Due in February 2017

[McBaby]

Looks like I am the first one due 1st Feb but I tested very early as I felt weird and pregnant!

This is baby no 3 I have two DDs who are 2 and 3.

happymummy so sorry

dutchy hoping your next scan will be better news but if it's not we'll all here to chat

evergreen please stop worrying about symptoms, I haven't noticed much today either and what I've read tells me that it's only after 6 weeks really that hormones really kick in!

4+4 today

Thanks phoebe
I am 35 and that is adding to the stress

I just think that no one tells you it will be like this... Just sad today

Thanks wispa. I am actually having a transvaginal scan on Thursday to check my ovaries and I am hoping they see something then but I will only be 5 weeks then so maybe not. Maybe it is the hormones I dont know

Just sad and tired

Thank you gumboots and sparrow

I think I will have an early night and maybe I will feel better in the morning

I'm laid here in the dark with a lovely scented candle and trying not to worry about EVERYTHING. Like you all said, I thought this having a baby thing would be easy- and don't get me wrong, I know falling pregnant first cycle doesn't exactly qualify me to moan about how long it takes... But I did my absolute head in before we knew. I spent hours and hours days and days worrying (based on absolutely nothing I might add) that we'd be infertile, that I'd have recurrent miscarriages, that I was too fat or that I'd done something when I was younger that meant I would never ever ever get pregnant. I am quite literally my own worst enemy because right now I'm doing my head in saying the same things, only about being pregnant. I absolutely do my head in and it irritates the living crap out of me. And poor OH just sits there and holds my hand whilst I wail about how badly done to I am (yes, also aware that I'm not...)

Apparently after 10 years of hormonal conteaceptives, my normal hormones are messing with my head big style. I am at least finding comfort in the fact that my lines are really good and dark on ICs now. Which I should really stop using, but they stop me tipping over from "steady doggy paddle" to "complete and utter panic arms flailing". I'm hoping I will be a lot more excited once I actually get booked in for an appointment and a scan. One day at a time and all that...

Irrational? Me? Never!

I'm the opposite, I'm really chilled out this time. We had three years of TTC followed by an early mc followed by DS1, followed by a late mmc, followed by DD then DS2. We went from thinking ourselves infertile to five pregnancies in the space of five years. Usually I'm a compulsive knicker checker at this stage, going to the loo when I don't even need to pee simply to check whether or not I'm bleeding and I'd be waiting to bleed, like I expected it. I don't know why this time is different but I'm really calm and I'm taking it as it comes.

SkyLucy, all you need is your medical history and a little bit of your partner's. The only thing they ask about wider family is about whether anyone has any health conditions that might have a bearing on you or the baby (e.g., diabetes or heart problems).

Uber you can set the example for us. I think I'm actually a bit calmer than my DH. Been knicker checking today as my AF should be here today, but overall a bit fatalistic, trying to eat well and look after myself and we will see what happens. We were only trying for six months but I was starting to get a bit anxious as my cycles were long and irregular. That said, I'd spent that time reading a lot about early pregnancy symptoms and mc rates and factors etc (although no idea about later in pregnancy!) whereas DH is very happy but it's taking longer to sink in for him and he is a bit shocked by the stats around mc.

Lucy I do love a good POAS though. It's been so nice seeing a positive that the temptation is to keep going everyday. I am switching from FRERs to ICs next to see if the line darkens, plus I've got a few clear blues for a weekly treat which I'm going to see if I can make go 2-3 then 3+ saddo that I am!

The stats are scary but I try look at them from the other side. 1 in 4 confirmed pregnancies end in mc but 3 in 4 don't. That keeps me going.

Gin I'm the same! Sooo many tests, bought a load of cheapys on the net so figure might as well use them..just to check! But really want to see the 2-3 and 3+ too. Been super tired at work today, feel like it must be obvious to others!

Uber that's how I look at it as well. Also, the 1 in 4 is often quoted, but that includes people who miscarried before they knew they were pregnant, or had a chemical pregnancy. I think the stats are that if you are otherwise healthy, then assuming you get to about 5weeks, after that it's a 1 in 10 chance. Which is still high, of course, but it means it's much, much more likely to be ok than not.

I think someone else has already linked to this, but I found the stats in this article useful.

www.easybabylife.com/miscarriage-statistics-by-week.html

I was feeling pretty scared last week, but there's something about hitting the 7 week mark that has relaxed me. I guess it all feels a bit more real now, just 1.5 weeks til my first scan and whilst I know there's a chance of mmc still the overall mc risk has dropped significantly.

There's something in the air today. I've been feeling really anxious too. It isn't helping that when I first found out I had some strong waves of nausea but I haven't had any for 3 days now. I'm so scared it means somethings gone wrong. On the other hand I'm exhausted and feel dizzy on and off, and I didn't feel any symptoms at all until I was about 5 1/2 - 6 weeks with dd. I'm only 5 weeks so still early to be feeling anything.
I read somewhere earlier where someone had said that you can't change what will happen in the first 12 weeks so you may as well be happy and enjoy it. If things don't work out then at least you haven't wasted time being worrying and making yourself miserable and if things are fine then there was no need to be miserable. Easier said than done probably but it helped me a bit.

Happy mummy am so sorry to hear that look after yourself xxx

Duchy, what a nerve wracking time for you, I have been through that myself and it's awful..we are here to chat xxx

I'm chilled but only when busy with work. Otherwise quite emotional especially when nausea is bad. I won't relax until clear of trimester one. I worry about a mmc as had that at 11 so not in the clear for quite a while. 7 plus 3 and booking in tomorrow.

Night all xxx

Lucy it never gets better I'm afraid. My DD has been ill and the worry about her has been all consuming.

I've been pretty calm this time round but probably because I've not had time to really process anything. I have been checking for blood but only because I had bleeding last time so I'm half expecting it.

I think the clearblues helped me because I was so expecting 1-2 and got 2-3. ICs are good to see a line darken for definite!! I'm just very irrational and very aware of this, but I have also been telling myself the same about stats- I'm over 5w so I am now 90% likely to carry on to deliver full term. Let's face it, I could have a 10% chance of winning the lottery and still not manage it so I'm trying to think like that!!

I understand Lucy good job with the candles. I guess we wont worry forever?

Uber you have been through a lot! Maybe experience makes you wiser? This would be my first after I was told I wasnt ovulating and I would need help...
Maybe I will get to a point where I dont worry anymore... I have been doing that about statistics and it helps! So by now 80% of pregnancies are successful... It does help!

Gin I was wondering whether I should treat myself to a clearblue digital

I have been using OPKs now to see my lines as I run out of preg test

also guilty of trying OPKs "just to see"

Friendly I know what you mean, the lack of symptoms worries me, and that my nipples felt like broken glass but now nada
Yes I agree this worry is taking me nowhere!! And I need to fight hard to put it aside and look at things that are going well in my life and be grateful

Blueskies I think we will all relax after 12 weeks! So sorry you went through MC

Ladies shall we all do this? Start talking about 90% of hope instead of 10% of failure here?

If the worst happens nothing we do will prepare us anyway, as some of the ladies that have gone through it are saying

Maybe we all need a change in the way we refer to statistics? So today, at 4+6 I am on the 80.11% of luck feels better!!!

Hugs to all

Lucy guilty hahaa

Morning! Yes I'm 4+1 today so pleased to get a 2-3 weeks on a clear blue this morning. The POASing continues hahaha!

Gin they make a fortune out of us! Those ones are £10 a piece so going to buy one today

Yes lucy and ever I had a similar convo with DH last night when he was shocked the mc risk is around the 30% mark and I was saying that means we've a 70% chance of this going full term. Definitely a more reassuring look at the stats.

Sorry to hear your news HappyMummy, hope you're being well looked after.

SkyLucy no, only medical history and they tend to be questions you'd know the answer to without giving the game away.

Yes Gin it definitely is!

Ladies 1000 posts!! How many left until we need a new thread?