March 2019

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Hello all! I got my BFP this morning at 10dpo and am apparently due 1st March with my third baby. Now feeling that familiar paranoia about what might go wrong, but hopeful all will be well. Is anyone else due in March yet? 😬

RedRobin7 hugs I’m so sorry

@RedRobin7 I am so sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself.

Oh no @RedRobin7 I'm so sorry

@RedRobin7 oh hun, maybe you need to take time before meeting him. Don't feel pressured to rush if you're not ready. XX 🐧

So sorry, sending you big hugs @RedRobin7 🌷🌷🌷

That's awful @RedRobin7 I'm so sorry, big hugs and hope your dh is taking good care of you.

Thanks ladies!

@Murphyrocks My DH is in a bad mood after a bad day at work... he thinks he's having a bad day 🙄🙄🙄 I've just made him put the bins out and I just dumped the clean bedding next to him on the sofa and he's got the hint and gone to make the bed!

Oh @redrobin7 I'm so sorry to hear that. The interaction in timing with your sister's pregnancy is so cruel. Big virtual hug from here for you.

@RedRobin7 that's bullish!t! Although perhaps his coping mechanism? I know there's very little anyone on here can do, but we're all here for you xx

So sorry to hear your news @RedRobin7 take care of yourselves

So sorry to hear your news @RedRobin7. Such upsetting timing with your sister's pregnancy - I'm sure she'll understand if you need to take some time. Go steady and be kind to yourself 💐 X

Huge hugs to you, @RedRobin7, what cruel timing. Agreed, take your time meeting the baby if you can - and is there a discreet way to share your news with a few family members so they can protect/support/cover for you, without stealing sister's thunder? I totally get you don't want to spoil this moment for anyone but you need a bit of care through it too. And nobody should grudge you that. X

I’m really sorry to hear that RedRobin.

@redrobin I am so very very sorry to hear this. Thinking of you so much and sending you so much love x

I’m so sorry @RedRobin7 hopefully your cramps stop soon. As others have said perhaps take a bit of time for you before you meet your nephew. And do tell other people for support if you need to, they will understand that you need them to help through this even though your sister will be needing support too. Perhaps have a glass of wine in a hot bath? Xx

So sorry @RedRobin7 x

@Murphyrocks My DH is rubbish at supporting me sometimes. First time I had a MMC he brought me home from the scan and went to work. Today he came home from work and ignored me because of being in a mood and I had to cook dinner. He's usually great but I just don't understand why he's not there when I need him most. I've mentioned the pain I've been in but I've not cried around him yet - the poor doctor got the short straw - so maybe he thinks I'm coping better this time. It doesn't make it any easier just because it's the second time!

@ladycarlotta My nephew has now arrived but my sister has lost a lot of blood. This happened last time she gave birth and she ended up in theatre and having a blood transfusion so I'll wait to hear how she is. Sounds like she might be in hospital for a few days so not sure how to tell people as my sister will be expecting me as one of the first visitors! My mum is a very bad worrier so I really can't tell her whist my sister is recovering. I've told my brother and he said I need to wait a few days.

@Bozley47 Wine sounds amazing right now! I think we will pick some up on the way home tomorrow. No chance of a bath. DH used to work for Thames Water and is moaning at me about my water usage during this heatwave 😂🙈

I know I've painted a bad picture but he's not a terrible person. Just an awkward person in difficult situations and it can be frustrating when all you want is for that person to comfort you without being asked!

@RedRobin7 I'm so sorry sending you huge hugs for tomorrow, will be thinking of you xx

@RedRobin7 I'm so so sorry to hear your news :-(

Sorry to hear your sad news @RedRobin7

@RedRobin7 I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending hugs. I don't know if this is forward (it is) but your brother has just said such a MAN thing. That was incredibly insensitive of him and what I would call a twat move. Men simply do not understand what this feels like. This may be partly also why your DH feels like he's falling a bit short. If you don't spell it out then they won't get it. He will also be managing his emotions right now, but he's got to give you tlc...if he doesn't then you should tell him you need it. I'll go so far as to say I think your brother is wrong...

You OF COURSE are deserving of support and your mother should be more than capable of providing enough love for you and your sister through this. If she's anything like mine, she'd be mortified to know that you locked all this inside without telling her. Personally I think it's really important to let your mum know, and she can help you deal with the sister issue. I think holding back on telling your sister makes sense because she will have a lot going on but equally i would go for sooner or later, or maybe even get your mum to prep her before you go in. Mums get this. Everyone knows the early days are tricky.

Treat yourself kindly. It's hard. I know from FB you have a few things to look forward to in the coming weeks and I know that's no substitute but equally it might be a welcome distraction.

As comment 997 I felt vaguely responsible to make another thread...it feels like a very inappropriate time to split the conversation. :(
Join me on the other side!

The March-ers (2019) #2

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3303115-the-march-ers-2019-2

Oh @RedRobin7 I'm so sorry. Life is so cruel.

Agree with @frankiefumbles and @ladycarlotta that you should tell people. Are you close to your mum? You cannot be expected to 'carry on as normal' for this birth whilst going through. I think it's admirable that you are trying to put other people's happiness first, but you need support, especially at this time. I understand not telling your sister but please tell someone other than your brother who can help you.

Your husband sounds like he is blocking it out. Not helpful for you and hope you manage to sort it out.

We are all thinking of you and here if you need us xxx

So sorry RedRobin7 and the timing is very cruel for you. However, it is not your job to protect your family from the tragic ups and downs of life. Your sister might have been through a lot but I’m guessing that right now, more than ever, she understands what women go through to have babies and will be very sympathetic to your grief.
Sorry your DH isn’t getting it. Maybe he needs to see you have an emotional breakdown. My DH was awesome when I miscarried but my mum was rubbish. She really surprised me by saying all the wrong things. We just don’t know how people will react. Is there a friend your DH can confide in? I think it helped mine to talk to another man who had experienced this.