Due in March 07 - Gettin' ready to Pop.

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This must be our 100th thread.

Possibly.

Evenhope, def go woth your gut feeling. When I walk about and about now I put my elbows out to the side and my hands to the front to protect bump. It looks like I'm about to do kung foo but I feel less vunerable and people get a real shock when they walk into my elbows. I remember once in Brighton, about 2 weeks off my due date, seeing a large number of teenage boys coming towards me on a very wide pavement, completely obvlivious to anything or anyone around them and I thought "They're going walk right into me" so I stuck my elbows out and carried on walking and actually sent one of them flying, knocking his drink out of his hand. He couldn't work out what had happened. Stupid idiot.

I was paying for some shopping in a supermarket and someone was trying to get passed me from behind( why I don't know). They got really annoyed when I wasn't "allowing" them to pass and asked impatientlty if I could move in. I turned to then with tum and said "Er, no, not really" I was pleased to see them cringe and shuffle away apologising.

How about this for a maths problem? DS1(8) had fractions homework this week and one question said:
Milly weighs 1/2 kg ball of dough and then another ball which weighs 1/4 kg.
She rolls the two balls together.
What is the weight of the dough as a decimal of a kg?

Somewhat tricky for an 8 years old methinks.

Morning all

Okay it's not really morning. I'm shocked at how late it is

I'm not sleeping well at night and my clock seems to have gone totally out of whack which isn't great because I've got to get up early tomorrow morning. No daytime naps for me today.

fox - so glad you said that about the breast feeding cushion. I've been given a breast friend by a friend which is a big hard foam thing but got an inflatable one from Boots too and then started feeling guilty at my extravagance. But it will be good to have one that's more transportable.

And I haven't bought any baby clothes at all - same friend has given me tons of stuff so I deserve one new thing!

21 days left at work?! When are you finishing? I've got 10 days max

Nurseries? Should I start looking now? I was going to wait until the baby's born. Help!

Afternoon.

Sorry you're feeling rotten diva. I'm more selfish than you: I've come on specifically to moan.

I'm at my absolute wits end as to what to do about maternity cover. I need to stop work. I'm so huge, it's hard to move. I'm hormonal and emotional. I forget everything.

The house is covered in crap because we prepared it for the plasterer who then didn't turn up and won't give us a firm date.

I still haven't finished my tax return (know how you feel Dolly).

Tried to talk to DH about it this morning, but he's feeling over-sensitive as I'd been so snappy (due to the above really). I told him I just wanted to talk it through and didn't want advice, which for some reason led to him giving me a lecture on how I should sort it all out. As I'm a 31 year old woman with my own business and not his teenage daughter this did not go down well with me.

Huge row kicks off.

I now feel even worse, and all the problems are still there.

Aaaah - feel better now. Got to say it all without anyone interjecting with 'well, you should think about doing this, and you should have done that'.

Men are morons sometimes.

hello everyone! I've been the same as Diva and popping in here to see how you are all doing but haven't the energy to post. Today, I'm making myself while I wait for dh to finish watching the cricket. We need bread and milk and he wants a new fry pan.

I have had a rough few days... I have also been unwell and was sent home from work on Thursday (after lots of tears - so I feel for you Dolly, it's awful to seem so irrational!!) and suggested to stay home on Friday. I didn't argue - and slept for nearly 20 hours, off and on. I felt brilliant on Friday night!! The annoying thing was I phoned the doctors to see if I could get checked over and the midwife gave me the number for the labour ward. I knew it wasn't that and wasn't prepared to make the trek to the hospital to be told. My workmates were excited thinking lo was on the way and eager to get me out of the building even faster .

We had a birthday party for a special 5 year old yesterday and I realised just how tired I am being on my feet. I need to take it easy but I just don't know how!!!! Ten working days left - I want to finish out the half term so we will see how it goes

Kitty... I think it would be easiest for her to convert the fractions first (so it's 0.5 + 0.25) instead of adding two fractions that aren't equivalent - iuswim?!?!?

Moss... brilliant mate - his comments crack me up but I can see how frustrating they are too. Good on you for your quick comebacks! I want to know more about these bf pillows ladies - I haven't heard of them before?

Fox... two minutes in the shower?!?! Once I'm in I can't get out. Hope your ds feels better soon.

Off for the bloomin' fry pan and papers. Then, tucking back up with a dvd .

36 weeks tomorrow!!! Unbelievable

boobooo I'm glad you feel better getting things off your chest!! Once you've decided what you want to do, tell your dh how these things are going to be sorted. These ups and downs are absolutely awful, aren't they

watch the posts too ... we sure can natter!!

i wonder how many threads we will have once we evolve to post-natal

booboo-men just cant get it into their heads that sometimes women just need to talk.somebody said on that AND thread i posted the other day that men cant cope when presented with a problem they cant 'fix',and my councellor says similar.its so true.i think i would have ended up in the nut house if it werent for this site and being able to chat to other women who know what its like to be pregnant.

kitty-i refuse to assist my children with maths homework now as anything above infant school level is way beyond me(i got a B in my GCSE but ive forgotten everything).

Thank god you said that about maths homework diva - I'm so rubbish at maths and was getting very anxious the other day about helping LO with his homework

Sorry people are feeling down today - this emotional rollercoaster is very hard work some days. I have gone into hibernation mode and haven't spoken to anyone all weekend which is the only reason I'm still on an even keel I reckon.

Talking of "how many threads" - we're going to need another new one in a day or two at this rate!

Sazzy - when we looked at nurseries for ds there were one or 2 who suggested that they had waiting lists of over a year, and wanted a non refundable deposit just to be on a waiting list of indeterminate length because siblings of existing clients would always get priority no matter how long other people had been waiting. Needless to say we didn't even bother with the waiting list (this was 5 years ago when paid mat leave was only 18 weeks, so I had to have a definate place before ds was 4 months old).

In the end we sent him to one which, although the equipment wasn't the newest in the world, didn't do French lessons for 2 year olds (I'm not kidding - some of them did!) etc, DID have nice staff (who weren't all teenagers) who'd been with them a long time, was in a lovely traffic-free rural location with lots of outdoor facilities (a definate outdoors as much as possible philosophy - daily walks including jumping in puddles etc depending upon the weather, they kept their own chickens which the kids could help with, etc) - and most importantly all the children there seemed to be happy.

Although it's technically not necessary to have arranged a place this early I've already warned them that dc2 will be wanting a place from September because ds had such a good time there that I can't see any reason to look anywhere else for this one.

lol at the maths homework (I'm actually ok at that) - but 5 year old ds is pretty soon going to have me stumped on the science side of things. He's already asking things like how does a televeision work, and how do the pictures get to the television. I hate to think what he'll be asking a few years down the line!

I am a teacher and, personally, I hate homework - I have a million and one arguments against the pen and paper type homework that we have to send home with kiddlywinks. Not least, because of the the extra marking it makes for me (I am not in the classroom atm but I used to always write my sheets so that most of it could be marked together leaving me to check it over and leave a comment - I don't know whether I would get away with that in the UK!)

I would suggest that if you have any difficulty helping your child with their homework that you speak to their teacher. It is easier said than done but it means that the teacher knows that the child is having difficulty with a concept.

Hubby is cooking with his new fry pan . I love lazy Sundays.

lunar... he will probaby be asking really important things like, "how can I get girlxyz to like me"

kiwi - the TV stuff isn't actually homework, just his insatiable desire to know how everything works.

Hello everyone..... I think it is very natural to get more emotional at this point in pregnancy. Most of us only have 5-8 weeks to go and I think its a time to become more sensitive and become more "internal" IYKWIM ( Fat chance if you have kids already/needy partners/no partners/rubbish colleagues !)

Anyway herbal rant over. Went to comedy club in Brighton last night - started at 10.30 - so was knackered by the end ... we were sat at the front .... male 'comedien' said to DH ... " are you planning to be at the birth?" , " It's like watching your favourite pub burn down ! "

Have spent all day helping my mum clear out some space in her house.... she is a mad hoarder - and it is a servious problem. I mean - does anyone need 8 pepper grinders, 14 trays, and about 65 tupperware containers. Have had to be really strict with her to help her make progress !!

Think I have managed to talk DH round to my choice of names for the babe .

Boo - forgot to tell you that my first best friend was called Jonathan Peter - he was and still is a really cool guy and we met up recently after about 15 years of not seeing each other. Great name !!

Kitty - I am home educating DS1 (aged 10) - fractions get me EVERY time !

You've all made me feel better - thanks.

I know I'm irrational and hormonal and probably pretty hard to live with recently, but... well... there doesn't seem to be much I can do about it. Maybe if I was actually sleeping.

Glad you like the name Laidback! It feels right.

Good luck with all your nursery searches. Even with all this self-employed hassle, I know I'm really lucky that I'll only have to work really short hours, and family will babysit.

Diva: I know that's true. That's why I tried to make it easy for him: "I don't want advice, I'd just like you to listen and sympathise for a bit". Hmmm.

Anyway, got to let it go now. I love him really.

Mossy: your DH's mate sounds frustrating. My DH has a friend who holds very strong opinions on things he has no direct experience of. He's bad enough with his criticisms of the way we handle the dog. Will have to wait until I'm feeling confident before we see him, I think.

EDD 3/3
35 weeks
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Thanks for your homework replies I don't have a problem with the maths I just thought it was a tad tricky for an eight year old. I'm not sure how much decimal fraction conversion he has done yet otherwise I'd have tackled it that way round .

Boo, I remember reading that 'men are from mars....' book years ago and them saying that men can't understand that women just want to TALK about their problems, they don't want to be given solutions unless they specifically ask for them. From a man's point of view you have only spoken about it BECAUSE you want advice, the book makes alot of sense,perhaps I should dig it out again. Hope you get to sort stuff out

I've read it kitty . Thought it made a couple of good points, but I thought the author was a bit of a dildo tbh. You could tell it was written by a man. IIR most of the advice was aimed at women telling them 'not to expect too much' of your poor man.

TBH, DH is usually ok, as long as I let him know in advance what I need from him. I did this time, but I think he's too stressed atm, and didn't really take it in.

Good luck with the homework!

ive read that book too,it made sense but at the time i was in an abusive relationship and the book made me think even more that it was all my fault as i wasnt recognising the differences between men and women

has anybody written a book for men that explains womens' complex emotional needs and the fact that we are,in fact,ruled by our hormones and only responsible for our behaviour 10% of the time?!?

lunar-my ds1 started asking questions i couldnt answer when he was about 4/5,like how does electricity actually make things work and whats inside a battery etc.the line 'look it up on the internet' has been used many times(why would i need to know how something works,as long as it does work??)now he's 9 and is teaching himself computer programming languages and dp has had to put software on the pc that prevents ds from changing any of the settings.

sazzy-i found this stage of pregnancy easier when i was on my own and didnt have to speak to anybody.i just looked after the children's basic needs and hid for the rest of the time

We are now on decimal/fraction/ percentage conversions

hehe Diva... something about that 10% sticks with me - are men ever responsible for their behaviour? . Tbh... I don't think that kind of book would ever get written - too complex!!

Hello lovely ladies

Just a quick one from me as I am supposed to be doing the dreaded tax return whilst DH takes DD to the park. I feel much less weepy today but very angry. The kitchen was filthy dirty earlier on so I had a good shout at DH for various things, some of which were his fault and some of which aren't. I think that is what he is finding hardest of all - I am so unpredictable that he never quite knows which way it will go. Could be tears, could be curses, could be lovey dovey cuddles - it's all a bit random.

Booboo I am so sorry that you are not having the best day. I think men can be total morons and often say things which come out sdreadfully. Yesterday DH tried all manner of tactics to cheer me up in the evening and all of them resulted in tears, tears and more tears. I know you are worried about hte school - wish there was something I could do to help. The kettle is always on round here if you fancy a cuppa and a moan. Plus the size of my enormous bulk is bound to make you feel better, esp as I am 3 weeks less than you .

Yest was boring shopping. Had to sort out my fireplace debacle from the week before and didn't fancy the food shop etc afterwards. Wish I had limited myself to the one eccles cake but too greedy for that. This baby is going to be huge. And so am I. Foxy, PMSL at altar of Tesco . Definitely need some good retail to cheer myself up. I worry about £££ as I won't get paid for some of this year, but I still need a few bits.

Mossy, don't let anyone talk you out of that pillow! It is a godsend for feeding, sitting up in bed cuddling etc. Couldn't have managed without mine. BTW, I can't remember your bust size but I seem to remember it is quite close to mine. I have some nursing bras which I bought last time which don't fit me - they are a 36G which meant they were too big on the back and too small on the boob for my enormous norkage. If you'd like them, I can post them to you. I bought them in M and S and they are reasonably foxy as far as bursing bras go. I should have listened to the inner voice saying "get the bigger ones" (read parachute harness once you hit an H cup) but decided to go for looks over fit. As a result, I only wore each of them about twice. Anyway, let me know if you'd like them.

Evenhope - good to hear from you. I think nursery is very much a gut feeling, combined with availability etc. The nursery I liked best for DD has a 2 year waiting list so I couldn't go there but I went with the one where I thought DD would be happiest. I wouldn't leave her with people who can't smile when there are visitors present. Keep searching and let us know how you get on.

I can delay the evil moment no longer. HM Revenue and Customs is beckoning. I'll be back later once I have done the deed.

Hope you are all enjoying your sunday .

Hi everyone - I'm shattered!!! Got to Tesco about 11.15am, left about 3pm !! I felt as though I was in there for days.....

I got everything though: newborn nappies; pads for various parts of my bod which may leak at various points in time; custard tarts; disposable pants, cheap cotton pants, cadbury's chocolate etc etc etc

Plus about 10 trollies of boring shopping too.

Tescos are such good value though it has to be said Long may they rule the world

Didn't get to mass at all today as I had to lie down when I returned. I only just managed to raise my delicate head at strategic points in time to shout instructions to DH in a cross voice

Good luck to all of us who have scans tomorrow - ovaries crossed for us girls.

Sorry I have been tooo tired to talk - I have read everyone's posts though (enjoy having the heating on again Evenhope!)

[sounds of a huge woman falling to the floor]...zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

i didnt know you need custard tarts for a new baby?!i've only bought vets,babygros+nappies...