May 2017 #13 the lucky thread

[Rustler74]

Just thought I'd get the next thread ready. Let them babies arrive!

I have got midwife appointment this morning and the baby started to engage. Good position and the heartbeat - we are getting close! Feet swelling has gone due to laying in bed and doing nothing caused by damned D&V. It looks like the virus has gone and I can continue nesting a.k.a scrubbing cupboards and skirtings 🙈

After 34 weeks you can ask your midwife/GP for free labour information pack with some leaflets/free samples (no need to register anywhere)

@RasperryInAMelon that's shit! Would that mean you'd have to continue daily monitoring til then? I can't see how if they think it's that important they can make you wait 4 weeks

MrsJW what sort of thing are you and your friend in to? If you are looking for something similar to Hampton court but up town then there's Kensington Palace. The V&A is worth a visit. My favourite museum is the welcome collection in Euston but that may be too nerdy.

Raspberry that's really rubbish. It's awful when you psych yourself up for an appointment and it falls through.

I don't really know Esmes! All of my thoughts were about eating and drinking, but that's partly I think because I'm tired and uncomfortable. Normally we are quite nerdy and quite into history and literature. I've taken her to Bath and to Howarth in the past.

KLane Borough is a good option, and I'm actually not sure I've been into the Museum of London. I'd comtemplated the V&A but wondered if it was just too much walking for me. Normally I love walking all over London so I'm struggling slightly with being less mobile right now.

Thanks raspberry, no they don't! So hard to know when to go in or not with RFM and AP isn't it :( They assured me I did the right thing though (I'd been awake in night worrying and prodding her to get her moving!) so amazing to see her again though.
Can't believe they've done that to you!!! will you continue to be monitored? Growth scan ok?

mrsjw Ducktours!!! No walking involved :)

Good luck today shini. I think those thoughts too... totally normal I'm sure!

Hmm just got a letter to say there will be a power cut in 2 weeks. Nice timing for the homebirth!

@MrsJW15 Eating and drinking is my favourite thing to do in London anyway haha! Pregnancy is just a good excuse ;) Museum of London is pretty small and manageable.

That's annoying @RasperryInAMelon presumably the in call team in day assessment can see you though if you need anything sooner though? Enjoy your lovely spa weekend!

@ShiniBerry I know what you're feeling but I promise you it's better on the other side.

Well I had a really lovely visit from the health visitor. I hadn't met her before but she was really friendly and sensible. Loads of books and leaflets to read. BabyTea hadn't quite regained his birth weight but is gaining which I'm happy with. She's coming back next week. Reminded me about vitamins for us both which are available for free from the pharmacy.

Turns out that if you're hormonal and emotional tears mean you magically get an appointment! Still being seen at 9am tomorrow morning thankfully.

Thanks @teainbed also heading out for afternoon tea tomorrow which will be nice! Glad to hear babyTea is getting that weight back on - didn't know about this vitamin business??

That's great @RasperryInAMelon ! Glad you're getting seen.

The advice is postnatally to offer vitamins including vitamin D to mum and baby. I'm not sure if it covers England yet but the Scottish Government guidance is for breastfeeding mums and babies to receive them for 6 months. If you're using formula it's not needed.

Hmm, I don't think I'd be keen to give vitamins to a bf baby. Does that have an effect on the virgin gut?

Glad you got your appointment after all raspberry

Good news @RasperryInAMelon hope all goes well tomorrow. I bet the appointments keep you busy and you may have had enough but it's good you are being monitored.

Hope all goes well @ShiniBerry, I will keep my fingers crossed.

@Badgerbird they know how to scare us, huh? Glad to hear little one is moving and hope your day went well.

I have a vague memory of being advised that bfed babies not needing vitamin drops until 6 months. But that would have been in England, two years ago. I took post natal vitamins though.

That's good news raspberry

MrsJW have you done the British library? That's not too much walking and lots of history.

@Tickyboovicki I'm super impressed by your mobile creation, I wish I had the creativity to make my own mobile as I'm not really liking much for sale.

I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather @beanturnipandspud - this must be a difficult time for you, hope you are keeping ok.

@yellowismyfavourite fantastic news about your little boy bundle! Congratulations! Hope you are doing well too.

Exciting stuff baby has started to engage @newbieho and I'm so relieved you're feeling better. Rubbish virus and bad timing but at least it's out of your system.

@FoxMulder at planned power cut - did they say how long it will last for?

Gosh you didn't need that indecisiveness @RasperryInAMelon but glad to see it's back on schedule now so you can at least talk it through.

Baby is burrowing her head into my left hip, I highly suspect she is oblique- now concerned that she will keep turning to transverse when what she needs to do is start thinking about engaging.

Thank you everyone for your lovely messages and being so kind  my grandad is still extremely poorly. We have been by his bedside all day today. So difficult, my cousin gets married on the 6th and she really wants our grandad their but I can't see it right now 😪

@EsmesBees hope you've had a lovely day at the zoo.

@yellowismyfavourite congratulations 💙💙💙💙 hope you're all ok 💙💙💙

@Rustler74 DH and I had a laugh out loud moment at the thought of Roman-Ace .... not just because we find the name rather silly (apols to anybody who likes it, it's just not our tartare) but also because DH and I are not romantic in the slightest. We much prefer making digs at each other than sweeping each other off our feet.

@jennymac31 I found the first 6months of beans life really difficult with mine and DH relationship. There was a lot going on that I hadn't fully appreciated and he too. I had spent 9montha growing bean and coming to terms with being a mum, as he only truly realised he was a dad when bean arrived. Then we used to argue about parenting, merging 2 family upbringings in to a new family dynamic was quite difficult for us and again we weren't expecting it. Anyway after the first 6 months we found our rhythm and from there on in it was a breeze. Communication is key. I hope you're both feeling a little better today 😘

@FoxMulder oh no! Can you do anything to ask them to not cut your electricity? Or do we just have to cross our fingers that that day is not baby's birthday?

So I was meant to finish for maternity on Friday but now yesterday was my last day. I feel odd. My manager has told me not to go back in to work at all as my grandad and spud are more important. But I somehow feel robbed of my last day. Weird!

Spent the day in hospital with grandad. My grandma was on her own with him yesterday and didn't know how to operate the mobile. So today I've bought her her own mobile phone and pre programmed it for her so she doesn't have to feel alone again.

With regards to spud, I have hb assessment booked for Tuesday morning and then consultant scan Tuesday afternoon. I do not feel ready at all for this baby or for this pregnancy to be at an end. I think because I know that this is my last baby, our family will be complete with 3 Dc's that I don't want it to ever end even though I really want to meet him.

Huge apologies for my lack of spelling/ horrendous grammar in my last post!

Their should be there
Tartare should be taste

@beanturnipandspud what an emotional time for you and your family. It sounds like you are trying to deal with everything in the best way possible. We are here for you and sending you big hugs 💐

@PeachIcedT you have a wriggly girl and maybe she is just dancing around? Try not to worry about her moving transverse (easier said then done). You are a very active person so she is just copying her mum

Thanks @newbieho trying not to be too worried about it, did have a bit of a google and read that people have had success turning their babies by shining a light low down and playing music in the direction you want them to turn in so currently sat with my iPad in between my legs blasting out some music 😂 Worth a try at least!

@PeachIcedT that was my issue, couldn't find anything I liked so Pinterest gave me some ideas and motivation!

Raspberry glad you hear you got your appointment, hormones can be good for some things 😂

bean I have similar worries about the effect on mine and other halfs relationship! We had very different upbringings, and we're just very different people as it is, but we generally compliment one another! Must make an effort to communicate as I can shut down when stressed!

@beanturnipandspud I preferred tartare 😉 💐 and hugs for you and your family

@PeachIcedT spinningbabies.com, they have exercises to encourage baby to move their head down. Worked to get mine from oblique head up to oblique head down, so I'm still doing the ones they recommend to remind the baby which way s/he is supposed to go 😊

@FoxMulder 😱 to power cut, fingers crossed 🤞 baby turns up before or after! Things you don't think you need to put in your birth plan!!

@RasperryInAMelon glad you got an appointment for tomorrow, maybe that's the perfect reason why we have all these hormones messing us up so we can use our emotions 🤔

We were recommended vitamins (Manchester) last time. Mostly vitamin d. I smiled politely and ignored them. I didn't want to give these ?Banana? sweetened/flavoured drops, and figured vitamin d is best gotten by sun exposure anyway.

I fully take on board there's not much sun in the UK, but i think that part of the reason for the new guidelines (in our area particularly) is that there are now more people in our area who are covering up for religious/cultural reasons - and who tend to have more skin pigmentation as well - who won't be getting nearly as much sunlight as they need given how far north we are and how cloudy it often is. Given I'm practically translucent i figured the path of 'sit in the sun for a few minutes a day wherever possible' was better and would work in our case!

Thanks newbie they sure do!! Rest of day went well looking after 7 month old little boy (cutie) then preggo Pilates :) Glad your virus has gone and things are looking better.

Good news about appointment raspberry.

ticky I know what you mean about concern over how it will affect relationship. DH and me are so used to it just being us 2 and we are very different people too. We've spoke about having a family for years and "when we have kids we'll do xyz." Etc but it's still another huge unknown!! Thanks for sharing your experience bean.

to power cut fox. Not something I would have thought of when planning hb!!

Interesting thoughts on vitamins. Friends who had a baby a couple of weeks ago mentioned they were giving vitamins by injecting a liquid into her mouth I think. I was surprised as we hadn't heard anything about that. One to ask MW/HV maybe.

Finally found some time to catch up the last 10 pages. Thanks for all messages.
Too many people to reply to but here are my best efforts
nurse welcome back sorry it's been so rubbish
sanity hope you had a lovely wedding
tea glad he is gaining weight
wish northern and crazy beautiful photos and congratulations

esme glad you got some help and it was useful
raspberry glad appointment was sorted good luck

Will try and post my mostly positive induction birth story on the new thread when I get a few minutes.

Quick question for experienced mums... We came home today. In hospital DS slept in the crib eventually... so far we have had 2 days with 6 hour cluster feeds. However at home today he will only sleep on me or DH... put him down and he screams the place down. Is this normal? When will he sleep elsewhere like in the moses basket soon and any tips to get him to do this? Can't imagine the tiredness otherwise!