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May 2017 #13 the lucky thread

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Rustler74 · 16/04/2017 14:58

Just thought I'd get the next thread ready. Let them babies arrive!

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Rustler74 · 27/04/2017 23:06

Oh and another beautiful baby! Congratulations @Nurse15 !

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lullaby23 · 27/04/2017 23:47

nurseb 4 weeks is excellent, DH is taking 2 weeks then DM coming for 2 then he will take another 1 of annual leave. More for shifting the toddler around after CS than helping with the newborn. I remember our 1st night home from hospital sobbing at DH that I was so grateful I had him and don't know how single parents can do it alone!

nurse congratulations on your little one, she's adorable! I'm assuming she because of the cute pink hat Blush glad she managed to stay put for a wee while longer and sure she's being well looked after.

nursebickypegs · 27/04/2017 23:49

Congratulations fellow Nurse! Hello baby nurse!! You are GORGEOUS!!!

yellowismyfavourite · 28/04/2017 00:13

Congratulations @nurse15... beautiful!

Nurse15 · 28/04/2017 02:10

Thanks everyone - totally can't believe she's mine!! It's a very surreal feeling, totally haven't slept yet as just lying here staring at her!! How is it possible to love someone I only met 11 hours ago this much?

Can't wait to see more babies start to arrive on here - you will all be amazing and so TOTALLY enamoured!! Grin

newbieho · 28/04/2017 04:31

@Nurse15 congratulations on the arrival of your little girl - what a cute little pie 😍 we have first girl in the group (unless I forgot about anyone, sorry!).

@beanturnipandspud mum and dad cuddles are the best remedy.

RasperryInAMelon · 28/04/2017 05:23

So... induction consultation was as suspected - a total waste of time, although I am pleased it's now sorted. Senior consultant apologised for the stress and anxiety that the junior Dr has put me under and said if she'd seen me at the beginning she wouldn't have bothered having me in for the last week. Has suggested a sweep at 39 weeks.

On the plus side, she's signed me off to be able to use the Birthing Centre and pool which is brilliant news!

Headed out for afternoon tea with a friend after and then went to an Aquanatal Class in the evening which was so nice to be in the water! My ankle is in bits after walking though and I'm beginning to wonder if perhaps I've done more damage after my fall than I thought. Think I'll see how it is over the weekend and head to A&E over the weekend if it's no better.

Just seen the FB post @peasandquiet Thanks for that!

@ShiniBerry Looking forward to hearing some news soon!

Have a good last day today @1004Rise

I do always love hearing all of the different parenting styles / techniques that people hope to use. There is such a variety! @SouthPole We were hoping to try and introduce GF from 8-12 weeks and follow it as best as possible. We understand it may not work and that it may not be easy, but we need to persevere for a good few weeks before we knock it on the head🤞🏻

@nursebickypegs DH and I have both noted our concerns about how the dynamics of our relationship will change. Prior to pregnancy we too spent very little time apart other than during the day when we were at work, were a very active couple in the bedroom, did almost everything together socially and whilst we disagree on things occasionally- we never really argue.

Since being pregnant (and especially since being on Mat Leave) we're together all day, every day as he works from home which we're both finding a big adjustment, we do much less socially due to my SPD, practically have a non existent sex life and whinge at each other about stupid stuff all the time.

We talked about it last night and have said that while we know things are going to change we still really need to make an effort towards each other more.

@Nurse15 congratulations! A little girl and she is BEAUTIFUL! 😍 this really is making it all seem so much more real now that all these babies are arriving!

Tickyboovicki · 28/04/2017 06:20

@Nurse15 congratulations! What a gorgeous little girl 😍

EsmesBees · 28/04/2017 07:21

Congratulations nurse our first girl baby of the thread I think! So beautiful. I remember not being able to sleep that first night as I couldn't stop staring at DD. It's an amazing feeling.

Great news raspberry. Fingers crossed for the birth you want now.

For what it's worth, becoming parents has made us closer and stronger as a couple. The sleep deprivation at the start is hard, and I do miss being able to spend as much time just the two of us. But it doesn't compare to the joy we get from having this little person in our lives and being her parents. My advice is to take a shared approach as much as possible. If you do every part of the baby care, you can't expect your partner to get any good at it or know what it's like.

newbieho · 28/04/2017 07:28

Enjoy your day everyone who is finishing work today!

I am done with batch cooking and deep scrub cleaning - time for the paperwork, plodding in the garden and getting some rest / me time before the baby arrives.

As most first - time mums here I am craving any practical advice on parenting styles. It's always good to hear other views and exchange opinions.

@WishIWasSleeping happy birthday 🎉

@RasperryInAMelon Good news the consultant signed you off to use the pool. Hope the ankle will heal soon. I agree with you that parenting change the relationship dynamic (in both ways). I am naively more worried about the struggle once I return to full-time work after mat leave. Sleep deprivation and constant juggling of raising a baby, work duties, relationship and running household is going to be hard Confused with no family support nearby. My DH is superb and I know he will do his best but I am still concerned.

EsmesBees · 28/04/2017 07:34

Don't worry about going back to work yet newbie. Not only is it ages away, but you will be fine. I've found that having a baby has made me extremely efficient (I'm always amazed how much I can get done in a 40 minute nap). If you can afford it, then there is lots to be said for getting a cleaner, and for finding childcare that's on your way to work.

PeachIcedT · 28/04/2017 08:09

@Nurse15 congratulations on your lovely baby! Hope you are recovering well.

@RasperryInAMelon glad you have been signed off for using the birth centre, that's great! I think me and DH's relationship will change inevitably but we do so many things that are 'family' type activities that I'm hoping any can sort of slot into that once she's here. We will see.

@newbieho I know what you mean about return to work. My main concern is the tiredness and concentration as things could go dangerously wrong in my job without concentration. That's part of the reason why I'm taking a year off to try and get settled.

Last day of work for me today and it's SURREAL.

CoxsOrangePippin · 28/04/2017 08:32

Congratulations nurse15 you must be so proud Smile

raspberry sounds frustrating but must be a relief to be back on the birth centre!

I'm finding it helpful to hear everyone else's relationship worries (I'm not alone!) and even more helpful to hear the experienced mamas say you do work your way towards a new normal in time!

Really wish today was my last day but I have another week to go. Mostly focusing on handover with my replacement at least so less tiring than doing all the thinking myself! The SPD is getting worse (I think as baby engages) so I'm going to be indulgent and get a taxi rather than braving all the stairs in the tube!

CoxsOrangePippin · 28/04/2017 08:33

Gosh, sorry about all those exclamation marks. Must be the hormones Blush

SanitysSake · 28/04/2017 08:59

@Nurse15 - Oh my word, how beautiful is your little girl?! How was the labour/birth? Do you feel okay?

Actually, as a first timer, I'm petrified of the birth. I just can't imagine squeezing out a little one. I just can't. I'm so scared! Anyone got any hints and tips on that front?

As for all the changes in the relationships - I'm concerned about that myself. It was really good to read your stories on this issue. Gave me great comfort that people do get through it.

As for feeding/sleeping routines? Is everyone of the consensus that you feed when and if the baby wants it and that you have to give it a while before you try and introduce any sort of routine? I haven't read any parenting books and now I'm starting to panic!

38wks +4 today. This is starting to get really real. ARRGHHH!!!!

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FoxMulder · 28/04/2017 09:24

Don't think parenting books are necessary imo. Can't beat your intuition. It would be really sad if you missed out on cuddling your baby because a book had told you not to.

Sanity trust that your body knows how to birth this baby. It knew how to grow it after all. Have you read anything about how the various hormones involved drive labour?

FoxMulder · 28/04/2017 09:25

Ok that made me sound like a massive fucking hippy. Whatevs. Grin

FoxMulder · 28/04/2017 09:26

Oh, nurse15 huge congratulations! She's so beautiful!

SanitysSake · 28/04/2017 09:29

lol @FoxMulder

No, not hippyish at all. Quite sensible!

I was hoping to just roll with it for a while - hoping that intuition kicks in.

As for the hormones, yes have had a read about it. What worries me more is the pain and the tearing?!! Petrified!

MrsJW15 · 28/04/2017 09:30

Morning all, lots to catch up on! First day of mat leave and hoped for lie in but someone rang the buzzer at 8.30! I was hoping it was a delivery but no one there Angry. I'm still in bed at least. I have got a very sore throat though which I'm hoping doesn't turn into a cold!

Congratulations Nurse! Gorgeous baby.

Great news on the birth centre Raspberry.

Also a bit worried about the impact of a baby on our relationship. I know I can get a bit grumpy, particularly if I don't think DH is doing his share... He's off for a few months at the start though, so hopefully that will help.

Sanity FTM and I haven't read any books either (task for mat leave!). But yes, I assumed that you wait a while before trying to introduce any routine.

newbieho · 28/04/2017 09:32

@SanitysSake I saw a quote on MN that I really like: you may have read all the parenting books but remember that baby had not read any of them.

😂

FoxMulder · 28/04/2017 09:44

It's really cool honestly sanity. I found it very intense and exhausting rather than painful as such. As for tearing yeah it happens but it heals. You can do things to minimise chances like by being upright and pushing on your own urges rather than being told when to push.

I'm so excited about it SmileSmile

teainbed · 28/04/2017 09:48

Most of Mumsnet hates parenting books. Grin

I love reading them though and have quite a few covering different stages and ages. Even if you only get a couple of tips that help it might have been worth it. You don't have to slavishly follow anyone's routines.

I thought No Cry Sleep Solution was pretty rubbish but was still glad I read it, even to rule it out most of the stuff she suggested.

Taming Toddlers absolutely saved my sanity when DS1 hit the terrible twos. Some of the breastfeeding ones have got good stuff about managing sleep and crying.

And the older my DC get the more emotionally challenging things are, anything evidence based at this stage is fantastic because you want to know what will work and what will help them. If you like reading books then why not?

beanturnipandspud · 28/04/2017 09:51

@nursebickypegs please do take it as a HUGE compliment 🙂 Turnip has started to sing a long to the moana sound track which is just the cutest. I love her singing. Bean is far too cool for that kind of stuff, but as soon as it's on the tv he somehow becomes totally engrossed.
I love your baby grow idea. Spud has quite a lot of woody things so far. Think that's what his bedroom is going to be done up as too.

@Tickyboovicki we were meant to move today originally, but now it looks as though w/c 8th for us too! 😟 I just want to be in so I can fully relax and nest. Fingers crossed for us that babies stay put a little while longer, although you're further ahead than me.
Turnip seems ok today, she's having a sleepover at grandmas tonight as me and DH are exhausted and really need a night just the two of us. Last time was 4th October, our wedding anniversary and the day after we found out we were expecting spud 🙂
I would also say that the pains you are having are all signs your baby is getting ready. It could be some slight movements in your cervix and it softening up. I have too been having dull aches with the odd sharp pain around my cervix.

@Rustler74 you are a genius re cot bed upside down! How simple yet totally fixes having to sleep half way down the bed! 😂👍🏼

@Badgerbird turnip def is surrounded by love and support. However DH comes from a really unemotional family ... quite the opposite to my family. And so struggles to deal with emotional turnip. I struggle to deal with unemotional DH and unemotional bean. As bean tends to rage instead of showing how he truely feels. Anything other than normal comes out as anger. This is something we have learnt over the past 7 years.

@Nurse15 💖💖💖 congratulations 💖💖💖 finally some pink 💖💖💖

@EsmesBees I totally agree with you! There is nothing I love more than watching my DH with our children. Although he annoys the hell out of me sometimes, the majority of the time we are great. He gets Turnip and bean in to the most hysterical giggles that we forget why we're laughing. It's lovely. Even just sitting with a glass of wine and watching our creations play is such a nice feeling. There's just some bumps to get over sometimes, we were 5months into our relationship when bean surprised us and we managed to get though all that. And we are truely happy.

@SanitysSake I felt just the way you describe and was petrified too when I was having bean. I think I've shared this before, but when I was in labour I talked to myself in my head, and told my self that I could do this. Then my mw told me that there was a 13yr old delivering in the next door and I thought ... if she can do it I can do it 😂
It does hurt, but each pain takes you closer to your baby. And afterwards you don't forget but you forgive as such.
There's a stinging sensation (ring of fire) as the baby is crowning, if you listen to your body and to your midwife they will help deliver without tearing. I had a first degree with bean and a second degree with Turnip (I didn't listen to my body with Turnip) and i healed better with her than with bean ... I put that down to lavender oil!

Anyway what I am trying to say, is it is totally normal to feel a little scared but our bodies were made for this. You've done the hard part growing your little baba for the past 9 months from a little seed and a little egg.

Also I've never read a parenting book, I've raised Bean to nearly 7 and turnip
To 4, and I think they're ok. 😂 when they were tiny babies it was a feed when they wanted and they both automatically went in to their own routines. Quite quickly they both did 6hour stints at night 12-6 think they were around 5wks.
The thing with routines is that they can be quite restrictive ... as in I know I can take my two out past 7pm bedtime and they will be horrendous the day after. As I know some mums who have never had a routine can take their babes here there and everywhere. We had no choice of routines it kind of naturally happened.

FoxMulder · 28/04/2017 09:51

I've got Janet Lansbury's "Elevating Child Care" that I've been meaning to read for ages but never get around to! I follow a few pages on fb and tend to read those more.