to sleep solidly for 8 hours at night. Am dreading work next week. I have a 1 and half hour train journey so expect I will be napping on that each day but do wonder if being able to is making it worse. In the flip side, pretty sure this is our body requiring it for all that is going on so must be a good sign. If there was no growth happening surely we wouldn’t be so tired?! I know symptoms remain in general even with a MMC but surely not tiredness?

@Nellie3 hi I have been suffering with nausea and sickness since week 6 I’m not 8 weeks and it got to the point where I was in tears and how sick I felt so I decided to go to the doctors he prescribed me an anti sickness tablet called avomine which I’ve been taking every night before bed I also went to Holland and Barrett and bought the ginger root capsules because I read loads of people swore by there so I have been taking them everyday as well as vitamin b-6 which also apparently helps nausea and sickness.... so I can tell you that since I have started taking all of those things 3 days ago I feel better !!!! Not completely but definately 60 percent better I don’t feel like crying, I haven’t thrown up since the nausea is still there but not with as much force !! The only thing is I don’t know what is helping out of the three, I know the combination of ginger root and vitamin b-6 has to be together to help, But whatever it is I’m grateful and glad I’ve taken them as I hadn’t cleaned my house for about a week and now I’m feeling more or less back to my old self!. Hope this helped xx

Meant to write ... I’m now 8 weeks*

Hi everyone,
I first commented back in early Dec when I got my BFP and have been reading everything since then.
I am absolutely terrified :( I had a MMC back in May - I had loads of symptoms but booked a private scan at 11 weeks as I was going away with work for 3 weeks and didn’t want to wait until 14 weeks.. and no heartbeat. Just like that, no warning or signs.
I am too scared to go for another scan this time, just burying my head in the sand!
I finally got the courage to ring GP yesterday for booking appointment and they can only do when I’m 11 weeks- is that ok?
Sorry everyone - I am really loving everyones stories and advice here, thanks all for sharing l!

@jeels no wonder you've been feeling like that. How awful. Hoping that pregnancy goes much much better. I don't think having your booking appointment at 11 weeks is a problem. The main thing is to have your scan between 11+2 and 14 weeks, particularly if you are having the screening for the trisomys. However, it also sounds like you could do with talking to someone about how you're feeling so perhaps go and see the GP or see if you could get an earlier appointment so you can talk to your midwife. I've not been through your experience but often it is better to be able to talk to professionals about how you are feeling. Hope you've got lots of support irl too xxx

@Jojo19834 I'm not sure about tiredness. With my first MMC I don't remember losing any symptoms. It was a complete shock and I only experienced a small bleed and just went for a scan at the EPU for 'peace of mind' but baby had died a couple of days before. With my second MMC I almost felt completely normal for about a day before the dreaded scan so I just knew something was wrong. So I guess each one is very different. The not knowing is very hard, wouldn't it be lovely to have a little window to check all is well in there!
Just remember that the further along you go, the less likely it is you'll MC, especially if you've seen a heartbeat. I was just one of the unlucky ones.

@Sjacey good news about the sickness being sorted. Great advice for others experiencing the same.

@jeels MMC and MC ruins the joy of any further pregnancies doesn't it. But after just one, you have less chance of having another (apparently - again I was just unlucky). 11 weeks booking in is fine.
I don't blame you for being scared to have a scan. It is a terrifying experience, especially if you're kept waiting in the waiting room forever, which is my experience!

Got my fingers and toes crossed @Frazzlerock

Me & my OH were meant to go to America for 2 months next winter. That won't be happening anymore 🤷‍♀️

@Frazzlerock hope the scan goes well today. Thinking of you xx

@Frazzlerock that's such a long working day. I really feel for you! This is the first time I've been a SAHM while pregnant. I find it really hard to nap during the day though. There's always something else that needs doing! Good luck with your scan today. Thinking of you and sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

@jeels so sorry to hear of your loss in May. That must have been such a shock for you that it happened without any signs. It's no wonder you're scared. I hope you have support around you