Due Dec 2007 - finding out the flavours

[mixedmama]

Hey all... over here!!

Buzzy - congrats on the scan and sorry to hear about the problems. That is just an impossible situation, but it sounds as if you are clear that having an amnio would not change anything for you. I guess this is a decision that you have to take for yourself.

It seems quite awful that it has been left to this stage anyway... i had my screening blood test only last week (am 18 wks) and my scan is at 23 weeks - it all really needs to be done much sooner, how can they expect us to make that kind of decision so late in the pregnancy. It makes me quite angry actually.

I hope it all works out fine for you and your family... and I think elanor is a lovely name.

Hello! I'm back, good news its a BOY! We have dd so a boy will be a completely different flavour indeed, dp already eyeing up the toys 'he' can buy for his 'son' iykwim

The consultant at Newcaste was lovely, he explained it was quite common problem (1 in a 100 scans bring it up) That it was a moderate dilation not severe, that I would have totally normal pg with one or two more scans and that should the problem still exist at birth then baby would have a scan and mild precautionary antibiotics. Then again at 3 months but most cases sort themselves out by 1 yr. If not then yes they would operate to remove blockage in tube but that was a 1% chance given the size of the dilation at the mo.And its nothing that I have done to cause it. Phew.

Thanks for all you messages of support, it was a terrible three days and I'm so lucky we didn't have to wait longer as I felt terrible.

Buzzybee, my thought are with you, they never mentioned downs as a potential problem to me and I just hope they are just not trying to scare you.However, I did go through the whole'but what if' situation in my own head and I suppose I would go with the amnio (as you are out of the woods re:miscarriage) and though termination would probably not be a desicion you would make. I decided that if it came to it I'd rather know and be prepared in my own mind. I have found that knowing all this, though at first was horrible and I just wished it would go away and baby was 'normal', I have come to terms with the fact that ultimately baby will need some after care and now in my head that's fine..That's my honest opinion, hope it helps...

Motherofz, I felt really unimpressed with pg too and was wondering if I would ever feel like I did with dd.. ITs v different with your 2nd, however after all this stuff going on and finding out its a boy has changed the way I feel a lot. I'm allowing myself to get excited about buying boys things and thinking of a room theme for the nursery etc. We bought our first baby pruchase yesterday after scan, a super soft sheepskin..I keep looking at it thinking there will be a baby lying on it soon. NOW I'm excited, just wish it was december!!

Congratulations to everyone who've found out the flavour - it does make it seem more real doesn't it...

So pleased to hear that Lizzer. And, congrats on baby boy as well.

I've been on hols for a few days, you've all been chatting so much it's hard to catch up!

Lizzer, good news. It must have been a worrying few days though.

Buzzybee, hope it all turns out well, poor you. Elanor is lovely or Nell. I'd have had Eleanor as a middle name if bump was going to be a girl, it's my Mum's middle name. Maybe next time.

Ohhh... to those who I was disussing toddler beds with DS spent his second successful night in his last night... very proud of him and so cute when he gets up and comes into our room in the morning.

Lizzer - glad you got some good news, hope all goes OK now.

Buzzy - whatever you decide will be right for you. Can you ask the hospital what their stats are for problems following amnio? As they are done sometimes at 16 wks, I would imagine the MC risk then is a lot higher - that's if you want to know for definite. If you really don't mind what happens, then don't put yourself through the stress.

bargain alert - Morrisons have some baby special offers on at the mo. Tommee Tippee items - Microwave steriliser + 3 bottles £9.99, Electric steriliser + 3 bottles £19.99, manual breast pump £12.49 - these are all half price, and they are the same ones that Mothercare sells at full price, the "Closer to Nature" range in the silver-grey packaging. Leaflet says "available in most stores 30th July - 16th Aug subject to availability" (I bought the breast pump and microwave steriliser in our local branch this morning)

Nice work Housemum! Looks like I'll be popping up to Morrisons later then!

hi girls, hope you are all well, i have scanned through what i've missed but not read properly yet.

sorry for not popping on much lately but i've had my head up my bottom a bit with the kids being home.

we have our scan tomo, i'll be 20+6 and we're hoping to find out the sex.. have 2 boys, would love another boy, but am certain this is girl flavoured!

have had lots of niggles, odd cramps and severe stitch like pains, so am hoping tomo will either give answers (prob twiglet laying awkward) or reassure me all is well.

its been a lovely week weather wise here so we've got lots of gardening done, started repainting kitchen, fitting new storage systems in boys room and emptying and sorting loft... i sound very productive dont i? only prob is everything is half done and the whole house seems in uproar.. and now i havent the heart to re-tackle it cos it looks so bad! hoping dp will help me out (or take over) tomo after scan! i wish i had more patience to so things one at a time!!!

I am like that - start something and then move on to something else.

Good luck with scan tomorrow, going to say it again, so jealous mine is not for ages.

I'M SOOOOOO BORED.

I've got to do some stupid excel spreadsheet, which is quite important but i'm just daydreaming about maternity leave and going to the beach a lot....

good luck tomorrow kerioke!

Neuro - I second the boredom thing. I spend everyday waiting for someone to post, how said, have completely run out of things to surf the net for. Am reading my book at the minute as I have a really boring temp job as a "switchboard operator" never done this before and it is busy but just answering the phone so just ridiculously boring beyond belief.

of course that should be how sad.. not said

a random question:

has anyone on here sold a 2nd property, but then been laid off work and it's affected their working tax credit?

like i said, quite random...!

Mixedmama i did just have to take the franked mail down to the street, so that was a 20 second break in the boredom...man it is so hot out there! i wish i was at the beach...

i have been so lazy and not even claimed my working//chhild tax credit.... and could really do with it.

Neuro - I am still bored, here till 7 PM... ahhhh

but you can pick up quite a bit can't you? I'm going to get a fair old chunk of it next year. I view it as making up for such terrible maternity pay. I think, and i have nothing against people who have no option to be on benefits, BUT if you've worked hard for a long time, i reckon you should be rewarded for it in ways such as Mat Pay. Perhaps they could have a tiered system, so the later you leave it, as lots of women do, then you get a nice package. Same perhaps for men too.
Anyway, i'm off being a fascist this week.
arrgghhhhhh

i think we are entitled to quite a bit, and DS is going to start part time nursery so I believe I will be able to claim childcare element as well. really need to pull my finger out.

let's play a game Mixedmama.

what is your favourite food?

ohh... can i have two

Aubergines and tomatoes mmmm.

Yours

Yes you can have two.

I like at the moment anything to do with spaghetti but it's got to have petit pois on it or near it.

also like m and s thin gammon cured special ham. Out the packet!

(I'm usually veggie).

Ok next question: What is the silliest thing you've seen today?

Havent seen anything silly today but went to a party on saturday night and my friend got up to get some more food and feel promptly on her backside when sitting back down.... manging to save all of the food, the funniest thing was her husband giving her a dirty look and walking out of the room (not as horrible as it sounds, she thought it was all hilarious) and of course her FIL picking her up off the floor as she made no attempt to move.

You??

well i saw a girl in a swimsuit and those furry boots that people now wear in summer. Oh, this was in town.

And two girls who looked about 15 and like they wanted to be lapdancers when they grew up. Ratty blonde hair extensions made to look ratty on purpose CHECK. Lots of fake tan CHECK. V small amounts of clothing CHECK. Smoking a Superkings each CHECK. And generally looking moody and hard. Err, in bournemouth town centre.

Actually, EVERYONE in Bmouth today at lunch was smoking a cigarette, it was disgusting. Ewwwww.

And I saw a large man with an inappropriate sized t shirt on - his tummy was hanging out the bottom. He too was smoking a faaaaaaaaaag.

Oooh oooh 20 mins to go. I still have to wash my cup up tho, that'll shave off 3 mins if i drag it out...

What are you having for tea?

What i mean is, that was all swimsuit girl had on walking through town

Had horrible visions of all those people.

i seem to be off eating in the evenings and tend to just have a plate of fruit... if i can be bothered to get off the bus a stop early (i am so lazy) i will get a chip butty. ds wont be back till late as he is at ILs today (grrrr) so then going to have a nice bubble bath... problem is i am a short arse and my bath is just a tiny bit too long so cant actually relax properly.

you? that you only have 20 mins